Passion and Purity: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christ's Control
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Passion and Purity: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christ's Control

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Very few books on dating have stood the test of time like Passion and Purity. Its much-needed message remains strong and hopeful in an age when doing whatever "feels right" is common practice. Using her own life as an example, Elisabeth Elliot guides singles of both genders and of any age on how to put their love lives under the authority of Jesus Christ.

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Paperback, 192 pages
Published April 1st 2002 by Revell (first published 1984)
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Jason Sixsmith
What a breath of fresh air. In a society plagued with hedonism an earnest Christian can find great difficulty in knowing how to find a spouse. Between this book and Joshua Harris' " I Kissed Dating Goodbye" it became a relief to know that I was not alone in my disapproval for post-modern romance.
This is my second time reading this. In my first attempt, I think I had zero interest...this time, it's with a spirit of brokenness that opened my heart to what Elisabeth Elliot has to say about love and relationship.

Some said that her standards are too high... perhaps that's how purity is; it's either achieved or not at all.

What if that just how HIGH God's standard is anyway? What if it is meant to be possible for every single one of us?

If you already have in mind what love is all about - th...more
I have to say that this is the second most influential and beneficial book I have read (after the Bible). Not only is Mrs. Elliot an extraordinary writer she has the amazing gift of wrapping a story inside of a group of ideas that once discovered seem so natural and plain.

While reading this book, I was overwhelmed emotionally. Many times I was crying, at other times celebrating. But ultimately I was taken aback by such a wonderful story of two young people who so relied on the Lord that they wer...more
Nellie Anne
Good message, but I disagree with details. I think Elliot's overall message is good and true. As a single-but-waiting-on-the-Lord 29-year-old, I agree with the ideas of waiting on His timing and leading. I also disagree with much of what goes on in modern relationships, and think it needs addressing. However, my issues with this book are that, first of all, Jim Elliot was rather pompus in his pursuit of Elisabeth. I hate saying that, since he was a martyr for the cause of Christ. Men are the spi...more
Jason Shuttlesworth
Mar 12, 2012 Jason Shuttlesworth rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: esther swaty
Somewhat hard to read, nevertheless interesting. I agree with 100% of everything she says and if everyone took her advice, society would be much much more stable. It seems like the best idea in the world to never tell a girl 'I love you' unless you're next few words are 'Will you marry me?'

I think this is what my situation will be like...unless I join a monastery first.

The book really makes you realize how valuable chastity is. I saw the Hope Diamond on display the day after I bought this book....more
Passion and Purity was recommended to me when I was attending Christian College right after high school. It's been just over 6 years now since I read it so I don't remember everything about the book but I do remember it being one of the best books I read that first year or Christian College and my very first tattoo was because of a line in the book that said "If your life is broken when given to Jesus it's because pieces can feed a multitude." That has been one of my favorite quotes since I read...more
I was between twelve and fourteen when I read this book with my older sister. At the time, I found it to contain far too much passion and not enough purity. Today, all I can remember are stories about them sitting as close as possible together, etc. (before they decided not to do that anymore) and quotes from his letters to her that I found very disturbing at the time. He talked about how much he longed for her physically and that was the only side I could see to their relationship. When they go...more
This book was alot different than I expected, but was good overall. Elliot teaches us principles on waiting on the Lord and trusting in His timing, His promises and His plan from a very "girly" perspective. She shares her own dating/waiting, "already-not-yet" story of her relationship with Jim Elliot.

The book is filled with stories, letters and her own personal journals. It's a fast, interesting and intriguing read-- and whoever reads this (well, girls mostly) will grow to really be encouraged...more
Several years ago, a respected friend in the pastorate (my youth pastor when I was a teen), recommended this book to me and told me it was the best book he had read on the love/dating/marriage relationship.

I tucked that tidbit of knowledge in the cranium and jumped at the opportunity to read this book when it came my way. I personally am not familiar with this level of Christianity when it comes to man/woman relationships. She writes of the path/journey with which she & Jim Elliot came to be...more
I read this about a year and a half ago. After looking at the subtitle, I was like, "Ummm… is this for me? I don't have a love life, but I guess one day I will so I guess it won't hurt to read it." Since I've never dated and have high standards for myself and my future husband, I thought this book would not convict me, but I was wrong. So much of this book can be applied to every area of life. "Do I love God more than anything and everyone? Would I be willing to give up someone I love for the wi...more
Julie (julie37619)
I read this book in high school and college when I was single, and thought it would be fun to reread it as the "book released in the year I was born" for the SBC. I thought I'd find it interesting to reread what I had highlighted and written in the margins when I was single now that I'm married, but didn't expect to get just a ton out of it since it's written for those who are single.

