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The Mother in Me: Real-World Reflections on Growing Into Motherhood

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Motherhood is one of the most transforming experiences of a woman's life- an exhausting, exhilarating, extraordinary journey. This collection of writings speaks to every mother's heart as it celebrates the season of motherhood, illustrating its unique challenges and delights, and revealing its deep significance. Some of the selections are humorous, some thoughtful, some po ...more
Hardcover, 256 pages
Published September 17th 2008 by Deseret Book
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Written by a group of smart, articulate and thoughtful women who write for Segullah Magazine and Blog Segullah, The Mother In Me compiles essays and poems whose topics cover pregnancy, miscarriage, infertility, birth, the loss of a stillborn (I wept), parenting special needs children, and several on the challenges of being a mother to small children.

I think this book is best read in small doses - first, because each essay has its own feeling and message to experience and second, because after re
Mar 05, 2009 Anna rated it 3 of 5 stars
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I finished this about a month ago and wanted to write a whole long commentary about it. Here's the short version:

I found this book interesting because anyone finds interest in reading about other people in the exact same stage of life as them. I could relate to nearly all the tales. They pulled at all my vulnerable heartstrings. And that was its downfall as well. I realize this book was tailored for and written by a very narrow demographic (young Mormon writer mothers), but I really wish they co
Jun 02, 2009 Becca rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Becca by: McKell
So I can't decide if it was wise for me to read this so soon after giving birth myself. I thought the stories were just beautiful, though some were so sad they scared me. I made the mistake of bringing this to read in public once and ended up just crying in front of people! Guess I'm still a little emotional and hormonal.

The real treat was that the stories were so well-written, the voices strong and calm and easy to read and relate to. And I definitely picked up on some universal motherhood expe
I have wished at times to drop my children in the arms of the next person who tells me to cherish this time when they are young and run away laughing maniacally. Haven't you?

I found in this book the voices of women who understand how I feel, and have no goal other than to express their experience--in as real a voice as possible. They didn't preach, and they were not negative, just real about the challenges of pregnancy and meeting the needs of babies and toddlers.

Not only were they expressing t
This book was full of essays on motherhood. The style of all the essays (I didn't completely finish so this review is based on the first half) are all very flowery and poetic -- like something you would see entered into an essay contest where all the winners were english majors. Every essay focused on becoming a first-time mom so really this book wasn't that thrilling to me. Don't get me wrong, motherhood is a beautiful thing but I'm not the type of person that seeks out writing on the joys and ...more
I normally hate books about motherhood and parenting because they come off as condescending or guilt-inducing when I read them. But this collection of essays from women was uplifting and encouraging. It even made me feel nostalgic about pregnancy, which I thought would never happen!
Angie Taylor
One of my favorite people gave this book to me for mother's day not knowing that we had just had our baby. I didn't think I would have time to read it at first, but nursing is a great time to read. It is a collection of different mother's writing about their experiences of growing into motherhood whether with accounts of being pregnant, miscarrying, adopting, or just the craziness of finding yourself among the business of taking care of children. I loved the stories and was moved by the honesty ...more
I liked the way this book helped me think of what my own essay on motherhood is. The definition of my mothering role and the storyline I thought my own life would take was turned about last year when our fertility doctor gave us .1% chance of having another child on our own. This book has stories from every different angle of motherhood and stories from the good and bad, fertile and infertile, adpoted.. This book has inspired me to actually put my thoughts and my story on paper.
Short stories on motherhood...perfect for the busy mom or mom-to-be because each story is just a couple of pages (or less for the poems). Covers many aspects of motherhood, including adoption, infertility, and miscarriage. I just wish they included more from working mothers...I don't think any of the women worked after having children and working outside the home is an aspect of motherhood for many.
I loved some of these essays... there were ones that were 5 stars, but others I didn't connect with as much. I think that's the point with this book- there is something for everyone.
I loved most of this book. The mothers all wrote from their own personal experiences and there was much that I could relate to. I did feel there was an almost-constant theme of "look at all the sacrifices I made" that almost overwhelmed the smaller, quieter message: "but it was worth it." Some of the essays were very "Me" centered on how hard it is to be a mom, how smart (or talented) they were and how much they had sacrificed for mothering. I would never give this book to a new, young mom becau ...more
I finished the book, but I wish I was still reading. Sigh. I loved it! It was perfect! I read it slowly so that I could really *take in* each essay or poem. I found myself thinking about most of them even days later. I want to be a better Mom. I want to sneak into my little boy's room right now and snuggle with him in bed and just take everything in - his smell, the sound of his steady breathing, his perfect face, his soft skin. But I also want to do the same while he's awake - just take everyth ...more
A collection of essays and poems about the process of becoming a mother, and the change of identity that goes along with it.

