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How We Die: Reflections of Life's Final Chapter

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New Edition: With a new chapter addressing contemporary issues in end-of-life care

A runaway bestseller and National Book Award winner, Sherwin Nuland's How We Die has become the definitive text on perhaps the single most universal human concern: death. This new edition includes an all-embracing and incisive afterword that examines the current state of health care and our r
Paperback, 320 pages
Published January 15th 1995 by Vintage (first published January 1st 1993)
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Paul Bryant
When I log on to my Goodreads home page I always see many notices saying things like

Brainiac the Magnificent is now friends with Death By Radiation

Is This Catching? is now friends with My Mother Has Turned Blue

Tiny Little Aardvark is now friends with The Biker who Eats Babies

The Seventeenth Beatle is now friends with Barkybarkywoofwoof

But really, that's got nothing whatsover to do with how we die. At least, I don't think so. Unless these are all the names of angels.

As regards the book itself, s
This book is an attempt by the author, a surgeon, to de-mystify the process of death. He feels that our modern expectation of a "death with dignity" leads to increased suffering when we confront the ugly reality: most people don't experience a peaceful, pain-free death; they don't die at home surrounded by their loved ones; they don't utter profound last words of comfort to those they leave behind.

He offers detailed, technical descriptions of the most common mechanisms of death, including vivid,
Abeer Hoque
On the back of "How We Die" Doris Lessing writes it's a must read for anyone over 50. I say anyone over 35. Because you might still have time then to internalise all the dying lessons Dr. Nuland has to teach, and you're past those forever twenties.

We've got three score and ten years and most of that could be healthy, but after that, the remainder of our body life is borrowed and breaking down. Towards that end, Dr. Nuland urges us to measure quality of life against mechanical extensions of life
Paul Corrigan
I felt compelled to reread HOW WE DIE, starting with the chapters on Cancer, after my wife passed away from an aggressive form of breast cancer. Doctor Nuland is right on when he talks about how the specialists, for whom a disease such as cancer becomes a great riddle to solve, somehow withdraw from the patient's presence when the disease they are trying to interdict cannot be stopped with the assortment of chemo drugs and radiation therapy they have in their tool box. Yes, tool box seems like a ...more
Larry Bassett
My Dad is ninety-three. I bought this book to share with him some time ago as we have been grappling with the Inevitably of Death for some time now. He is relatively healthy and he has always counted on living at least until ninety-six, the age his father died. But this past year his sharp mind has begun to notice his body lagging somewhat. He likes to have his “four wheeler” to help him get around and dozes more frequently sitting in his chair. “Maybe I won’t make it to ninety-six,” he says.

I t
Richard Kramer
If you are alive, and might someday die, or know anyone who is alive and might someday
die, this might be one of those books you have to read. It takes the piss out of heroics,
and science, and the Dignified Death; it harshly regards the coldness of medical personnel dedicated to solving what
the author calls the Riddle and ignoring the needs of the person that provides it. He is hard on doctors, and hard on himself. Some books please, some entertain, some disappoint. Few,though, change you, and t
Sherwin Nuland, MD, was a well known and successful surgeon at Yale Medical Center for many years. In this book he begins to describe, literally, the way we die. In detail, he explains how infection and cancer and heart disease ravage the body and cause essential systems to fail. As a physician, I found it interesting, but I did not think I would finish the book if that was all there was to it.

Then the book began to hold my attention as it developed into an exploration of how people deal with dy
Rebecca Lech
A truly enlightening read for those who want to either know more about the physiological processes of terminal diseases, those with a family member or loved one suffering from one of the six common pathways to death Nuland outlines, or even those who simply wish to expose themselves in a relatively removed environment to the mysterious process of their ultimate fate, How We Die explores just that- the physical, mental, and emotional processes one goes through on the journey to the other side. Nu ...more
a well-written book. Dr. Nuland writes from years of experience on the topic of death, and how really there is no dignity to it. he explores this myth of 'ars moriendi' (the art of dying) and both the pathophysiology and mental/emotional states that accompany it. he argues against the modern 'hospital' death devoid of feeling, he reproaches biomedicine for it's mistakes in prolonging the lives of their patients for their benefit in solving the Riddle, and not for the patient's best interest... " ...more
Nuland died last year at 94 years of age. He wrote “How We Die” as a surgeon in New Haven Connecticut in his 70s looking back on his career and his life. What makes this book stand above most others, is Nuland’s wisdom and wonderful ability to write about how death has affected him both personally when dealing with family members’ deaths, but also outlining how his patients have died from different types of diseases, giving us a full, frank picture of the details and ways we could die personally ...more
Bob Hoffman
It’s not new (1993), but Sherwin Nuland’s How We Die is a timely treatise on what’s going on under the hood when humans die. We all have to leave this world sooner or later, whether by heart attack, stroke, cancer, or accident, but in our culture, it’s not that common to think about or speak of our own demises. Most of us act, instead, as if we will live forever.