However, the book speaks so much to waiting, trusting God, and letting Him sustain you, that I ended up being rea...more
Stephanie Allen
Nov 30, 2008 Stephanie Allen rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommended to Stephanie by: Mat Jones, Katie Ellis, Amanda Soto
This is a wonderful, marvelous, fabulous, awesome book! I wish I had read this years ago. It would have saved me a lot of heartache and pain, even in my current relationship. This book teaches you how to be patient in singleness, how to love passionately and still remain pure, and how to conduct yourself in a godly manner. I have so much more respect for my boyfriend now than I did before I read this book. Jim Elliot, Elisabeth's first husband (he was killed in South America, in the mission fiel...more
Sarah Fowler
Such an honest, timeless view on a topic everyone thinks is so unique to themselves. The story of the beautiful, God-honoring courtship of Jim and Elisabeth Elliot should be required reading!

I read this in high school and wasn't spiritually mature enough to get a lot out of it. When I started to re-read it I almost quit because there's a lot in the beginning about women's desire for marriage, being willing to stay single, etc., which is just not something that's very hard for me. I'm glad I stuc...more
Havebooks Willread
If you have a teenager, if you are a teenager, if you are not married. . .what am I saying? If you desire to surrender every area of your life to the Lordship of Jesus Christ, you need to read this book.

In Passion and Purity, Elisabeth Elliot shares the struggles and victories she and Jim encountered in their commitment to give their lives to the Lord before giving them to one another. As he served on the mission field and she attended college, they wrestled in their individual relationships wit...more
"I have spent the event by a little pool which held the silent sky in its heart. There was no ripple, no stir. Lord, let me be that pool."

Elisabeth Elliot has this marvelous ability to put the most profound and heart-stopping pieces of wisdom into succinct prose. Anyone who complains that they cannot wait, that they are lonely, that they worry, will be immediately reprimanded by the story of Elisabeth and Jim, waiting for God's will. I will definitely be reading this over again.
Re-reading this now and being really encouraged by her words and her heart, and how she is quicker to listen and submit to the Lord over her own emotions and understanding. She is not fluffy, but she is eloquent, and she does not gloss over hardship, yet she continually puts her hope in the Lord through his word--and it is beautiful and encouraging.
The first half or so was really powerful and helpful, but the love story between Elisabeth and Jim Elliot seemed to drag on at the end while there became less life application. I found the book really convicting though and would definitely recommend it.
One of those "once you pick it up, you can't put it down" books. I read it in 3 days. There's much to learn in here, but after hearing a guy who read it say he felt more confused about women afterwards, I think I would maintain that it's probably most profitable for Christian women. I, for one, am very grateful she wrote the book. The thing that inspired me most was not merely the way they went about their relationship, but rather their Christ-centredness. From around my age, they were so passio...more
Maybe I need to re-read, but at the time, didn't really connect with the book at all.
Rachel Crooks
This isn't really just a book about relationships. There's something about it that makes me suspect that I have carried the same consumerist attitude I have picked up from culture into my faith: i.e. whatever I desire must be from God, and He is there to give me what I desire.

Elisabeth Elliot wisely showed me a God who is bigger than just someone above me who can give me things and answer my prayers. I learned that if I live my faith with the attitude of a consumer, I will miss some of the great...more
It has been awhile since I have read a "purity" book. I was excited to read it after hearing great things from a friend. I had heard of Jim Elliot before and seen the movie End of the Spear, but I didn't know that his wife, Elisabeth Elliot, has left quite a legacy of her own, through writing over twenty-five books! Although Jim died over fifty years ago, he lives on in the writings of Elisabeth.

Elisabeth Elliot writes an atypical work compared to other Christian purity literature. Many of today...more
Luann Habecker
I recall reading this in jr high/hs.. i was so distracted. it was all theory then. now being married, i have moved from theory to reality and this is resonating with me all the more as a wife. i see how vital submitting to our Lord is. If you resist and struggle to do so prior to marriage, i suggest that you will resist & struggle to submit to your Lord via your husbands leadership within marriage.

