He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

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He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

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He says: Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just "that crazy." All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the brig...more

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Published September 7th 2004 by Simon Spotlight Entertainment

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Sep 27, 2010 erry rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

"Seorang pria tidak benar-benar mencintai anda kalau dia tidak pernah berusaha untuk mendekati, menarik perhatian, menghubungi, menelpon, mengajak keluar dll yang menunjukan ketertarikannya kepada anda. Seorang pria tidak benar-benar mencintai anda kalau dia tidak mau menikahi anda atau dia berselingkuh".

Wanita sering mengalami kebimbangan untuk mengetahui perasaan pria terhadapnya. Kedekatan, kebersemaan, flirting, kata-kata basi, gombal, perhatian, etc. Tapi setelah beberapa waktu tidak juga a...more "Seorang pria tidak benar-benar mencintai anda kalau dia tidak pernah berusaha untuk mendekati, menarik perhatian, menghubungi, menelpon, mengajak keluar dll yang menunjukan ketertarikannya kepada anda. Seorang pria tidak benar-benar mencintai anda kalau dia tidak mau menikahi anda atau dia berselingkuh".

Wanita sering mengalami kebimbangan untuk mengetahui perasaan pria terhadapnya. Kedekatan, kebersemaan, flirting, kata-kata basi, gombal, perhatian, etc. Tapi setelah beberapa waktu tidak juga ada kepastian. HTS. Hubungan Tanpa Status. TTM. Teman Tapi Mesra. Pertanyaan itu muncul bertubi "cintakah dia padaku?".

Dalam buku ini, Greg menuliskan jawabannya dari sudut pandang pria. Jawaban yang terus terang, apa adanya hingga kadang menyakitkan. Menohok. Kebenaran memang terkadang menyakitkan. Tapi itu jauh lebih baik daripada terjebak dalam jutaan dalih, Gede Rasa (GR), alasan, prasangka yang ujung-ujungnya menjadi ketidakpastian. Karena sudah jadi kebiasaan buruk kaum wanita untuk mudah tersanjung dan gede rasa kalau ada seorang pria yang memperhatikannya. Lantas mulai menanam prasangka, dalih dan sejuta dalih lainnya.

Menurutnya, pria itu simple. kalau seorang pria jatuh cinta, dia akan melakukan apapun untuk menunjukkan perasaannya & untuk mendapatkan wanita tersebut. Dalih-dalih terlalu sibuk, tidak ingin merusak persahabatan, tidak ingin menyakiti, belum siap, kamu adalah wanita terbaik yang pernah ia kenal, etc itu hanyalah kalimat lain dari "he is just not that into you". Dia tidak benar-benar mencintai anda.

Jadi ketika ada seorang pria yang mendekati anda, belum tentu ia jatuh cinta pada anda. Bisa jadi ia hanya ingin bersahabat dengan anda. Ketika ada pria yang mengobral rayuan dan kata-kata basi : “sayang, cinta, honey, dear, etc”, itu tidak berarti pria itu benar-benar mencintai anda. Bisa jadi karena ia hanya tertarik pada kelebihan yang anda miliki. Pria itu terlalu pengecut untuk mengatakan hal yang sebenarnya pada anda. Pria lebih baik jatuh ke dalam sumur daripada harus mengatakan kalau ia tidak tertarik pada anda. "He is just not that into you"

So girls, be realistic. Jangan pernah buang-buang waktu, pikiran, energi & hati anda untuk pria yang tidak benar-benar mencintai anda. Anda terlalu berharga. Anda luar biasa. Kalau ia tidak benar-benar mencintai anda, anggap aja ia yang rugi. Percaya dech, ada seseorang di luar sana yang selalu menatap anda dan menanti cinta anda.

PS: buku yang tepat di saat yang tepat.

update 28 Sept 2010. berasa "ketendang" lagi..sialan!!(less)

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Dec 29, 2010 Elizabeth Wallace rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: non-fiction

Eh, I wanted to hate this book. I dislike anything that the media (het hem, OPRAH) has picked up and run with and rammed down everybody's throats. I also hated the idea that, from what I heard, the author wants girls to be submissive, never make the first move, wait until the guy expresses interest, arrgh! Hated the idea, hate hate hate.

