Who Am I Without Him?: A Short Story Collection about Girls and Boys in Their Lives
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Who Am I Without Him?: A Short Story Collection about Girls and Boys in Their Lives

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There is "The Ugly One," whose only solace comes when she is locked inside her own head. In "Wanted: A Thug," a teenager seeks advice on how to steal her best friend's bad-guy boyfriend. And then there's Erika, who only likes white boys. Sharon Flake takes readers through the minds of girls trying to define themselves while struggling to remain relevant to the boys in thei...more
168 pages
Published May 1st 2004 by Hyperion Books for Children
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Rockk ON Dudeee*. =]
I think this book is very interesting because its about short love stories. One of the short stories was about this girl and a boy who have to write letters to each other because its a classwork assignment. The girl likes the boy but the boy doesn't like the girl because he has a girlfriend that lives in Chicago. At the end of the short story the boy brakes up with the Chicago girl. Him and his writing partner end up being very close friends and I think they end up being boyfriend and girlfriend...more
This talks about girl's relationships with guys. In the first chapter, it talks about a boy Raheem. The narrator describes how she wanted to fit in and not be like the other girls, who are to referred to as, "girls with no boyfriends". Raheem treated her like junk, and yet the girl still pretend she doesnt see anything. Even when he flirts with other girls, she sees it, but she asks herself, "What am i without him"? I think that in that situation, the narrator feels like she needs a man's love t...more
Who Am I Without Him? is a Coretta Scott King Award winning book, that examines the complexities of teenage male-female relationships. Knowing the importance of seeing oneself in literature, I specifically sought out stories featuring African-American youth in a contemporary setting. Who Am I…? is told as a series of twelve short stories with different protagonists in each. Children’s Books in Children’s Hands authors Temple, Martinez, and Yakota had warned of predictable books with “scant liter...more
The name of the book that I have read is titled, “Who Am I Without Him,” by Sharon G. Flake. This book is not like many other books. This book is full of short stories about girls and the boys in their lives. Each chapter starts with a different short story. Because of the book containing short stories, I cannot fully describe the whole book, but I can talk about the first short story.
In the first short story, it is about a teenage girl, (whose name is not mentioned) and her boyfriend Raheem. O...more
Deja Ramos
This book is about teenage relationships . I Learned relationships arent always easy but you have to make the best of it in order to actually have a relationship . Also, in this book it describes how every relationship starts .First you flirt to get the persons attention. Then ,you introduce each other and become friends. Finally, you ask the person out on a date and you get into a relationship .Its all going great until the fighting starts or someone cheats . The relationship ends and you reali...more
I think it's a good book because it tells real life stories about teens and I can relate to some of these stories in the book.
thisis my favorite book!!
Kelly Garwood

Flake, S. G. (2004). Who am I without him? Short stories about girls and the boys in their lives. New York, NY: Hyperion Books for Children.

Genre: Short Stories

Award(s): Coretta Scott King Honor Award, YALSA Best Books for Young Adult Readers, YALSA Quick Picks for Reluctant Readers, CCBC Choices, Booklist Editor’s Choice Award, Booklist Top 10 Romance Novels for Youth

Format: book

Selection process: Nilsen, A. P. (Ed.). (2013). Literature for today’s young adults. (p. 109). Boston, M...more
Heyy Wow what A Book I Finsihed The Book .. "Who Am I Without Him " That Book Was Such A Good Experience ! Withh Boys When Yu grow up And how to handle them .. Well Let Me Tell You about Thiis Book What Can i say This book Was About Different Girls &ndd Boys in Their Lives .. for example There was this giirl who she would see her bf Cheat On Her Right infront oof her &ndd she wouldnt say anythinq ! Well No thatss not how it went she would get mad and he will tell her or pull her by her h...more
Kristen Sava

Flake, S. (2004). Who am I without him?: Short stories about girls and the boys
in their lives. New York: Jump at the Sun.

Genre: Short Stories (Contemporary Realistic Fiction)


Coretta Scott King Honor Award, 2005
Chicago Best of the Best Books, 2005
Booklist Editor’s Choice Award
YALSA Best Books for Young Adult Readers
Booklist Top 10 Romance Novels for Youth
YALSA Quick Picks for Reluctant Readers
Nominated for several state book awards, 2007

