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Why Marriage Matters: America, Equality, and Gay People's Right to Marry

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"At its core, the freedom-to-marry movement is about the same thing every civil rights struggle has been about: taking seriously our country's promise to be a nation its citizens can make better, its promise to be a place where people don't have to give up their differences or hide them in order to be treated equally."
Why Marriage Matters offers a compelling, intelligentl
Paperback, 256 pages
Published June 2nd 2005 by Simon & Schuster (first published July 27th 2004)
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This is a decent summary of the case for marriage equality. Wolfson argues persuasively that if we accept the legal and moral arguments that have led us to no-fault divorce, marriage rights for prisoners, rights for women, and the right to privacy when determining our sexual conduct, then marriage equality makes sense and marriage discrimination does not make sense. His case would have been strengthened, however, if he had a single argument for his conception of marriage as primarily a romantic/ ...more
Overall, I found this book to be compelling. His tone and use of language are effecting in making his case; I would imagine that this book could easily turn someone who is for marriage equality, though not at all invested in the issue, into an activist. Mr. Wolfson manages to take a hot topic, normally dripping with thickly-piled-on cliches, value judgments, false morals, and doom-saying, and distill out a cohesive legal and civil rights argument in favor of marriage equality. Neither his writin ...more
I skimmed this book in a few hours. Agree with every word, but it clearly wasn't written for me. If I had the money, I would helicopter-drop this book into the Central Valley, or, even better, march into the public schools in all Californian cities outside San Francisco and push this as the homosexual agenda du jour. If I was teaching in the public schools outside SF, I think I'd risk a reprise of the Briggs Initiative and make this mandatory reading. It lays it all out pretty well. However, I d ...more
This book is extraordinary! The author's stance is that the movement towards marriage for gays and lesbians is no different than the civil rights movement of the 50's and 60's. He illustrates his point with timeless quotes, personal stories from real people, historical court cases and simple answers to the complex questions our nation is asking about marriage and homosexuality. It is a very helpful book for anyone who needs to talk to others about gay civil rights. I feel ready to debate this su ...more
This is an excellent book to use as a resource when countering common arguments used by gay rights opponents. Arguments that are predominantly based on selective biblical interpretations. Evan Wolfson demonstrates himself to be an expert on these issues by addressing them head-on and leaving numerous references to back up his points. If one could get these bigots to pick up this book and read, which no doubt would be a daunting task, they would quickly find their opposition bereft of commonsense ...more
Excellent, clearly written argument for marriage equality. It's a few years old, so it doesn't reflect recent advances, such as the legalization of same-sex marriages in NY State (and hopefully MD and WA) and the repeal of DADT, but the core arguments remain the same. It's an ideal book for someone who is on the fence, but wants to understand why marriage equality is so important to so many people.
Nov 06, 2008 Fostergrants marked it as to-read
i am indeed reading this book too late. i never thought for a moment that Proposition 8 would pass in california - so i went lolligagging around reading funny stuff. now i see that i was overly optimistic when it came to my fellow citizens and their open mindedness. it seems the fight for this civil right is not over. time for some new ammunition.
Valerie Sherman
Anyone who is against gay marriage should read this book. Keeping yourself misinformed about marriage rights for same-sex couples is not going to stop it from happening.

Anyone who is for same-sex marriage rights should read this book to arm yourself against those who are against.
Wolfson draws from social, psychological, political, legal, and civil rights perspectives to argue a potent and convincing case for marriage equality. Highly recommended for those interested in one of the most important civil rights issues of our time.
There's no good reason not to support civil marriage equality. Wolfson presents a great deal of helpful information on engaging in dialogue with people who may not yet understand the need for justice as it relates to the issue of marriage.
Made me cry by the end, great summary of the debate and facts surrounding the issue of freedom to marry. The intro bothered me a bit, definitely has a bias but seems well cited and has a ton of great quotes.
Wolfson's book is an educational experience for anyone that wants to know why equal marraige rights are so important.
Cam White
Concise, simple, but elegant arguments for the need for marriage equality in this country. Awesome read.
Excellent book promoting an end to marriage discrimination in America.
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