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Passion and Purity: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christ's Control

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Very few books on dating have stood the test of time like Passion and Purity. Its much-needed message remains strong and hopeful in an age when doing whatever "feels right" is common practice. Using her own life as an example, Elisabeth Elliot guides singles of both genders and of any age on how to put their love lives under the authority of Jesus Christ.
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Paperback, 192 pages
Published April 5th 2012 by Fleming H. Revell Company (first published 1984)
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May 29, 2011 zhuangman rated it really liked it
This is my second time reading this. In my first attempt, I think I had zero interest...this time, it's with a spirit of brokenness that opened my heart to what Elisabeth Elliot has to say about love and relationship.

Some said that her standards are too high... perhaps that's how purity is; it's either achieved or not at all.

What if that just how HIGH God's standard is anyway? What if it is meant to be possible for every single one of us?

If you already have in mind what love is all about - th
Jason Sixsmith
Mar 17, 2008 Jason Sixsmith rated it it was amazing
What a breath of fresh air. In a society plagued with hedonism an earnest Christian can find great difficulty in knowing how to find a spouse. Between this book and Joshua Harris' " I Kissed Dating Goodbye" it became a relief to know that I was not alone in my disapproval for post-modern romance.
Mar 25, 2013 Charles rated it it was amazing
I have to say that this is the second most influential and beneficial book I have read (after the Bible). Not only is Mrs. Elliot an extraordinary writer she has the amazing gift of wrapping a story inside of a group of ideas that once discovered seem so natural and plain.

While reading this book, I was overwhelmed emotionally. Many times I was crying, at other times celebrating. But ultimately I was taken aback by such a wonderful story of two young people who so relied on the Lord that they wer
Jun 29, 2012 Christine rated it it was amazing
I read this about a year and a half ago. After looking at the subtitle, I was like, "Ummm… is this for me? I don't have a love life, but I guess one day I will so I guess it won't hurt to read it." Since I've never dated and have high standards for myself and my future husband, I thought this book would not convict me, but I was wrong. So much of this book can be applied to every area of life. "Do I love God more than anything and everyone? Would I be willing to give up someone I love for the wi ...more
Nellie Anne
Feb 03, 2011 Nellie Anne rated it it was ok
Good message, but I disagree with details. I think Elliot's overall message is good and true. As a single-but-waiting-on-the-Lord 29-year-old, I agree with the ideas of waiting on His timing and leading. I also disagree with much of what goes on in modern relationships, and think it needs addressing. However, my issues with this book are that, first of all, Jim Elliot was rather pompus in his pursuit of Elisabeth. I hate saying that, since he was a martyr for the cause of Christ. Men are the spi ...more
Jul 29, 2011 Hannah rated it did not like it
Shelves: devotional
I was between twelve and fourteen when I read this book with my older sister. At the time, I found it to contain far too much passion and not enough purity. Today, all I can remember are stories about them sitting as close as possible together, etc. (before they decided not to do that anymore) and quotes from his letters to her that I found very disturbing at the time. He talked about how much he longed for her physically and that was the only side I could see to their relationship. When they go ...more
Jason Shuttlesworth
Mar 12, 2012 Jason Shuttlesworth rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: esther swaty
Somewhat hard to read, nevertheless interesting. I agree with 100% of everything she says and if everyone took her advice, society would be much much more stable. It seems like the best idea in the world to never tell a girl 'I love you' unless you're next few words are 'Will you marry me?'

I think this is what my situation will be like...unless I join a monastery first.

The book really makes you realize how valuable chastity is. I saw the Hope Diamond on display the day after I bought this book.
Jan 09, 2012 Meagan rated it really liked it
Passion and Purity was recommended to me when I was attending Christian College right after high school. It's been just over 6 years now since I read it so I don't remember everything about the book but I do remember it being one of the best books I read that first year or Christian College and my very first tattoo was because of a line in the book that said "If your life is broken when given to Jesus it's because pieces can feed a multitude." That has been one of my favorite quotes since I read ...more
James Njoroge
Jan 16, 2015 James Njoroge rated it it was amazing
“Unless a man is prepared to ask a woman to be his wife, what right has he to claim her exclusive attention? Unless she has been asked to marry him, why would a sensible woman promise any man her exclusive attention? If, when the time has come for a commitment, he is not man enough to ask her to marry him, she should give him no reason to presume that she belongs to him.”

Wow! I'm greatly rebuked and encouraged at the same time. God help us walk in purity!
Aug 15, 2010 Sharon rated it really liked it
Shelves: dating, purity
This book was alot different than I expected, but was good overall. Elliot teaches us principles on waiting on the Lord and trusting in His timing, His promises and His plan from a very "girly" perspective. She shares her own dating/waiting, "already-not-yet" story of her relationship with Jim Elliot.