Ok, first of all a disclaimer: The essays and poems in The Mother in Me were written by women associated with the literary magazine Segullah, and as the Assistant Features Editor, I already had lots of respect for the authors.

But I have lots more now. In the beginning the women of Segullah made me want to be a better writer. Then they made me want to be a better Christian.
Inspired Kathy
Nov 10, 2008 Inspired Kathy rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: all mothers
Recommended to Inspired Kathy by: I got it from the Time Out For Women BookClub
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book. It is a compilation of essays and poems on motherhood. I could so relate to almost all of the essays! I'm not really a poetry fan but there were a couple good poems thrown in along with some that were a little bizarre.

Here is an excerpt from an essay I really enjoyed by Heather Harris Bergevin:
I still have my own questions about being enough. I'm still disabled. I'm still woefully lacking in housekeeping skills. I'm not very good at crafty things, and I re
My out of town sister had me get this from the library for her, then I read it afterward. I thought the first two entries (counting the forward) were silly, long and boring, but after that I like most of them. I really liked the third stories (second story as far as numbering goes) about the woman who didn't expect to be a stay at home mom and didn't start out as one, and often felt bad that she didn't hold up to being as good as a prophet's mother. Yes I could relate to all that. I also appreci ...more
I enjoyed these stories, especially the ones I could relate to. But I can always do without the assumption that everyone has or will at some point experience pregnancy. Favorite lines:
"Motherhood, I now know, means continual rounds of beginning" (4).
"Did Eve pause in her purposefulness when she realized the known world of her peaceful garden was now nonexistent, that in choosing family, she chose to become part of the wildness of creation" (10)?
"Is this what it feels like to be a mother? To nev
I finished this book a couple of months back and have been selfishly holding onto it instead of returning to Joh. I initially resisted this book because (among other things) a) I am generally suspicious of LDS writing finding it usually too saccharine for my taste and b) I am deeply insecure about my mothering abilities.

Once I picked it up I read it quickly and was enriched by the experience (there, is that too saccharine for you?). Rather than glossing over motherhood in all its dimensions (fer

Motherhood is complex, yet simple. It is exhausting, yet rewarding. It is heartbreaking, yet joyful. It is life changing and fulfilling.

This collection of poems and essays will leave you full of the joys of mothering but understanding there are days of sorrow. Cry, laugh, nod in agreement, and be grateful you aren’t alone. These stories will bring that to the forefront.

