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Five Love Languages: Viewers Guide

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Great book for parents
Paperback, 16 pages
Published May 28th 1995 by Lifeway Christian Resources
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Jennifer Wedemeyer
Immediately, I realized that I wasn't meeting each of my children's individual love need. I thought my son's main love language was physical touch but it's also words of affirmation. This is so obvious in that he is always touching, always wrestling, and always in your personal space and now that I realize it he's also always asking if everything is ok, did he do this ok, am I all right and he is so happy after receiving positive words of affirmation from myself and my husband. After reading Gar ...more
Rachael
Feb 21, 2008 Rachael rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: A Must Read For All Parents
I think this book is fascinating! I've noticed that my children, my spouse and I all have a love language that relates to them. The love language is your preferred way of giving & receiving love. What I loved most about this book is the knowledge that when you discipline a child in their love language it cuts really deep. For example, my daughter is a words of affirmation child, and when I correct her actions, she shuts down (even when I do it in the nicest way 'we can't touch that sweetie') ...more
Joshua Park
Sep 15, 2013 Joshua Park rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
With any book that's designed to help parents be better parents for their kids, it's easy to fall into the trap of defining the success of the book by whether its advice was successful in the reader's family. The fact that every child is different is actually the highlight of this book. This helps people understand why two kids might react completely differently to the same gifts, the same activities, and the same punishments. It has to do with how the people involved show and express love.

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Karen
Jan 28, 2010 Karen rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: book-club
I am a blue, type - A, ESTJ, who likes to be shown love through quality time, and likes long walks on the beach and....WAIT, no I'm not. I'm Karen, a girl with lots of personality quirks, one of which is that I dislike pop psychology books that tell me I and everyone else fits into one of their created, ficticious descriptions. I have to admit, I didn't even finish this book (I did read almost all of it though). Probably most of us are familiar with the five love languages, they have enjoyed bei ...more
Jessie
Apr 18, 2014 Jessie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I've read the original 5 Love Languages and so this one was sort of a waste of my time. I did find some valuable tips and interesting insights, but the 5 languages are the same for kids as adults, so it was the same book all over again. With an adult, you can say, "Here honey, take this quiz to let me know what your primary love language is." With kids, you can't do that as easily. This book (politely) says to the reader, "Hey, dummy. Try quality time and see how your kid responds. Then try word ...more
Rock Rockwell
Oct 08, 2007 Rock Rockwell rated it liked it
Shelves: counseling, family
Now that you know my love language, will you use it against me? Seriously, compartamentalizing love into five expressions is a bit limited. To some it may help to understand why those "special" people don't meet our expectations, and how to accept their love expression (even though it may not mean much to my love language receptor). I was one of the unusual ones that couldn't figure out my love language... sort of like those personality/gift tests (dinc) that put me in the "I don't know" range. ...more
Ebrahim Awachi
Mar 10, 2016 Ebrahim Awachi rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
إنتهيت من قراءة كتاب لغات الحب الخمس التي يستخدمها الأطفال

المؤلف: جاري تشامبل و روس كامبل

عدد الصفحات :2015

دار النشر وسنة النشر :مكتبة جرير 2014

تاريخ القراءة 10 مارس 2015

وقعت عيناي على هذا الكتاب أثناء تجولي في مكتبة جرير في الظهران في يناير الفائت حيث لقت انتباهي عنوان الكتاب ففتخته واخذت اتصفح فهرسه حتى اعجبت به وقررت قراءته وحقيقة لم يخب ظني في الكتاب

يتحدث الكتاب عن تصنيف لغات الحب عند الأطفال الى 5 لغات وهي
1. التلامس الجسدي
2. كلمات التوكيد
3. الوقت النوعي
4. الهدايا
5. الخدمات

اولا التلامس الجس
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Hilary
Aug 20, 2015 Hilary rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a joint read, so we could read and discuss our parenting tactics, but it became much more than that. We'd worked through The Five Love Languages before and I remember being blown away by that, not expecting the same thing here - and for a very different reason.

Our experimental test subject (first child) is still a toddler, under the key age for this book; the specific tactics aren't really applicable for under 4s, and you probably want to implement them before the teenage years begin (
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Tiffany
Aug 20, 2008 Tiffany rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone, but especially parents
Shelves: non-fiction
My oldest child is much like me, but my second felt so different! But for the first time I'm understanding him, and this book may be the difference between a close relationship with him during these formative years, and a distant one.

