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The Love Dare

4.37  ·  Rating Details ·  43,776 Ratings  ·  479 Reviews
Too many marriages end when someone says I ve fallen out of love with you or I don t love you anymore. The Love Darediscusses how these statements reveal a lack of understanding about thefundamental nature of true love. The Love Dare is a40-day guided devotional experience that will lead your heart back totruly loving your spouse while learning more about the design, natur ...more
Imitation Leather, 224 pages
Published January 1st 2009 by B&H Books (first published January 1st 2008)
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The movie that this book was birthed out of, Fireproof, starring Kirk Cameron, was amazing!! My husband and I both enjoyed it more than any movie we have seen in a long time. It was so nice to see a clear moral and Christian message for a change, rather than the filth that fills our eyes and ears on a daily basis. We ordered the book before we even saw the movie and were so glad that we did! We are not through the entire thing, but I highly recommend both the movie and the book for any one who i ...more
Feb 28, 2009 Yoby rated it it was amazing
Shelves: marriage
From the cheesiest, most powerful movie I ever loved, the 40 day love dare. I am on Day 27, and I am flunking my way through this book. This one is a good spiritual practic of a king not much in vogue - ministering to your spouse, because just like firemen don't abandon their partners in a firestorm, you don't abandon your spouse in a firestorm.

I have a friend in a recovery group who says "some days you stay married one day at a time just like you stay sober one day at a time." This is a book t
Cherlynn Bennett
Jan 20, 2013 Cherlynn Bennett rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
it honestly takes 2 people to make a marriage work. doing all the items in this book did not save my ten year marriage because the substance from both sides wasnt there to save. since my marriage ended after catching my ex and sister in bed and her burning down my house, I'd say my marriage wasnt "fireproof", but heres the kicker because I put into practice these lessons, I had no regrets in leaving my ex cause I did all I could to save the marriage in the 6 months before the fire and I learned ...more
Mar 02, 2011 Annette rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I am on Day 29 Love's Motivation

When God is your reason for loving, your abitlity to love is guaranteed.

The love that's demanded from you in marriage is not dependent on your mate's sweetness or suitability. The love between a husband and wife should have one chief objective: honoring the Lord with devotion and sincerity. The fact that it blesses our beloved in the process is simply a wonderful additional benefit.
May 16, 2009 John rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I worked through the 40 Dares in this book over the last month and a half, and it completely changed the way that I look at my spouse.

I have always loved her, but now I have found a better way to love her.

A very powerful dare asked me to visualize two rooms in my heart (one APPRECIATION and one DEPRECIATION) for my spouse. It asked me how often I go in the APPRECIATION room and how often I visit the DEPRECIATION room.

I made a three page list of things that I love about my wife, Nancy, and I gave
Jan 14, 2009 Kim rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
So far--EXCELLENT. This movie was EXCELLENT. Thank you Stephen Kendrick for creating this book. I am fortunate to be able to say that my husband and I have an excellent marriage, but in the 20 years we have been together there have been tough times, for sure. Now, with people we know doing destructive things in their marriages (speaking negatively about their spouses and to their spouses, rampant pornography, not prioritizing time with each other, etc.) marriages are not being nurtured and are f ...more
Feb 03, 2009 Adrienna rated it liked it
If you are married, and want your relationship to work out, this is the book to read. It speaks about Love, how God views love, and oneness--togetherness--and unity. It is a forty-day journey to see your spouse for who they are, who they have become, and who you love the most underneath God's leadership. God is the third thread in a marriage, there is a difference between a marriage contract and covenant with God. I take the covenant with God more so than marriage contract. I want to be married ...more
Jun 08, 2016 Emily rated it liked it
I have mixed feelings about this one. On the positive side, reading this book with my husband gave us a set time in the day to focus on our marriage through the lens of faith.
On the negative side (for me), the authors are pretty conservative, and some maddeningly old fashioned ideas of gender roles and the nature of men and women shine through in the writing.
If you can shake that off, or if you simply agree with their views, there are good ideas to be found about how to treat your loved one an
Kristine Hansen

It's taken me forever to get through this book, mostly because I wasn't ready for it.

Yeah, I'm being honest in my review. Go figure.

