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Reforming Marriage
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Douglas Wilson (Goodreads Author)
Reforming Marriage does what few books on marriage do today: it provides biblical advice. Douglas Wilson points to the need for obedient hearts on the part of both husbands and wives. Godly marriages proceed from obedient hearts, and the greatest desire of an obedient heart is the glory of God. "You'll never be able to think of marriage in the same way again." -J...more
Paperback, 144 pages
Published
February 1st 1995
by Canon Press
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Two things first:
1. If you don't believe the Bible is the inerrant word of God, then this would not be a good book for you to read.
2. This is a book to chew up the meat and spit out the bones.
I think that overall Douglas Wilson has a good, Biblical view on WHY a marriage should look the way he suggests. However, I do think there were a couple (not all) of places where he misused scripture. I also think he falls very short of HOW a marriage should practically work...more
1. If you don't believe the Bible is the inerrant word of God, then this would not be a good book for you to read.
2. This is a book to chew up the meat and spit out the bones.
I think that overall Douglas Wilson has a good, Biblical view on WHY a marriage should look the way he suggests. However, I do think there were a couple (not all) of places where he misused scripture. I also think he falls very short of HOW a marriage should practically work...more
I picked this book up as potential supplemental reading to another marriage book I'm using for some counseling, Sacred Marriage: Celebrating Marriage as a Spiritual Discipline. Douglas Wilson is a well-known reformed author, and I knew I wouldn't get "5 steps to happiness" or "7 tips for great loving."
While I continue to think that this is best as a supplemental book, it is good material. Wilson ruthlessly insists that the husband is to worship God, not his marria...more
While I continue to think that this is best as a supplemental book, it is good material. Wilson ruthlessly insists that the husband is to worship God, not his marria...more
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This book is a breath of fresh air. One of Doug Wilson's gift is the ability that God has given him to craft his writing in a witty and interesting way. Combine that with the biblical principles Wilson presents, the book proves to be an edifying read, one that is hard to put down. Though it is short in length, it is pack not only with biblical insight but also God-given wisdom of a married couple who has been there, and APPLIED that. A highlight in the book is the theme of the biblical role...more
Robyn and I first read Reforming Marriage as newlyweds, or maybe while we were engaged. I can't remember now, but I do recall finding this book on marriage a useful guide to the biblical teaching on the subject. And having recently began pre-marital counseling with a certain couple, and having asked them to read the book, I thought it would be wise to go through it again.
I still find this a clearly-written and overall helpful book on marriage. I recommend it with only a few reservati...more
I still find this a clearly-written and overall helpful book on marriage. I recommend it with only a few reservati...more
My wife and I have read a few books on marriage together and attended various marriage enrichment seminars over the years, but this one book has been more valuable to our marriage than all of them put together. This book is a pointed and straightforward examination of the fundamental aspects of a healthy, biblical marriage, and included in the examination are at least a couple of topics which modern expositors and counselors would very much prefer to soft-pedal or dodge altogether. As such, it i...more
Meh. I really don't understand the rave reviews. It's okay. It's not as horrible as the stuff that comes out of CBMW, but he doesn't go far enough with the notion of Covenant marriage, imo.
I'm willing to accept and assert the notion of "male headship," but most of the authors that insist upon the idea are stuck in an earlier decade. Wilson is stuck in an earlier century. He makes the man/husband/father the center of the home, not Christ, and as a result he offers a very ego...more
I'm willing to accept and assert the notion of "male headship," but most of the authors that insist upon the idea are stuck in an earlier decade. Wilson is stuck in an earlier century. He makes the man/husband/father the center of the home, not Christ, and as a result he offers a very ego...more
In this book Douglas Wilson sets aside prevailing cultural standards and boldly addresses the Biblical standard of Christian marriage and the roles of Christian husbands and wives. He discusses headship and authority, different responsibilities or roles to be fulfilled in marriage, love, forgiveness, differences between men and women, pornography, faithfulness, bearing children, divorce, etc.
A chapter is devoted to the "roles" of a husband and a wife. They each have different...more
A chapter is devoted to the "roles" of a husband and a wife. They each have different...more
No I'm not married and yes this book was tremendously helpful.
Some chapters were great wisdom on handling any relationship; some chapters were excellent theological clarification; and some chapters were helpful to help pave direction as a single man.
All in all, great book. I'm finding more and more how much I love and appreciate Wilson's style, and I'm even beginning to think that if he wrote a book on shoveling snow, this snowless Texan would probably read it. I look forward...more
Some chapters were great wisdom on handling any relationship; some chapters were excellent theological clarification; and some chapters were helpful to help pave direction as a single man.