I was quite befuddled as i continued to read how Elisabeth and Jim were going about things. Mor...more
I have read this book twice.

The first time I read it, I was just out of high school and a great friend had recommended it to me as we both were dealing with struggles in relationships at the time. That first time I read it, I thought I really did not connect with it as well as I had wanted to.

I am so very glad that I read it this second time. I am at a very different point in my life now and this book was SO applicable to many situations I've been in recently. I related so much to it this time...more
Christopher M.
Outstanding book about the relationship/romance/whatever-you-want-to-call-it between Jim and Elisabeth Elliot, as both were preparing to begin a life on the mission field. Elisabeth recounts the struggles, the joys, the tension, and the fulfillment of waiting on God for the person that he has or doesn't have for you. Her style intertwines poetry, story-telling, letters between the two, response to questions, and insight from Scripture about God's design for marriage and relationships. The struct...more
This book was absolutely amazing! A lot of books written about purity before marriage have a tendency to fall into the "trap", as I refer to it. The "don't do it because God says so and it's bad" trap. And, although that is true, I feel that most people need more than this in order to convict their hearts to follow through with a commitment of this stature.

Elisabeth Elliot makes the subject interesting and real with personal accounts of her journey of purity with her husband, Jim Elliot. She doe...more
Courtney Huskisson
So far; better than your classic Christian Non-fiction, Elliot is a poetic yet brief writer. Really Great.

Favorite Quotes:
"If my life is broken when given to Jesus, it is because pieces will feed a multitude, while a loaf will satisfy only a little lad" (Ruth Stoll quoted in reference to the story of Jesus feeding the 5,000)

"There is an idea of honor here that has largely been lost. Honor is fidelity to a system of fixed values and relations. Is there anything today, even in the imagination of...more
“… waiting on God requires the willingness to bear uncertainty, to carry within oneself the unanswered question, lifting the heart to God about it whenever it intrudes upon one’s thoughts…” (61-62)

I can't over-express the ways in which this book ministered to me. Each chapter’s message came in perfect timing. Without fail, there was always a simple thought of wisdom which helped guide my thoughts and the questions of my heart during the months in which I read this book. It amazed me, really, ho...more
I loved the way this book was written- short, powerful chapters full of wisdom from a godly older woman who's been there. The excerpts from her diary and from Jim's letters were just wonderful!
I must say that I disagree with the way Jim pursued Betty and I was confused about why such a godly man could have ever thought that was acceptable. (I'm referring to the "God has called me to singleness for now but I just want you to know that I'm deeply attracted to your soul and your body" attitude. I'm...more
Mar 03, 2009 Kathryn rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Single Guys/Gals
Recommended to Kathryn by: A fellow LVL staffer
Shelves: christian
People recommend a lot of books to me. I appreciate that, but to be hones sometimes I'm very skeptical about whether it will actually be a good book or not. This is especially true on Christian living books. Whether its for theological differences, lack of real world application, general cheesiness, or just the tone of the author I have read plenty that are ho-hum. This is not one of those books.

About 5 years ago someone told me to pick up some Elisabeth I wish I had taken their adv...more
This is a great book to find out what God desires for courtship and marriage. Elliot provides an encouraging and insightful voice to let us know how Jim Elliot and her honored God by respecting each other. The chapter about Jim's rebellious senior year was a shock, because I didn't expect Jim to have a rebellious period too. That year shows how easy doubts and fears can lead us to question God and fall into sin. However, his courtship with Elizabeth is a great example for all Christian singles a...more
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From the Author's Web Site: My parents were missionaries in Belgium where I was born. When I was a few months old, we came to the U.S. and lived in Germantown, not far from Philadelphia, where my father became an editor of the Sunday School Times. Some of my contemporaries may remember the publication which was used by hundreds of churches for their weekly unified Sunday School teaching materials....more
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“I realized that the deepest spiritual lessons are not learned by His letting us have our way in the end, but by His making us wait, bearing with us in love and patience until we are able to honestly to pray what He taught His disciples to pray: Thy will be done.” 151 likes
“I do know that waiting on God requires the willingness to bear uncertainty, to carry within oneself the unanswered question, lifting the heart to God about it whenever it intrudes upon one’s thoughts. Its easy to talk oneself into a decision that has no permanence – easier sometimes than to wait patiently.” 89 likes
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