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The Five Love Languages of Teenagers
by
Gary Chapman
At no other time have parents, teachers, and mentors been more desperate to find proven ways to reach teens. In response, best-selling author Gary Chapman presents The Five Love Languages of Teenagers -- practical guidance on how to discover and express the teen's primary love language. It is a tangible resource for stemming the tide of violence, immorality, and despair en...more
Hardcover, 259 pages
Published
April 28th 2000
by Northfield Press
(first published April 2000)
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Thumbs up! I haven't read any other Chapman books, but understand the concept of the love languages. That being said, I believe this book is much more than a repeat of the same ideas. Teens are a uniquely challenging age! This book clearly outlines the mindset and goals of this stage of development and how it effects attitudes and responses. My role as a parent and their role as emerging adults change so dramatically during this age that I really appreciated the very practical ideas and specific...more
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It would be wise for every parent to read this book if they have children, whether they be teenagers or adults. Through God's grace I have been set free from my own struggles facing abandonment, rejection, not feeling good enough, not feeling accepted or wanted, etc., through Pastor Paul Coneff's Straight 2 the Heart Ministry. This book clarified everything I did or didn't agree with, everything I saw and understood, my struggle for self-identity, fight for indep...more
It would be wise for every parent to read this book if they have children, whether they be teenagers or adults. Through God's grace I have been set free from my own struggles facing abandonment, rejection, not feeling good enough, not feeling accepted or wanted, etc., through Pastor Paul Coneff's Straight 2 the Heart Ministry. This book clarified everything I did or didn't agree with, everything I saw and understood, my struggle for self-identity, fight for indep...more
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Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: the Secret to Loving Teens Effectively discusses how parents can help their teenagers make a smooth transition from childhood to adulthood by speaking the correct love language to their teens. Chapman explains that teenagers need to feel connected, accepted, and nurtured. Knowing a teenager’s love language helps to keep his “love tank” filled.
The five love languages are the same as Chapman’s previous books on love languages, but this time he focu...more
The five love languages are the same as Chapman’s previous books on love languages, but this time he focu...more
I liked the approach this book took in helping me understand the actions that most convey love to my teen. As with learning styles, people have love styles as well, and while we may think we are conveying love to a child or spouse, if we aren't speaking their "love language", they may not actually be getting our message of love. Come to find out, my son most clearly experiences love through quality time spent together. This might seem like a no-brainer, but quality time is different from just sp...more
The only reason I caught up to this series is because our bookgroup chose it. I surmised the gist of the method but had avoided it, perceiving it too "hocus/pocus, touchy/feely" for my likes. I intended to skim and quickly return it to the library. Imagine my surprise upon discovering parenting stategies that could have been so meaningful years and children ago. My loss, and my family's loss. Chapman has a gift for serving it straight up in a way that is neither belittling or naive. I credit him...more
The hubby and I read through this one together and learned a lot. You've probably read at least one of the other Love Languages books, and this one's no shocker. Same author, same languages--words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, acts of service, quality time. But how these apply to teens can get tricky.
The book was full of great explanations, lots of examples, and the practical application of these languages. Considering that each person speaks a bit of each of the five love languages, e...more
The book was full of great explanations, lots of examples, and the practical application of these languages. Considering that each person speaks a bit of each of the five love languages, e...more
I think I finished it. You know what? I KNOW I finished it. It doesn't matter if the statement is true because I refuse to pick it up again.
I can't understand why Gary Chapman would want to write another book about Love Languages (For teens this time) when the people who understood his first one (for spouses) would very likely be able to translate it into love for teens. The only logical explanation appears to be:for the money.
In any case, I don't care for this book. I think the paper it was wri...more
I can't understand why Gary Chapman would want to write another book about Love Languages (For teens this time) when the people who understood his first one (for spouses) would very likely be able to translate it into love for teens. The only logical explanation appears to be:for the money.
In any case, I don't care for this book. I think the paper it was wri...more
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The author has been a marriage/family counselor for over 30 years who addresses relationship issues from a Christian worldview. His main premise, that we all need unconditional love and that we all have a certain "love language" as part of our personality by which we most like to give and receive love. The trick is to discover your teen's primary love language and to express it as often as possible. I always wondered why my mother never gave me hugs and kisses, but lost buttons would magically a...more
Loved this book. If you have teens, you need this book. I read the first Love Languages and found it extremely helpful. This is basically the same but it goes into more detail of how to navigate the languages for the unique needs of your teen. For example, if your child's language is physical touch, how do you show that appropriately to your teenager. It helps you understand how best to show that love and then when to back off. I am planning on reading it again so the messages can really sink in...more
The original novel, The 5 Love Languages, introduces the idea that each person has a primary way in which they prefer to receive love.
The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers is based on the same premise, but specifies different examples of how to show love that would be appropriately directed towards a teenager.
The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers has a few good additions, but I felt like it was lacking ....
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The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers is based on the same premise, but specifies different examples of how to show love that would be appropriately directed towards a teenager.
The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers has a few good additions, but I felt like it was lacking ....