After I read it...I STILL hate it, but only because, in certain sections, the author's right. We all make excuses for why a guy we like doesn't sweep us off our...more

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Dec 03, 2007 Micah rated it 1 of 5 stars · review of another edition Recommends it for: someone who needs consoling, but no one who needs relationship progression

I like reading texts that are feminist in nature. I expected (hoped for?) a book that served to empower women in their relationships, a book that addressed historical deficiencies in the way women are culturally taught to function in relationships or the way that a woman may prevent a man from stifling her natural motion in romance. As a true feminist or pop-feminist text I wanted to feel that a woman, after having sifted through the pages, would be better equipped to dismantle cultural blockade...more I like reading texts that are feminist in nature. I expected (hoped for?) a book that served to empower women in their relationships, a book that addressed historical deficiencies in the way women are culturally taught to function in relationships or the way that a woman may prevent a man from stifling her natural motion in romance. As a true feminist or pop-feminist text I wanted to feel that a woman, after having sifted through the pages, would be better equipped to dismantle cultural blockades that prevent her from feeling complete latitude in a coupling.

Instead, I found a book that rallies women without suggesting a pathway that would lead to bona fide differences in their relationships with men. In fact, I found the text to be quite anti-feminist in its deeper doctrines. Rather than empowering women to promote real change in their relational positioning, it diminishes males into simplistic characters that emanate one of two relationship signals: I’m interested, or I’m not (but most likely I’m not). Doing so, more times than not, seems to cause women to opt out of relationships early on rather than deal with any uncertainty on the part of others.

It seems to me that the major fallacy of the book is its assumption that sex drives the man. Given this presupposition, perhaps the book is accurate—“he’s not that into you” could easily be replaced by “he’s transitioning to his next sexual conquest” and the book would make more sense. It makes more sense because sex is a yes or no thing. But if the reality is that men are searching for more than just sex and seek meaningful relationships, it seems difficult to accept the notion that a single indicator, such as phone call rates, can essentialize all that a man is thinking and feeling about a relationship. A relationship is not a yes or no thing. It is dynamic and develops over time. What may be scattered and uncertain at first can build into... a fortress of love, as Sting puts it.

I see the appeal—relationships are tough, and its therapeutic to gather around the warmth of an idea that consuls the heart. But it seems the book takes advantage of the realization that emotionally it’s easier to be out of a relationship that it is to be working in one, it’s easier to give up on a relationship than engage the complexities and uncertainties that come with falling in love—and in that, the book secretly delivers its hemlock.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about traditional notions of chivalry. It gives relationships momentum. But I think it is meant to be dynamic, and just because a guy is understand his feelings before moving along the commitment gradient, doesn’t mean that chivalry is lacking. That’s a totally incomplete thought, but it’s a bit tangential and this post is getting long...

The book is certainly fun and upbeat. I enjoyed its format and thought the authors did a good job at engaging their audience with familiar, quirky experiences to which any of us can easily relate. I was unintentionally entertained at many points too... I loved that the surveys included at the end of each chapter—the ones where 100% of the respondents agreed with the authors 100% of the time—were conducted by emailing a handful of the authors’ friends and asking them questions like, “Don’t you think it’s good for people to be happy?” and concluding “100% of respondents believe that if he’s a little bit grumpy after taking his med school finals, he’s just not that into you.”

I’ll be the first to admit that the text was not intended to be deep or really engage in feminist rhetoric—it’s actually an easy read and only took about an hour of one leg of my trip. But even as a pop-text, I think there’s opportunity to advance the position of women, or, at the very least, not detract from any momentum women maintain.(less)

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Jul 30, 2008 Rose rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition Recommends it for: every young woman...ever

Shelves: feminism, non-fiction, top-20

If loving this book is shallow, then I don't want to be deep.

It's a really fucking simple concept, and it's entirely encompassed in the title. In fact, I love how the title totally sounds like it's uber harsh. In reality, telling you that "he's not really that into you" is about the nicest thing someone can do to you!

This isn't high literature by any stretch of the imagination (take the cue from the bright fucking pink cover), but the concept is so important to young women that if I ever have a...more

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Jun 25, 2007 V. rated it 5 of 5 stars Recommends it for: people who date men.