All in all, great book. I'm finding more and more how much I love and appreciate Wilson's style, and I'm even beginning to think that if he wrote a book on shoveling snow, this snowless Texan would probably read it. I look forward...more
This book is hard medicine to take. By which I mean that a Christian marriage as Doug Wilson presents it is one of the hardest things a man and a woman can do, and almost every marriage I can think of (I'm single), needs this book's grounded Biblical doctrine.
BUT: I find Wilson's writing style rather unsympathetic, and I agree with some of the other reviews: certainly most of this is hard Biblical doctrine, but some of it is merely clinging to the social customs of an earlier time.
BUT: I find Wilson's writing style rather unsympathetic, and I agree with some of the other reviews: certainly most of this is hard Biblical doctrine, but some of it is merely clinging to the social customs of an earlier time.
"Reforming Marriage" as in Reformed Theology, which I don't adhere to. The author has made some excellent points in the first few chapters, but overall I find him very harsh on the male sex. Probably because he feels at liberty to give it straight to other men because he is one himself. That's how his (rather overt) tone comes across to me. I've been reading this with my husband and it only leaves him feeling downtrodden. I am left feeling embarrassed. It's definitely not good for bedt...more
This was one of my favorite books on marriage. Not only does Douglas Wilson provide exegetical support for his view of marriage but offers very practical advice for marriage. His view of the roles of man and women in marriage sets a high bar and is something Ill have to visit again to challenge myself. Wilson always provides an entertaining writing style and is very enjoyable.
Although this book is written from a much more conservative stance than I typically believe in, I really enjoyed and agreed with the majority of the book. However, when I got to the very end, many statements were made without much rationale and it somewhat soured me t on the book. Regardless of the end though, I enjoyed it and would recommend it.
So far a good read. It has worked best that I read this with my wife so that we can discuss the key points or particular items that make an impression on each of us individually.
Why don't more pre-marital counselling sessions include book reading? I guess that's contingent upon the "right" books being reccommended. Also, I think I have heard to read the book separately and then talk about what we read. I think it is much easier to just read the book together and talk about it...more
Why don't more pre-marital counselling sessions include book reading? I guess that's contingent upon the "right" books being reccommended. Also, I think I have heard to read the book separately and then talk about what we read. I think it is much easier to just read the book together and talk about it...more
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This book has had more impact on my day to day life than any book, other than the Bible of course. This book, at its core, is showing how the essense of Christianity is love God with all thy heart, soul and strength, and thy neighbor as thyself. And in order to love thy neighbor (your spouse being your closest neighbor) rightly you must do the former, which is love, and obey God. A quote from the book is something to this effect "a mature christian will always be a mature husband/wife"...more
This book was very straight to the point. There was humor in Wilson's refusal to mince words. I enjoyed it very much and would read more from him. This is even more instructive for husbands than wives.
This book is an excellent outline of a God honoring relationship between a man and a woman. It has been extremely helpful for myself, and Wilson as always writes in the most winsome fashion.
Third time reading this one. First time was for marriage counseling 10 years ago, and just finished taking my adult Sunday school class through it at church. Good stuff!
Be ready to filter through his very particular approach to applying scripture. He can be legalistic. But he speaks boldly where a lot of people tip toe.
A stone-cold classic. The best book on marriage...ever. The only book I would ever consider giving to newlywed or about-to-be-newlyweds.
4 stars only because Wilson hits really hard. A very convicting book on marriage. Not for the soft, thomas kincade loving at hearts.
Good book on marriage. If Wilson only believed marriage was a sacrament...
The cover alone is worth the price of admission.
The cover alone is worth the price of admission.
This is my favorite Douglas Wilson book out of the one's I've read. He hits the wold on the head (with the hammer, wisely ignoring the metaphorical nail).
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strongly recommended to married and unmarried couples.
strongly recommended to married and unmarried couples.
If you are married: read this.
If you are engaged: read this.
If you are neither but want to make sure you do it right: read this.
What a book.
If you are engaged: read this.
If you are neither but want to make sure you do it right: read this.
What a book.
Wilson provides a perspective for marriage that is genuinely Christian and not of the self-help variety.
One of the best books on living the gospel out in our marriages. Get it and read it ten times.
How godly marriages proceed from obedient hearts committed to the glory of God
A full-throated, Biblical frisking for any man that desires to be a Christian husband.
Helpful and practical. It meant a great deal to me when I first read it.
Excellent/biblical book in a sea of pop psych christian marriage books.
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