Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
FOLLOWUP: I had to return this to the library, without finishing it. I am having a very dif...more
This book could apply to many different troublesome situations. If you're a people pleaser that tends to get stressed out, there are some really helpful things in here. Or if you are liable to be taken advantage of.
I like the Christian viewpoint, because it takes into account the fact that followers of Christ WANT to serve others and not be "selfish." Yet it also teaches why we must set boundari...more
I think the authors secretly spied on me and all my interpersonal relationships to write this book! But seriously, reading this and using my bible as help...lots of scriptural references to how God wants us to set our boun...more
A fundamental principle of the book is that you are the problem, not other people - you control your destiny, not theirs. If you think everyone else needs to change then you give them power over you. Instead you establish boundaries to keep your own yard neat and not bugging out about things you cannot control...more
This is from the book's description: "Often Christians focus so on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limitations. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer biblically based insights into how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co...more
While the "do unto" thought process is still valid and important, the authors point out how God himself has boundaries and we are to follow his example.
The authors show that in order to be content in our relationships, boundaries must be honored. If someone keeps taking from you, it is...more
"Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. Boundaries define who we are and who we are not."
"Boundaries affect all areas of our lives: physical boundaries determine who may touch us, how and when; mental boundaries give u...more
Here are two of the latter that actually do what they say on the tin. What's So Amazing About Grace? is Philip Yancey's 1997 classic, examining grace as "the last best word" - the one...more
Judgmental people BEWARE: Do not mock this review. No, not even in your head. If you have come here to gloat and feel superior to someone you think is an idiot for liking something so clearly beneath your Literature IQ, do me a favor and stop reading right now. I mean it. Go away.
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As I was saying, this book is one of the greatest, most life-changing books I have ever read. People who are critical of that statement have n...more
This is a book about setting limits on how much people and life can put a tax on you. For example if have someone always needing your help and it cuts into time you need to do something else, or if someone is always having you do their work for them.
A compliant person: Tries not to rock the boat and keeps everyone happy. They have a fear of being alone. This book says that that is not a healthy place to be in. That is not enforcing your boundar...more
The book may make scripture references but not so much that...more
Someone I trust very deeply about such issues recommended I read this book called "Boundaries." When I found it at the library, I was horrified! It looked like a cheesy self-help book, and worse, it had won the Gold Medallion Book Award - "in recognition of excellence in Evangelical Christian literature." Needless to say, I was terrified; in no way do I self-identify as an Evengelical. But like I said before, I trusted this person, so...more
I do think there was some "reading back" of psychology training onto the Bible verses... I'm not sure Peter was a certain type of controlling person, or if one can judge that from a single verse.
If anything, the title goes into borderli...more
Boundaries is a well written book. The story is easy to understand. The sentence structures are very clear. Anyone could relate to this s...more
I'm glad I did. I'd not be exaggerating to say this book may change my...more
This is a book that every human being alive or dead should be required to read. Christian or Non-Christian alike. Yes, Cloud and Townsend relate the idea of Boundaries to God. However, this idea of boundaries and how we apply them to ourselves and other people is universal. And it blew my mind. I never thought about this idea of bound...more
Understanding personal boundaries is essential to emotional safety in close relationships.
I recommend this book to BDSM scene people because we have nothing quite like it that addresses the same issues but comes from within any kink subculture. Red Flag lists don't convey this concept. The "war stories" we hear only go so far to ad...more
As president of Cloud-Townsend Resources, Dr. Cloud has produced and conducted hundreds of public seminars aro...more