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Giving The Love That Heals

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Harville Hendrix has illuminated the paths to healthy, loving relationships in his New York Times bestsellers Getting the Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find. Now, with his coauthor and wife, Helen Hunt, he brings us to a new understanding of the most profound love of all -- by helping parents nurture their own development as they encourage emotional wholeness in t...more
Paperback, 384 pages
Published August 1st 1998 by Atria Books (first published 1997)
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While I more than hate self help books, and especially parenting books, I was tempted to pick this up, because I liked the guy in his interview on Oprah. I am glad I did. It is a good reminder that most of our "issues" with out children are easily resolved by looking at ourselves. A depressing fact, but true. I have 5 children. I will continue to read this in reference over the years. A very non-judgmental look at parenting, with real solutions on how to be more productive in loving our children...more
Sep 18, 2011 Tanja rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Parents
This took me ages to finish. It's a hard read, not only because of the issues it makes you face and the feelings that surface because of this, it's clumsy writing. I still gave it 4 stars because the content is so much more important than the writing. I could go without the God talk too, but I can live with it.
This book is great for parents, beginners and pro's ;). You can learn from it, no matter how old your children are and you can always use it to work with yourself as a person and a parent...more
Katie Dalrymple
Possibly the most important book I will ever read as a parent. Add this to the other Harville Hendrix books and you have the makings of the healthiest and most mutually rewarding relationships with everyone in your life, including yourself.
Unlike any traditional parenting book, this explores how experiences with our own parents and childhood influences how we parent our children. Ever wonder why you are so frustrated and annoyed with something your child does? Why some simple things in your child can trigger you? Feel like you want to parent differently then the way you were, but find yourself following the same path as your parents? This is the book for you. Very interesting. I agree with some of the reviews that this book is poo...more
Shannon O'hara
A powerful approach to childrearing relationships based on the Imago theory developed by the authors. I think the content is great, but reading it is a bit like slowly choking down a heavy, weird-tasting health food bar because you know it's good for you. I read an older edition, so I don't know if anything's changed, but I agree with the criticisms that it is narrowly focused at "traditional" married two-parent heterosexual couples as parents. The religious overtones can also be off-putting.

One of the best books on parenting I've read.

This book had a lot of good points to make. I think that some of the overall concepts will stay with me. However like some other reviewers I felt that it was fairly poorly written. It was extremely boring, So much so that by the time I got to the exercises at the end I simply skipped them because I didn't have the energy for them. Also the last chapter before the exercises got a little weird - talking about our children being made of star dust and us all being part of the cosmos, etc, which I fe...more
Amy Hastey
If I could give this book a 4.5, I would. I'm not giving a 5 because of the importance placed on 2-parent, heterosexual families. Also, while I like the idea behind their "intentional dialogue", the scripting of it seems awkward and weird. But, their overall analysis of how damage in childhood affects our intimate relationships and our parenting seems on point to me and can be a powerful tool for becoming a healthier and whole person and parent. I recommend this to anybody, but especially to par...more
This is one of the most important books any parent can read, although I think it is especially good for parents who became parents through adoption.

It is not an easy read, you will come across many painful thoughts - some from your own past, some that you know your child carries - but the information is so valuable to have.

I highly recommend this book, and I recommend that you do the worksheets that are included.
This is one of the most important parenting books that anyone can read. It can be a difficult read in that you will come across things from your past that might be painful - or see the baggage your child may be carrying with them - This is one of my personal top 5 books for parents.
This was a textbook for a child development class. The class was amazing, but the book could be a little over the top sometimes.
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Mary Wescott
Not an easy read, but a must for parents who just want to be better!
Great ideas. Poorly written. Very disorganized and repetetive.
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May 21, 2010 Matt Jorgenson marked it as to-read
Wow... just wow.... still reading...
Absolutely essential!
helpful book on parenting
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Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., is the author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, a New York Times bestseller that has sold more than two million copies. He has more than thirty years’ experience as an educator and therapist. He specializes in working with couples in private practice, teaching marital therapy to therapists, and conducting couples workshops across the country. Dr. Hendrix i...more
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