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Talk Dirty to Me

3.85 of 5 stars 3.85  ·  rating details  ·  157 ratings  ·  25 reviews
We live in a world in which almost every public image—every interaction—carries an element of sexual desire. And yet it is nearly impossible for us to talk openly and honestly about sex. Talk Dirty to Me is author Sallie Tisdale's frank, funny, and provocative invitation to the conversation we've been waiting for—but have been too afraid to start.

Sallie Tisdale shuns the d
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Paperback, 366 pages
Published October 1st 1995 by Anchor (first published 1994)
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Jamey
This book kept saying things that ought to be obvious, but are not obvious to everyone. Sexuality is complicated. Individuals are complicated. Sex is good. Men and women are alike in some ways yet different in other ways. Cultures differ. 2 + 2 = 4. Please, make it stop.

The fact that by page 112 I was ready to throw the book across the room (I couldn't; I was on a plane at the time) means not that the author wrote a bad book but that I picked the wrong one for me. But jeez, I hated this thing.
Jeff
An interesting, personal philosophy of sex. So far I'm really enjoying this--Tisdale does overreach when it comes to the ubiquity of, say, how sexuality permeates life (not everybody experiences the world as such a fully sexual thing as others do), and I have some quibbles regarding how she discusses gender, but what a great book.

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This book is over 14 years old now, and in a way that adds to the fun in reading it. In one section, she talks about ever-expanding inclusion in so-c
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Caitlin Constantine
When I started reading this one I fairly devoured the book. However, it became clear to me early on that I shared a temperament that was not very similar to that of Tisdale's. I like sex, but I also like other things. I don't obsessively categorize my sexual fantasies, nor do I spend my time reading erotica just for the sake of reading erotica. I didn't go into this book expecting to be titillated; instead I was hoping for, as the book said, a philosophical approach to sex.

However, the entire bo
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Betty
This book blew my mind. The author uses her own experiences with sexuality and people, interviews, literature and even history to open up a dialog about sex, gender and human sexuality. Each essay is separate but somehow blends seamlessly into the next essay so you can read one essay or all of them.

The only problem I found with this book was that it was difficult to read it around other people because I blushed so hard. It is very sexual and some of her descriptions left me breathless.

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Molly
I liked this- very well-written and personal, and is just what it says- a philosophy. Very thought-provoking. I wish it was a bit more current (she wonders if there will be a day when there are gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender pride days. um yeah?) but the philosophy is still very relevant. Also, the last section seems a bit thrown together (all of the things she wanted to mention but couldn't figure out how to work into the overarching theme- oh, we can't forget S/M! Throw in phone sex wh ...more
Pushkin
A thorough, academic and philosophical book about sex. Well-researched and intelligently presented, Tisdale attempts to remain objective about this extremely broad topic. I think she covers all areas of major concern in our time very well. One of the most helpful books I have ever read.
Joshua
i've been reading this forever, it's excellent. if i read books more often these days, i would have finished this in a week.
intellectual (without being snobby like a literary journal or some kinda crap) essays about sex and gender.
Tiffany
so far it's wonderful. An easy read and highly informative. If you enjot Eve Ensler, you will enjoy Sally Tisdale!!!
Ashti
So interesting!!!
A must read for every sex-a-holic !!!
Pascale
This book caught my attention because it was pleasant to the touch, the cover had a smooth plasticized feel; the wordless cover featured a black and white photo of a hand holding a nectarine or a peach. I was intrigued when I found out that this was Sally Tisdale’s notorious book on pornography, and, based on the promises of the cover, I expected this to be a fascinating ride into a close examination of a societal taboo.
Alas! It was a tortuous journey along, and it led to the dreary and confine
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Jessica Zu
I couldn't finish reading this book. It's kind of boring. I agree with her on some points but somehow feel that she missed something very essential to sex and love. I don't know yet what it is that she is missing. But I already lost interest in reading this book. That being said, I strongly agree with her on that if we run away or avoid this topic, it will only make this illusion stronger. However, running toward sex and love is not exactly the balanced attitude to deal with them:)
Avolyn Fisher
At times I thought Tisdale was running verbal laps. Going round' and round' without saying anything at all. Just yapping away using phrases to sound intelligent but were unnecessary. I hate to be critical but it made this read quite tedious.

I was also surprised to reach the end of the book and find she didn't feel the need to site ANYTHING. Regardless of the countless references to studies, quotes, famous thoughts in history, there was nothing. I was just surprised.
Ann
The author has some interesting debates about being openly accepting of our sexual natures. She is plagued by shame and wants the world to burst open Pandora' s box of sexuality. I don't feel the same repression, or to the extent that she does. There is fascinating sexual history across cultures in the book that ended up keeping me interested enough to finish the book.
Kim Ayala
Not the type of book I usually pick up, but it looked intriguing, since I like books about human behavior. This was a great read, an eye-opener on some levels, and helped me mature in my views on sexuality in our society. I would highly recommend it to anyone willing to challenge their own views and enter into a space of exploration and questioning.
Gamal Hennessy
One of the most profound, thought provoking and insightful books I've read in years. If I'm lucky I'll get to read it over and over again. Books like this inspire freedom, responsibility and a very agitated peace.
okyrhoe
I have a hardcover copy with its own slipcase. The black/white design of the slipcase is what first brought my attention to the book.
Tisdale talks "clean" and succintly about sex, so don't be taken in by its title.
Paige
There was lots of interesting information in this book and was reminiscent of my sex, gender, culture class in college. Towards the end i felt that it was disorganized and jumped around from paragraph to paragraph.
Anna
Jan 17, 2010 Anna added it
A great author on this important subject --- always fun and lightheated but engrossing. Enlightening.
Mischief
Loved the mid 90's adventure of what sex was becoming to look like in san fran.
Angela
Dec 08, 2008 Angela is currently reading it
I am just beginning, but it looks to be a very interesting read.
Jolee
Blah. Not nearly as titillating as the title would imply...
Alexander
Very sexy, in an analytic sense.
Rooks
A fun read, if a little obvious.
Rudi
Apr 26, 2007 Rudi rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Those dirty minds out there!
Naughty naughty!!
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