The first half was good. I did the challenges daily, and saw results. I saw more results than I ever thought possible. My husband was responding, hey even I was responding. The second half though...well it got harder. The Christian things, praying and making a commitment to God, that went ok. But the deeper commitments I wasn't ready for.

Finally I just gave up
Oct 31, 2011 Will rated it did not like it

I wanted to like this book and I know no book has all the answers when it comes to all relationships because each relationship is unique. This book is also split in 40 days of advice... it starts out as little things you can change or do to make your partner's life better and hopefully improve the bond between the two of you.

However about halfway through until the end it turns into "how to be a doormat". This becomes one big guilt trip and becomes very centered on men must always give in to thei
Joseph Wetterling
Mar 17, 2012 Joseph Wetterling rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: marriage
The accompanying movie, Fireproof, really hit home for my wife and I. We watched it together, and we saw ourselves in some of the scenes. After that, we worked through the 40 day Love Dare.

We found that working through it together, on the same day, made things more difficult. We both knew what "dare" the other person was on, and there was a sense of expectation that neither of us intended. "She's on day three today. I wonder where my present is?" That's the entirely wrong idea! (Sin does, indeed
May 26, 2014 Jayne rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is a really great book. Although a lot of people I know had this book on their shelves, none of them had actually worked their way through it or even read the first page. The reason? It's seen as a resource for when your relationship is in crisis.

I felt like I didn't really need to do this book but it turned out I was wrong.

It was very useful to have a challenge to complete. Some dares took longer to complete than others depending on my pride levels. I also really liked how simple and clear
Sherrie Conkel
Feb 07, 2009 Sherrie Conkel rated it it was amazing
The movie "Fireproof" starring Kirk Cameron is excellent and will help you relationship immensely. It is very anointed and has moved even the toughest guys I know to tears at the end. Very touching and inspirational.

The book that the movie is based on is called "The Love Dare" and it takes a lot of dedication and discipline to do, but, well worth every bit of the effort. I DARE You to try to make it through without blowing it! I dare you!

Sherrie Conkel
Chris Gamble
Jul 25, 2009 Chris Gamble rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I just finished this book today, and thought I'd talk a little about it.

The book The Love Dare was shown on the movie Fireproof. The movie is about a fireman who is struggiling through a failing marriage headed for divorce, when his father hands him a book. The Love Dare. The husband reads the book and takes the journey, finding love, happiness, and unity with his wife. It is a very inspiring and But the book is even more so.