This is the best parenting book I've read. In a nutshell: everyone shows love and desires love in return, but we do it in different ways. Those "ways" are called languages, and are condensed into five types. Receiving love in YOUR language fills your love tank. Kids
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Sueij
Mar 19, 2009 Sueij rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The authors expound on their theory that there are five different ways that people express and experience love: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service. By the time kids are five or so, they say, the kids have started to have a preference (before then children just need love in all the languages all the time). Knowing your child's love language can help you to be sure that they know that you love them, which leads to all kinds of good things they'd like to t ...more
Sarah
May 19, 2011 Sarah rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help
I am really torn over what I thought of this book. While I like the concepts and I think it had valuable information I had a hard time with it. For some reason I couldn't get into the writing style. I constantly found my mind wandering and having to go back and re-read portions. The last several parenting books that I have read have been very readable so I found this hard to reconcile.

For the most part I felt like the "love languages" were well explained but in the later chapters when examples
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Amal Al Salem
مراجعة كتاب لغات الحب الخمس التي يستخدمها الأطفال

جاري تشابمان

روس كامبل

وصلتني رسالة على بريدي الإلكتروني من الأخ خليل لمكتبة القراء البحرينيين، شدني عنوان الكتاب وعلى الرغم من أنني لست قارئة إلكترونية أن صح التعبير إلا أنني بدأت في قراءة الكتاب، كلمة شدتني لنهاية السطر وما أنهيه السطر حتى يأخذني السطر الآخر بقوة.

لطالما أمنت بأن الحب هو نبض العلاقات هو روح العلاقات المؤسسة لحياة سعيدة، ولأسباب كثيرة نعلمها أحيانًا ونجهلها أحيانا كثيرة لا نوفق لتلك السعادة في بعض الفترات.

أتحدث الآن من قلب أم وقفت ك
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Connie  Kuntz
I enjoyed this, not just because it gives me ideas about how to better communicate with my children, but also because it sheds insight about how to better communicate with my spouse, co-workers, and friends. However, because this book is about the love languages of children, I will try to write about only that.

This book is about exploring how your children (or spouse or co-worker or friend or what-have-you) communicates and how best to match your appreciation of that person to that person's pref
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Jacki
Jan 29, 2016 Jacki rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was fine. I'm super familiar with the love languages, so I don't really know what I thought would be different about this book. It was literally the exact same thing, just with examples pertaining to kids and then some thoughts later about how these apply to learning and discipline and so on. It did say that in kids under 5, it is impossible to tell what their love language is, so in some ways major parts of the book didn't apply to me yet since my kids are 3 & 5. It was good food for t ...more
midnightfaerie
The five love languages has had much acclaim for the use in parenting children as well in the aiding of marriages. I found the book slightly interesting, mildly helpful, and downright obvious in spots. While understanding the different love languages a person can have: Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch, can move you worlds closer to getting along with someone, it doesn't necessarily always bridge the gap of personality comprehension. For chi ...more
Molly
Jul 25, 2011 Molly rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenthood
I appreciate the aims of this book. My biggest worry as a parent--or rather, ONE of my many biggest--is that my daughter will not feel sufficiently loved/appreciated/proud of/etc. Love was a complicated and fraught thing in my home growing up, which has led me to be overly-concerned and ready to consume the books offered at the library in hopes of not missing out.

This is another one of those books that could have been covered in a nice article rather than a lengthy book and the elaborations seem
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Danica
Feb 15, 2015 Danica rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 5-stars
I wish I had read this book a lot sooner in my parenting journey. Perhaps it's because I am lacking in so many ways as a mom, but I had so many light bulbs going off while reading this gem. Like always, I will take some advice and leave some advice, but what I will "leave" will be little! I'm already noticing a big difference in my relationship with Carson as I've made a strong effort to use all the love languages with him (I was leaving some out entirely). I loved it.
Emma
Sep 02, 2015 Emma rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Okay, but largely unnecessary. If you've read any other five love languages book, this is the same stuff (of course) but applied to children. All the introductory chapters were rehash for me.

On page 28 we're told it's not possible to discern the love language of a child under 5. I have two children under 5. I checked this book out to figure out their love languages. Womp womp.

Then the majority of the book was discussing the love languages as they applied to children. What I really wanted to read
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Authorscreateireview
Jul 13, 2015 Authorscreateireview rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: parents of children
I had the pleasure awhile ago to go to a Marriage retreat with my husband. One of the classes that we took was over the 5 Love Languages for Marriage. We really enjoyed learning about it as a couple and learned a lot about each other's languages. Our marriage really saw a difference from that class as well as several others. So when I I saw The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell, I had read it.