In these days there is also a tendency to hide death from view, particularly in nursing homes and hospitals. (As of 1993, 80% of Americ
The purpose of this book is to help people have reasonable expectations about death and is a plea for more empathetic doctoring; namely more family practitioners and hospice workers.

The author explains the physical processes that occur during death, starting with the process of aging. He then goes into detail about the ways the body can shut down and why. This may be too much information for some and although a little morbid, I found it well worth understanding. He also covers some of the most
Since we all share this experience, this is a must read. Honest and realistic yet still very tender in its approach. I read pertinent chapters to my Mom while she was dying of liver cancer. We both appreciated the insights. It empowered her to maintain a voice and make choice in a situation where she could easily have just gotten swept along by the current. Our lovely Hospice Nurse recommended it and it was a gift. Now that she has died, I can look back and say "We did right by our Mom".
A very well-written, unsentimental account of how it is that we actually die, what happens in our bodies, and which ailments are most likely to kill us. As Dr. Nuland points out, waxing eloquent about death is a very common theme among artists, but it is rare that we get to hear about death from someone whose actual business is living and dying. A thoughtful and important perspective. Recommended.
I do want to actually finish it sometime. I think it's important to have accurate information about the process of dying instead of holding on to myths about what it's like to end this life. Dying is indeed messy, painful and undignified business. I'm grateful that this detailed account of how different diseases kill us is out there. Just wasn't ready to read it all right now.
En esta obra se nos muestra cómo las distintas enfermedades, accidentes y traumatismos provocan la muerte (que, según el trivial, siempre termina debiéndose a la falta de riego del cerebro). El autor es un cirujano veterano que salpica su exposición con muchos ejemplos de su vida personal y profesional . El libro está muy bien, aunque el penúltimo capítulo lleva unas reflexiones sobre el ars morendi que son levemente tostónidas. El resto es muy aprovechable. Cáncer, SIDA, Alzheimer, coronarias.. ...more
Mar 10, 2009 Wendy rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: people who are curious about death
I am only giving this book 4 stars because I am not the most medically/scientifically minded, so sometimes it made me say "huh?" and I had to go back and reread certain things to really get a grasp. Lots of big words and new ideas here for me.

That being said, since having a life now touched by death, I have looked to solace in the biological (as opposed to the spiritual) aspect of what it means to die and be dead, so this book was pretty good for explaining how death happens physically (if you
Oct 13, 2009 Tracy marked it as to-read
I have been reading this off and on, skipping around and reading different chapters. It is so relevant to the work I do. The author draws upon his experience as a physician as well as the losses experienced in his own family. (One very touching account of his grandmother "Bubbeh" and her last months following a stroke, and how the family cared for her.) It spares the reader none of the explicit detail of what is occurring in the body during a particular illness or injury, but he weaves in the em ...more
For some parts of this book its helpful to have an anatomy/physiology background of any sort, but even if you don't Nuland explains really well. His detail is great, he says he has a photographic memory, and I believe it. I was astounded at the details of his memories as a child, jealous really, since my memory is crap. I like his theories even if unproven or unscientific (in the sense that they have not been proven, but there is evidence of its distinct possibility). Nuland basically takes the ...more
Super interesting in the beginning, but then petered out. Some quotes:

The chief ingredient of the [“good death”] myth is the longed-for ideal of “death with dignity.”

I had read that the sensation imparted by a fibrillating heart is like holding is one’s palm a wet, jellylike bagful of hyperactive worms, and that is exactly the way it was. – p7

Nowadays, very few of use actually witness the deaths of those we love. Not many people die at home anymore….approximately 80 percent of Americans who die
How We Die is a sometimes raw look at the different ways we will all face death and End of Life issues. The author, a surgeon, doesn't hold back, even when it means facing his own failings as a doctor and brother (his brother died of colon cancer a few years before the book was written).

The Dr. Nuland's discomfort with the vast amount of intervention at the end of life often mirrored my own thoughts and concerns as my convictions on childbirth have migrated to End of Life decisions.

