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September 7th 2004
by Integrity Publishers
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Hardcover, 240 pages
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1591451876
(isbn13: 9781591451877)
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Based upon Ephesians 5:33 and extensive biblical and psychological research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs reveals the power of unconditional love and uncondi...more
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Read in October, 2007
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I have to say that I did not enjoy reading this book at all and would not recommend it to anyone. First, it bothers me that he bases the vast majority of the books basis on a single verse. The description for this book says that Dr. Emerson has done extensive biblical research on his proposed idea of men needing respect and women needing love. However, I see very little that verifies this claim. Extensive biblical research would show Dr. Emerson’s thorough and careful exegesis of Ephesians...more
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Read in January, 2007
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my bestie, Kelsrecommends it for: any one who doesn't even know how to talk to their spouse anymore
The best marriage book I've found so far. Based on the fact that women need love and men need respect. For years that concept turned me off of reading this book, until the wall was so great that I had nowhere else to turn to find out how to talk to my husband again. This book saved my marriage by teaching me how to talk to my hubby in a way that showed him what I was feeling in my heart in a way he understood.
By the way, I don't recommend taking this book from page 1 if you are in di...more
By the way, I don't recommend taking this book from page 1 if you are in di...more
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Read in September, 2008
okay don't misunderstand me.
I think it is important for a wife to respect her husband and a husband to love his wife. That being said I didn't care for the way this book was written. The majority of the book was instered letters and e-mails that Mr. Eggerichs recieved praising what miraculous wonders were done in their marriage once she started respecting her husband or He started loving his wife.
I would have liked to have seen more "research" that was mentioned in the book...more
I think it is important for a wife to respect her husband and a husband to love his wife. That being said I didn't care for the way this book was written. The majority of the book was instered letters and e-mails that Mr. Eggerichs recieved praising what miraculous wonders were done in their marriage once she started respecting her husband or He started loving his wife.
I would have liked to have seen more "research" that was mentioned in the book...more
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Read in March, 2006
This is just another pop-psychology, appealing-to-the-masses-but-not-the-truth, feel-good book. It is so popular because it is in the same vein as The 5 Love Languages, His Needs/Her Needs, etc. which center on the anti-biblical/humanistic view of people as "love tanks"/"love banks" rather than the biblical understanding of who we really are (Gen 6:5; Jer 2:13; 17:9; Ecc 9:3; Mk 7:20-23; Gal 5:17; Rom 7, 8)
Yes, it does uses some Scripture, and even part of the boo...more
Yes, it does uses some Scripture, and even part of the boo...more
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Read in April, 2009
I have realized from this book how deeply ingrained men's and women's differences are. Both are important and both are absolutely necessary, but it is time to recognize we are not the same and the same things do not motivate all. In a simple statement from the book, "Husbands and wives need each other." It is not a weakness to recognize this; it is a strength upon which to build.
The main scripture that Dr. Eggerichs uses is one in Ephesians 5:33. He uses a different tra...more
The main scripture that Dr. Eggerichs uses is one in Ephesians 5:33. He uses a different tra...more
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Read in January, 2008
This is my second time through this one. The first time through opened my eyes to the concept of respect as a language, which was foreign to me. But I don't think I ever really APPLIED anything that I learned. This time through, I have applied some of the respect suggestions as I've been learning them, and I definitely see that it makes a difference. Now the challenge is going to be to KEEP applying...
