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Ithaka: A Daughter's Memoir of Being Found

3.85 of 5 stars 3.85  ·  rating details  ·  137 ratings  ·  9 reviews
The voice on the other end of the line was soft, yet forthright: "Sarah, my name is Hannah Morgan. I think I'm your birth mother."

The phone call, wholly unexpected, instantly turned Sarah Saffian's world upside-down, threatening her sense of family, identity, self. Adopted as an infant twenty-three years before, living happily in New York, Sarah had been "found" by her bio
Paperback, 324 pages
Published October 12th 1999 by Delta (first published January 1st 1998)
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Jul 07, 2008 Melissa rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: birth parents, adoptees
Shelves: read-in-2008
I wish my birth daughter would read this book. This book was helpful for me to be able to understand (a little) where she is coming from & why she doesn't want any contact with me at this point. I think all birth parents & adoptees should read it.
Like the author, I too was adopted in 1969. Instead of having been found, I searched, with mixed results. I think Saffian does not realize how fortunate she is to have been loved and wanted by both sets of parents, adoptive and biological. She has no idea how devastating a second rejection can be. Although her experience and perspective is very different from my own, it was interesting to follow her narrative to see what, if anything, she had learned, how she had changed.

A good first pass at wh
The title of this book is taken from C. P. Cavafy’s poem, “Ithaka,” which was read at Jacqueline Kennedy’s funeral. “Keep Ithaka always in your mind. Arriving there is what you are destined for, But do not hurry the journey at all. Better if it lasts for years, so you are old by the time you reach the island, wealthy with all you have gained on the way, not expecting Ithaka to make you rich.” Sarah Saffian recounts her journey over 2 ½ years in getting to know her birth parents. Born Susan Morga ...more
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As an adoptee, this book was very moving for me. I have often wondered how I would react if my birth parents suddenly appeared in my life, so it was interesting to read someone's account of that happening. I would definitely recommend this book to other adoptees, as well as adoptive parents and birth parents who gave a child up. But keep the Kleenex handy.
If you have experienced or are considering adoption, you should read this book! It really captures the complexities of being adopted and balancing relationships with birth parents and adoptive parents.
I wanted to read some non-fiction books after all those science fiction/adventure ones I've been reading, so I picked up two biographies. This one is about a woman who had been adopted as a baby, and years later around her 24th birthday her birth mother calls her. Its a bit different of a perspective for her to have been found by her birth parents rather than for her to search for them. It explores her confusion and emotions at this experience. Another unusual aspect of this woman's situation is ...more
It's been a few years since I read this book, but as a reunited adoptee, my dislike for this book burns brightly. The journey to one's parents or they to you, is pretty epic stuff; it is a literary vein of gold. And yet, this author manages to squander all the material fate delivers her. She shows herself to be a vainglorious cool kid who turns up her nose at her biological parents, deciding her adoptive family to be, well, just better. It's a middle school effort and it does nobody in this tale ...more
This book isn't just for adoptees and their adoptive families. I think its about families and relationships in general. the author doesn't jump into a sudden relationship with her birth family but carefully examines her feelings about her childhood and her parents--both adoptive and birth before going for a visit. I liked the author and found her story engrossing. Its a quick read.
a bit whiney for me but she is a good writer and the topic was interesting really fast reading
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