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Tens of thousands learned the emotional and ethical skills of BDSM topping from the first Topping Book. Now, in addition to the sage advice and goo... read full description

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Dec 17, 2009
Mark rated it: 5 of 5 stars
When my girlfriend and I took our questions about our burgeoning interest in BDSM to our more experienced friends in Washington D.C., they recommended that we start with this book, and it's sister The New Bottoming Book. The authors write with wit and compassion, making this a fun, sexy, and comforting read.

It's important to remember, however, that this isn't a 'how-to' manual. It won't tell you how to play BDSM games with your lover - at most, there are a few scenes you might find More...
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Jun 10, 2010
Meg rated it: 4 of 5 stars
I bought this book recently as an addition to my research/resources library and am not sorry I did so.

While this is not a how to manual on BDSM, it is a very good introductory guide to S/M from the point of view of the Top or Dominant side of a D/s S/M relationship and I found it a quick, easy read and a good refresher for me.

I'd recommend it as a good primer for anyone who is interested in S/M or who is interested in writing about S/M.

The book divides itself betwe More...
Jul 10, 2008
Cher rated it: 2 of 5 stars
These Easton books taught me absolutely nothing about how to approach topping, bottoming, or a poly lifestyle. All they say is to communicate and sit patiently with whatever your partner has to say unless it cramps your poly style -- hey what a great idea! to talk to your partner! & your "wrong"-headed feelings of jealousy will magically go away if you just talk yourself out of them.

There is very little practical advice about how to find community, multiple approaches to d More...
Jan 16, 2012
Marie-elise rated it: 3 of 5 stars
I read The New Bottoming Book and The New Topping one consecutively and felt they should be combined into one book as much of what I read seemed redundant on the second read. Having said that, they were very informative and it gave me a more enlightened perspective on a subject which I had mainly explored in fictional works. If the subject interest you, I'd recommend reading one or the other.
Nov 21, 2011
Elizabeth May rated it: 4 of 5 stars
lol, this was very very interesting to read although not perfectly my cup of tea. I think this read contains awesome insight into the perspectives of tops.
Feb 06, 2011
Rich rated it: 3 of 5 stars
A good and sensitive introduction to a still much maligned sexual orientation I'm only just starting to come out as. It's a bit *too* American in some places, though, and concentrates a lot on the safety associated with pain, which is not the aspect of Topping I most identify with just yet. It's definitely only a book for beginners.
Jul 30, 2009
Kristina rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Fun! The next level after people have read SM 101 and Screw the Roses. Silly illustrations. Humorous anecdotes. Good advice.
Jan 27, 2012
Kyle Wendy rated it: 5 of 5 stars
From what I've read, I think it's easier to be a bottom than a Top.
Jun 30, 2010
Daniel rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Very insightful perspectives as to what being a top is to a bottom, and vice-versa... to be complemented with the New Bottoming Book. :)
Dec 24, 2010
Nastassja is currently reading it
Excellent so far :)
Jun 26, 2010
Ines rated it: 4 of 5 stars
It totally changed my views on BDSM. A journey into the unknown darkness.
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Jul 07, 2010
Ty rated it: 3 of 5 stars
It touched on everything I hoped it would but it was a little more basic than I had hoped. It lost me a little when it went down the spirituality component of BDSM and I wished it had spent a little more time on bottom psychology. Still, a good read that I am recommending to a few friends.
Apr 02, 2011
♆ Bookaddict rated it: 3 of 5 stars
This is an okay book to start out with for new tops. Explains some of the situations which may throw a new Top into a spin.
Oct 05, 2008
Carl rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Very good book. Did not have everything I had hoped, but no book on this topic can be tailored to a specific audience. I recommend it to anyone interested in finding out about the darker side...

B/B=BUY
Jan 28, 2008
Bryn rated it: 2 of 5 stars
All of these Easton-Liszt-Hardy books are like, "Communicate, communicate, communicate. And communicate some more." Snooze.
Jul 27, 2008
Canice rated it: 4 of 5 stars
A good book for both Dominants and bottoms in the D/s lifestyle.
Feb 15, 2008
Noelle rated it: 5 of 5 stars
A must have for people who date me.
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Jan 31, 2012
Linzy rated it: 3 of 5 stars
Feb 03, 2012
Sean rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Jan 29, 2012
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Jan 21, 2012
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Jan 20, 2012
Jess rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Jan 20, 2012
Joseph rated it: 5 of 5 stars
Jan 17, 2012
Laura rated it: 3 of 5 stars