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Read in October, 2008
Please don't misunderstand where I'm coming from. I really find the issues of loving one's wife and respecting one's husband, often misunderstood, overlooked and under-emphasized themes in today's society. However, I don't believe that this particular author needed an entire book to say that. Its repetitive, poorly written and doesn't address the depth and complexity of a healthy relationship. It tends to be simplistic in its approach to male and female roles. Again, don't misunderstand me ...more
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06/07/08
Leslie
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Dustin and I went to the Love and Respect conference a couple months ago and we LOVED it. I can't wait to finish this :-)
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Read in November, 2007
This was so insightful in my marriage! We've all heard of the love languages, but this simplifies it even more. Men desire respect, women desire love. If one person is not getting those needs met, it begins a "crazy cycle" that destroys relationships. This is a great easy read for anyone desiring to understand the opposite sex, and is based on the Bible scripture, Ephesians 5:3, "Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband...more
Read in August, 2006
My mother bought this book for my then-fiance and I when we announced our engagement, and both of us read it... most of it, anyway. Two years into our marriage, I will rate the advice as "excellent," and I've thus given it four stars. However, like so many "self-help"-type books, there is clear evidence of the author stretching out his material to fill enough pages to justify a solid $25 hardcover. In other words, read the first half of the book (or maybe even less) and you...more
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Read in March, 2009
A self-indulgant book that basically takes one sentence- "In relationships women need to feel loved and men need to feel respected-" and repeats it for 350 pages. The author spends the majority of the book praising his own idea and quoting other satisfied readers.
However, in the second half of the book Eggerichs makes the concept applicable by providing acronyms to improve your personal relationships. If you read the book at all, just read the last half. The rest of it jus...more
However, in the second half of the book Eggerichs makes the concept applicable by providing acronyms to improve your personal relationships. If you read the book at all, just read the last half. The rest of it jus...more
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Read in May, 2009
The book clearly defines the needs of both men and women: that of men being respect and women love. He used a profound scripture: Ephesians 5:33 to back his argument. It's an eye opener to know that men are wired to respect, while women are wired to love. Women can reach men better through showing them respect, while men can declare their expression of love to women. The understanding of these two needs will foster peace and harmony at home.
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I read it...I just couldn't get through the whole thing...There is just a lot of mumbo jumbo in it. I give it a four star ratin g though because, it explains a lot of important things about how women need love the most and men desire respect the most. However...it is more natural for women to give love and if they don't get it...they usually don't respect a man. But, it is more natural for the man to give respect (not lovey dovey stuff). Men need love too...just not like women. So, if things are...more
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Recommended by Basim's father and well worth the read.
I think all people, whether you are in a relationship or not, should read this. Even if you don't think you have anything to learn about communication you will at least learn of the struggles people suffer through in their relationships. You might have a friend or family member that could benefit from reading it.
I think all people, whether you are in a relationship or not, should read this. Even if you don't think you have anything to learn about communication you will at least learn of the struggles people suffer through in their relationships. You might have a friend or family member that could benefit from reading it.
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Read in September, 2005
I absolutely hated this book. I wanted to burn it when I was done but rather than do that, I just threw it away. The another is completely out of touch with a womans way of thinking and I was pretty much offended through the entire thing. I had to read this for our small group but sometimes, I couldn't bear it and just skipped.
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01/27/09
Neila
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Although this book is rife with far more religious mumbo jumbo than I care for, the root message provides a lot of insight as to what men and women are respectively looking to get out of their relationships and how this can lead to a distinct lack of marital bliss when mars and venus aren't speaking one another's language;)
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Read in October, 2007
I read this one shortly before or after we were married. I think it has some really good things to say and I recommend it to anyone interested in having a better relationship with your significant other (man or woman). Just be aware that it can be quite repetitive - I think they're just trying to hammer it in to thick skulls.
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Read in December, 2008
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Only mature people.recommends it for: All who really want a good marriage.
This book must be read by any young man or lady that hopes to or is getting married. It is a real eye opener and I am sure will help any marriage. My mom has read this and says it is all too true! I am glad I am learning this before I get married. I am sure it will help me a ton with my future husband!
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Read in January, 2009
I don't know if enjoyed is the right word for this book, however I did appreciate the insight and his straight talk to both husbands and wives. There is a lot about "submission" in the wives part, but it was good to hear and not dominate man heavy. I think people will either find this book helpful and like it or totally hate it. I think it will help me frame some of my interactions and had good tips.
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Read in December, 2008
Loved the concept of the book - not crazy about how it was written. I think that Eggerichs really has something there that hasn't been written or talked about much - that the key to a great marriage is the wife respecting her husband and the husband loving his wife. Unfortunately, this great message is not presented in the best way possible. I felt that Eggerichs was much harder on his wife and her examples of disrespect than on himself and his failures. I also got tired of letter after lett...more
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