Anyone who has been a mother, who has yet to become one, who is in the throes of day to day parenting,
I've always enjoyed reading the essays I found on but there's nothing like having a good book to curl up and read over and over again. I think this is a great book for EVERY mother to read, regardless of whether you are LDS or not. It gives you a little peek into the mind of an LDS woman, and helps explain why we do crazy things like have 5 children, lol! The stories will touch your heart. They did mine as I sat nodding with affirmation and understanding, or crying tear ...more
This book has been sitting on my dresser for several weeks. I was looking at the "clearance" books at Deseret Book and found it foe $2.99. I vaguely remembered reading about on some websites and thought it was worth picking up. I'm so glad I did. The other day I stuck it in the car figuring that since it was essays, it would be perfect to read when I am waiting to pick up at pre-school or piano lessons. I started reading it today while I was waiting at pre-school, read through baseball practice ...more
This is an absolutely beautiful, touching book. It is an anthology of 43 stories and poems by 29 authors who each belong to the editorial staff of Segullah: Writings by Latter-Day Saint Women. You'd think that because they all work together, they may all have a too-similar flavor in their writing, but not at all. I didn't love every piece of writing, but there were several that really appealed to me. Some of them really made me laugh. Several made me tear up with genuine emotion. One even made m ...more
This is one of the most satisying, beautiful books I have ever read. All of the writing is excellent. As I regretfully end the phase in my life encompassed by this book, I am grateful to feel as though it is somehow preserved through these writings. Each essay resonated so deeply with me and brought back such poignant, detailed memories of the painful, joyful experiences I have had since finding out I was expecting my first baby. I know that whenever I am missing those breathtakingly sweet yet d ...more
2.5 stars. I wish I'd liked this more. I understand why others liked it so much, but it just wasn't for me. I wasn't a huge fan of the poetry and the essays didn't grab me. I wasn't able to relate to a lot of them, plus I didn't love how flowery some were.

I was expecting the book to feel like a collection of my favorite blog posts on motherhood, but that wasn't the case. Instead it felt like a collection of "okay" blog posts that I'd like when I read them, but that I wouldn't feel compelled to
A good collection of essays and poems regarding things that you could potentially face as a young mother. I was a little disappointed that they didn't have any reflections on parenting older children, but overall the book was good. I felt like they could have done without the poems, most of them were so strange that I didn't even begin to try to understand them and simply quickly read over them, thought to myself about how strange they are and then moved on to the next essay. There were many tou ...more
I have read this book several times; I cannot believe I haven't added it to my list before now! I LOVE this book of essays and poems on "growing into motherhood!" Written by moms who also write for the Segullah magazine/website, this book offers touching and humorous reflections on pregnancy, birth, miscarriage and stillbirth, infertility, raising little ones, watching them grow, and more. I feel like these ladies have given voice to feelings I cannot put into words, and I have also learned much ...more
I liked this book, the stories were very good...but now I am scared. All the stories were about how awful being a mom was and then they found faith and God and blah blah they knew they were doing the right thing and continued on.

I am thinking this book is like all of the marriage books I read before I got married: By the time I was done I thought I would wake up the morning after and magically hate the person I was married to. Nothing could have been further from the truth!! I wish someone (jus
May 2010 - Like any book of essays, this is hard to rate. I've been reading Segullah for years (and was published there myself last fall!) and so was excited to find that this book - published by the Segullah staff - was at my library. I wasn't disappointed, exactly, but I didn't think it measured up to the standards of a creative nonfiction essay collection... some of the essays were brilliant and beautifully written, but some of them sounded more like journal entries or blog posts. The poetry, ...more
Feb 14, 2009 Margaret rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: latter-day saint mothers and mothers-to-be
One of my favorite things is girls night out! I just love talking to friends and hearing their motherhood stories. Full of well-written short stories by latter-day saint mothers and mothers-to-be, this book was like having a series of very enlightening and touching conversations with your mom friends. I enjoyed them all! I read about moms dealing with toddlers, new babies, infertility, adoption, miscarriage, discipline issues, and insecurities. And each has left me with a significant nugget to p ...more
Beautifully written essays that cover many topics regarding being a mother of small children. I found myself more inspired by the writing than by the actual words sometimes (if you can even dare to separate them), and some of the essays left me with much to think about. I generally don't like to read books like this because I have a terrible filter when it comes to picking and choosing good ideas - I feel I must try them all and consequently get overwhelmed. And this book gave me a little of tha ...more
A collection of personal essays and poems about mothering young children. Each chapter is a different author and I was struck by the thought that all these women (and I) have different backgrounds, different strengths and weaknesses, and different perspectives, but we all have the same job. We all struggle with the job description sometimes and all have experienced tears and laughter in the same moment. None of the poems really spoke to me, and some essays I definitely connected with more than o ...more
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