Feeling Good Together: The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work
Simple, Powerful Techniques that Make Relationships Work
"Why won’t my husband ever express his feelings?"
“Why won’t my wife listen?"
“Why is my sister such a control freak?"
"Why does my ex act like such a total jerk?"
“What’s wrong with people?”
We all have someone we can’t get along with—whether it’s a friend or colleague who complains constantly, a relentlessly critical bos
The path to intimacy is nearly always painful.
For a while now I have believed that the Life of Reading, if it isn’t to be merely a diversion or a way of stroking one’s own ego, must be a life of self-transformation. To be well-read does not only mean to be familiar with certain names and ideas, plots and quotes; more importantly, it entails the development of real changes in perspective, personality, and behavior. Thus when I recently ran into a problem in my relationship, I chose to see it as ...more
The general rules are: genuine empathy & respect for others people, courage to open one's own feelings and work hard to improve relationships. The author discussed his 5 techniques when dealing with people. From my experience, it really works as i oft ...more
Make no mistake though, it like pretty much all other books I've read on the subject, all indicate the only thing you can do is change your int ...more
Knowing and acknowledging that you can only control your actions is really the key to fixing a lot of things in life. Dr. Burns uses it extensively. Highly recommend ...more
First is the usage of utterly impossible examples to demonstrate his point; it seem ...more
Motives compete with love: control, revenge, justice, narcissism, pride, scapegoating, truth, blame, self-pity, anger/bitterness, competition, and hidden agenda,
What do I want more - a battle or a loving relationship?
Good communication: 1. express feelings openly and directly, 2. listen non-defensively, 3. treat other with respect during conversation
1. we all provoke and maintain the exact relationships problems that we complain about, ...more
Como respuesta Burns desarrolla una variante de la terapia ...more
"Good communication involves three components: skillful listening (Empat ...more
Like many authors, he also says many times that if you do this.... those around you will begin to respond differently, I continue to struggle with t ...more
David Burns es un MUST en terapia y el ámbito de la Psicología/Psiquiatría. Los ejercicios y técnicas que se usan en el libro son aplicables a cualquier tipo de relación y en el contexto diario, no sólo en terapia.
Puede parecer que muchas de las cosas que se comentan son de sentido común, pero no hay nadie infalible, ni siquiera un terapeuta experimentado, que no tenga un mal día o caiga en las dinámicas habit ...more
Of course these techniques would not work with everyone all the time, but I would guess that these techniques are without question going to work in general most of the time with most people. This book is definitely worth reading.
As a warning, someone with BPD is used as a villain (opposing their psychologist) in one of the described scenarios, with the usual stereotypical statements made about manipulation etc. Unnecessary and unkind.
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Burns received his B.A. from Amherst College in 1964 and his M.D. fro ...more