false http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1175786078m/556935.jpg 556935 4 In their weekly radio show and in their popular workshops, Gary and Joy Lundberg have already helped thousands of people and their families to communicate more effectively. Now, the Lundbergs address an all too common dilemma that arises when others expect you to solve their problems for them, showing readers how they can shed the no-win role of "fixer" and empower people to solve their own problems through validation--a simple yet profound communication tool that is essential to any healthy relationship. Refreshingly straightforward, this inspiring and entertaining work is poised to become a classic guide for anyone who wishes to improve relationships with their partner, children, colleagues and friends.<br><br>"Splendid . . . Powerfully teaches the concept of human validation and helps empower others to be responsible."--Stephen R. Covey, author of <i>The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People</i> 544121 1999 I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better total:137|5:61|4:38|3:35|2:2|1:1| 137 567 215 44 3 1 false false Mon Jan 01 00:00:00 -0800 2007 Sun Feb 10 13:09:36 -0800 2008 Sun Feb 10 13:14:05 -0800 2008
Mostly it is about being a good listener. . . and that most of the time when people are coming to you with a problem, they don't want your...more...]]> 5 0 false false Fri Feb 06 00:00:00 -0800 2009 Fri Feb 06 10:52:06 -0800 2009 Fri Feb 06 10:54:27 -0800 2009 more...]]> 4 0 false false Sat Jul 12 00:00:00 -0700 2008 Mon Jul 14 08:39:23 -0700 2008 Mon Jul 14 08:49:46 -0700 2008
The premise of the book is to help you move from being the "fixer" or "saver" of everyone's problems. Though I certainly don't feel myself as a "fixer"...more...]]> 5 0 false false Fri Feb 01 00:00:00 -0800 2008 Thu Feb 28 10:57:06 -0800 2008 Mon Aug 25 12:40:10 -0700 2008 more...]]> 4 0 false false Sat Nov 29 00:00:00 -0800 2008 Tue Dec 02 08:51:42 -0800 2008 Tue Dec 02 08:56:49 -0800 2008 more...]]> 5 0 false false Fri Oct 23 17:56:09 -0700 2009 Fri Oct 23 18:02:35 -0700 2009 5 0 false false Mon Feb 04 00:00:00 -0800 2008 Mon Jan 19 13:28:02 -0800 2009 Mon Jan 19 13:33:04 -0800 2009 5 0 false false Wed Oct 21 14:33:04 -0700 2009 Wed Oct 21 14:34:27 -0700 2009 5 0 false false Tue May 05 10:48:37 -0700 2009 Tue May 05 10:49:03 -0700 2009 0 0 false false Thu Jan 01 00:00:00 -0800 2009 Wed Feb 18 11:42:30 -0800 2009 Wed Feb 18 11:43:29 -0800 2009 5 0 false false Fri Feb 01 00:00:00 -0800 2008 Sun Feb 24 17:02:12 -0800 2008 Sun Feb 24 17:10:22 -0800 2008 more...]]> 5 0 false false Fri May 29 23:39:51 -0700 2009 Fri May 29 23:41:04 -0700 2009 5 0 false false Thu May 22 08:56:13 -0700 2008 Thu May 22 12:01:55 -0700 2008 more...]]> 5 0 false false Tue Feb 03 11:31:47 -0800 2009 Tue Feb 03 11:32:11 -0800 2009 5 0 false false Sun Feb 22 00:00:00 -0800 2009 Mon Feb 04 22:24:58 -0800 2008 Sat Feb 21 11:31:42 -0800 2009 more...]]> 3 0 false false Thu Oct 22 13:25:10 -0700 2009 Fri Oct 09 14:32:02 -0700 2009 Fri Oct 09 14:32:58 -0700 2009 3 0 false false Sun Jun 01 00:00:00 -0700 2008 Wed Jul 09 14:35:01 -0700 2008 Wed Jul 09 14:45:07 -0700 2008 when they ask for advice that you don't do a put-down but instead a validation. It is okay to start out using the words: how, what, when, where, do and is, but do not use why.
Then you ask them if they can think of an idea that woul...more...]]> 5 0 false false Sat Jun 07 20:43:36 -0700 2008 Sat Jun 07 20:46:31 -0700 2008 more...]]> 5 0 false false Wed Nov 05 00:00:00 -0800 2008 Wed Oct 22 20:11:25 -0700 2008 Thu Nov 06 07:49:06 -0800 2008 1 I will buy a copy of this book and read it often! It would be great to atte...more...]]> 5 0 false false Tue May 20 12:28:29 -0700 2008 Tue May 20 12:30:28 -0700 2008 more...]]> http://www.goodreads.com/book_link/follow/8?book_id=556935