Do They Hear You When You Cry

Do They Hear You When You Cry

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For Fauziya Kassindja, an idyllic childhood in Togo, West Africa, sheltered from the tribal practices of polygamy and genital mutilation, ended with her beloved father's sudden death.Forced into an arranged marriage at age seventeen, Fauziya was told to prepare for kakia, the ritual also known as female genital mutilation.It is a ritual no woman can refuse.But Fauziya dare...more
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Published January 12th 1999 by Delta (first published March 9th 1998)
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Amanda
Nov 23, 2008 Amanda rated it 5 of 5 stars Recommends it for: human rights kids, women's rights kids
Shelves: read-in-2008
This is one of those stories which, if it were fiction, it would be totally unbelievable. It's the story of a young Togolese woman who flees Togo to escape an arranged marriage and genital mutilation, only to get trapped in the immigration system upon arriving in the US.

As I was reading this book, I would have given it four stars- the writing could have been more concise and there were some stylistic things that I didn't like. But by the end, I was so heartbroken and angry for Fauziya that to r...more
Katie
Jan 14, 2008 Katie rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Katie by: Becky
This book made me really interested in the process of claiming asylum. I've never thought much about asylum, but reading a personal account of someone suffering through the process really made me more interested in learning more about those seeking asylum. i went through a phase of reading a lot of books written by and about people in prison, all of which have been depressing to read, but her story added a whole new dimension. she had to suffer all of horrible things that happen in prison withou...more
S'hi
Jan 23, 2012 S'hi rated it 4 of 5 stars Recommends it for: Human Rights Lawyers, Community Workers, Refugee Workers
A harrowing story of one young girl’s journey into womanhood, which reflects the tragedy in the lives of many girls throughout Africa. Covering the unusual freedoms of a family background which allowed her four older sisters to marry men of their own choosing, Fauziya explains how everything went wrong for her when her beloved father died while she was away at boarding school in Ghana as a 16 year old student. Although this is one woman’s story, right from the beginning the backdrop of others’ l...more
Patti
It took me a while to get throught his book. Fauziya is very detailed about her journey, not leaving out details about her traumatic experience, even giving detailed background stories about her legal representation.

One of the most striking things about this book is that Fauziya is about the same age as me, so I kept thinking about what I was doing when she was going through everything. On the Travel Channel, you can watch shows about being "Locked up Abroad" which show the horrible conditions i...more
Dana
Fauziya Kassindja grew up in Togo, Africa in a privileged setting. Her father did not believe in the tribal practices of polygamy and Female Genital Mutilation (FMG). Fauziya's father died suddenly and she was pulled out of school and put into an arranged marriage as a fourth wife and then told to prepare herself for FMG.

Kassindja's sister went against her own husband to save her sister and help her to escape the country. But escape to what?

Kassindja ended up going the the US and applying for as...more
Chelsea
I read this book several years ago and was reminded of it when I read "Little Bee" by Chris Cleave. It is the amazing and sad story of the first woman to seek political asylum in the USA to avoid female circumcision in her native land o Togo. It will make you sad, angry at the system, and have you rejoicing in the power and courage of the human spirit by the end. A powerful read for anyone.
Jan
An excellent, thought-provoking read - the story of Fauziya Kassindja and her flee from Togo to escape forced polygamous marriage and female genital mutilation. She was the first case of Layli Miller Bashir, who founded the Tahirih Justice Center for immigrant women fleeing gender-related violence. Heartened by the goodwill and love shown by complete strangers to this young refugee, and immensely saddened by the heartlessness and even cruelty of the system and some of those who work within it, I...more
Susan
Mar 03, 2010 Susan rated it 4 of 5 stars Recommends it for: Jen & Tiffany
Recommended to Susan by: I read about in on Amazon.com
This is the true story of an African girl, Fauziya Kassindja, who sought asylum in America to escape FGM (female genital mutilation) and an arranged marriage to a man 30 years her senior. Her family were devout Muslims, but her parents were more traditional and opposed FGM. Because her father was well-to-do he was able to protect Fauziya and her sisters from this practice. When her father died, Fauziya, who was only 17, was put on an airplane and sent to Germany to escape. She had only a suitcas...more
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(FROM JACKET)For Fauziya Kassindja, an idyllic childhood in Togo, West Africa, sheltered from the tribal practices of polygamy and genital mutilation, ended with her beloved father's sudden death. Forced into an arranged marriage at age seventeen, Fauziya was told to prepare for "kakia", the ritual also known as female genital mutilation. It is a ritual no woman can refuse. But Fauziya dared to try.