The book is filled with stories, letters and her own personal journals. It's a fast, interesting and intriguing read-- and whoever reads this (well, girls mostly) will grow to really be encouraged
Josh Miller
Mar 22, 2013 Josh Miller rated it it was amazing
Several years ago, a respected friend in the pastorate (my youth pastor when I was a teen), recommended this book to me and told me it was the best book he had read on the love/dating/marriage relationship.

I tucked that tidbit of knowledge in the cranium and jumped at the opportunity to read this book when it came my way. I personally am not familiar with this level of Christianity when it comes to man/woman relationships. She writes of the path/journey with which she & Jim Elliot came to be
Julie - Book Hooked Blog
I read this book in high school and college when I was single, and thought it would be fun to reread it as the "book released in the year I was born" for the SBC. I thought I'd find it interesting to reread what I had highlighted and written in the margins when I was single now that I'm married, but didn't expect to get just a ton out of it since it's written for those who are single.

However, the book speaks so much to waiting, trusting God, and letting Him sustain you, that I ended up being rea
Stephanie Allen
Nov 30, 2008 Stephanie Allen rated it it was amazing
Recommended to Stephanie by: Mat Jones, Katie Ellis, Amanda Soto
This is a wonderful, marvelous, fabulous, awesome book! I wish I had read this years ago. It would have saved me a lot of heartache and pain, even in my current relationship. This book teaches you how to be patient in singleness, how to love passionately and still remain pure, and how to conduct yourself in a godly manner. I have so much more respect for my boyfriend now than I did before I read this book. Jim Elliot, Elisabeth's first husband (he was killed in South America, in the mission fiel ...more
Sarah Fowler
Jan 12, 2011 Sarah Fowler rated it really liked it
Such an honest, timeless view on a topic everyone thinks is so unique to themselves. The story of the beautiful, God-honoring courtship of Jim and Elisabeth Elliot should be required reading!

I read this in high school and wasn't spiritually mature enough to get a lot out of it. When I started to re-read it I almost quit because there's a lot in the beginning about women's desire for marriage, being willing to stay single, etc., which is just not something that's very hard for me. I'm glad I stuc
Aug 05, 2009 Sarah rated it it was amazing
Shelves: christian
"I have spent the event by a little pool which held the silent sky in its heart. There was no ripple, no stir. Lord, let me be that pool."

Elisabeth Elliot has this marvelous ability to put the most profound and heart-stopping pieces of wisdom into succinct prose. Anyone who complains that they cannot wait, that they are lonely, that they worry, will be immediately reprimanded by the story of Elisabeth and Jim, waiting for God's will. I will definitely be reading this over again.
Rachelle Rea
Feb 04, 2016 Rachelle Rea rated it it was amazing
I may upset a few Elliot fans here, but I actually didn't like Jim at first. It seemed to me as if he led Elisabeth on, and that upset me because I would much rather courtship be initiated by the interested gentleman when both parties are ready to pursue marriage. But the Elliots' commitment to Christ, purity, and the good of the other--though imperfect as all are--is inspiring.
May 01, 2011 Caleb rated it really liked it
It has been awhile since I have read a "purity" book. I was excited to read it after hearing great things from a friend. I had heard of Jim Elliot before and seen the movie End of the Spear, but I didn't know that his wife, Elisabeth Elliot, has left quite a legacy of her own, through writing over twenty-five books! Although Jim died over fifty years ago, he lives on in the writings of Elisabeth.

Elisabeth Elliot writes an atypical work compared to other Christian purity literature. Many of today
Jan 27, 2015 Nikki rated it it was amazing
One of those "once you pick it up, you can't put it down" books. I read it in 3 days. There's much to learn in here, but after hearing a guy who read it say he felt more confused about women afterwards, I think I would maintain that it's probably most profitable for Christian women. I, for one, am very grateful she wrote the book. The thing that inspired me most was not merely the way they went about their relationship, but rather their Christ-centredness. From around my age, they were so passio ...more
Rachel Bishop
Mar 20, 2015 Rachel Bishop rated it it was amazing
I would normally be hesitant to give any work the title of "timeless", but I am not with Passion & Purity. This book is drenched in Scripture and biblical wisdom, and clearly outlines how to navigate dating + relations with the opposite sex. Would recommend this to anyone as being a worthy read, and will be rereading this for years to come.
This book had a deep impact on me when I read it in college. Several friends read it and there was a lot of discussion about it. I think the concept of saving as much as possible of the physical relationship for marriage was good...

