Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give in

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Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give in

by Lisa Bevere

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How far can I go? It's the question of a generation wanting straight answers. Often the very questions we ask reveal our hearts better than anything else. In "Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry," Lisa Bevere tackles these tough issues by moving us from rules to relationship. There is no question we need a renewal of purity, but what we're doing is not working.

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Paperback, 208 pages

Published April 16th 2002 by Thomas Nelson Publishers

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May 25, 2010

Rachel Ropper rated it

Shelves: christian, non-fiction, 2010

I just discovered this in the box of books I brought to my hall of residence with me when I moved in last semester. I decided to skim through it and ended up skim reading the whole book this afternoon.
I was kind of disappointed in this book. From the back cover, I assumed it would be a straight-forward book with relationship and sex advice for young women, with emphasis on purity. Instead, the book went all over the place - at some points, the message went where I thought it was going but ...moreI just discovered this in the box of books I brought to my hall of residence with me when I moved in last semester. I decided to skim through it and ended up skim reading the whole book this afternoon.
I was kind of disappointed in this book. From the back cover, I assumed it would be a straight-forward book with relationship and sex advice for young women, with emphasis on purity. Instead, the book went all over the place - at some points, the message went where I thought it was going but other times the author went off on five page long tangents with stories that were either irrelevant or succeeded in giving evidence of the stereotype that all women are vulnerable and easily pressured and are bad at judging what men want. The overall message of this book seemed to be that all young women just want a man to love them and will throw themselves at the first bozo who looks at them. And because we're so desperate, as soon as they mention sex we're going to go weak at the knees and give in to them purely because they want it. Interestingly, the author didn't seem to address the issue that maybe women are interested in sex too? She seemed to focus far too much on "Don't give in to what men want" and ignored "Don't give in to what YOU want." Also, her comments about men were rather depressing; the stories she recounted could really convince some innocent teenage girl that all men are going to use you for sex and then leave once they've got what they wanted. Shockingly, I'm eighteen and have a boyfriend and my boyfriend actually likes buying me presents, cooking me food when I'm ill, meeting my parents and so on. The authors talks about how women crave intimacy and romance - I just want to confirm that, yes, men do too. Sure, there are some men out there who do just use women for sex. But trust me, I've witnessed plenty of girls in my first year of university who do just the same.
All in all, some of this book was useful. Her stories were sometimes entertaining and enlightening, and there were a lot of scriptures in here. But I really felt that she just cemented the stereotype that women = innocent creatures that know nothing about the world and are vulnerable to men and just going to give in to them, and men = heartless jerks who will have sex with you and leave. I really wish that she's focused more on the ideas of building healthy relationships, being confident and mature before giving your heart away to someone, etc. Because honestly, the message I got from this book was "Be pure because he'll just run away after you give it up." I'm quite glad I didn't read this when I was younger because it probably would have made me scared of men. This book had potential but unfortunately took the wrong approach. 4/10
Oooh, just remembered - there was also a lot of emphasis on people having sex when they were drunk. I know the drinking culture amongst young people is pretty awful right now, but I did get the impression that the author assumed that young women wouldn't have sex unless a) they were drunk or b) they were pressured into it. I would have found it interesting to read stories about people who had been in loving relationships and had sex before they were married and then later regretted it - rather than being coerced into it through alcohol or a pressuring boyfriend. These people are going to struggle with the issue of staying pure and be more likely to go and read a book on it than those who spontaneously lose their virginity while drunk.(less)

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Feb 16, 2009

Amber (rebmav) rated it

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I think this book is a must-read for women of all ages. It has an inspiring message for girls that want to save sex for marriage and those who haven't, but want to change their course.

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Feb 01, 2011

Anna Sirmeyer rated it

A fantastic reflection of the inner battle every young woman must fight. This is a fantastic book for mothers and daughters to read together!

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Mar 02, 2009

Laura rated it

Great book. Lisa Bevere is great at sharing her past and how she overcame it and encouraging the readers to do the same.

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Mar 28, 2008

Laura0141 rated it

I've read most of Lisa Bevere's books now and think this is the best to date. It’s a no-holds-barred look at female sexuality from a Christian perspective. Lisa covers everything from what the Bible has to say about piercing to oral sex. Although she says she is writing for young, unmarried women, there is a whole lot of wonderful information for every woman – no matter what sexual experiences they may or may not have had. This book has helped me immeasurably already and I’m looking forward to s...more

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May 07, 2009

Linda Fossen rated it

I love this book by Lisa Bevere!

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Aug 23, 2008

Gretchen rated it

Lisa Bevere very honestly examines issues of women's purity and helps lead women through healing from the past. I would especially recommend for young (or any age)women who have experienced assaults to their sexual purity in any way.

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Nov 22, 2007

Ashley rated it

Recommends it for: women

Shelves: books-i-ve-read

This book is an honest and hard read on women's purity.

It's a book I'd recommend to women in their 20s...who are seeking a fresh start from poor past decisions. Excellent BIble study, too.

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Oct 17, 2007

Katie Lynn Fox rated it

Shelves: non-fiction

It's a good book, but I'm not fond of workbooks (and I had to do the workbooks as well), so I didn't appreciate it as much as I would have.

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Oct 17, 2007

Katie Lynn Fox rated it

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Shelves: non-fiction

I guess it's a good workbook, but the lessons are long and I don't enjoy workbooks to begin with.

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Oct 28, 2008

Oswald Daisy marked it as to-read

Started this one and haven't finished. WOW!! Will definitely finish when I have time!!

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Sep 02, 2008

Samantha Newby rated it

it was good if you want to know what God thinks about sex and women

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Mar 10, 2008

Kelita added it

can we say true! very good book to read, hard but worth it

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Aug 12, 2008

Donna rated it

What a call to purity!! And a healing for the past.

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Aug 31, 2008

Tammy rated it

All moms need to read this!

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Dec 29, 2010

Frances rated it

Interesting, inspirational makes you look at your life differently but found parts of it hard going.

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Mar 14, 2008

Sisikelelwe Tshofela rated it

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great red

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Jun 04, 2007

Maura rated it

It all makes sense.

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