Games People Play
...no really, i'm learning some heavy shit about human relationships...
Berne is funny and insightful. It is a shame that so few people I know really are willing to look deeply at these kinds of issues. Sort of like feminism I find an attitude of "we're past that", but then i see all the pr...more
This book shows you the "Games" which are behind the human's relationships, it believes that a great number of human's relations are a kind of "Game" indeed. But at the end of the book, Prof. Eric Berne explains that the highest...more
Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships is a 1964 bestselling book by psychiatrist Eric Berne. Since its publication it has sold more than five million copies. The book describes both functional & dysfunctional social interactions. In the 1st half, he introduces Transactional Analysis as a way of interpreting social interactions. He describes three roles or ego states known as the Child, the Parent & the Adult & postulates that many negative behaviors can be traced t...more
Besides the unfamiliar description I just gave, Eric Berne, fou...more
The theory at the beginning was absolutely fascinating and, even though the books itself is from the 1960’s, it has significant value for being the start of the field of transactional psychology.
However, the description of the games themselves was where I found the book lacking. Mostly, this is where I also felt the impact of the book being so dated. Some of his descriptions of games were based on stereotypical gend...more
Berne enjoys communicating, as evidenced by the...more
An interesting and entertaining enough read, and I can well imagine how it has influenced the study of human relationships since 1964, when it was first published.
However, the social situations, an...more
Больше всего меня успокаивают его описания человеческого взаимодействия через "трансакции" (соглашения/сделки), а также пояснения, что люди во многое действительно играют. Потому что в последнее время чем дальше, тем сильнее росло и крепло у меня параноидальное ощущение, что все вокруг действуют согласно неким договоренностям, в которые меня почему-то не посвятили. Таким образом, его книга действительно многое мне объясняет.
Однако, на м...more
Simply, this is a fascinating, insightful book on self-improvement. More complicatedly, the author goes to great pains to help uncover the motives behind pretty much all human interaction, perhaps primarily to make money, but also that we might improve ourselves and tear down self-imposed barriers that have been holding us back! And he does it all in only 216 pages!...more
One little warning: When you learn to recognize these games, you will be forced to eliminate at least 95% of the B.S. in your life and frequently find yourself disgusted by 100% of the B.S. in eve...more
Автор создал очень хороший труд, и прекрасно описал то, что в нашей жизни то и делает, что постоянно пролетает неосознанно.
Но если всё таки мы изредка научимся фокусироваться...more
You do not need to read Berne's previous book, Transactional Analysis in Psychotherapy, to understand the concepts, but it could be helpful
I really enjoyed this one as it combines logic/science/systematic-approach to explain the often unpredictable psychology of human-relations. Explains a lot about how people interact and what they spend much of their time doing in conversation (gaining approval/validation, abdicating responsibility, etc). Very comprehensive coverage of the simple to the complex, as well as the different nuances and angles involved in how people converse, choose friends/mates, etc. If you're like me, you'll love i...more
The games themselves were interesting and recognizable-that was easily the best part of the book, reading the descriptions and putting faces of people I know (sometimes my own) on the players, but I wish there had been more...more
Anyway it's a good introduction into Transactio...more