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Passion and Purity

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Passion and Purity
Paperback, 193 pages
Published January 1st 1984 by Fleming H Revell Co
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Beth Vallender That is a vulgar question to ask of someone fully sold out to GOD. Sex is a gift in marriage and marriage alone.

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May 29, 2011 zhuangman rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is my second time reading this. In my first attempt, I think I had zero interest...this time, it's with a spirit of brokenness that opened my heart to what Elisabeth Elliot has to say about love and relationship.

Some said that her standards are too high... perhaps that's how purity is; it's either achieved or not at all.

What if that just how HIGH God's standard is anyway? What if it is meant to be possible for every single one of us?

If you already have in mind what love is all about - th
Jason Sixsmith
Mar 17, 2008 Jason Sixsmith rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
What a breath of fresh air. In a society plagued with hedonism an earnest Christian can find great difficulty in knowing how to find a spouse. Between this book and Joshua Harris' " I Kissed Dating Goodbye" it became a relief to know that I was not alone in my disapproval for post-modern romance.
Mar 25, 2013 Charles rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I have to say that this is the second most influential and beneficial book I have read (after the Bible). Not only is Mrs. Elliot an extraordinary writer she has the amazing gift of wrapping a story inside of a group of ideas that once discovered seem so natural and plain.

While reading this book, I was overwhelmed emotionally. Many times I was crying, at other times celebrating. But ultimately I was taken aback by such a wonderful story of two young people who so relied on the Lord that they wer
Jun 29, 2012 Christine rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read this about a year and a half ago. After looking at the subtitle, I was like, "Ummm… is this for me? I don't have a love life, but I guess one day I will so I guess it won't hurt to read it." Since I've never dated and have high standards for myself and my future husband, I thought this book would not convict me, but I was wrong. So much of this book can be applied to every area of life. "Do I love God more than anything and everyone? Would I be willing to give up someone I love for the wi ...more
Nellie Anne
Good message, but I disagree with details. I think Elliot's overall message is good and true. As a single-but-waiting-on-the-Lord 29-year-old, I agree with the ideas of waiting on His timing and leading. I also disagree with much of what goes on in modern relationships, and think it needs addressing. However, my issues with this book are that, first of all, Jim Elliot was rather pompus in his pursuit of Elisabeth. I hate saying that, since he was a martyr for the cause of Christ. Men are the spi ...more
Jul 29, 2011 Hannah rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: devotional
I was between twelve and fourteen when I read this book with my older sister. At the time, I found it to contain far too much passion and not enough purity. Today, all I can remember are stories about them sitting as close as possible together, etc. (before they decided not to do that anymore) and quotes from his letters to her that I found very disturbing at the time. He talked about how much he longed for her physically and that was the only side I could see to their relationship. When they go ...more
Rachelle Cobb
Feb 04, 2016 Rachelle Cobb rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I may upset a few Elliot fans here, but I actually didn't like Jim at first. It seemed to me as if he led Elisabeth on, and that upset me because I would much rather courtship be initiated by the interested gentleman when both parties are ready to pursue marriage. But the Elliots' commitment to Christ, purity, and the good of the other--though imperfect as all are--is inspiring.
{4.5 stars}

First thoughts: "Why haven't I read this book before now?" But then it dawned on me that I needed it would not have had the same effect a few years ago.

Mid-way thoughts: "Honestly, no one can love like that." But then I realized that it is the pure kind of love and passion God expects of us.

Three-fourth thoughts: "Jim, just marry her for goodness sake!" I was really getting impatiant for them to get married, but then I had to ask myself if I'd be willing to allow the Lord to
Jason Shuttlesworth
Mar 12, 2012 Jason Shuttlesworth rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: esther swaty
Somewhat hard to read, nevertheless interesting. I agree with 100% of everything she says and if everyone took her advice, society would be much much more stable. It seems like the best idea in the world to never tell a girl 'I love you' unless you're next few words are 'Will you marry me?'

I think this is what my situation will be like...unless I join a monastery first.

