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Crazy Love

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At 22, Leslie Morgan Steiner seemed to have it all: a Harvard diploma, a glamorous job at Seventeen magazine, a downtown New York City apartment. Plus a handsome, funny, street-smart boyfriend who adored her. But behind her façade of success, this golden girl hid a dark secret. She’d made a mistake shared by millions: she fell in love with the wrong person.

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Hardcover, 336 pages
Published March 31st 2009 by St. Martin's Press (first published January 1st 2009)
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Robin Nicholas
The is a non fiction memoir of a woman surviving a physically abusive relationship. I will give her credit for writing a book that might open some eyes and maybe even help someone.
The whole premise of this book is that if she...Harvard educated, well to do and blond (smacks of bigotry to me) can be abused then anyone can. Well there is one huge problem with that. The part that puts her right in there with the rest of the statistics. She comes from a very dysfunctional family. Rampant alco...more
I'm a bit torn about my review for this. Steiner's story is compelling. So compelling, in fact, that I read the book in about one sitting (way past my bedtime too!). I really wanted to see how she would escape the relationship and was also generally curious about her life's path. Yet, I didn't love the book or Steiner's writing, I only liked it.
Debbie Petersen
I wish I could remember who recommended this book to me so that I never read their recommendations again. Unbelievable that it was written by a Harvard grad, since it reads more like an article in Seventeen magazine. The author actually wrote for Seventeen, before giving up her job to move to another state with a man who choked her during sex (while repeating the creepy words 'I own you') long before she married him, the most apparent red flag in a long string of warnings she chose to ignore. Gi...more
Lynn Tolson
Leslie Morgan Steiner, a Harvard graduate with a coveted position at Seventeen magazine and a hip apartment in downtown New York City, seemed to have it all. She had already achieved sobriety, after determining she did not want to follow in her mother’s alcoholic lifestyle. Her father distanced himself from the family by immersing himself in his career. In her early twenties, Leslie had youth and independence to encourage romance. The handsome and charming Conor showed up at the right time.

Had L...more
Mary Ann
Anyone who has ever been in an abusive relationship should read this book. Then again, anyone who has ever wondered why women don't leave their abusers should read it.

Steiner is a good writer and shows vividly what it is like to be married to someone who is violent. I was into this story from the first page and read it in two days.
This book really irritated me. I appreciate that the author wrote about her struggles being in a physically abusive relationship. I have never been (nor will ever be) in an abusive relationship plus I have never had terrible self-esteem issues so I read this as a case study of sorts. I cannot really comment on the abusive husband, Conor, since he is just despicable as can be assumed. Also, I thought it was bizarre that the author completely skewed the information about her parents in this book....more
*•.♥.•*Sabrina Rutter*•.♥.•*
There's a lot of shame in abuse. Women feel ashamed to tell someone they stayed in a violent relationship, and men feel ashamed to admit that they allowed a woman to be violent and controlling toward them. Often you hear people say, "I would leave the instant someone put their hands on me". It's not always so cut and dry as you will come to understand by reading Leslie's memoir.
This is a heartbreaking story of falling fast for the wrong guy. It can happen to an uneducated poor single mother on w...more
Though the pacing of the story was awkward -- focusing too much on unimportant details while rushing through traumatic incidents -- the story itself is intriguing. Leslie reluctantly fell in love with a charming, handsome man whom she soon found she couldn't live without, no matter how much he pushed her away (mentally and physically). She quit a cherry job, left the city she loved and followed him to a rural town where he began abusing her on a regular basis. It wasn't until she found some free...more

I bought this book mainly because I personally find other people’s lives and stories fascinating. With that said, I did not really like it all that well. I thought that the husband was crazy (which is obvious when one is a wife beater) and I found myself routing for the woman to come to her senses and leave his sorry ass to which I am glad she did. However, I did not much care for this woman either! (I am no way condoning the violence towards her) but to me she sounded like the most self-absorbe...more
This autobiography reveals how a young woman was courted and wed to a
man who was abusive to her on many levels. It is pretty
straightforward in narrative and language; nothing outstanding. It was
a frustrating book for me to read, not because the writing was bad or
cliche or the topic was uncomfortable, but because she didn't make me
understand WHY she would stay with an abuser. I didn't get enough
motivation or even introspection. I can understand how this is a very
sensitive topic, and probably a di...more
Chilling story about how bad things can happen to smart women...well written and will resonate with a lot of women who have been in an abusive relationship - whether emotional or physical....
Jeanette Stingley
Crazy Love by Leslie Morgan Steiner was one of a few books about domestic violence that at times I had to put down and regain myself to continue. It is not a bad book at all. Leslie writes in a style that makes you feel as you are sitting right there next to her as she retells her tale of abuse at the hands of her husband. This is what made it hard at times to read because I had been in her shoes. I knew what she had gone through: I had felt the exact same way she had during my almost 5 years of...more
An interestesting, addictively readable memoir by a Harvard-educated woman (now a successful journalist and Washington Post blogger) who stayed too long in a marriage with a husband who regularly beat her. It's a chilling look at how abuse can affect the lives of people in all social classes and at any education level.

I ended up with this book sort of inadvertantly. It wouldn't have occurred to me to seek it out, but then once I got it I thought the subject matter sounded interesting, especially...more
This is a tough book to rate. It was definitely a fast read and I was pulled right into the author's turmoil. As with any abusive relationship, it's easy for an outsider (and someone who's never been abused) to think, "how can she stay!? I don't get it!!" Of course I had those feelings, but what was weird for me was that she never seemed to like him all that much. She didn't even want to get married in the first place. I never got that "I can't live without him" feeling that seems to be prevalen...more
Leslie Morgan Steiner's story of her first, abusive, marriage makes for a compelling story and a can't-put-it-down read. Like many of the reviews I've read for this book, I found her story very interesting, very personal, and very informative, but I wasn't overwhelmed by her writing.

