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Dec 29, 2010

Eleanor rated it:

The main idea behind this book is that just as people have unique personality preferences, we all have unique preferences for what we find satisfying and motivating when it comes to love. Speaking your partner's language takes A LOT of emotional intelligence, and a girlfriend suggested a great book that has helped me with it, Emotional Intelligence 2.0.

In a nutshell, your love language is the way that you most feel loved and cared for. The relationship expert behind the book arranges More...

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May 04, 2011

Malbadeen rated it:

This book is based on the premise that everyone has a "love language". Things others say or do that make one feel "loved",they are follows:

-words of affirmation.
-recieving gifts.
-acts of service.
-physical touch.
-quality time.

Personally I want you to tell me how great I am (words of affirmation) while walking in the house with a collection of poetry for me (receiving gifts), make a beeline for the trash that needs to be taken out (a More...

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Oct 29, 2007

Msmeemee rated it:

this book is a tool through which the author, gary chapman, can play out his jesus-complex disguised as a relationship self-help book. there are references from the bible throughout almost every chapter and gary likes to include generous praise from his clients who call him a "miracle worker." it's damn-near pretty close to being called god.

the book has all the hallmarks of a bestseller: easy to read (i read it in one day); hopeless circumstances that seem beyond repair; an More...

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Oct 13, 2011

Catherine rated it:

This book was recommended to my friend by her pastor to read before she got married. My assumption was that it would be religious in tone and not very relevant to today's relationships.
I'm so glad I was wrong! This is one of those books I would suggest everyone read. It is such a simple explanation of what can so often go wrong in relationships. It's not about men vs. women, it's about the way people receive love.
The basis is there are 5 Love Languages (obviously). And if you speak a More...

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Feb 24, 2008

Jennie rated it:

My mother in law gave me this book and I hesitated reading it because it sounds so cheesy (and just take a look at the cover--how dorky!) But I was stuck on vacation with nothing else to read so I reluctantly gave it a try. In a nutshell, this book has changed my life. Page after page I found myself wanting to yell, "yes! Thats exactly right!" If I could give this more than five stars, I would. Okay, maybe "changed my life" is a bit strong, but it has certainly enhanced my More...

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Feb 21, 2011

Jeannie rated it:

Rating: a little over 4 stars.

This book was good. The concepts are important. I got the singles edition as well so I could actually apply these ideas to my current life. The book got a little tedious, though. I felt the first 9 chapters were all that were needed. These chapters encompassed an overview of how Chapman came to the 5-language conclusion, a discussion of each of the five languages, and a "how to determine your love language." I felt the remaining chapters More...

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Nov 29, 2007

Lachelle rated it:

My dad actually recommended this book to me and I finally decided to check it out from the library. Although I think my husband and I have a good relationship - it was amazing how much I learned from this book! And how I realized that by understand how we communicate differently - it could strengthen our relationship. I would recommend this book to just about anyone! A lot of it seems common sense but it's a good reminder and an eye-opener to read it.

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Sep 11, 2010

Laura rated it:

This book was really helpful in discovering how we express love and how we feel loved. Chapman describes the five love languages that people use to express love: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Although all of these ways of expressing love are important, he explains that we each tend to respond to one more than the others. For example, if my love language is quality time, then my partner could give me all the gifts in the word, and I still woul More...

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Oct 13, 2011

Very rated it:

This book looks cheesy as fuck from the outside, but it's full of practical, down-to-earth wisdom. If you are married (or thinking about getting married), divorced (or thinking about getting divorced), read this book.

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Jan 25, 2009

Joe rated it:

Everyone has "the" relationship book. This book will NOT automatically solve all relationship problems. People have to want to work on things; have to want to communicate needs and expectations. Having said that, I have not seen a better way to tie in to your significant other's point of view, then trying to understand how THEY need to have love expressed. But even more importantly, maybe, is looking at ourselves and seeing how we automatically expect others to "get" love the More...

