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The New Topping Book
Tens of thousands learned the emotional and ethical skills of BDSM topping from the first Topping Book. Now, in addition to the sage advice and good humor that made the first edition a classic, the authors tackle some of the issues that have come up for tops in the last six years: on-line domination, the challenges and rewards of 'lifestyle' relationships, ensuring our own...more
Paperback, 2nd (revised & updated) Edition, 221 pages
Published
January 1st 2003
by Greenery Press (CA)
(first published March 1st 1996)
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Jul 29, 2007
Mark Stone
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5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
tops, bottoms, switches, and anyone else interested in BDSM sexuality.
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When my girlfriend and I took our questions about our burgeoning interest in BDSM to our more experienced friends in Washington D.C., they recommended that we start with this book, and it's sister The New Bottoming Book. The authors write with wit and compassion, making this a fun, sexy, and comforting read.
It's important to remember, however, that this isn't a 'how-to' manual. It won't tell you how to play BDSM games with your lover - at most, there are a few scenes you might find interesting....more
It's important to remember, however, that this isn't a 'how-to' manual. It won't tell you how to play BDSM games with your lover - at most, there are a few scenes you might find interesting....more
I bought this book recently as an addition to my research/resources library and am not sorry I did so.
While this is not a how to manual on BDSM, it is a very good introductory guide to S/M from the point of view of the Top or Dominant side of a D/s S/M relationship and I found it a quick, easy read and a good refresher for me.
I'd recommend it as a good primer for anyone who is interested in S/M or who is interested in writing about S/M.
The book divides itself between giving some practical advic...more
While this is not a how to manual on BDSM, it is a very good introductory guide to S/M from the point of view of the Top or Dominant side of a D/s S/M relationship and I found it a quick, easy read and a good refresher for me.
I'd recommend it as a good primer for anyone who is interested in S/M or who is interested in writing about S/M.
The book divides itself between giving some practical advic...more
If you are already a perverted, cruel, bossy, demanding, in control kind of lover . . . perhaps this book will make you feel a little more comfortable about the fact that these are not unwanted attributes, and in fact there are those out there who would want exactly those qualities when receiving your affections. Like most books on BDSM I've read, there is fair coverage of consent, safety, some basic scenarios, history & advice from the writers. Particularly, there are sections on how to tre...more
By no means an "Idiot's Headstart How-To" manual (the authors suggest some practical guides on some of the common topics) but a pretty good high-level overview. Attention given to finding oneself, getting started, discussion with partners, and how to deal with some of the complicated interpersonal issues that might come up.
It seems like it would be worth the time to read the companion "New Bottoming Book" and skimming what I expect will be redundant parts (communicate, communicate, communicate)...more
It seems like it would be worth the time to read the companion "New Bottoming Book" and skimming what I expect will be redundant parts (communicate, communicate, communicate)...more
I was very meh on this book. Someone else loaned it to me, so I figured I'd take a shot at it. I wasn't super impressed, to be honest. Granted, none of this was really new information to me, so unless you're an absolute beginner I'd suggest looking elsewhere. To be nit-picky, I found some of the "interludes" to be a little too purple-prosey for my taste. Also, the chapter on spirituality kind of threw me for a curve ball, and not in a good way. The book also seemed rather repetitive at times. Bu...more
These Easton books taught me absolutely nothing about how to approach topping, bottoming, or a poly lifestyle. All they say is to communicate and sit patiently with whatever your partner has to say unless it cramps your poly style -- hey what a great idea! to talk to your partner! & your "wrong"-headed feelings of jealousy will magically go away if you just talk yourself out of them.
There is very little practical advice about how to find community, multiple approaches to different types of...more
There is very little practical advice about how to find community, multiple approaches to different types of...more
I love this book. Far more than a technical manual, it gets deep into the psychology of topping. It helps explain the kind of mindset you have to have for a successful kink encounter as a top. After all, everything else is secondary. You don't need floggers or props or anything but yourself to top. Also, importantly, it doesn't make any assumptions about which "types of people" prefer to top. Anyone can enjoy either role.
I read The New Bottoming Book and The New Topping one consecutively and felt they should be combined into one book as much of what I read seemed redundant on the second read. Having said that, they were very informative and it gave me a more enlightened perspective on a subject which I had mainly explored in fictional works. If the subject interest you, I'd recommend reading one or the other.
One of my favorites on the subject - concise, funny, full of good stories. It's a bit like having a conversation about kinky stuff with your friends instead of reading about it in a leather manual. Less formal, but more relatable. Plus it's short and easy to read.
This and the Bottoming Book are the two things from my pervert collection that I lend out and/or are borrowed the most.
This and the Bottoming Book are the two things from my pervert collection that I lend out and/or are borrowed the most.
lol, this was very very interesting to read although not perfectly my cup of tea. I think this read contains awesome insight into the perspectives of tops.
all people who understand the title should read this book and all who don't should ask what it means, understand it, and then read it.
A good and sensitive introduction to a still much maligned sexual orientation I'm only just starting to come out as. It's a bit *too* American in some places, though, and concentrates a lot on the safety associated with pain, which is not the aspect of Topping I most identify with just yet. It's definitely only a book for beginners.
Fun! The next level after people have read SM 101 and Screw the Roses. Silly illustrations. Humorous anecdotes. Good advice.
I actually read the old Topping Book. Pretty good, informative, etc.
From what I've read, I think it's easier to be a bottom than a Top.
Very insightful perspectives as to what being a top is to a bottom, and vice-versa... to be complemented with the New Bottoming Book. :)
Dec 24, 2010
Nastassja
is currently reading it
Excellent so far :)
It totally changed my views on BDSM. A journey into the unknown darkness.
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It touched on everything I hoped it would but it was a little more basic than I had hoped. It lost me a little when it went down the spirituality component of BDSM and I wished it had spent a little more time on bottom psychology. Still, a good read that I am recommending to a few friends.
This is an okay book to start out with for new tops. Explains some of the situations which may throw a new Top into a spin.
Very good book. Did not have everything I had hoped, but no book on this topic can be tailored to a specific audience. I recommend it to anyone interested in finding out about the darker side...
B/B=BUY
B/B=BUY
All of these Easton-Liszt-Hardy books are like, "Communicate, communicate, communicate. And communicate some more." Snooze.
A neat tool that explores, in a friendly way, much of the psychology/mechanics behind topping/s&m play in general.
A good book for both Dominants and bottoms in the D/s lifestyle.
A must have for people who date me.
May 23, 2013
Diana Gamboa
marked it as to-read
May 17, 2013
Romesh
marked it as to-read
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