Certainly Steiner makes a case for the hardship faced by even the most articulate, intelligent, and astonishingly talented women (or men) staying in abusive relationships because they deny the truth and depth of the...more
I give this book 3/5 stars because i learned a great deal of facts on domestic violence from crazy love by leslie morgan steiner. I have never been in abusive relationship so I really was quite eager to read and learn from this book in a case study type of way. I learned signs and flags all of us should look out for in a relationship, and things we should never be okay with in any kind of relationship. For example, if a man chokes you through sex and mouths "I own you" than ladies... take that a...more
Leslie Morgan Steiner is an excellent author. This book was easy to read and the author's narrative of her thoughts, feelings and experiences realy rang true. I would recommend it for survivors of domestic violence, women currently struggling with an abusive relationship, and those interested in understanding the situation. Each will learn something, as I did. Thank you Leslie for sharing your story!
The author states that she wrote this book to tell her story and hopes that it will give others understanding and strength where it can be helpful. This was recommended to me with rave reviews by a friend and I had it for a couple of months before digging in. When I finished up reading it I immediately bought copies for my close girlfriends, while I haven't been in a physically abusive relationship to the level that this book portrays it was helpful and somewhat validating for me to identify wit...more
An interesting perspective from the author on her experience in an abusive relationship - very quick read.
If you like lifetime movies you'll like this book.
G. Kretchmer
I wouldn't normally be drawn to read a memoir by a blond woman with a Harvard diploma, a job at Seventeen magazine, and a seemingly perfect life. But Ms. Steiner's life was far from perfect, and that's what makes this such an important read. If we learn nothing else from the story, this is a reminder that those who seem so perfect - in other words, those women we love to hate - are often times in far worse shape than we are.

But there are other lessons in this unsettling story.

One is the realiza...more
Melissa Andrews
Leslie describes how she got into a relationship with Connor, how she stayed for three years while he abused her, and what finally got her to leave.

I've heard from abused women before that they don't stay because they're stupid or silly, and Leslie tries to bring that point home too. Near the end of the book (I listened to this, so my sense of location may be a bit off), she talks about finally identifying the chink in her self-esteem that allowed her to love dangerous men, men who couldn't love...more
1. Crazy Love is a true story about Leslie (the writer) falling in love with, and marrying, an abusive man named Connor. Some major conflicts are; Connor did many abusive things to Leslie. He beat her, threatened her, and then acted like it never happened. He held a shot gun to her head and threatened to pull the trigger, he choked her, he punched her and kicked her, and threw things at her. The main characters would be Leslie, Connor, Leslie's friend Winnie, and Leslie's parents.
2. What makes t...more
Leslie has a great life. She works for Seventeen magazine in glamorous New York. She graduate from Harvard and she seems to have a good head on her shoulders. More into the book you realize that her home life wasn't so great. Her mother is an alcoholic and her father is a workaholic. But Leslie herself made a good life for herself.

Then she meets Conor. She didn't seem to have much interest in him at first but decided to along with him (sounds so familiar). At first things are great, he seems to...more
This book gets 3 stars for two reasons: First, I admit that I was so engrossed in it that I didn't come up for air and finished it in record time, and second, the subject matter merits consideration and respect. That said, there are issues with it.

I had trouble liking anyone in this book. Clearly, the husband is not a sympathetic character, and even when we are meeting him for the first time on the subway, he comes off kind of repugnant. The parents aren't appealing, either, and there is all kin...more
Ken Smith
Leslie Steiner tells the story of her brief courtship and marriage to a handsome, bright, charming, but very abusive husband. She narrates her experience in a direct, factual manner. Her narrative includes some of the internal dialogue and reasoning processes that went on in her mind as she gradually became more emotionally attached to her abusive fiancee and eventual husband.
Leslie did a reading and book signing at our local independent bookstore yesterday. She explained that it was not until...more
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A good message and compulsively readable story. Nonetheless, I really didn’t enjoy it that much. Not having ever been in a violent relationship, I don’t feel qualified to review her life story. I’m sure it was cathartic and therapeutic for her to write and attempt to resolve this part of her life, but some of her writing left me a bit hollow. It wasn’t that her story isn’t important, and I’m sure that there are women who can gain much from her experience. My issue isn’t with what she wrote, more...more
O.k thier is no doubt this is a compelling story but I have to say even though I have been in an abusive relationship myself I find that I could not relate. Maybe because Steiner had an education and a good one at that and had opportunities most battered women dont have that I had a hard time really attaching myself to her. Dont get me wrong I think Steiner did a great job of depicting how her relationship with Conner evolved from a seemingly loving relationship to an abusive one. I sympathized...more
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Leslie Morgan Steiner (born July 20, 1965 in Washington, D. C.) is an American author, professional blogger and businesswoman. Her birth name was Leslie Anne Morgan.
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“I am so sorry for you, Leslie.' She said it like she really meant it. But not like she was completely surprised. 'And for him. Because he's lost you now.' This last part undid me. Despite her cruel criticism of me over the years, from where she sat, I was anyone and everyone's prize.” 4 likes
“If there is one thing the psychic taught me, it's that people and events are rarely who and what we think they are. They are more meaningful, more worth our attention-part of some finely choreographed, eternal dance that we would be wise to bow down before in gratitude and humility.” 3 likes
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