Can't Buy My Love: How Advertising Changes the Way We Think and Feel
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Can't Buy My Love: How Advertising Changes the Way We Think and Feel

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"When was the last time you felt this comfortable in a relationship?"
-- An ad for sneakers
"You can love it without getting your heart broken."
-- An ad for a car
"Until I find a real man, I'll settle for a real smoke."
-- A woman in a cigarette ad
Many advertisements these days make us feel as if we have an intimate, even passionate relationship with a product. But...more
Paperback, 368 pages
Published November 2nd 2000 by Free Press
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Kate
Jul 01, 2009 Kate rated it 3 of 5 stars Recommends it for: adults; those interested in media studies;
Recommended to Kate by: Consumerist blog
Shelves: nf, media-advertising
Books about advertising and media are always interesting, and this one hits some interesting topics, like the need of corporations for addicts, and the depressing consistency of sexual images in advertising. Also notable is the author's concern about consumer culture and the attraction of being "rebelliously" part of the pack. It would be interesting to discuss this book in light of the increased level of advertising we're exposed to with our increased use of the internet and "free" content. She...more
King
Terrible. An egregious presentation of what is otherwise an interesting thesis. Kilbournes arguments are derived from weak inductive reasoning that devolve into gross conjectures. Her view of people as a passive, hapless, non-participatory audience is outdated and fails on many levels. Indeed, in her first chapter she says "It is virtually impossible to measure the influence of advertising on a culture..." which makes her whole point moot.

The majority of the book is collection of the most degra...more
Lobelia
We can’t set foot out of the house without exposure to advertising, even if we don’t watch TV, use the Internet, or read fashion magazines. Advertising is everywhere, from billboards and posters to clothing to shop windows. It is an inconvenient truth that we are indeed affected by advertising and commercialism, even if we don’t believe it.

This book is as much a psychology book as a sociology book. Using examples, statistics, interviews, and her own life experience, Kilbourne covers the connecti...more
Jennifer Campaniolo
I thought I understood the tricks of advertising, but Jean Kilbourne gave me a lot more to think about! She offers a balanced argument (with a dash of feminist theory) and lots of examples of how ads:

Make products seem like they're our friends, even lovers
Encourage children to drink and smoke at a young age so they become heavy users later on in life
Normalize the objectification of women--even very young girls


Advertising doesn't cause violence, racism, sexism, ageism, and addiction, but the cumu...more
Catherine- Isb
Can’t Buy My love was a great learning experience for me. I had never truly analyzed how advertisements affect many people in the world. Also I never noticed how advertisements are made specifically to influence people to buy the product. I enjoyed reading this book because it showed me how advertisements do not have trusted information, they are just trying to influence people to buy a certain product. Most of the time people are influenced to purchase products that could be harmful to them in...more
erin cosens
i enjoyed this book best as a historical overview of advertisements hailing women from the 1960s to present-day, which is not at all what this book is meant to be. kilbourne's larger analyses of the consequences of advertisements on women come off as hypodermic needle/passive audience media theory that is both alarmist and outdated.
Kayla
One of my all-time favorites. I was introduced to Kilbourne on her college tour. She visited my school when I was an undergrad and I was lucky enough to have already studied her book in a women's studies class. I gift this book to ANY teenage girl in my life, and recommend it to all women, especially mothers! A MUST-READ!
Heather Forrester
Outstanding and necessary book though a bit dated. A lot has changed in regards to advertising and technology since this book came out in 1999-2000 (references to Cindy Crawford for example) and obviously the rise of social media and pay per click ads are a huge shift in how marketing reaches their audiences and therefore affect us. However the meat and potatoes of what Jean Kilbourne talks about hasn't changed and that is the level of exploitation advertising does to people, especially women an...more
Nancy Schober
I have 30 page markers in this book so I� m not really sure where to start- how about with Jean Kilbourne� s losing her sense of humor under the barrage of inappropriate ads for booze, cigarettes, junk food and cars?[return][return]Her premise is that advertisers deliberately make us slightly unhappy with out bodies, appearance and our lives and then offer up a product that they say will solve the problem but in the end only makes it worse. She certainly has a point. America does have a culture...more
Danielle
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Margaret
This is the most important critical examination of advertising I have read. I'm especially interested in her discussion of gender representations in advertising. If you've ever heard or made the argument that media and advertising representations are harmless and silly, she will convince you that these representations are actually powerful in our culture.