Shelves: self-help

I think that no matter who you are, you're never too good for a low-brow self-help book. If you date men, you should read He's Just Not That Into You, because this book serves as a reminder to make sure you're being treated with the respect you deserve. After you read this book, you will save a lot of time you would have spent making excuses for some deadbeat.

The book's also written in a very humorous, breezy, and clear style. You can read it quickly but the advice will stick with you for many d...more

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Mar 10, 2008 Danielle rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition Recommends it for: any single girl, or any girl in a crappy relationship

Recommended to Danielle by: Oprah

Every single girl should read this book, and live by it! Its a book that states the obvious to us girls, but we are too wrapped up to actually see the situation for what it is......it is, being that 'hes just not that into you', Ive bought this book for a few of my single girlfriends, or gf's in crappy relationships.
It just makes sense. If he doesnt call you, he's just not that into you, period. seems to make complete sense. but how many of us sit around waiting for him to call?? lol
If he's not...more

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Jul 13, 2007 Melissa rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition Recommends it for: folks frustrated with dating

The title is off-putting. But the idea is simple: why waste one moment of your precious time on somebody who doesn't think you're the cat's pajamas? If s/he doesn't dig you like you deserve to be dug, drop him/her, stop wasting your time barking up a lame tree.

This book is empowering - it has become my post-breakup manual, and my copy has notes in the margins about each of the lovely gents who, alas, were just not that into me. (It's also been informative using the book like this because it help...more

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Feb 03, 2008 Anna rated it 5 of 5 stars Recommends it for: females

Recommended to Anna by: my friend Juliette

Shelves: self-help, nonfiction, chick-lit

For better or worse, I LOVED this book and do consider it to be life altering for me (okay, to an extent...). I realize it's been trash talked times ten in the media since it first came out but I do think it's extremely underrated.

I read it as a first year grad student and remember all these light bulbs going off in my head as I eagerly scanned the pages for information. As I read the letters and stories in the book, so much of my life started making sense to me! I started to see what I was doi...more

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Feb 13, 2008 PlatKat rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition Recommends it for: broken-hearted girls

Recommended to PlatKat by: April

It burns, it burns! I'm not talking about the truth... in that sense, this book confirms what I already know. It's just frustrating to read all these letters from women who have let such bullshit go on for so long, and Greg's response is pretty much the same every time.

Also, the book assumes you want a serious relationship. Personally, I don't. But I don't want to feel dicked around either. I assume that most women are smart enough to know the difference between dating around and getting played...more

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May 23, 2007 Kate rated it 5 of 5 stars Recommends it for: women

Shelves: nonfiction

My co-workered referred to Greg (the author) as my "patron saint," and, for better or for worse, he's right. Greg has become the voice in my head when it comes to guys, mainly because he's always right. I wish this book had been around when I was younger, though it has become very useful in my 20's.

This is a book I constantly pick up again, just to refresh my memory, and just to feel a little bit better when I'm feeling down ("Don't Waste the Pretty"). It's funny, it's honest, and it's always ri...more

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Dec 12, 2008 sal rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Sometimes I'm ashamed that I've read this book. ... But then, when I saw the preview for the new movie coming out, I gasped giddily and caught myself saying, "Oh! I love that book!"

So maybe my relationship with the book is like the relationships that are diagnosed in the book. Relationships in which one party (male) is sketchy and sometimes shows his affection but usually does not. I guess I wear the pants in this relationship...

If I was going to put it into one sentence, I would say that I'm...more

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Mar 04, 2010 e.c.h.a rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Recommended to e.c.h.a by: Roos

Shelves: non-fiksi, romansa, milik-sendiri, hadiah, sedang-dipinjam

Duduk termenung di bawah pohon rindang, memandang langit biru penuh dengan awan yang berarak-arakan. Merasakan angin lembut membelai jiwaku, menikmati anugerah Tuhan yang paling Indah bernama "CINTA"

ps: Mbak Roos mau duduk disebelah ku?

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Jul 20, 2010 Lesli rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: non-fiction, advice, self-help, 2004

While I don't necessarily agree with everything in the book, I get what the author is saying.

This slim, one hundred sixty-five page volume of humor, honesty, and tough love has given me an interesting outlook on relationships, men, women, and priorities.