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Jan 27, 2009

cheri rated it:

You can read any one of the Five Love Languages and get the just of the books. It teaches you how to identify your love language and those around you. What the author states is that everyone has a major love language (love cup to be filled) as well as a minor love language. You really begin to understand why some people, including yourself, will do certain things. For example, my youngest son's love language is service. He brings me a cup of water to bed because he knows I drink water thru More...

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Oct 13, 2011

Gaijinmama rated it:

The premise of this best-selling book is quite simple, but many of us haven't tried looking at our marriages this way. In short, people have their own, often unconscious way of expressing love and rarely do two spouses have the same "Love Language." This can cause trouble in a marriage because we may simply not understand the way in which our partner is expressing his or her love, even if s/he is trying really hard to express it and has NO idea we aren't getting it. In turn, s/he may More...

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Nov 17, 2011

Matthew rated it:

The author says love is a choice. He says that the infatuation that people experience in the beginning of the relationship is not real love. It is something else. Real love takes work while the infatuation period is instinctual and effortless. But isn't it the stuff we dream of and wish would last forever? Can we really accept that we will only get that chance at the beginning of the relationship and that thereafter, in order to remain monogamous, we must accept that it is not for us to feel eve More...

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Mar 18, 2008

Lindsay rated it:

I had heard a lot about this book & decided to give it a go. It made A LOT of sense! It is all about improving your relationship with your spouse by showing your love to them in a way that resonates with them - which may be totally different than what would be meaningful to you. It was a very fast read, very easy to "get," and I have found it very insightful not only in expressing myself, but also in recognizing when my Jon Jon is being sweet to me. Sometimes it can be hard to tell More...

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Jul 24, 2008

Jason rated it:

A coworker lent this to me (my coworkers are pretty aware I need all the relationship help I can get). I'd actually heard about the theories behind this one a couple years ago from a woman I was dating, though at the time it was more of a lecture. . .I digress. . .

Anyway, this was another really helpful book looking at the different ways men and women like to receive love, and it again explained a lot both in regards to past relationships as well as about myself. It was really inte More...

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Apr 19, 2008

Asia rated it:

This is an entertaining, well-written book from the perspective of a therapist who shares interesting stories about his patients and thier love problems and solutions.

This book has potential to help people better understand those they love and to show love to them in ways they can feel/understand (I'll suggest a much better book below that does this).

However, I worry that this book would do more harm than good since in it it says that a man's love language may be sex. Ho More...

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Feb 28, 2008

Tuesdi rated it:

We were given this book as a wedding gift but I didn't get around to reading it for almost 9 years. And when I finished it, I wished I hadn't waited so long.
This is another book that can help you identify more effective ways of relating to loved ones. It gives suggestions for using it's tips and lays out how to change the way that you deal with other people.
So often we show love and are angry or at a loss as to why it isn't appreciated or accepted. The jist of this book is that you More...

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Jan 08, 2009

Meghan rated it:

I really love this book! I had to read it as part of a Marriage and Relationships class that I took in college, am I'm so glad! I think it does such great job explaining the different "love languages" that we all communicate with. It helped me view my own relationships in a new way. Truly enlightening!

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Dec 18, 2008

Carolanne rated it:

Interesting concept, but I don't like how he writes. Very simple and repetitive. But I feel like I did learn something. I liked what I learned, but I wish I didn't have to read this book to have learned it.
Whats my love language, you all ask? I don't know. So maybe I didn't learn that much. :)

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May 26, 2010

Kristin rated it:

I think everyone should read this book- I learned so much from it! I think my love language is physical touch.

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Jan 16, 2010

Rob rated it:

I need to come back to this to write a review. No time right now.

Reading "Love and Respect" that should be a companion to this book. It talk about what is being communicated when you fail to speak your spouse's love language. To a woman, the man speaks directly to the wife's feeling of love. To a man, the wife is speaking directly to the husband's feeling of respect which insulates his feelings of love. For example, a husband would say that his wife love's him, but doe More...