The book really makes you realize how valuable chastity is. I saw the Hope Diamond on display the day after I bought this book.
Passion and Purity was recommended to me when I was attending Christian College right after high school. It's been just over 6 years now since I read it so I don't remember everything about the book but I do remember it being one of the best books I read that first year or Christian College and my very first tattoo was because of a line in the book that said "If your life is broken when given to Jesus it's because pieces can feed a multitude." That has been one of my favorite quotes since I read ...more
James Njoroge
Jan 16, 2015 James Njoroge rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
“Unless a man is prepared to ask a woman to be his wife, what right has he to claim her exclusive attention? Unless she has been asked to marry him, why would a sensible woman promise any man her exclusive attention? If, when the time has come for a commitment, he is not man enough to ask her to marry him, she should give him no reason to presume that she belongs to him.”

Wow! I'm greatly rebuked and encouraged at the same time. God help us walk in purity!
Josh Miller
Mar 22, 2013 Josh Miller rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Several years ago, a respected friend in the pastorate (my youth pastor when I was a teen), recommended this book to me and told me it was the best book he had read on the love/dating/marriage relationship.

I tucked that tidbit of knowledge in the cranium and jumped at the opportunity to read this book when it came my way. I personally am not familiar with this level of Christianity when it comes to man/woman relationships. She writes of the path/journey with which she & Jim Elliot came to be
Aug 15, 2010 Sharon rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: dating, purity
This book was alot different than I expected, but was good overall. Elliot teaches us principles on waiting on the Lord and trusting in His timing, His promises and His plan from a very "girly" perspective. She shares her own dating/waiting, "already-not-yet" story of her relationship with Jim Elliot.

The book is filled with stories, letters and her own personal journals. It's a fast, interesting and intriguing read-- and whoever reads this (well, girls mostly) will grow to really be encouraged
Julie - Book Hooked Blog
I read this book in high school and college when I was single, and thought it would be fun to reread it as the "book released in the year I was born" for the SBC. I thought I'd find it interesting to reread what I had highlighted and written in the margins when I was single now that I'm married, but didn't expect to get just a ton out of it since it's written for those who are single.

However, the book speaks so much to waiting, trusting God, and letting Him sustain you, that I ended up being rea
Stephanie M. Allen
Nov 30, 2008 Stephanie M. Allen rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Stephanie by: Mat Jones, Katie Ellis, Amanda Soto
This is a wonderful, marvelous, fabulous, awesome book! I wish I had read this years ago. It would have saved me a lot of heartache and pain, even in my current relationship. This book teaches you how to be patient in singleness, how to love passionately and still remain pure, and how to conduct yourself in a godly manner. I have so much more respect for my boyfriend now than I did before I read this book. Jim Elliot, Elisabeth's first husband (he was killed in South America, in the mission fiel ...more
Aug 05, 2009 Sarah rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: christian
"I have spent the event by a little pool which held the silent sky in its heart. There was no ripple, no stir. Lord, let me be that pool."

Elisabeth Elliot has this marvelous ability to put the most profound and heart-stopping pieces of wisdom into succinct prose. Anyone who complains that they cannot wait, that they are lonely, that they worry, will be immediately reprimanded by the story of Elisabeth and Jim, waiting for God's will. I will definitely be reading this over again.
May 01, 2011 Caleb rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It has been awhile since I have read a "purity" book. I was excited to read it after hearing great things from a friend. I had heard of Jim Elliot before and seen the movie End of the Spear, but I didn't know that his wife, Elisabeth Elliot, has left quite a legacy of her own, through writing over twenty-five books! Although Jim died over fifty years ago, he lives on in the writings of Elisabeth.

