Games People Play
We play games all the time: sexual gam...more
One of the things I found most interesting is that the classification has two dimensions. First, there's the game itself. Second, there's the question of how seriously you're playing: he divides this into First Degr...more
...no really, i'm learning some heavy shit about human relationships...
Berne is funny and insightful. It is a shame that so few people I know really are willing to look deeply at these kinds of issues. Sort of like feminism I find an attitude of "we're past that", but then i see all the pr...more
This book shows you the "Games" which are behind the human's relationships, it believes that a great number of human's relations are a kind of "Game" indeed. But at the end of the book, Prof. Eric Berne explains that the highest...more
Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships is a 1964 bestselling book by psychiatrist Eric Berne. Since its publication it has sold more than five million copies. The book describes both functional & dysfunctional social interactions. In the 1st half, he introduces Transactional Analysis as a way of interpreting social interactions. He describes three roles or ego states known as the Child, the Parent & the Adult & postulates that many negative behaviors can be traced t...more
However, while reading Games People Play I often imagined I was in the infamous deprogramming scene in the sci-fi film, A Clockwork Orange. My eyes nearly had to be propped open by force. The myriad multi-syllabic words and tortuous sentences made its message difficult for an aver...more
According to the psychiatrist who wrote this, people should go beyond acting out "games" and obtain "autonomy" in order to interact with each...more
This is one of these great books I had the chance to discover, after reading 50 Psychology Classics. Very often it is funny; in fact I had the chance to look at a couple of videos on YouTube, where Eric Berne seemed to be a very pleasant man.
If it weren’t for you...This is one of the many games explained in this book. I tend to hear that sentence quite often, but it turns out that we have the partners we search for, deserve…we want them to prevent us from doing som...more
Games People Play, the book speaks of the Psychology of human relationships. It introduces the theory of Transactional Analysis. The author, Eric Berne, suggests that all the communication that happens between individuals is actually a transaction between the ego states.
An ego states as he defines is “simply the combination of a person’s feeling and his behavioural patterns” and any transaction or communication between individuals takes place through the communication these ego...more
Besides the unfamiliar description I just gave, Eric Berne, fou...more
The theory at the beginning was absolutely fascinating and, even though the books itself is from the 1960’s, it has significant value for being the start of the field of transactional psychology.
However, the description of the games themselves was where I found the book lacking. Mostly, this is where I also felt the impact of the book being so dated. Some of his descriptions of games were based on stereotypical gend...more
Berne enjoys communicating, as evidenced by the...more
A real eye opener and a great way to avoid argument and conflict. Of course it is a lot easier to spot th...more
I found the general concept an interesting metaphor (rather than a scientifically proven social reality). However, I struggled to finish the book. It felt like a series of scribbled notes thrown together - a set of index cards with brief information on 'games'. I needed further explanation and an attempt to engage me rather than having a series of ideas thrown before me.
Больше всего меня успокаивают его описания человеческого взаимодействия через "трансакции" (соглашения/сделки), а также пояснения, что люди во многое действительно играют. Потому что в последнее время чем дальше, тем сильнее росло и крепло у меня параноидальное ощущение, что все вокруг действуют согласно неким договоренностям, в которые меня почему-то не посвятили. Таким образом, его книга действительно многое мне объясняет.
Однако, на м...more
از نظر روانشناسی و تا حدودی جامعه شناسی به نکته های خوبی اشاره کرد
البته به زبان ساده نبود از دید منِ، چند بار میخوندم یه صفحه رو بعضی اوقات که دقیق متوجه شم منظورش چیه
کاشکی فصل های آخر که راه های مقابله و درمانش بود رو بیشتر توضیح میداد خیلی خلاصه بود
This is a short book about the hidden motivations of general social interaction.
It's hard to argue about the statement - that people like contact and reaction, it's a replacement for intimacy. Berne doesn't have any evidence for any of this, and the book is broadly psychoanalytical (he has a go at other types of therapy) so he will say that playing the game called Corner "may be an important etiological factor in schizophrenia" or that domestic father-daughter conflict is a sublim...more