Reading HJNTIY cracked me up as much as it opened my eyes. Just reading the introductions had me laughing out loud.

And sadly (and most embarrassingly), we [men:] would rather lose an arm out a city bus window than tell you [women:] simply, 'You'r...more

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Jun 26, 2012 Michelle rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: own

Where was this book when I was younger and dating?! This would have saved atleast a couple of tears over guys who did not deserve them. I might have acted a little less crazy as well. Just a little. But I must say there is a chapter I think they should have included, so I take it upon myself to add it here now. (sorry it is long)

He's just not that into you if he is gay

Because sweetie, he is gay.

Everyone wants to be loved and needed, especially by someone who is caring, who enjoys your company an...more

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Aug 10, 2011 owl rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: not-mine

ah kamuh, gak seru, greg. masa cuma cowok yang boleh melakukan apa saja setelah menemukan cewek yang diangan-angin-ingin-kannya supaya si cewek bertekuklutut . kalau cowok melakukan itu, persimu artinya he's into you. isshh, masa cewek cuma dijadiin objek cowok aja. lucu amat jadinya kalo kayak gini: setelah kencan, tiba-tiba cowok itu menelponmu, dan mengajakmu bertemu lagi. setelah menutup telepon, kamu berteriak kegirangan, jingkrak-jingkrak sambil teriak "yeaaa...aku terpilih..aku terpilih.....more

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Jun 18, 2009 Ann rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I listened to the audiobook, read by the authors. And it's pretty hilarious, if you go for the whole "this is how I am, therefore, every man is that same way, therefore you should always only behave like this" thing. I mean, that's some serious research right there.

At the same time, I mostly think Greg is right. Women believe they are getting mixed signals from men, when really, the only thing they need to understand is that the absence of the right positive signals = negative signals. Or, he's...more

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Feb 06, 2009 Amy rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: non-fiction

****Update***** No I didn't read the book again but I should have read my review last week. So I went to see the movie tonight. It was awesome! I wish I had seen the movie oh maybe a month or so ago, but then I wouldn't have learned what I needed to know. So now I know hope is restored and I am moving forward. P.S. this movie is good for a laugh, even if you are married. But I don't see the point in going to see it if you are married. Hmmm

Those of you that are married aren't you so grateful. Yo...more ****Update***** No I didn't read the book again but I should have read my review last week. So I went to see the movie tonight. It was awesome! I wish I had seen the movie oh maybe a month or so ago, but then I wouldn't have learned what I needed to know. So now I know hope is restored and I am moving forward. P.S. this movie is good for a laugh, even if you are married. But I don't see the point in going to see it if you are married. Hmmm

Those of you that are married aren't you so grateful. You can laugh at me and say I am so glad I am not there anymore. I even laugh at myself, it is the only way to get through sometimes.

I sort of read the book,I skipped a lot for example the chapters "He is just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he is drunk", and "He is just not that into you if he is not having sex with you", etc. I really didn't like most of the book, much of it didn't apply. Greg Behrendt has a vulgar mouth and is the epitomy of the stereo-typical guy. However he makes some good points and that is why I kept reading.

I did have some small aha's. I will not be calling guys and making excuses or rationalizing their behavior. There is not time for that. Nor do I want someone who is not 100% committed and willing to put forth the effort to have a relationship with me. Some of the info was a little freeing. I have heard various good men say that sometimes men need a little encouragement from women. I don't think that is true. Flirting yes, but pursuing no, I guess it depends on what they mean by encouragement. Greg says that men like to do the pursuing and they know how and if they are interested in you they will pursue. He is also a believer in dating not hanging out, which I completly agree with. He tries to uplift women telling them how "foxy" and awesome they are, I wanted to throw the book at him. Women are not sex objects, yes men tend to see them that way but that is not what makes us awesome. In that regard I am thankful for my religious beliefs. In those I can truly know what it means to be a woman.

The books is mostly questions and answers. Women write in their love situations and Greg basically tells all the women that the guy is really not interested. As I am reading the situations I laugh because some of the situations are so obvious. Why do we make excuses for these men. Are we really that afraid of being alone. So I am thinking that from the outside you can see more clearly. It is when you are in the situation that sometimes we are totally stupid when it comes to guys. Either that or the women that wrote to him are just in denial. In some ways it was funny. Most of it was just plain annoying.