Elisabeth Elliot writes an atypical work compared to other Christian purity literature. Many of today
I loved the way this book was written- short, powerful chapters full of wisdom from a godly older woman who's been there. The excerpts from her diary and from Jim's letters were just wonderful!
I must say that I was unsure why Jim and Betty didn't marry and join forces for the Kingdom earlier in their relationship. It seems Jim had a different perspective from that of earlier missionaries, such as John G. Paton, who felt that a helper was vitally important to his mission to bring the gospel to th
Jul 25, 2016 Nikki rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
One of those "once you pick it up, you can't put it down" books. I read it in 3 days. There's much to learn in here, but after hearing a guy who read it say he felt more confused about women afterwards, I think I would maintain that it's probably most profitable for Christian women. I, for one, am very grateful she wrote the book. The thing that inspired me most was not merely the way they went about their relationship, but rather their Christ-centredness. From around my age, they were so passio ...more
This book had a deep impact on me when I read it in college. Several friends read it and there was a lot of discussion about it. I think the concept of saving as much as possible of the physical relationship for marriage was good...

However, there is something about Elisabeth Elliot that strikes me as very severe. It made me uncomfortable, and this feeling persisted through other books of hers that I read.

I would recommend this book as encouragement to a young person who is on track. However, I
This is the love story between Jim and Elisabeth Elliot. I applaud their endurance and purity. Waiting five years on God is a great testimony of obedience. At times I felt Elliot's thoughts reflected the times in which she lived, making the book a little old-fashioned. Also, I disagreed with a few of Elliot's ideas. Even so, I think her message is extremely positive and reminds us of the importance of purity.
Abby M
Jul 07, 2015 Abby M rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I greatly respect Mrs. Elliot, the work she's done, and what she is trying to preach here. But the book isn't great, I have some problems with her theology, and for having purity in the title, there were some very intimate love letters or stories shared that I felt uncomfortable reading. If I were to recommend a book on bringing your dating life under God's control, I'd say stick to I Kissed Dating Goodbye. I think it's a much better book.
Nov 26, 2013 Annie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: relationships
Re-reading this now and being really encouraged by her words and her heart, and how she is quicker to listen and submit to the Lord over her own emotions and understanding. She is not fluffy, but she is eloquent, and she does not gloss over hardship, yet she continually puts her hope in the Lord through his word--and it is beautiful and encouraging.
Rachel Bishop
Mar 20, 2015 Rachel Bishop rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I would normally be hesitant to give any work the title of "timeless", but I am not with Passion & Purity. This book is drenched in Scripture and biblical wisdom, and clearly outlines how to navigate dating + relations with the opposite sex. Would recommend this to anyone as being a worthy read, and will be rereading this for years to come.
Anna Katrina
Aug 05, 2014 Anna Katrina rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is the reason why I only give 4-stars to any good love story I've ever read. This is how any love story should flow and should be told. This is the proof that love, true love, it really waits.
The first half or so was really powerful and helpful, but the love story between Elisabeth and Jim Elliot seemed to drag on at the end while there became less life application. I found the book really convicting though and would definitely recommend it.
Taylor Sparks
I felt like this book was more about Elisabeth Elliot's relationship with her first husband than it was about how to achieve God's idea of purity. Because it was more of a love story, I didn't get much out of it.
Anita Byrne
This is mostly about Elizabeth Elliot's dating life with her husband. Good example, not very much advice.
Alex Dwyer
Oct 13, 2015 Alex Dwyer rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is easily my favorite book on relationships because there is such a clear call to wait on God and his timing.
Dec 08, 2007 Becky rated it did not like it
Maybe I need to re-read, but at the time, didn't really connect with the book at all.
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From the Author's Web Site: My parents were missionaries in Belgium where I was born. When I was a few months old, we came to the U.S. and lived in Germantown, not far from Philadelphia, where my father became an editor of the Sunday School Times. Some of my contemporaries may remember the publication which was used by hundreds of churches for their weekly unified Sunday School teaching materials. ...more
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“I realized that the deepest spiritual lessons are not learned by His letting us have our way in the end, but by His making us wait, bearing with us in love and patience until we are able to honestly to pray what He taught His disciples to pray: Thy will be done.” 248 likes
“I do know that waiting on God requires the willingness to bear uncertainty, to carry within oneself the unanswered question, lifting the heart to God about it whenever it intrudes upon one’s thoughts. Its easy to talk oneself into a decision that has no permanence – easier sometimes than to wait patiently.” 130 likes
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