“Beyond the
Though not quite as accessible as other medical writers like Atul Gawande or Abraham Verghese, Sherwin Nuland's book is definitely very thought provoking, even if a bit depressing at times. The description above does a pretty good job of explaining what the book is about. There are some rather dry parts here; for instance, when he explains how the heart/blood circulation works. On the other hand, it's one of the best BRIEF descriptions of the working of the heart written for a lay audience (albe ...more

I found it fASCINATING!
When I was working at Columbia Med Cntr (Columbia Presbyterian to long-time New Yorkers. I went to a lecture he gave. Very clear, but compassionate.

If you like MD lit, I would recommend Healing from the Heart by Mehmet Oz. I bought in the med school bookstore when he was a heart surgeon and co-founder of the Complementary Care Center Center, and before
Oprah made him a celebrity.

One more, My Own Country by Abraham Verghese. He wrote it when he was a young Indian doc in th
Lyn Elliott
A remarkable book which my mother, my husband and I all read when my mother developed the heart condition from which she eventually died about 8 years later. Sherland combines scientific knowledge, medical experience, ethical concern and emotional sensitivity as he describes the stages people go through when they are dying of the most common conditions that kill us. It helped us all live with Mum's condition, has since helped through the passing of other close people and I hope will help us in t ...more
Jill Sansone

Nuland's book was a way for me to develop a new (better?) perspective on the recent death of my father. Nuland's knowledge, wisdom, humanity, and, well -- balance-- provided everything I would have hoped for.

None of us wants to contemplate the end of life--either our own or that of loved ones-- but HOW WE DIE is like a lamp casting a little bit of light down a dark alley that I have never wanted to acknowledge. What's more, the book was a comfort, and in its exploration of illness and death, som
"On July 5th, 1814, when he was seventy-one years old, Thomas Jefferson wrote to the seventy-eight year old John Adams, "But our machines have now been running seventy or eighty years, and we must expect that, worn as they are, here a pivot, there a wheel, now a pinion, next a spring, will be giving way; and however we may tinker them up for a while, all will at length surcease motion."" -How We Die

This was yet another 75 cent hard cover in great condition I found at a local Goodwill, and it see
Jan 15, 2015 Robyn rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommended to Robyn by: 100
Shelves: nonfiction
This National Book Award winner came out in 1993, but I recently read it after a recommendation by a friend.

Dr. Sherwin B. Nuland, the author, who passed away from colon cancer in 2014, combined stories of the difficult illnesses and deaths of family members and patients with the facts of what physically occurs during a fatal illness such as heart disease, stroke, or cancer. His primary point to be made was that people now die more often in a hospital than they do at home and that wishing for a
Sondra Wolferman
The author does a very good job of describing in layman's terms the physiological changes that take place within the human body as it ages, losing its ability to ward off the diseases that will inevitably lead to its demise. However, with such an intriguing title, I expected more from this book. The focus is almost exclusively on the physical realm and there is little information here that cannot be found in any reputable medical textbook, journal, or even popular literature dealing with the var ...more
Antonio Nunez
An exceptional book by an experienced doctor about the end of the human life and the futility of attempting to prolong it endlessly, whether dying of dignity (the good death) is a desirable goal for most people, and the most common ways in which people meet their maker (or go into that good night). Much food for thought, on a matter that most prefer not to consider too closely.
This book is a must read for anyone over 60 and perhaps many under as well. Dr. Nuland states in his intro: "I have not often seen much dignity in the process by which we die" - this after 30+ years as a surgeon. His book describes the inevitable aging of the body. Even when we think we are doing just fine, irreversible internal changes are taking place in the body year after year. The good doctor also hopes to prepare patients and their families for the messy exit that dying often is and he cov ...more
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Sherwin Nuland was an American surgeon and author who taught bioethics and medicine at the Yale University School of Medicine. He was the author of The New York Times bestseller and National Book Award winning How We Die, and has also written for The New Yorker, The New York Times, The New Republic, Time, and the New York Review of Books.

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“The greatest dignity to be found in death is the dignity of the life that preceded it. This is a form of hope we call all achieve, and it is the most abiding of all. Hope resides in the meaning of what our lives have been.” 8 likes
“The belief in the probability of death with dignity is our, and society’s, attempt to deal with the reality of what is all too frequently a series of destructive events that involve by their very nature the disintegration of the dying person’s humanity. I have not often seen much dignity in the process by which we die.” 7 likes
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