false http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1170381017m/51526.jpg 51526 8 <div>After service in Vietnam as a surgeon in 1968-69, Dr. Gordon Livingston returned to the U.S. and began work as a psychiatrist. In that capacity, he has listened to people talk about their lives and the limitless ways that they have found to be unhappy. He is also a parent twice bereaved. In one thirteen-month period, he lost his eldest son to suicide, his youngest to leukemia.<br><br>Out of a lifetime of experience, Livingston has extracted thirty bedrock truths: We are what we do. Any relationship is under the control of the person who cares the least. The perfect is the enemy of the good. Only bad things happen quickly. Forgiveness is a form of letting go, but they are not the same thing. The statute of limitations has expired on most of our childhood traumas. Livingston illuminates these and twenty-four others in perfectly calibrated essays, many of which emphasize our closest relationships and the things that we do to impede or enhance them. These writings underscore that "we are what we do," and that while there may be no escaping who we are, we have the capacity to face loss, misfortune, and regret, and to move beyond them.</div> 2228533 8 11 2004 Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now total:170|5:33|4:67|3:47|2:17|1:6| 170 614 268 58 2 2 false false Tue Jun 03 00:00:00 -0700 2008 Thu May 29 14:34:32 -0700 2008 Tue Jun 03 16:11:57 -0700 2008
Dr. Gordon Livingston, psychiatrist, imparts his 30 pearls of wisdom in this short pithy book. He has had his share of suffering and scar tissue. Within a 13-month period, one of his sons committed suicide and another died in an ac...more...]]> 1 1 false false Sun Jun 01 00:00:00 -0700 2008 Fri Jun 20 19:20:43 -0700 2008 Thu Jul 24 16:07:39 -0700 2008 more...]]> 4 0 false false Fri Apr 17 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Sat Apr 18 08:50:29 -0700 2009 Sun Apr 19 23:19:37 -0700 2009 more...]]> 2 1 false false Tue Mar 01 00:00:00 -0800 2005 Fri Aug 03 10:03:57 -0700 2007 Fri Aug 03 10:05:23 -0700 2007
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-the three components of happiness are something to do, someone to love, and something to look foward to.

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