Format: Print-paperback

Selection Pro...more
I loved this book because I can see how many girls, of all races and backgrounds can relate to these stories. I love the simple story-telling style from the girl’s point of view. Each girl is different, yet their experiences are connected beautifully in the entire book. Last year, when I was teaching 6th grade, the girls flocked to these books. They checked out everything we had of Sharon Flake’s. They really connected to the stories in a very personal way. I wished some of the stories snuck in...more
Rayan Deeb
Hurt? Broken-hearted? Single? Feeling invisible? This book would be really useful for you! Anyway, I don't need such books; I am a strong girl ;). 'Who Am I Without Him?: A Short Story Collection about Girls and Boys in Their Lives' written by Sharon G. Flake talks about teenagers who are having hard relationships. These are touching short stories that mostly talk about love relationships. I gave this book a two because there was absolutely no grammar! no spelling! no nothing! While I was readin...more
A fantastic collection of stories, each with a distinctive and authentic voice, about the life, times, and loves of inner city teens. The stories are about the big issues of urban life, but the joys in the stories reside in the small details. There's hope here, but there's also heartbreak as Flake shows young men and women coming of age. The three best stories ("So I Ain't No Good Girl", "I Like White Boy" and "Hunting for Boys") focus on girls trying to figure out love on their own, while the w...more
Oct 31, 2007 Dionne rated it 1 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: No one
Honestly, every time I see someone who says they loved this book I get a little pissed off. This is not a a great work of literature, this is not something that accurately portrays African-American teens to the world, this isn't even a book you can enjoy for the authors great style of writing. This book has done so well because so many black girls have read it and said, "Oh yeah I can relate to this!" when they don't know that there are better things to read and relate to then a drama filled boo...more
Who Am I Without Him is about teens and their relationships and how they go wrong. This book has alot of diffrent stories that deal with teen girls and the boy in their lives. I think these stories are very humorous,"Dramaish",some sad and also some down-to-earth stories .This book is a reallyyyy good book for young teens and also ones that are dating.Who Am i Without Him shows that relationships go either right or wrong, and teens fall in and out of love with surprising, often funny, always on-...more
Hanna Mammo
This is a great book that I would recommend all young girls to read. It is a collection of short stories all relating to the topic of how girls feel about the boys in their lives (boyfriends, dads, etc.). I really like this book because it shows many different types of relationships between girls and guys. For instance there are some about girls with boyfriends that treat them wrong, one about a girl and her lack of a relationship with her father, and even one about and her imaginary boyfriend....more
well i cant really talk about this story because i8t was alot of little stories about girls and their relationships,i liked this book because i feel like it helped me to be a smarter person. i say this because in one of the stories a girl's boyfriend treats her like crap and hits her then to top that off when she goes on the bus she sees him kissing on another girl and she does not do anything about it but i know better and if u read it u will too.
I loved this book. I read it my sophomore year of high school. High school is probably the perfect time to read this book because a lot of the stories generate around girls in high school. The stories were phenomenal and I felt like I connected with a lot of the girls who were telling their stories.

The story that I personally connected to the most was "I Like White Boys". That story meant the most to me because Erika is a black girl who is attracted to white guys and I'm a black girl and I've b...more
I saw this at the high school library where I work and the title caught my eye. It was an interesting collection of stories to read because I am not exactly in the target demographic, so it was a little cultural education. Great characters and storylines. I appreciated the letter from an absent father to his daughter that ended the collection.
Kelly Moore
Don't be Disrespecting Me - I love this author. This story completely wasn't what I expected. It was much sadder, and I wished I could've stepped in to stop the characters.

So I Ain't No Good Girl - Sharon Flake is a great writer. I got all tense because I could feel this character's desperation.
Sephanie Ayala
The book was about a girl and her boyfriends realatioship. She talks about how she got transfered 8 times because every kid in school would make fun of her and say bad things that weren't true. She overthinks of keeping the realitonshiipn with her boyfriend because she has feelings for her bestfriends boyfried, but she doesn't know what to do at times the fact that she knows she is alone in this.

Raheem is the boyfriend thats a not a over protective yet wants a calm boyfriend. he fl...more
Nunu Paye
This book is amazing for teens who can relate to this similar stories. When I read this I could relate to some stories not all. But Sharon G. Flake has done it again in another teen relateable novel!!!
Kashai Galloway
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B00K 2 K33P 4 MYS3LF 4 CHR1STM@S!!! 1T'S GR3@T!!!!!!
Fun, light read about not so light and fun topics.
this look like a good book
Short stories that sometimes feel like vignettes yet still manage to tell a full story that usually forces one to recognize former or current selves in relation to self-worth, love, and abuse. Flake is a popular "urban" writer (=publisher talk for black) who challenges readers to look the ugly truths she brings to the bare surface full in the face. It's uncomfortable, funny, sad, poignant and real. Flake is an excellent example of how one can write specific place, time, character, and culture wh...more
I think Who Am I Without Him? would appeal to a lot of teens. It's similar to a Chicken Soup book in the way it is a compilation of a lot of stories, although they are not all as influential. While some stories were warm, some make the reader feel like the character needs to revise the way he or she is living his or her life. I believe teens would enjoy getting to read the stories that come from different voices and completely different characters. It also breaks the book up nicely for students...more
This book is about different teenage relationships and I find it interesting because it has the problems of different relationships that are likely to happen. This book catches my attention every time I read a new chapter of the book. There was one about a girl who goes out with a guy that just uses her for money and just having her there as her girlfriend. I think that's wrong but she continues to stay with him which I find amazing because that is not what she deserves to go through. This just...more
Who Am I Without Him?
Sharon G. Flake
220pp. Fifth Avenue NY, NY
Hyperion Books for Children.
IBSN-10: 1-4231-0383-1

Do you know what you next boyfriend, husband or even soul mate to be like? If so what do you want him to be like? In this book Who Am I Without Him displays what young men and women want in each other. These qualities ranged from race to intelligence.

IN one of the books the African American girl Ericka likes white boys and when she finally tells her friend she is judge. Why do people...more
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Sharon G. Flake is the author of five books, The Skin I'm In (1998), Money Hungry (2002), Begging for Change (2003), Who Am I Without Him? Short Stories About Boys and the Girls in Their Lives (2004), Bang! (Sept. 2005), and her latest novel The Broken Bike Boy and the Queen of 33rd Street (2007).

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