In his extraordinary new book, Terrence Real, distinguished therapist and bestselling author, presents a long overdue message that women need to he...
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Aug 09, 2011
I highly recommend this book! I found a lot of useful information that both sexes can use without having to revert to thinking that one is from Mars or Venus. (I never liked that book or the thinking behind it since men and women don't HAVE to be socialized in their respective male/female stereotypes.) Some of the st...rategies include identifying psychological behavior violations and what do to about them to maintain your self-esteem and defuse escalation, using the Feedback Wheel for communica
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Oct 30, 2009
Hans
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Definitely the best marriage book I have read to date. Many of the points made a deep impression on me. One of the reasons I like marriage books is that at their core they are relationship books with ideas and principles that can help us in all of our relationships not just our marriages, though our marriage is the most important core relationship.
I liked his idea of CNI or Core Negative Image. This is an intriguing concept to me. Essentially we create our own mental images of ot More...
I liked his idea of CNI or Core Negative Image. This is an intriguing concept to me. Essentially we create our own mental images of ot More...
Mar 03, 2008
Susan
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This book is fantastic -and I don't say that just becasue my boss wrote it! It has some very good thinking on what it means to be married these days - especially for those of us who want it ALL. A good read for all women, I think!
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Aug 19, 2010
gina
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A very solid book about looking at your spouse and your relationships in a healthier way. I recommend it to anyone who's had trouble building healthy relationships due to past drama/trauma in their lives. If your one of those lucky people who has no problems and gets along with your spouse beautifully without ever struggling then don't waste your time. You're obviously an advanced creature on the evolutionary chain. But if you're like the rest of us and you love your spouse but you sometimes fee
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Jan 04, 2011
Kalika
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How to make a good relationship great. I listened to the audiobook which is narrated by the author, it is an excellent way of looking at today's relationships and improving communication for more romantic partnership. He has nice interviews on YouTube to get a feel for his ideas. Terrence Real's tone is kind but firm, and he sees his point of view as Rules rather than suggestions. But quite frankly, they work really well.
Jun 13, 2009
Parisienne
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From the same author who wrote a book on Males & Depression. Insightful, compassionate and excellent supportive data. Case studies are amusing because almost every couple can relate to the arguments and issues. A "self-help" book with psychological and sociological overtones. If you are interested in human behavior I strongly recommend reading this book.
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Nov 14, 2008
Vince
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Like Terrence Real's other books I have read, this gets to some interesting topics. I had just finished watching Annie Hall for the first time and this book discusses a wonderful passage in that movie. Being a multi-book reader, I am not certain when I will get to finish this one but it is not because of lack of interest.
Sep 21, 2008
Kent
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When a friend suggested this book to me, I could only respond with a quizzical gasp. I'm single, neither married nor in a relationship. And I certainly never imagined that a relationship book could be a page turner. It was. What a tremendous read.
The format of the book makes the material both highly approachable.. The author weaves relationship advice with examples of couples that he has met with during his counseling practice. The concepts are presented in way that makes it easy to More...
The format of the book makes the material both highly approachable.. The author weaves relationship advice with examples of couples that he has met with during his counseling practice. The concepts are presented in way that makes it easy to More...
Apr 20, 2010
Sarah
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This book has a lot of great things to say about communication. I think the beginning chapters are the weakest (and certainly the most reliant on gender roles), but it's worth sticking through to the end. As many reviewers have pointed out, the title is overly limiting in that you don't have to be in a troubled marriage to want to be a better communicator. Actually, the author does an impressive job of providing information that can be both prophylactic to healthy relationships as well as a l
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Aug 23, 2008
Jennifer
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This is an exceptional, user-friendly guide to understanding and changing the dysfunctional dynamics in one's marriage relationship. It addresses the new realities that 21st century couples face as social and economic realities for women have changed dramatically over the last century and have therefore forever changed women's needs and expectations in marriage. This book assumes that seeking greater intimacy is marriage is important and doable. As a therapist, I have read several self-help b
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Aug 12, 2008
Holly
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I really like a lot of what Terry has to say in this book. Not all men are as clueless as some reviews lead us to believe, but as a marital therapist I have a broad range of behaviors that I witness in my office and many men struggle with how to talk about their feelings and share their insecurities. Women often have a difficult time asking for what they need in a healthy way. Terry addresses these issues and more in a way that is easy to read. I also appreciate that he gives tools to use im
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Nov 22, 2008
Christine
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A must for any married couple. Love it! Easy to read with practical advice and exercises.
Sep 27, 2011
Georgia
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There were many great ideas in this book. I recommend it to my marriage class.
Oct 28, 2009
Tina
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The first two chapters were kind of off-putting for me, but the remainder of the book was very relevant and helpful. I plan to read it again and do the exercise with each chapter.
Jun 23, 2007
Luisa
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I thoroughly enjoyed this book. In addition to being a therapist, it's obvious that Terry Real's passion is writing. The counseling sessions he includes are beautiful illustrations of the therapy process at work and quite moving to boot. "New Rules of Marriage" also includes a helpful list of resources by various authors, as well as a quick reference guide to the techniques and points he's made throughout the book.
May 28, 2010
Ashley
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Should be required reading for anyone who has ever been, currently is, or plans to be in a relationship. Love his no-nonsense attitude that still manages to be light-hearted. I'm thoroughly convinced we're all making this (relationships) much more complicated than they need to be.
May be buying this book for future reference.
May be buying this book for future reference.
Oct 30, 2007
Susie
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This book is a really insightful look at how most people's desires for marriage are different from their parents' and so require different skills that what their families were able to model. Has lots of exercises for practical application.
Jan 07, 2012
Anna
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Although it identifies some personality types that I didn't think of before - I don't buy his whole theory. He seems to feel that there can be atonement that is rather simplistic. Still not done but taking it in stride with other books.
Jul 07, 2009
Robin
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Easy to understand what is not working in relationships. Great, simple tools for making relationships better. Challenges a person to look at how they contribute to relationship difficulties.
Jan 24, 2010
Shannon
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This book is brilliant because it's not a self-help manual, it's not a save-my-relationship manual, it's just a guide to becoming a better, more thoughtful, responsive communicator.
Apr 27, 2008
Nicko
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This will be the wedding gift that I would give to any newly married couple. Good relationship advice for anyone though.
Dec 17, 2009
Russell
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This one is a bit redundant. I fear that Dr. Real is turning into a "one trick pony"
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