I think it is interesting that advertising images are so overtly sexualized, but the corporations are selling their product--not intimacy. And...more
Dawn
It's one thing to know that all advertisements always have subliminal messages to target their intended audience in many ways, but I found myself looking at all advertisements differently after reading this. It's not just the subtle and not so subtle messages in ads that affect the way we buy, the way we shop, and what we want, but it's everything--from what's printed in beauty magazines to television shows to movies. Advertising is absolutely everywhere we look. It's in our faces all the time w...more
Beth
admittedly, this wasn't my favorite book ever. i sometimes felt the author was going a little overboard and i also frequently felt the book listed a few too many ads.

however, i do think it makes some very important points. it's one of those books that made me realize what was right in front of my nose. i mean, i wasn't completely oblivious to the fact that advertisements are a bunch of misleading hype, but this book really drove home just how absurd and, unfortunately, culture-shaping they are a...more
Amy
Informative. Insightful. Once Jean reveals that the intention of every advertising company is the same, it becomes frightening. This book was published over a decade ago, yet its motives and call-to-actions are relevant ever so presently! We believe we are in this Age of Information, but we are all unknowingly bounded by this Age of Advertising. It is a must read for every one integrated into this Western society, as well as those in a Westernized societies.
A slave to alcohol for a large portio...more
stephanie
debating whether i want to finish this--not because it's bad but because, published 13 years ago, it's just not current. i might stick it out a bit longer (i'm about 60 pages in) to see if there are sections that are more relevant and applicable in 2013--but if not, i may move on.

edit:
ok, so i did finish this up and really the last chapter was the only one that really hit all the notes i was hoping for re: corporate control of media and public policy. otherwise, it was interesting but not quite...more
Jessie
Only the fools among us still argue that "advertising doesn't affect them", which I think is evidenced by a new generation of highly susipicious consumers. And rightly so. Advertisers have moved on from selling a product to selling an idea, often times playing on our deepest insecurities, and worse, creating brand new insecurities for us to worry about.

Kilbourne's book feels a little outdated and much of her conjectures feel far fetched, but the backbone of this book is hard to deny. Take Kilbou...more
Danella Shea
I had to take my time with this book, as it is a bit preachy (read 'a lot preachy'). While I don't want to completely blame all advertising for degrading the way 'young girls-then-women' view themselves negatively, Kilbourne does make several good points. However, those points tended to get bogged down by the author's long diatribes. I also disliked the way she took all responsibility away from the individual, as if they have no choice but to become addicted to cigarettes, have a negative self i...more
Lauren Donoho
While Kilbourne sometimes gets a little preachy about what she perceives to be the degenerating moral culture in the United States (for example, she seems a lot more upset about young women who are sexually active than I think is warranted), in general her opinions are fascinating. Focusing primarily on feminist issues and public health, she thoroughly deconstructs the way advertising has permeated and influenced American culture, particularly in the latter half of the twentieth century. Even th...more
Sarah
I read this when I was about 20 and it absolutely changed the way I think not just about advertising, but also made me more conscious of the ways I articulated a sense of being in the world and more discerning in my consumer choices (am I buying this because it gives me a sense of identity in the world? -- is a question I now often ask myself)

Many of the examples Kilbourne uses are specific to women and I appreciated her articulating the special relationship advertising has with women. It's a ni...more
Melanie Page
I think this book is very important, but a lot of the chapters are the same, although focusing on different products, like cars, cigarettes, alcohol, and food. Each time she makes an argument about one of these products being addictive in its respective chapter, she breaks out the same analysis: addictions like alcohol, tobacco, junk food, disembodied sex, leading to violence against women. I think this phrase is in the text a dozen times. Each chapter alone, though, is interesting. Not to be re...more
Lindabeth
A brilliant and accessible analysis of how media images shape the way we feel about ourselves as people, predominately looking at gendered and racialized representations, and also demonstrating how advertising socializes us into the "you are what you buy" mindset. One chapter title summarizes the target of her overarching critique: "Buy me. I'll change your life".