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Mar 11, 2009

Jenna rated it:

I don't do self help books most especially ones that involve the word 'love'. Had it not been for a book group discussion assignment I guarantee I never would have picked up this book.

I'm so glad I did! It's really fun to read. The concept is very simple and makes loads of sense. The writing is very down to earth and Chapman gives so many examples through stories that it's a very fast read.

In short, he explains that everyone speaks different languages in life (Spanish, Ge More...

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Mar 10, 2009

Karen & Gerard rated it:

This is a practical book for improving one’s marriage. It points out that different things are more meaningful than others when it comes to expressing love. Loving acts can fall into the following five basic categories: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, physical touch. Once you determine what your mate’s primary love language is, you can work at keeping them feeling loved more effectively. It’s also good to determine your own primary love language and let your mate know More...

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Feb 18, 2009

Mehrsa rated it:

I was tempted to not give this book a high rating because I do not like self-help books and especially marriage advice type things. So many people recommended this book to me that I wanted to read it just so I could have an opinion on it and I have to say that I think it is pretty useful. It is definitely cheesy and certainly oversimplified, but the author is on to something. I have been trying this out not just on my marriage, but also with my children and other relationships and it's just nice More...

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Feb 13, 2009

Ellyn rated it:

I would never have read this book on my own but was urged to read it after a debate with a friend of my roommate. It's written by a marriage counselor and directed towards couples, but it can be applied to all relationships, both romantic and platonic. The author's theory is that there are five major ways to express love (the five love languages). Each of us has a primary love language, and relationship problems occur when others fail to express love to us in that language. It's an interesti More...

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Jan 17, 2009

Lance rated it:

I found this book incredibly fascinating. I first came across this book in college when some friends of mine who were engaged recommended it very excitedly. I spot read various parts and did not quite share their excitement. Now years I was led to the book again through a different set of circumstances and could not put the book down. If I could have read it in one sitting, I would have. As it was, I could not help but try to multitask in order to get done what needed doing and also finish More...

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Dec 27, 2008

Bookwormliz rated it:

In THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES, Gary Chapman explores what he believes is the cause of all marital dysfunction and breakdown: the different languages in which love can be expressed. According to Chapman, we each respond to one of the five “love languages”–affirmation, time, gifts, service, and touch–and will only feel sufficiently loved when we’re being spoken to by our mates in that language.

The breakdown of the five love languages was fascinating, but Chapman’s “love is a choice” philo More...

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Dec 10, 2008

Sara rated it:

eh. See, here's the thing... it's an ok book on bringing ideas about how to pamper your spouse to light but I can't say that it was Biblically sound or inspired. I would have liked to read more about the sanctity of marriage and where it comes in to play with my relationship with God. I also think that the metaphors were WAY over used.

That being said: it reminded me a lot of what my spouse does for me, and how to say thank you. It honestly was pretty interesting in the way that it d More...

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Feb 11, 2012

Philitsa rated it:

I am very lucky to have a mother in law whose emotional IQ would qualify her to be the president of a feelings-based Mensa, if one existed. Sensing that all was not as wonderful as it could be between me and my husband, she passed this book on to me. Immediately, it had two strikes against it.

1. I'm not a navel gazer.. I don't ponder my own thoughts and actions to find the hidden meaning behind why I do what I do.. And that's the whole premise of the book.
2. The author is act More...

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Feb 10, 2012

Kelly rated it:

The Five Love Languages is a quick, easy read filled with valuable information for anyone in a relationship. I enjoyed reading about each of the five love languages and the stories Chapman tells about working with clients who fit into each categories.

For me it became more and more clear in Chapter 9, Discovering Your Primary Love Language, what my personal love language is, but the 30 question profile at the end verified it for me (and surprised me a little, too).

While I More...

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