Games People Play
We play games all the time: sexual gam...more
...no really, i'm learning some heavy shit about human relationships...
One of the things I found most interesting is that the classification has two dimensions. First, there's the game itself. Second, there's the question of how seriously you're playing: he divides this into First Degr...more
The theory at the beginning was absolutely fascinating and, even though the books itself is from the 1960’s, it has significant value for being the start of the field of transactional psychology.
However, the description of the games themselves was where I found the book lacking. Mostly, this is where I also felt the impact of the book being so dated. Some of his descriptions of games were based on stereotypical gend...more
This book shows you the "Games" which are behind the human's relationships, it believes that a great number of human's relations are a kind of "Game" indeed. But at the end of the book, Prof. Eric Berne explains that the highest...more
Berne is funny and insightful. It is a shame that so few people I know really are willing to look deeply at these kinds of issues. Sort of like feminism I find an attitude of "we're past that", but then i see all the pr...more
Admittedly, this book is flawed. Because the author is primarily concerned with interpersonal games, he tends to put every possible scenario within that context. Some of his ideas are now dated, bordering on offensive. Nevertheless, I found the book to be all kinds of enlightening and tremendously useful. I recommend it under the assumption that wise readers will be able to sort the good from the bad.
One little warning: When you learn to recognize these games, you will be forced to eliminate at least 95% of the B.S. in your life and frequently find yourself disgusted by 100% of the B.S. in eve...more
This book among many books that I re-read from time to time, because I like the content and the language....my "hungry" mind likes doing this sort of activities.
I found the general concept an interesting metaphor (rather than a scientifically proven social reality). However, I struggled to finish the book. It felt like a series of scribbled notes thrown together - a set of index cards with brief information on 'games'. I needed further explanation and an attempt to engage me rather than having a series of ideas thrown before me.
Besides the unfamiliar description I just gave, Eric Berne, fou...more
Games People Play, the book speaks of the Psychology of human relationships. It introduces the theory of Transactional Analysis. The author, Eric Berne, suggests that all the communication that happens between individuals is actually a transaction between the ego states.
An ego states as he defines is “simply the combination of a person’s feeling and his behavioural patterns” and any transaction or communication between individuals takes place through the communication these ego...more
Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships is a 1964 bestselling book by psychiatrist Eric Berne. Since its publication it has sold more than five million copies. The book describes both functional & dysfunctional social interactions. In the 1st half, he introduces Transactional Analysis as a way of interpreting social interactions. He describes three roles or ego states known as the Child, the Parent & the Adult & postulates that many negative behaviors can be traced t...more
A real eye opener and a great way to avoid argument and conflict. Of course it is a lot easier to spot th...more
Автор создал очень хороший труд, и прекрасно описал то, что в нашей жизни то и делает, что постоянно пролетает неосознанно.
Но если всё таки мы изредка научимся фокусироваться...more
اگر شخصی از شخص دیگر تقاضای تایید کند و در خواستش براورده شود و سپس ان تایید بر ضد تایید کننده بکار گرفته شود، یک "بازی" انجام شده است .بنابرین بازی ظاهرا شبیه یک رشته "عمل"است ،اما پس از برد معلوم می شودکه این "اعمال" در واقع یک رشته "مانور"بوده اند؛نه درخواستهای صادقانه ،بلکه حرکاتی دز یک بازی.
From the title, to the review on the back make this book appear to be something for the average person : it's not.
However, this may be my own fault for...more
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