However, there is something about Elisabeth Elliot that strikes me as very severe. It made me uncomfortable, and this feeling persisted through other books of hers that I read.

I would recommend this book as encouragement to a young person who is on track. However, I
Josiah DeGraaf
Jul 31, 2015 Josiah DeGraaf rated it liked it
Shelves: relationships
Elisabeth Elliot was a wise woman, and so she had a lot of good things to say in this book about what our focus ought to be at all times and the importance of listening to Christ first and not just going our own way with regards to relationships. A lot of chapters in this book had a lot of really valuable advice then, and I profited from a good part of it. There were a couple parts that I disagreed with her in; I feel like she argues in a role for women that's more passive than Scripture calls w ...more
Havebooks Willread
If you have a teenager, if you are a teenager, if you are not married. . .what am I saying? If you desire to surrender every area of your life to the Lordship of Jesus Christ, you need to read this book.

In Passion and Purity, Elisabeth Elliot shares the struggles and victories she and Jim encountered in their commitment to give their lives to the Lord before giving them to one another. As he served on the mission field and she attended college, they wrestled in their individual relationships wit
Feb 18, 2015 Nicole rated it really liked it
This is the love story between Jim and Elisabeth Elliot. I applaud their endurance and purity. Waiting five years on God is a great testimony of obedience. At times I felt Elliot's thoughts reflected the times in which she lived, making the book a little old-fashioned. Also, I disagreed with a few of Elliot's ideas. Even so, I think her message is extremely positive and reminds us of the importance of purity.
Oct 08, 2014 Alex rated it it was amazing
As some who is very familiar with backsliding, this book was a shift kick in my mental teeth.
But I needed it.

After watching me waiver in my faith and make bad decision after bad decision for years and years, my sister and father (separately!) offhandedly suggested that I read this. During a short trip home in late August, my sister (one of the only people I can say that I believe is truly living life for Christ, day by day) slipped it into my suitcase. When I unpacked it (along with a few Joshua
Natalie Baker
Oct 15, 2014 Natalie Baker rated it it was amazing
As a complete newbie to Elizabeth Eliot, I really loved this book. I admit though, I already felt connected to her in that she is an alumni of Wheaton, which has been my dream school since freshmen year. I recommend this book to any young woman, high school, college, or twenty-something, who wants to please God.

This is not a book just about relationships, as I thought when I picked it up. This is an open and honest book about romantic relationships in the greater context of God's truth and good
Nov 26, 2013 Annie rated it really liked it
Shelves: relationships
Re-reading this now and being really encouraged by her words and her heart, and how she is quicker to listen and submit to the Lord over her own emotions and understanding. She is not fluffy, but she is eloquent, and she does not gloss over hardship, yet she continually puts her hope in the Lord through his word--and it is beautiful and encouraging.
Corinne Rivera
Dec 06, 2014 Corinne Rivera rated it it was amazing
Perfection. What a wonderful story. Inspired me greatly and gave me hope. The Lord does care about our love life. And if they can have such a beautiful story, I can have one too! Also very challenging. As soon as I finished this book I wasn't feeling a strong desire to get married, but to give up my life and the possibility of marriage to God and say, "Here! You can have it! All I want is you! I'll get married if you want me to, I'll stay single if you want me to! I just want your presence. You ...more
Jan 01, 2012 Caitlin rated it liked it
The first half or so was really powerful and helpful, but the love story between Elisabeth and Jim Elliot seemed to drag on at the end while there became less life application. I found the book really convicting though and would definitely recommend it.
Anna Katrina
Aug 05, 2014 Anna Katrina rated it it was amazing
This book is the reason why I only give 4-stars to any good love story I've ever read. This is how any love story should flow and should be told. This is the proof that love, true love, it really waits.
Matthew Richardson
Feb 03, 2016 Matthew Richardson rated it it was amazing
Worthy to be read again and again!
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From the Author's Web Site: My parents were missionaries in Belgium where I was born. When I was a few months old, we came to the U.S. and lived in Germantown, not far from Philadelphia, where my father became an editor of the Sunday School Times. Some of my contemporaries may remember the publication which was used by hundreds of churches for their weekly unified Sunday School teaching materials. ...more
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“I realized that the deepest spiritual lessons are not learned by His letting us have our way in the end, but by His making us wait, bearing with us in love and patience until we are able to honestly to pray what He taught His disciples to pray: Thy will be done.” 221 likes
“I do know that waiting on God requires the willingness to bear uncertainty, to carry within oneself the unanswered question, lifting the heart to God about it whenever it intrudes upon one’s thoughts. Its easy to talk oneself into a decision that has no permanence – easier sometimes than to wait patiently.” 119 likes
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