Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys
by Dan Kindlon, Michael Thompson, Teresa Barker
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Read in January, 2008
If you have boys (or girls and want to understand boys to help as your daughter grows up) you have to read this book. It's written by two psychologists in the Boston area who have treated adolescent boys for 35 combined years. It's main premise is that we - as a culture and often as parents - systematically mis-educate boys about their emotional life. That is, we are very good at giving girls a vocabulary for their feelings and allowing them, even helping them to learn to appropriately express w...more
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Read in July, 2007
recommends it for:
all males and anyone who knows a male as a parent, teacher, friend, lover, sister, etc.
Everyone will bring their own lens to this book whether reading it as a teacher or a parent or girlfriend or friend or a sister or a man who has experienced some or all of what is in the book. This book has changed the way I think about teaching boys. I have always seen my teaching style as oriented to individual needs, but I realized in reading this book just how little I understood about some of the individual needs that boys have. In talking about adolescents, there is a great deal of cros...more
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Growing up in a household with only my mother and my grandmother, fate would have it that I had a son as my only child. Although, he is only nine, I can sometimes see the future as heads into puberty. This book covers all phases of a boy's life with the bulk of it concentrating on adolescent boys. It is still an invaluable resource,that I refer to time and again, to figure out "what exactly is he thinking?"...or more importantly, "feeling?"
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Read in July, 2008
After finding out we were having a boy, I remembered this being a big buzz in the pop psych world when I was working in bookstores, and I immediately got it at the library. I've been reading it on and off, but overall enjoying it. Most of the authors stories sound pretty corny, but in general, I really think they are right that boys are deprived of emotional, communication and empathy skills by our culture. It makes me think of how important it is to me to make sure that I give the same explan...more
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This is such a good book for families with boys who are struggling through life, and for men who have experienced the same and now face the need to be the father to a son struggling too.
Too long has the male been told to hold back their emotions, that "men or boys don't cry". Boys encounter various emotions while in school or in our society, however they are not given that opportunity of sharing them or hold them back.
This book shows how parents can help boys cultivate emotional ...more
Too long has the male been told to hold back their emotions, that "men or boys don't cry". Boys encounter various emotions while in school or in our society, however they are not given that opportunity of sharing them or hold them back.
This book shows how parents can help boys cultivate emotional ...more
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this book is case history after case history of two psychologists who work with boys. the point -- that boys often have a poor emotional upbringing -- is punched in again and again. unfortunately, we never get the good stuff: HOW do they psychologists change this? what are the conversations they have with the boys? it's also a bit disorganized (stories don't seem to connect and it's hard to understand the 'why' when we're always only given the beginning descriptive background the cases). also, w...more
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Pretty much ditto as in my paragraph on Bringing Up Boys. These psychologists seem to have a ton of experience and in this and Dobson's book, there are stories that will tear your heart out and freeze you in fear, but they are there to illustrate all the important reasons why we cannot ignore a boy's emotional growth. Thankfully I have an emotionally sensitive child who helps keep me real, but it's still so easy to hurt them when they are in our care. I'm thankful for the gentle guidance through...more
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Read in July, 2008
This book is one that I pick up every once and a while to skim; it is a good reminder in the throes of parenting, of what to bear in mind. Having two boys and realizing that I myself stopped understanding boys at the age of eight (or in my lingo, "I stopped being a boy around 8"), I find the reminders of the general trends in adolescence helpful, in particular.
It gets a three-star rating because I'm not sure it is a "keeper" by my definition (my space is very limited); pr...more
It gets a three-star rating because I'm not sure it is a "keeper" by my definition (my space is very limited); pr...more
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Read in May, 2008
Talks about valuing and nurturing "emotional literacy" for boys- whether you are a parent, educator, or counselor. Our culture has this impossible standard for "manhood" and young boys are taught from an early age not to express their feelings.... I thought it was a great book that will help me in my work- especially considering that 85% of my clients are young boys..... If and when my husband and I have a boy- I am going to make him read it as well. It's very easy to und...more
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Read in January, 2003
This was a great book on raising boys. It talked about the differences in how boys and girls learn and how they interact socially and why. It brought to light to me, as a female, things I never considered in regards to raising a little boy. I read this book for a Adolescent Male Development class and instantly passed it on to my uncle who has a now 9 year old.
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Read in December, 2006
A must read for anyone who works with boys... As a teach without children, I learned so much from this book. Also, the authors use understandable and concise language to articulate issues and strenghts we all see in boys. I recommend this books to everyone I know regardless of whether or not they have children.
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Read in March, 2008
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Kararecommends it for: any mom of a boy!
ok-i thought that there was something wrong with my 4 year old...i guess he is just a 'boy'. seriously, i didnt realize that boys arent 'made' to be able to sit and listen (his 7 year old brother does).
this is a MUST READ for any mom of a boy or many boys.
you learn something new everyday...
this is a MUST READ for any mom of a boy or many boys.
you learn something new everyday...
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Read in April, 2008
If you have any boys this is a must read. I read it for my major in college and just started to re-read it seeing as I have 2 boys. It displays the extreme's in the scenario's, but each scenario offers good advice an opportunity to learn from what others have encountered.
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Read in January, 2004
If you have boys or want to learn more about men and how they tick, read this book. Similar to Reviving Ophelia in disecting the cultural pressures our boys feel and how they respond. Like any good parenting book it's worth rereading during each stage of maturity.
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Read in March, 2008
Read it because I have a boy and want to raise him to be as emotionally sound as possible, and the book ended up helping with that and also explaining pretty much everything about my own upbringing and why I feel like I do here in "middle age."
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I have a son. I was raised by a single mother in the 70s, and wore an "anything boys can do, girls can do better" t-shirt..boys are so different from my experience that I need all of the alternative perspectives I can get!
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I only read the first half and was so emotional about it, I have had to put it aside for awhile. It's amazing to me that people are as well adjusted as they are considering the stuff they go through as kids.
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Read in October, 2007
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parents of boys
Really interesting perspective on boys and gives good insight to American Male culture... Offers good advice and statistics, but it's important to understand that we can't always raise our kids in a bubble.
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A series of anecdotes, primarily from grades 7-12. It's interesting reading, but can be hard to follow if, say, you don't want to think about what each anecdote is being used to explain.
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Read in June, 2008
This is a great perspective on the emotional difficulties of being a boy in our culture. It's fabulous for someone who knows next to nothing about 1) boys and 2) emotional health.
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