I do have to say in some ways I wish I had been given this insigt a long time ago. I am grateful to have it now, and I will use it. Oh and if I get stupid will ya'll please remind me of that.

And Emily thanks, what I got from the book was worth it. No more wondering why the guys ask for a number when they really don't intend to call. I think we all know deep down. Honestly I wasn't that interested in him. That is probably why I said I was picky and controlling etc. Sometimes people just do strange things, myself included.

The end.(less)

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Jul 03, 2008 Lesley rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition Recommends it for: Nicole

So, I decided to read this book because the movie is coming out soon, plus a few of my friends have read it and while dishing about ex-boyfriends over lunch have often said to me "he's just not into you" and then told me to read the book. I wish I had done so earlier and not wasted so much time on "Mr. short and fat" the not-so-into-me lawyer that never called me, never made time for me but I was totally obsessed with him for over a year (although we only went on one date, and that was a date th...more

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Dec 06, 2007 Brianna Karp rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

There were some good points, I'll admit, although most of them were really big "common sense" ones - like, if he's a drunk and verbally abusive to you, or if he's cheating on you, he's not that into you and you need to leave him (well, um, duh.)

But the book takes all of the complexities of a relationship and distills them down to "if you don't get exactly what you want exactly when you want it, move on because he's not that into you". Men are dumbed-down, usually unfairly - "if he doesn't make t...more

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Jun 28, 2007 Tyler rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

As Greg says, guys will give signs when they're just not into the person. Some of the cases are fairly obvious to any but those involved while some can be a bit more complicated. But let's face it, if he's cheating on his wife with you, he's probably not that trustworthy. Some of Behrendt's suggestions are rather extreme though, such as the advice that if he doesn't call the day he promises to, get rid of him. The most interesting letters are those written by Nikki who clearly has horrible judge...more

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May 21, 2013 Katrina rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I read this book when I was about 19 and it gave me that moment were everthing I new about guys was thrown out the door! Reading this book is like a slap in the face and makes you feel guilty for all those embarrassing times you were watching your phone waiting for someone to call!
When really you should be out there doing things that make you happy, meeting the person who is going to call you and be there for you no matter what happens.

Having chased guys who I thought I was interested in, wasti...more

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Aug 09, 2008 Elizabeth rated it 1 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: 2008, non-fiction, reviewed

I suppose this is not the worst book I've ever read.

A friend of mine gave it to me after I (unknowingly) gave her the advice, I just don't think he's that into you. Apparently, this common sense is something that requires a whole book (or series of books now), a Sex in the City episode and...wait for it...an upcoming movie to get the point across. Doesn't it strike you just a little bit reprehensible that there is someone out there making money by telling women that sometimes one person will li...more

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Dec 07, 2007 Eszter rated it 1 of 5 stars · review of another edition

from this book, i learned that apparently, all 5473 dates i've gone on in the last half year, as well as the 623 people who i've gone on them with, have been completely worthless and i was stupid to think otherwise. just plain stupid!! an advisable future plan is as follows: i must wade through a sea of unworthy men at a steady rate of about five dates per week, allowing myself to take no action outside of accepting or declining their suggestions. sadly, they are all bound to not be that into me...more

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Feb 11, 2009 Elena rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I read this book a few years ago, after dating jerk after jerk. It helped wake me up to the part I was playing in allowing myself to be treated badly by jerks. It's the slap in the face every girl needs who ever made an excuse for a lame guy in her life. The book is split into sections that decode mysterious boy behavior, gives some real life examples, and tells how you should and should NOT deal with the scenario. It's sort of like having your best guy friend read you the riot act.
The movie ma...more

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Sep 05, 2007 Robyn rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

This book could not have come into my life at a better time -- college!!

By following some of the advice in this book, I was probably saved from more heartache than I even realize.

It's funny because everything in this book is stuff you "know," but it's easy to imagine the "what ifs." This book pretty much slaps you across the face with the realization that "what if" is worthless. When it comes to guys, there is no "what if"...it either IS, or it ISN'T.

A good read for any single lady!

