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Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice

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Do you (or does someone you know)...
--Apologize frequently or for things you are not responsible for?
--Get preoccupied with what other people think of you?
--Become unhappy when your partner isn't happy?
--Feel worried or fretful so often it seems normal?
--Often not know what you want?
--Constantly second-guess yourself?
Chronic Niceness affects multitudes, causing severe an
Paperback, 232 pages
Published April 1st 2006 by Sourcebooks
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Leanna Henderson
I am so glad I came across this little book while Christmas shopping at Barnes & Nobles. It really opened my eyes to a lot of things in my life. It was “spot on.” I am definitely a “Nice Person,” i.e. too nice. I am constantly sacrificing my own needs and wants to please others, then complimenting myself in my head for my martyrdom. Heck, I even get bossed around by myself! I never realized how this behavior has affected every single area of my life. In fact, I think it’s been encouraged by ...more
Maria Bungău
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First impression about the narration style was that is purely American, addressed to a certain type of readers, it seemed a bit puerile and meant to convince –like a commercial. Later on I got used to it; I don’t enjoy the undertone of the text. The interest in the book, I thought is fired up artificially in the first chapter – repetitions, marketing expressions, promises of how the reader’s life will change dramatically, etc; going forward with the reading I came to ignore it – I noticed parts ...more
This book was difficult to get through because it covered basics that I've read about in much greater technical detail before. Having said that, it is a good book, with helpful insights and suggestions.
If you know someone who suffers from anxiety or you yourself suffer from it, this is a good read to explain why. People who suffer from this anxiety are what he calls "too nice" - they don't believe they can be loved or deserved to be loved and they often live a life of quiet desperation searching for the love they somehow missed out on as children and may have been made worse by relationships with partners or people they are dating. They don't choose to obsess about what others are thinking, th ...more
James Andersen
This book seems to be better than other books I have read on the subject (so far). The book discusses the origins of Anxious Attachment Disorder as well as its effects on peoples lives and how to treat it, while I whole heartedly agree with the treatment methods, sometimes I feel like the origins is explained to us as if we were totally victims of everything else around us, which is kind of disempowering since it leaves a cold determinism to explain the origins of this disorder, nonetheless I di ...more
The couples therapist I was recently seeing recommended I listen to this book in my car.

As I'm the sort of person who does what my therapist says, at least early on in the relationship, I did it; listened to this book. I had never listened to a book in my car before.

My takeaway is: when you're listening to a book, it matters who is reading.

The voice actor (I have no idea the term) verily sneered every time she pronounced the word "nice." The word "nice" appears roughly two gazillion times in t
As ever, what you get out of it depends on what you put into it. I think there is more allegory than practicality, but the scenarios are very explanatory.
Shawnee Bowlin
There has been some criticism of self-help books, but they are what you make them. Take what you need from them. But, as should be with everything, they are not a "one-fits-all" solution.
Anxious to Please is very helpful and insightful. It can hit close to home and open awareness.
I'm learning a lot about myself and why I act certain ways! I hope to be able to use the steps in this book to retrain myself to be less anxious and less chronically nice. Who knew that being nice isn't always 'nice'?
This book described me perfectly.
I'd been a chronically nice person my whole life, now I'm finally learning not being nice all the time is OK, and much healthier.
Very good book for me to read. It explained a lot to me about my life, and it helped me to understand myself better.
Arika Escalona
The topic isn't for everyone, but for those who fit the bill, this is really excellent.
Jennifer Jennette
I would give this book a 10 star rating if I could.
Interesting read.
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