Several very excellent books on this topic have been written in the last 5 or so years, but this one was one of the first content ana...more
Alexandra
Her book is full of brilliant, sometime shocking, examples. However, I found toward the end of the book that she was repeating certain points again and again. It became tiresome to read, and I wish that instead of beating a quite dead horse that she had extended her last chapter. It covered ways in which we can combat the negative effects of advertising, which left me feeling capable of making positive change. In future editions, I would love to see more about what we can do to change, and more...more
Emm
This is a really interesting look at advertising. It's very approachable and simply states things we are aware of, but don't think about until you heard them said. The brilliance lies in Kilbourne's link of advertising as both a product and a contributor of our dangerously disintegrating culture. She illustrates how advertising and the very nature of consumerism trivializes emotions, relationships, and ideals fundamental in a successful life. It's a disconcerting and very important read that sti...more
Anna
this is one of those books that sticks in your head like a heavy meal does in your stomach- i was full of these statistics for weeks, and it provided me with a new lens to watch the world through. jean kilbourne has been analyzing advertising for decades now, and makes a very clear argument that ignoring the hidden values and principles that most advertising promotes is ignoring a defining aspect of our culture. read it, then see if you can watch car commercials the same way again.
Jennifer
Sep 13, 2007 Jennifer rated it 4 of 5 stars Recommends it for: Everyone
From Consumer Reports to Jean Kilbourne (the leading researcher on advertising and culture) estimates on the number of advertising messages we are exposed to each day range from 300-1000. No matter what the number is, it's clear that advertising is prevalent and must be analyzed critically by each of us if we are to limit it's mesmerizing effects. Kilbourne spends time looking at the oppressive messages sent over time by advertising, from her heyday in her years as a model to today.
Arlie
What a thought-provoking read! I was already familiar with Kilbourne's work from university (actually, I've been meaning to read this book ever since), but her book is able to go into a lot more depth and explore more topics. In a culture that is rife with advertisements, it's important to take a critical look at what ads are selling along with their products. This was a book that really made me think and evaluate, and also had me updating my husband at regular intervals.
Quinn
If you loved the video "Killing us Softly" you'll love this book. Its an in depth analysis of the way advertisements shape our collective understanding of race and gender and normalize sexism, racism and the resulting violence. The book includes examples of print ads along each page and analyzes them. She translates the language of images for the reader and the messages are alarming. You'll never look at an advertisement the same way after this book!
Laura
Kilbourne's book might seem a little dated, but her argument still stands: advertising tends to encourage addictive behaviors, and discourage real human connection. While I found some of her points a bit simplistic and overreaching, relying more on emotion than fact, her visual analyses of ads were eye-opening and fascinating. And her arguments are worth contemplating. I would just have preferred she make them a bit more rigorously.
Vanessa
Although this book exposes advertising for what it really is and does, it would have had more of an effect on me if I read it over 10 years ago and closer to its publication date. Some references are now dated, and online advertising is not covered since it wasn't as widespread when the book was written. Still, it covers an important topic and might be a good introduction when accompanied by some newer titles on the same subject.
Susie
This book discussed the intersection of feminism, advertising, and addiction.

The book points out that in the advertising world, every emotional problem is solved by a product, and this perspective bleeds into real life.

I like to believe that advertising doesn't affect me... Then I just start counting the unbelievable number of commercial jingles I can sing, and that's what forces me to acknowledge how important this book is.
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Jean Kilbourne is internationally recognized for her groundbreaking work on the image of women in advertising and for her critical studies of alcohol and tobacco advertising. In the late 1960s she began her exploration of the connection between advertising and several public health issues, including violence against women, eating disorders, and addiction, and launched a movement to promote media l...more
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