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Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In

4.03 of 5 stars 4.03  ·  rating details  ·  336 ratings  ·  32 reviews
Women are admitting promiscuity isn't really getting them what they wanted after all—because as women we always stand to lose so much more than men when we give in.

Men love adventure and intrigue while women crave intimacy, romance, and passion. we were created for so much more than a sexual outlet for men, and as women, we want and deserve more than just sexual release fo
Paperback, 197 pages
Published April 16th 2002 by Thomas Nelson
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Rachel Brand
I just discovered this in the box of books I brought to my hall of residence with me when I moved in last semester. I decided to skim through it and ended up skim reading the whole book this afternoon.
I was kind of disappointed in this book. From the back cover, I assumed it would be a straight-forward book with relationship and sex advice for young women, with emphasis on purity. Instead, the book went all over the place - at some points, the message went where I thought it was going but other
Was re-reading as part of a library clean out and I couldn't even get past the first chapter. This is rife with shaming women for questioning things about their sexuality, mentions sexual abuse as an afterthought after said blunt and downright abusive shaming, and placing the focus of a developing woman's sexuality exclusively on male figures (God the Father, earthly fathers, eventual husbands) rather than on productive female figures (Mother Mary, Sophia (the spirit of Wisdom), the Holy Spirit, ...more
I have enjoyed every other book I have read by Lisa Bevere, but I disagree with some of her points in this book. While I agreed with the overall message, I am also tired of hearing how girls have to rely on their fathers as their protectors while dating when we should be empowering young women to have the confidence and the willingness to walk away from uncomfortable situations. We should also be teaching boys that is not acceptable to put girls in those situations. Bevere also writes some of th ...more
Alyssa Adamczyk
“How far can I go? It's the question of a generation wanting straight answers. Often the very questions we ask reveal our hearts better than anything else.” In Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry, Lisa Bevere touches on the issues we are faced with whiling being in relationships and all the rules we should take in to consideration. She explains that we need to renew or purity, but in a way that makes us less of a sinner. Throughout the book Lisa talks a lot about her testimony and how being a Chr ...more
Marilena Reutzel
I don't know what to say about this book besides the fact that I found it to be unfairly sexist. It implies that all men are sex-hungry, heartless creatures who will take what they want (as if women don't want sex too?) and leave. Women are also portrayed as vulnerable, gullible, and apparently possessing no ability to judge a potential romantic partner properly. This book grossly oversimplifies relationships, acting as if men are the only ones who crave excitement, and women are the only ones w ...more
Love love LOVE Lisa Bevere! She tells it like it is, with just a little sugar coating! A lovely and compassionate lady. I would recommend any of her books / dvds to anyone.
Well, THAT was a trip.

Purity culture makes me stabby and this book covered nearly every element of why that is. Detail is unnecessary here, but it went ABOVE AND BEYOND.

Soul ties. I tune out the moment those get mentioned, and that line got crossed about halfway through the book.

I am usually pretty chill about Traditional Gender Roles but this lady couldn't have been less subtle about that if she'd tried. (Also helloooo unnecessary absolutism.)

Oh, and some INTERESTING thoughts about sex. And by
Chelsea DeVries
This was the perfect thing to read since I've been struggling in the area of purity lately. Yet, because of this book, I realized a bragging tale full of empty details of all that was given in that heated moment of passion are in fact the same emptiness that remains in result and won't bring back what was lost. I found there is a Prince that passionately pursues me in my purity every day and his everlasting love for me both broke my heart and healed it. Thank you Jesus and thank you Lisa for rem ...more
Emily George
I could write a really long philosophical review of all the things that were wrong with this book, but I will keep it short and simple. It was a terrible book-- full of gross generalizations, oversimplifications, platitudes, and stereotypes. I can't even get started on all of the Disney Princess references and how women are in need of being rescued. I feel badly even donating it to my local library.
Risper Wangari
What an amazing book!

What an amazing book!

A great read! Thank you Lisa for sharing your heart so freely and openly!
A great point of view from what the culture s Aust has..
Trinity Laurel
best book on purity I've read....
Now what is a Jewish man doing reading a book by a born-again Christian writing to an intended audience of young women? Well, learning about how other people see the world, I guess. I was drawn to the book because I wanted to see her take on relationship purity. While some of the passages in the book are inconsistent with my worldview (like say, condemning homosexuality), overall I think there was a great deal of thought-provoking insight in the book.
Lisa Bevere has an amazing testimony of her conversion to Christianity. She has a desire to see women fully healed and delivered from their past mistakes. This book focuses on how we have treated sex and relationships in the past and how to be restored through Jesus for our futures. She does not hold back and takes a firm stance on the purity we must pursue daily in our mind, body, and spirit. If this is a source of devastation for you, read this book!
Lisa Bevere very honestly examines issues of women's purity and helps lead women through healing from the past. I would especially recommend for young (or any age)women who have experienced assaults to their sexual purity in any way.
Nov 22, 2007 Ashley rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: women
Shelves: books-i-ve-read
This book is an honest and hard read on women's purity.

It's a book I'd recommend to women in their 20s...who are seeking a fresh start from poor past decisions. Excellent BIble study, too.
Amber (rebmav)
I think this book is a must-read for women of all ages. It has an inspiring message for girls that want to save sex for marriage and those who haven't, but want to change their course.
Cindy James
Excellent. This is particularly good for council ling young ladies who have not followed a chaste life style and are trying to turn the corner back to purity.
Anna Sirmeyer
A fantastic reflection of the inner battle every young woman must fight. This is a fantastic book for mothers and daughters to read together!
Katie Lynn Fox
It's a good book, but I'm not fond of workbooks (and I had to do the workbooks as well), so I didn't appreciate it as much as I would have.
Great book. Lisa Bevere is great at sharing her past and how she overcame it and encouraging the readers to do the same.

The way Lisa tackles the topics in this book is remarkable, as is her testimony. Highly recommended.
Interesting, inspirational makes you look at your life differently but found parts of it hard going.
Oswald Daisy
Oct 28, 2008 Oswald Daisy marked it as to-read
Started this one and haven't finished. WOW!! Will definitely finish when I have time!!
Samantha Newby
it was good if you want to know what God thinks about sex and women
Mar 10, 2008 Kelita added it
can we say true! very good book to read, hard but worth it
What a call to purity!! And a healing for the past.
Great book to share with teenaged girls about sexuality.
Andrea Martin
A must read for your daughters BEFORE they date!!!
Linda M. Fossen
I love this book by Lisa Bevere!
All moms need to read this!
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Lisa Bevere is a Christian author of the books Lioness Arising, Nurture, Fight Like a Girl, Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry, Out of Control and Loving It! Be Angry but Don't Blow It! The True Measure of a Woman, and You Are Not What You Weigh.
In addition to speaking at national and international conferences, she is a frequent guest on Christian television and radio shows. Lisa is also the cohos
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