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Don't Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction

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"Dr. Patrick Carnes is a creative,pioneering, and courageous human being. His books arechanging the lives ofthousands!"

"I lost three marriages, all because of affairs.""I became suicidal because of multiple intenseinvolvements."

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Paperback, 448 pages
Published March 1st 1992 by Bantam (first published 1991)
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Monica Willyard
Apr 26, 2009 Monica Willyard rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Anyone struglling with sex addiction as well as spouses who want to understand what's going on
This book can be a great source of help, encouragement, and understanding for couples where one spouse is struggling with sexual addiction. This book can help the nonaddicted spouse to understand the addiction better and will help to explain how people recover. This helped me feel more patient and helped me understand that my husband's addiction had nothing to do with my character or value. That's worth far more than the price of the book. ;)
Jason , etc.
This was a groundbreaking work in a particularly devastating flavor of addiction. The scholarship behind it and the importance of the work is complemented by the conversational tone of the writing. It was timely and helpful and enlightening and I can never say enough about how enlightening I found it.
Interesting book. I guess this was the first book that studied sexual misbehavior and found the similarities between them and addictive behaviors. Again, some of the cases were a little blunt, but portrayed in an objective manner. Very insightful. I'll probably read it again.
THE BEST book on the subject. SOOO helpful and insightful. I feel like I just graduated with a PhD after reading this book. I couldn't put it down. Heartbreaking. It's more common than ever today due to the internet. I really liked it.
Jan 28, 2008 Denise rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: sex addicts, people with sex addicts in their lives
Shelves: self-help
Want to educate yourself about sex addiction? Here's your comprehensive reference.
Read for a research project on sex addiction.
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Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D., is an internationally known authority and speaker on addiction and recovery issues. He has authored over twenty books including the bestselling titles Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction, Facing the Shadow, Betrayal Bond, Don’t Call It Love, A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps and The Gentle Path through the Twelve Principles.

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