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The Five Love Languages of Teenagers

4.1 of 5 stars 4.10  ·  rating details  ·  854 ratings  ·  132 reviews
At no other time have parents, teachers, and mentors been more desperate to find proven ways to reach teens. In response, best-selling author Gary Chapman presents The Five Love Languages of Teenagers -- practical guidance on how to discover and express the teen's primary love language. It is a tangible resource for stemming the tide of violence, immorality, and despair en ...more
Hardcover, 259 pages
Published December 31st 2000 by Northfield Press (first published March 1st 2000)
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I think I finished it. You know what? I KNOW I finished it. It doesn't matter if the statement is true because I refuse to pick it up again.

I can't understand why Gary Chapman would want to write another book about Love Languages (For teens this time) when the people who understood his first one (for spouses) would very likely be able to translate it into love for teens. The only logical explanation appears to be:for the money.

In any case, I don't care for this book. I think the paper it was wri
I liked the approach this book took in helping me understand the actions that most convey love to my teen. As with learning styles, people have love styles as well, and while we may think we are conveying love to a child or spouse, if we aren't speaking their "love language", they may not actually be getting our message of love. Come to find out, my son most clearly experiences love through quality time spent together. This might seem like a no-brainer, but quality time is different from just sp ...more
Kathrine Holyoak
The only reason I caught up to this series is because our bookgroup chose it. I surmised the gist of the method but had avoided it, perceiving it too "hocus/pocus, touchy/feely" for my likes. I intended to skim and quickly return it to the library. Imagine my surprise upon discovering parenting stategies that could have been so meaningful years and children ago. My loss, and my family's loss. Chapman has a gift for serving it straight up in a way that is neither belittling or naive. I credit him ...more
I think this was a really helpful book to read - to try to understand my teenager a little better. I say try, because it's a constant battle. What I didn't like about the book is that most of the things that we battle over - the author relates it to their trying to be in control of their lives, and define themselves as their own person. While I value that, there are times when they still need to do things with their family, or what we ask - just because we ask them to.
Yakking Yogini
The author has been a marriage/family counselor for over 30 years who addresses relationship issues from a Christian worldview. His main premise, that we all need unconditional love and that we all have a certain "love language" as part of our personality by which we most like to give and receive love. The trick is to discover your teen's primary love language and to express it as often as possible. I always wondered why my mother never gave me hugs and kisses, but lost buttons would magically a ...more
Thumbs up! I haven't read any other Chapman books, but understand the concept of the love languages. That being said, I believe this book is much more than a repeat of the same ideas. Teens are a uniquely challenging age! This book clearly outlines the mindset and goals of this stage of development and how it effects attitudes and responses. My role as a parent and their role as emerging adults change so dramatically during this age that I really appreciated the very practical ideas and specific ...more
This book found me at the library. When I say that, what I mean is that I work at the library and every so often a book will cross my path and speak to me and tell me to read it. This was one of those books.

My kids and I are going through a big change in our lives right now, and one of my priorities is to really connect with them and show them how important they are to me. After reading this book and having my kids all take the online assessment, I really feel like I have a better sense of how t
Most people associate the "love languages" books with trying to make sense of a spouse's needs within the context of marriage, but the "teenagers" version is equally useful, if not as well known. Lots of great parenting material in here, but the most useful part is the love languages test, which a teenager can take to reveal what their needs are to themselves and to their parent/guardian. This is really valuable info for a parent who feels they don't know how to relate to their teenager... The b ...more
I was concerned that this book would get a little repetitive if it was only about love languages (which is a brilliant and useful concept). However, it was an all around great book about parenting teens. The author talked about changing the way we parent teens, setting boundaries, dealing with anger, listening, maintaining a good relationship, etc. And of course, the love language concept is a very important component of loving your teen well. If you can only read one book about parenting your t ...more
Loved this book. If you have teens, you need this book. I read the first Love Languages and found it extremely helpful. This is basically the same but it goes into more detail of how to navigate the languages for the unique needs of your teen. For example, if your child's language is physical touch, how do you show that appropriately to your teenager. It helps you understand how best to show that love and then when to back off. I am planning on reading it again so the messages can really sink in ...more
This was a great book and I would suggest it to anyone who has a teenager or soon to be teenager. I learned so much about my teenager and about myself. I have already started implementing some of the suggestions in the book and have seen a dramatic difference in my teen and her response to me. She seems different and happier. Our home is more pleasant and she is even doing her homework without being asked! I just needed to fill her love tank and be more patient.
This was a great resource. I don't have teens yet, but it's coming around the corner. I haven't read the original Five Love Languages nor the one for Children, and I imagine it might repeat alot of the same information, but since I haven't read those (but I am already familiar the 5 Love Language concept), I felt I could give this 5 stars and not feel like 'Oh, but it's just a repeat of other books.' Anyway, I'm glad I read this BEFORE my kids were teens, because there's a lot of great advice! I ...more
To each his own. This is a great book for parents with teenagers. I have two and this book was right on queue. Raising teens in this day and age is difficult, but if you can figure out their love language and fill their tank, you will succeed. Thank you Dr. Chapman!
I use this book as a reference guide on a continuing basis.
Very good book for every parent of a teenager to help you understand how to make your child feel loved. These concepts are helpful in every relationship. It also helped me better understand some of the changes going on inside my sons as they grow up.
I learned to stay awake for time with my teenage son, who doesn't like to talk until about 1:00 am in the morning...
A must-read for parents of teenagers... gotta do things different to reach, build, and be happier...
Great resource and reminder to show more love to my teenagers and in a way that they will appreciate most.
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Mar 13, 2013 ACS Book-finder rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: parents, teachers
Recommended to ACS by: School Administrator
Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: the Secret to Loving Teens Effectively discusses how parents can help their teenagers make a smooth transition from childhood to adulthood by speaking the correct love language to their teens. Chapman explains that teenagers need to feel connected, accepted, and nurtured. Knowing a teenager’s love language helps to keep his “love tank” filled.