Read more at
http://authorscreateireview.blogspot....
Adriane Devries
As parents, it is our duty alone to discern which love language (physical touch, quality time, gift, acts of service, and words of affirmation) is best suited to each of our children. Though we of course love our children, how we communicate this love is not necessarily how they receive it, and therefore our language may go unheard, leaving their “love tank” empty. Learning these new languages will take work and discomfort, but worth the effort to enable them to mature in their ability to learn ...more
Stephanie Burkhart
The Five Love Languages for Children is a book that will help parents better understand what motivates their kids and how to keep them happy.
There are five topics which everyone understands: physical touch, words of affirmation, giving gifts, acts of service, and quality time. Chapman and Campbell talk a little about each language and how they make us feel.

Chapman and Campbell have a writing style that is easy to read and engages the reader with it's conversational style. They use several scenar
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Mary-ann
Feb 11, 2013 Mary-ann rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This outstanding book addresses how each child expresses and receives love through one of five main "languages" - quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. Although children need to be spoken to in each of these love languages, there's one love language that meets their deepest emotional needs and should be used often with them. Once we figure out what our children's primary love language is, we will be able to better understand their personal communication m ...more
IrenesBookReviews
This book is the revised version of The 5 Love Languages of Children written by Dr. Gary D. Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell. I have not read the other versions so will not be comparing this one to any of the other books.

I have heard of this book over the years and the concept that we all have a way that we receive love. This particular book centers on how our children accept and feel love. The authors break down into 5 different areas (or languages as they call it) the ways to express love to our
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Ashley FL
I took a class that used this book and at the time, thought it was fabulous and brilliant and insightful. My kids were really young and I couldn't wait for them to be old enough to try this all out on them.

I just went back and re-read it, and this time found it interesting and somewhat helpful but lacking in concrete ways to determine love languages in children. It would have helped to have more examples of the "either/or" questions, for example. I was reading it specifically for help with one c
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James
Apr 02, 2013 James rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: children, parenting
In the Evangelical tribe I grew up in, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman provided the idiom to talk about how each us receive and give love. Because of our unique personalities and family of origin, we each have modes of expressing love which is particularly meaningful to us. For some it words of affirmation. Others feel particularly loved when you spend quality time with them. Giving and receiving gifts is another ‘love language.’ Others feel loved through physical touch or acts of servic ...more
Isabel
Sep 20, 2011 Isabel rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
Hmm. This was a pretty good book, but it seemed a little phony in parts. The imagined dialogues were absurdly simple. The discussion of single parenting was lacking. In a way, I think the whole book was pretty simplistic, but...

I got something out of it, and that makes it worth reading. Regardless of whether you ascertain anyone's particular "love language," I think the idea of expressing your love for others in more than one way is pretty important. I appreciated the examples because they offer
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Jenny
Jun 11, 2012 Jenny rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Our children know that we love them, right? We hope so, but not everyone perceives and receives and shows love in the same manner. This book details 5 ways we perceive love: physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, and acts of service. Each of us has a predominant love language by which we most feel loved. Learn how to speak your child's (or spouse's) primary language, and experience a transformation in your relationship with that person. After detailing each love language in r ...more
Kelly
Aug 21, 2015 Kelly rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
love, love, loved this. if only i could hug it, tell it, spend more time with it, give it a gift, and do service for it to show how much i love it. but seriously, i am so grateful my friend recommended it. i already feel like it has helped my relationships with each of my children, especially with the one child i was having some issues with, and with my husband. their philosophy of love languages is genius! glad i bought one because i think i'll go back to it again and again.
Alice
I read this for a homeschool book club. I had heard of the Five Love Languages book and was interested to read this. I really liked the first half of the book which dealt with explaining the love languages, how to interpret them in your children, and how to "fill your children's love tanks." After reading this book, it is very easy to see my children's love language and how I have/have not met their emotional needs through their love language. Also interesting to look back at my life and see how ...more
Rachel
Oct 12, 2009 Rachel rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book argues that all people feel love in five basic ways, but we each have a primary love language. The best way to make your children feel loved, then, is to figure out what their primary love language is, and give them lots of that, plus regular doses of the other kinds. Obviously this applies to spouses, parents, and anyone else you love too, but this book is mainly about the parent/child relationship. I may decide this book deserves 4 stars after I've had some more time to think about i ...more
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“The best way to love your children is to love their mother [father].” That’s true. The quality of your marriage greatly affects the way you relate to your children—and the way they receive love. If your marriage is healthy—both partners treating each other with kindness, respect, and integrity—you and your spouse will feel and act as partners in parenting.” 3 likes
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