I found this book while at the library. You see, I have
Oct 24, 2016 Patricia rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Christian married couples
I finished reading "The Love Dare," but this does not mean I followed instructions. This book is meant to be a 40 day plan for a husband and wife to take on a dare, a covenant to read, respond, journal, and put into practice with the goal of rekindling love and marriage. Since I embarked on reading this solo, on a Kindle, I did not fill out the journal entries or take the suggested actions. I wanted to read the book myself and form a conclusion as to whether it was well-written or likely to succ ...more
Mar 08, 2016 KrisTina rated it did not like it
Shelves: 2016
Let this be a testament to my newly formed book club that I read this book even though I hated it. But I did start watching the movie "Fireproof" starring Kirk Cameron that has somehow turned this "marriage devotional" book into a movie. The movie is so bad that it's good. I want to watch more of it - that's how bad/good it is. And maybe this book isn't bad if you are looking for a marriage devotional book - but I wasn't looking for a marriage devotional book and so . . . . but I can converse ab ...more
Jan 27, 2015 Harley rated it it was amazing
This book changed my life! A wonderful lesson in love. I read it in the hope of becoming the best wife to my husband and I got way more out of it than that. The descriptions of love as a choice and a commitment were beautifully portrayed with examples from the Bible. The biggest surprise was that somehow I was left feeling like before reading I mustn't have known the fullness of God's love for me. I have known God loves me for 25 years but something shifted as I read this and the reality hit me ...more
Jenny Peeples
Aug 24, 2014 Jenny Peeples rated it it was ok
I never saw the movie but I did read the book. It talks about how to work on your marriage in a way that would glorify God, however, I thought many of the views in the book weren't necessarily applicable to modern, daily life. I really was turned off by the 5 straight chapters in which the author tried to "save me". Don't get me wrong; there were many parts of the book that I used in my own marriage but I think, as with any self-help book, one should apply only what can benefit them. Every one h ...more
Tina Smith
Sep 24, 2011 Tina Smith rated it it was amazing
So far this book is great, it gives examples and dares that you have to try each day for 40 days, ti increase love and undestanding in your relationship, and I am happy to say my hubby is doing it with me, I read it aloud to him the night before and we do the dare the next day. Then it gives you a little area to write if during the day you felt like breaking the dare. It's really interesting so far.
Aug 19, 2010 Chris rated it really liked it
Wow, this really makes you take a good look at all the little things and what really matters to make an amazing marriage. It opens your eyes to the fact that it doesn't just happen. I enjoyed the spiritual center of the process the author drives you towards.
Karen Bell
Feb 14, 2016 Karen Bell rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is an awesome book. Read a little, live a little each day will learn more and more how to challenge yourself to love. Something to really take your time reading and living. Enjoy!!!
Dec 29, 2011 Celeste rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: counseling
I read and follow this book at least once annually. I find myself wanting to buy it and share it with all my married friends!!!
Dina Alexander
Feb 02, 2013 Dina Alexander rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: kindle
I saw the movie first and I cried during the entire movie. It was very realistic and beautiful.
Jul 09, 2013 Amy rated it it was amazing
Despite the semi cheesy movie that this book was born out of...this has to be one of the best marriage books we have gone through together. So glad it was recommended to us!
Lauren Hackbarth
Jul 31, 2012 Lauren Hackbarth rated it really liked it
I know this book is for couples, but my mother recommended it so I read it months ago and am now reading it a second time. I have three intentional purposes for reading it. The first is that I will marry at some indefinate time in the future and I want to be a partner and a godly wife and I don't think that it's wise to not prepare for that eventuality. I take marriage very seriously and I plan to have a wonderful marriage, but I realize that loving someone is as much a choice as it is an emotio ...more
Josh Olds
Dec 22, 2014 Josh Olds rated it really liked it
Shelves: marriage
QUICK HIT – Originally conceived as a companion book to the movie Fireproof, The Love Dare has found a life of its own and is transforming marriages.

I will freely admit that, unlike a lot of evangelical Christians, do not and have not fawned over the Kendrick brothers’ movies. Fireproof was a nice, small-budget Christian film with so-so acting, a rather preachy script, and some over-the-top sappy moments. It wasn’t a great film, but it was a film that knew its audience well and has been the most
Whether you are married, engaged or courting, this book is a must read. If you believe that you should love your wife like Christ loved the church and laid His life down for her, this book will give you guidance and practical application to love sacraficially. If you don't believe that, then you really need this book. What does it mean to say "Love perseveres" or "Love believes the best" and how do you demonstrate that in your relationship? What does it mean to say "Love keeps no records of wron ...more
May 22, 2013 Kate rated it it was amazing
Shelves: self-discovery
What a beautiful book!! Beautifully written in every way and full of some of THE BEST advice and wisdom I've ever read in a self-help book. I was introduced to this book after watching the movie "Fireproof" (which is also FANTASTIC) last year with my husband. I consider us to have a great marriage but we are only one year in and I am always up to read anything so I got it from the library. I took my time reading it because there are forty days of marriage advice given day by day and it's a lot t ...more
Yvette Gavin
Feb 21, 2017 Yvette Gavin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: done
Read this book with a group of sister-friends. I loved it because it has a strong focus on marriage but most of all, it focus on developing a stronger relationship with God. It's an excellent tool for spiritual development. Some of the ladies in my group found it hard to read/do, but I didn't. For sure, I 'll be using and recommending this book in my coaching sessions with couples. Love on!
Maria Elmvang
Nov 14, 2009 Maria Elmvang rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Nobody. Read instead.
This is a 2.5 star review.

A couple of years ago, I decided to do the 30 day challenge, and found it extremely satisfying. Somebody recommended this book to me as an alternative. I thought it sounded interesting, and got it out of the library about a month-and-a-half ago, deciding to read one chapter a day, and doing the challenges as they came.

It started out being very similar to the 30 day challenge, and I enjoyed following it (think my husband did too, even if he had no clue what was going on
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