This is her story-told in her own words-of fleeing Africa just hours before the ritual "kakia" was...more
taaza
I was really blown away by this book - in fact, I think it is one of the best, if not the best - that I have read yet this year. An African girl of 17 years of age tries to get political asylum to escape "kakia" or FGM as she flees Togo by way of Germany and then the U.S. This was a painful but incredible description of her ordeal in prison and finally the legal difficulties endured as her legal team worked day and night trying to get asylum granted. Fascinating and absorbing, a must-read for wo...more
Julie Suzanne
Fauziya courageously escapes the horrible fate that awaits her--a prison constructed by culture and tradition. She hopefully seeks political asylum in the U.S., and her nightmare actually begins as she's bound in a prison of steel, brutality, and bureaucracy. I read this candid autobiographical story in one night, and I'm not a speed reader! It's suspenseful, depressing, and thought-provoking. Fauziya has a lot to show us about culture, human rights, the nonsensical & hypocritical politics...more
Victoria Law
This is a first-hand account of what happens inside the women's section of an immigrant detention center (or the sections of a state prison or local jail that receive money from the INS to cage immigrants). The account is clearly written and the descriptions are horrifying. Either Kassindja or the person who helped her write the book also included facts and stats that put some of these horrifying realities into the context of racism (e.g. Kassindja had assumed that, because all of the immigrants...more
Ruby
Jan 17, 2012 Ruby rated it 5 of 5 stars Recommends it for: Absolutely everyone
This book should absolutely be required reading in the western world. Absolutely appalling that immigrants are treated as criminals (and worse because under US law they officially have no rights). This is a devestating story, and I'm glad that Kassindja had the strength to tell it. I want to buy several copies of this book and hand them out to people.


One of the most striking statistics in the book was how 50% of illegal immigrants that come to the US are from caucasian countries (such as Poland...more
Evelyn
An incredible story of courage. Fauziya, fifth daughter of a wealthy and influential family in Togo found her life changed after the death of her father. Kakia (female genital mutilation) is practiced in Togo but her older sisters had been protected from it because of her father. When he died, she lost her protection and the authority in the family when to his sister who had never approved of Fauziya's mother. The aunt sent Fauziya's mother away and arranged a marriage for Fauziya to an older ma...more
Carol
This book is the story of Fauziya Kassindja, a woman from Togo who fled to the United States to seek asylum.
The first part of the book describes Fauziya's life in Togo as part of a large loving devoutly Muslim family. She is especially attached to her Dad. Her parents are both forward thinkers and did not choose to have any of their five daughters face kakia or female genital mutilation. They also permitted their daughters to choose their own husbands and marry for love. In Togo marriages are...more
Caroline Alicia
Jan 21, 2011 Caroline Alicia rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: people curious about INS
For some reason,Fauziya's story wasn't resonating with me once she got to America. Hate to sound like coldblooded scumbag. I just found myself frustrated with her. She call yell at her distant cousin and lawyers over the phone, but she finally gets her hearing and she acts like she's a deaf mute or something? I can totally see her POV but I can understand why her story sounded incredulous as well. I think the major thing that bothered me is how Ok some people are with being ignorant on the facts...more
Janaya
It's about a young 18 year old who suffers in her effort to escape female genital mutilation, tribal law, and then the horrible American justice system (whose policies regarding "illegal" immigrants are so ambiguous and in need of revision that it's ridiculous). Not only is this story about great adversity, and the strength of hope, it's about incredible, unbreakable faith and the love of God.
I loved it! It's long, but I read it in less than a week. It's a novel that makes you want to go back an...more
Cassandra
Dec 06, 2007 Cassandra rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: anybody who loves a good ending
I bought this book from Luga Airport in Malta on my European trip because it was one of the cheapest on the shelf,I needed something to fill my time and stick to my budget! I opened the book to find one of the most amazing stories I've ever read. The courage of this girl from the small African nation of Togo is truly inspiring and makes you value your own fortunate life.
Fleeing from female genital mutliation and an arranged marriage to a man twice her age and with three wives already living with...more
Dodie
Feb 04, 2011 Dodie rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Dodie by: Elly
I didn't find this a particularly well written book but that seems irrelevant when you think about what the book is actually about. Anyone who buys into the fear and propaganda politicians and the media try to instil in us about 'boat people' and 'illegal immigrants' should read this.

