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Young Wives' Tales: New Adventures in Love and Partnership

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The term “wife” is fraught with conflicting connotations for many young women today. Although the word suggests companionship and commitment, it’s weighted with the knowledge that marriage is a male-dominated institution in which women have been subservient for centuries. In this provocative collection of essays, writers in their twenties and thirties discuss how they’re n ...more
Paperback, 320 pages
Published May 18th 2001 by Seal Press
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Mar 30, 2009 Ciara rated it liked it
Recommends it for: the newly-engaged, wedding planners, women's studies majors, no one over the age of 24
i have some misgivings about putting this on the "radical non-fiction" shelf, because it's not necessarily all that radical. it's a collection of essays by feminists about what the institution of "marriage" or long-term partnership in general means to modern-day feminism. one of the editors is lisa jervis of "bitch" magazine, & i usually enjoy her essays in other collections, & plus, you know, i have been married & divorced at a young age (i was only 23 when i decided to get divorced ...more
Jan 01, 2009 anne rated it really liked it
It's hard for me to rate a collection like this, so I think I'll list some of the essays that I really loved and that spoke to me:

"Twenty-One Questions," Jane Eaton Hamilton
"Why I Don't," Rachel Fudge
"Teenage Army Bride," Bee Lavender
"Answering Home," Katie Hubert
"Love, Loner Style," Andi Zeisler

I think the danger with an anthology like this is that some stories come off as repetitive (i met someone, this is what our partnership is/was like, this is what our wedding is/was like, this is how i fe
Oct 10, 2008 Emily rated it liked it
Shelves: read-in-2008
I went back and forth on this book. It was a gift from my very dear friend Leah, and follows on many very interesting conversations we've had about love and partnership. As a person in a committed, long-term relationship who nonetheless has severe misgivings about the institution of marriage, I seem like a natural fit for this book, and to some extent that's true. I thought a few of the essays were brilliant, quite a few intriguing or insightful. Reading too many of them in a row, though, made m ...more
Sep 04, 2007 Torie rated it liked it
[note: This book isn't really by bell hooks, but she did write the totally inspiring and awesome introduction.]
This book was better than I thought it would be. My partner asked me to marry him a few months after we met, knowing pretty well how I felt about marriage (that is: have no use for it, thank you). Without delving into the personal details, we both agreed that we wanted to be together for as long as is foreseeable, if that's what being "married" meant. It has been nearly three years and
Mar 01, 2010 Caroline rated it it was amazing
For any woman who's getting married, thinking of getting married, wanting to get married, not wanting to get married, or whose friends are all getting married and she's not sure how she feels about it. (I was in the last category when I read this book.)

This is a sprawling, multivocal collection of essays about: getting married, staying single, having a commitment ceremony, being straight, being gay, being polyamorous, marrying the right person, marrying the wrong person, struggling with cultural
Feb 06, 2015 Sivyu rated it really liked it
It was really interesting collection of essays on different relationships. Some of the writers are better than others, but overall a good read. It really helped me come to terms with marriage not being the end of my life, just a beginning to another chapter.
Mar 15, 2008 Kirsten rated it it was amazing
A great collection of honest and thought-provoking essays from young women who are working out new definitions of love, marriage, and partnership. What does "married" mean if you're queer? What happens when a queer woman marries a straight man? There are essays here from people who've chosen to marry, legally or no, and how they arrived at that choice. There's an essay from a woman who's always been a chronic loner on the decision to share her home with her partner. There's a polyamorous triad. ...more
Suzyn-elayne Soler
Nov 12, 2015 Suzyn-elayne Soler rated it it was amazing
Amazing! What a rich representation of marriage, relationships, partnerships!
Feb 03, 2008 Krista rated it it was amazing
WOW! I saw myself in some of these women and learned and struggled from and with the others. I think it shows all sorts of relationships and the power we have to declare our relationships to be what we want them to be instead of what people assume they are from outside looking in. I highly recommend it.
Elizabeth Ruth
May 17, 2011 Elizabeth Ruth rated it liked it
it's always nice to read other intelligent women ruminating on getting married-- or committed, or whatevered, really.

i doubt this would interest someone who wasn't actively thinking about what she wants from a partnership, but if that's on your mind, these essays are great.
Mar 18, 2008 Jennifer rated it it was ok
A few of the short stories I really enjoyed. Most of them, eh...not so much. The collection was trying to get experiences from all over the spectrum and it ended up trying to be "edgy" or something like that, and that't the exact why in the end, it didn't appeal to me.
Sep 11, 2007 Amy rated it really liked it
This book was very intriguing. It's a must read for anyone who will ever work with families and couples. If you thought that the only "alternative" (and I use that word with extreme disdain) couples were same-sex couples, think again. Entertaining and truthful.
Jul 12, 2010 Lauren rated it really liked it
This is a good collection of short stories about love, marriage, having kids, etc. I appreciated that it was a diverse collection - hetero and gay relationships, married and not married, etc. A very thoughtful and enjoyable read.
This was a really enjoyable read, if not as radical as I wanted it to be. I appreciated the different perspectives on partnership, I just wanted it to go a bit farther. Further? Farther. Further. I always mix that shit up.
emma Slachta
Jan 03, 2010 emma Slachta rated it it was amazing
a must-have for any feminist with the complex question of "to wed or not to wed?"

this book pretty much convinced me that marriage and feminism were not diametrically opposed-- in theory and in practice.
Jan 23, 2009 Brantlea rated it liked it
read this when I was engaged because a friend of mine has an essay in it, lots of great stories about unconventional marriages.
Apr 27, 2009 jillbertini rated it really liked it
Excellent range of essays from women in the 20s and 30s talking about feminism and marriage.
Sep 08, 2007 Phyllis rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: newlyweds, thinking about getting married
It's worth thinking, talking, and maybe writing about what you want from your next relationship.
Oct 09, 2007 lola rated it really liked it
Super straight-forward feminist stuff, some queer, quite good.
Dec 21, 2007 femily rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: jessica, adora
delicious marrying of love and feminism.
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