2011:
Thought...more

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Feb 20, 2010 Courtney rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

What female doesn't want a look into the male mind? This is an honest, no-excuses look at men and their thinking about dating and relationships. The best part - its written by a man who wants women to honestly know when a man isn't interested and leading us on and is just "wasting our pretty". I read it over and over and always find jewels of wisdom.

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May 02, 2009 Samantha rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I loved this book! If you only take one message away from this book let it be this: You are beautiful, you are worthy of being loved. Greg and Liz provide many examples of what love does NOT look like and while their tales are used to teach, they also entertain. I would recommend this book to every woman on this planet as its big aim is to help inflate women's self esteem, but I'd also go so far as to recommend this book to EVERYBODY because I'm a pop culture fiend and I believe there is value t...more

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Mar 14, 2009 Elizabeth rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition Recommends it for: All Women

I wanted to read this book before seeing the movie, but seeing the movie first did not ruin the good advice of the book. Evidently, I needed to get the hint, so I sat down with a borrowed copy of the book to try and "change my life." (My friend who loaned me the book indicated that it had done that for her.) I have to say that I don't know that my life was changed by reading it. Honestly, it is all common sense. But, when it comes to matters of the heart, as women we rarely want to use our commo...more

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Jan 17, 2009 Shana rated it 4 of 5 stars

Quick read - only 150+ pgs - let's face it - this book was not intended to be some sort of deep psychological feminist awakening - if it were, it would not have a cutesy pink cover and it would have a lot more than 150+ pages and it would have been co-written by someone with a PHD. Please rate the book for it's intended purpose - a straightforward dating guide for the single woman. If you are happily married, skip it and move on OR read it and remind yourself to be exceptionally grateful for the...more Quick read - only 150+ pgs - let's face it - this book was not intended to be some sort of deep psychological feminist awakening - if it were, it would not have a cutesy pink cover and it would have a lot more than 150+ pages and it would have been co-written by someone with a PHD. Please rate the book for it's intended purpose - a straightforward dating guide for the single woman. If you are happily married, skip it and move on OR read it and remind yourself to be exceptionally grateful for the guy you chose to entitle "husband." My two favorite lines from Mr. Behrendt are "Don't waste the pretty" and "I chose love the verb, not the noun." If Mr. Behrendt were to write 150+ pgs about how the woman he chose to marry inspired him to actually take the plunge and get married, I don't think it would hold the attention of a single woman for all that long, do you? It's intended audience is SINGLE, remember? Instead, he and Ms. Tuccillo chose to select a "dear Greg" format using the most common of excuses single women use to delay the inevitable in less than desirable relationships. You get out of a relationship what you are BOTH willing to put into it. So if there's only one willing participant, move on. I think the authors did a great job of driving this point home, keeping it brief, keeping it engaging, and keeping it real. Ms. Tuccillo's responses to Greg's advice have echoed the sentiments of ladies I have personally met, both professionally and personally. Her "I've been there" attitude helped to soften Behrendt's sharp advice and made the material all that much more relatable. BTW, this is certainly not my "type" of book to read, but I read it b/c a single friend mentioned she really enjoyed it and there's a movie out now...with actors I admire....so what the heck I figured...let this 30-something, 15+ year married, 10+ year mom, read a book that has nothing to do with her life at the moment. Sure I sped-read quite a few pages, but nonetheless, let's not discredit something just because it doesn't represent our current stage in life at the moment.(less)

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Jan 15, 2009 Karin rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

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This self-help, relationship, how to understand guys type book was put together by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo who both worked on projects for the HBO TV series, Sex and the City. Behrendt's basic premise is that much of the bewildering behavior displayed by men can be explained by the fact that they may just not be into you (you being the female counterpart in the quote unquote relationship), and they're too wimpy/lazy/insert some other word here to tell you that.

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Gregory Behrendt is an American stand-up comedian and author. His work as a script consultant to the HBO sitcom Sex and the City, starring Sarah Jessica Parker, paved the way for co-authoring of the New York Times bestseller He's Just Not That into You (2004), later adapted into a film by the same name. Apart from that he also hosted two short-lived talk shows, The Greg Behrendt Show (2006) and Gr...more

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“Here's something else to think about: calling when you say you're going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can't lay this one stupid brick down, you ain't never gonna have a house baby, and it's cold outside.” — 592 people liked it

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