The five love languages are the same as Chapman’s previous books on love languages, but this time he focu
Note: This review, as well as many more, can also be found on my blog, The Baking Bookworm (

My Review: As you can see from my reading history on GoodReads or on my blog I'm not a big non-fiction reader so it should come as no shock that I didn't happen upon this book by myself. I learned of it from a friend of mine who had read another book in the series and she had quite positive reviews of it. I had never heard of or read any of Chapman's previous "Love Langu
Emma Lavern
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It would be wise for every parent to read this book if they have children, whether they be teenagers or adults. Through God's grace I have been set free from my own struggles facing abandonment, rejection, not feeling good enough, not feeling accepted or wanted, etc., through Pastor Paul Coneff's Straight 2 the Heart Ministry. This book clarified everything I did or didn't agree with, everything I saw and understood, my struggle for self-identity, fight for indep
I loved the original "Five Love Languages" and I'm always looking for ways to better connect to my teenager (soon to be multiple teenagers), so I thought this might be a great resource for me as a parent. And although this book wasn't revolutionary, it did spark more than a few ideas as well as encourage me to be intentional about showing them lots of love in their primary love language.
I read two of Chapman's other Love Language books but still enjoyed this one. I loved hearing about the love languages applied specifically to teenagers. Chapman makes some great points about how the love languages can change from childhood to the teenager and within the teenage years. Great insight and wonderful ideas to apply in our own families.
Nancy Bandusky
This is an excellent resource for any parent who loves the teens in their lives enough to make sure they feel the love.

It includes examples of ways to express the different love languages as well as a simple test for the teen to see which love languages "speak" to them the most.
Recommend if you want to get intentional about how to stay connected with your kids... This has great examples of how, once you know your kids love language (it doesn't change!) how to think about intentionally doing things that line up with it and speak to a teenager.
This guide started out well enough, but as many other reviewers pointed out, it gets repetitive and superficial from there. I was pretty impressed that the author could string out the basics of his five love languages concept for so long, without really adding any new information. Still, this gave me a refresher on perceiving the different ways teens express themselves, so I guess it was somewhat worthwhile. Skim through his original book, though, to get it all and save some time.
Christie Hagerman
The hubby and I read through this one together and learned a lot. You've probably read at least one of the other Love Languages books, and this one's no shocker. Same author, same languages--words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, acts of service, quality time. But how these apply to teens can get tricky.

The book was full of great explanations, lots of examples, and the practical application of these languages. Considering that each person speaks a bit of each of the five love languages, e
Jan 31, 2014 Sandi added it
Like the idea of love languages and the quizzes at the back of the book help. Feel like I already do a lot of the ideas, so guess that's a good thing. Quick read...nothing revolutionary.
Aug 30, 2008 Sharilee is currently reading it
This is a great review for parents of teenagers. It talks about the different methods that we can express love to our teenagers, when and how to utilize them, and how the five love languages apply to kids when they become teenagers versus when they were children.

I highly recommend this book for all parents-- and read it BEFORE they become teenagers so that you are prepared to grow and 'change' with them! Of course, I highly recommend the book The Five Love Languages of Children for all parents o
Robyn Bowman
One of the most practical Parenting books i have read. A must for any parent of teenagers.
I read the original 5 Love Languages book and really like the message of the book. I wasn't sure if this one had any more information from the original but it was really worth the read with great insight into the teenage brain. The bottom line is that with teenagers you really need to give them all 5 love languages. Best lesson learned...not to take it personal that they want/need their independence. I also had my girls go on-line and take Gary Chapman's test. The result was mostly what I though ...more
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Gary Chapman has traveled extensively around the world challenging couples to pursue healthy, growing marriages. His first book, Toward a Growing Marriage (Moody, 1979, 1996), began as an informal resource he gave to couples with whom he was counseling. Once officially published, this book became a blessing to thousands of people and helped launch Gary’s popular “Toward a Growing Marriage” seminar ...more
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