To read the full review go to http://talesuntangled.wordpress.com
When I first saw this book I was unsure what to expect. What does love languages mean? But after I started reading it, I discovered that it means a way to show love. Now I have always known that what works for one child might not work for another, but I had not realized that a parent might have to switch gears when a child becomes a teenager. It has helped me on my perception of my relationships with the many teenagers I come across as a high school teacher and as a parent.
I think this was a really helpful book to read - to try to understand my teenager a little better. I say try, because it's a constant battle. What I didn't like about the book is that most of the things that we battle over - the author relates it to their trying to be in control of their lives, and define themselves as their own person. While I value that, there are times when they still need to do things with their family, or what we ask - just because we ask them to.
I think the points in here are interesting. I could pick out the love languages of my kids. I passed the book to one of my students. She was talking about what her parents do to show her they love her and how that's not what she wants. She would rather them do something else. It's a book relevant and if kids can see the connection I think it could be helpful. It's probably more for high school kids though. It's a concept I don't think most middle school kids think about.
It is always difficult for me to finish a non-fiction book but this one kept me going and hopeful that I would better relate to my kids. It actually left me feeling like I had uncovered a secret treasure in the heart of my teen. I know something about her that I did not know prior to reading this book. I can put my finger on what my kids need from me just a bit better than before. I highly recommend this book (and the other "Love Language" books).
This book building upon the original while still being a separate read. That is, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers contains very specific and practical guidance on how to express the teen's primary love language, how to teach them appropriate responsibility, and how to properly handle both parental and teen anger. It is a tangible resource for stemming the tide of violence, immorality, and despair engulfing many teens today.
I found this book to help me to underdatnd more of what goes on with my teenagers. I felt I was very informed after reading this. To be honest I was asked to read this book and really did not want to, but after starting to read it I sat down and highlighted parts that meant something to me. I go back to this book to reread things when I come into a situation with my teenagers.
Excellent book! It focuses on the idea that although parents love their teens, the teens may not feel it. It gives practical advice on how to show them in ways they'll understand. It also has insight to how they may be feeling and what they may be thinking that can help parents be patient and have a broader perspective. Loved it.
To each his own. This is a great book for parents with teenagers. I have two and this book was right on queue. Raising teens in this day and age is difficult, but if you can figure out their love language and fill their tank, you will succeed. Thank you Dr. Chapman!
I use this book as a reference guide on a continuing basis.
I use this book as a reference guide on a continuing basis.
A bit preachy and self aggrandizing. I liked his first book-- this one missed the mark even though it is basically the same concepts. Almost barfed at the story where he gave his daughter a virginity necklace for the love language of gifts. Not sure that is the world we live in anymore.
Not sure if the premise is correct about the five languages of love and their consequences in parenting, but the author does give some fairly obvious observations about how and why to foster the independence of a teenager. The religious referrals are particularly suspect in that their inclusion in essentially a how-to book from a psychologist (scientist) makes me question the science behind his advice. Yet, some things in this book are useful. Apparently, I need all the help I can get.
Very good book for every parent of a teenager to help you understand how to make your child feel loved. These concepts are helpful in every relationship. It also helped me better understand some of the changes going on inside my sons as they grow up.
I think all parents of preteens should read this, to "get their parenting in order" before the preteens turn into teenagers. I am going to make some specific changes to my current parenting style (which has been working great). It was helpful to hear how my current parenting style could actually cause problems in the teen years.
In addition to this book I have read the 5 Love Languages. I liked this book for the practical application points made. This book gave substance to the 5 Love Languages and how they are to be considered when trying to relate to your child/teen.
This was a great book and I would suggest it to anyone who has a teenager or soon to be teenager. I learned so much about my teenager and about myself. I have already started implementing some of the suggestions in the book and have seen a dramatic difference in my teen and her response to me. She seems different and happier. Our home is more pleasant and she is even doing her homework without being asked! I just needed to fill her love tank and be more patient.
Obviously this is similar to his other books. I skimmed through some parts that were not too different from the other books. I really like this concept, and I love the communication tips it gives me.
Great for anyone who works with teens or I guess has teenage kids of their own. I really enjoyed the ideas presented on how to show love and how to have a quality conversation. Good stuff.
This book helped remind me of the reasons I love each of my children. It helped me focus on what is really important-helping my child feel loved and accepted. Some useful suggestions.
Helped to get in touch with my teens. They laughed at taking the quiz but realized it was about loving them so they enjoyed some quality time with their acts of service mom!
This book had some wonderful cues for parents with teenagers. Most was common sense for me. But i enjoyed learning new ideas to speak my teenagers love language.
Recommended by a good friend at just the right time. A nice way to refresh and update my way of thinking heading into the teen parenting years. Well written.
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Gary Chapman has traveled extensively around the world challenging couples to pursue healthy, growing marriages. His first book, Toward a Growing Marriage (Moody, 1979, 1996), began as an informal resource he gave to couples with whom he was counseling. Once officially published, this book became a blessing to thousands of people and helped launch Gary’s popular “Toward a Growing Marriage” seminar...more
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