A true story about a woman who flees Africa because of polygamy and genital mutilation only to find that the way she's treated in the US by their government is a hundred times worse than what she was running away fr...more
Tiffany
I personally was more interested in her personal journey and life in Togo, and the book spent more time focusing on the broken legal & INS systems of the US so had I been prepared for that and expecting it, I would have given it a five. Very interesting, heartwrenching, and eye-opening account to consider putting yourself in someone else's shoes as you contemplate their journey into becoming an "illegal immigrant." (please note the quotes).
Katrina
An AMAZING gut-wrenching story, I could not put it down and I couldn't stop crying. I really felt for this girl, as if I had gone through it with her. Its always eye-opening and earth-shattering to hear how common her trials and tribulations are. I'm sure a lot of women have been through times of oppression or feeling trapped or forgotten by society; everything she goes through and how strong she was from beginning to end is truly inspiring
Eliane L
The autobiography of Fauziya Kassindja, the first woman to successfully be granted asylum in the US on the basis of gender-based persecution. Kassindja tells her story of fleeing forced FGC and polygamous marriage in Togo, only to be imprisoned in disastrous conditions in the US for sixteen months before finally being freed in a landmark decision. The writing is simple and non-literary, but the story remains poignant.
Lynda
It has been quite some time since I read this book but I still recall the force of how it impacted me. More than anything else on the topic of female genital mutilation that I've read this one made me reconsider the political implication as well as the horrific personal consequences of the practice. The writing could be better, but the story definitely held my attention and informed me in some important ways.
Sarah
I started out this book wondering how they were going to fill 500 pages with this young woman's story. But, she writes going back through her childhood, explaining her country (Togo), customs, culture, and faith. It's a very important piece to understanding her story, as well as how it impacts her process of seeking asylum in the US. This is a good glimpse into the asylum process in the US and how it has developed; all told through her story. I was quite surprised to find out that it wasn't unti...more
Violet Crush
I picked this book up because it was about an African girl and honestly I did not expect much from it, mostly because I had never heard of this book before. I ended up loving this book. It's about a young girl who runs from her home and ends up in America as an illegal immigrant. The story follows her struggle to stay in a foreign country and make them understand the difficulties and the dangers she would face if she is sent home. She also spends some time in the refuge prison.

Turns out this was...more
Amanda
As I was reading Fauziya's account of her desperate fight for freedom, I kept wondering how different our country's or the world's response might be if millions of young boys were forcibly castrated as part of their tribal and cultural rituals. Would the world look blindly upon them and dismiss their cries as it does to powerless girls and women? Doubtful!
Jennifer
This is an amazing story of a young woman is is thrust into the U.S. immigration system. She comes from Africa in hopes of beig granted asylum without knowing that she will have to overcome mutiple obstacles before she can win her case. This book is the reason I realized I was interested in knowing more about immigration & asylum law. & it is a quick read.
Tisha Carter
I thought that this book was wondrful! Poor Fauziya, she thought that escaping her country and tribal laws and tradition to come to America, land of the free would be safer for her only to find out that it's not what it seems. But at the end she learns that her personal experience is not what the real America is all about and that there is good people in this country who were willing to sacrafice for her true freedom.
Michele Duncan
This book will certainly make you ANGRY! Although there are perfectly legitimate reasons why we as a country need to be concerned about illegal immigration, but when we forget (or decide not) to provide even the basics of human rights, it is time to re-evaluate. Although some reviews claimed this book was too long, I disagree completely. Is it long? Yes, but the length of the book helps to paint a picture of the endless days and nights Fauziya spent in American prison, stripped of her dignity, h...more
Terry
Just finished the excellent "The Visitor" (definitely an Oscar-worthy performance by Richard Jenkins. I may or may not have fallen a wee bit in love.), which reminded me of this excellent--though upsetting and enraging--book. Worth a read, certainly. I can only hope the changing of administrations in Washington will make these stories... stop.
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