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I'm With the Band: Confessions of a Groupie

3.67 of 5 stars 3.67  ·  rating details  ·  9,381 ratings  ·  487 reviews
Pamela Des Barres was the "Sweetheart of Rock," the reigning queen of L.A.'s wild music scene. A hopeful romantic and the ultimate star-chaser, she lived life in the fast lane. She is one of the warmest, wittiest women ever to kiss and tell--and now she tells everything! HC: Morrow.
Paperback, 280 pages
Published September 1st 1988 by Jove (first published June 1987)
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mark monday
the main thing that i remember about this book is the image of timothy hutton leaving a bathroom with a trail of toilet paper emerging like a banner from between his asscheeks. oh the humanity. this short bit acts as a capper on the basically contemptuous timothy hutton sequence. the tone throughout the rest of this sexual travelogue is less contemptuous and almost wry, deadpan. but if you are looking for any actual insight into the various celebrities, look elsewhere - this book is not for you. ...more
Genevieve
her description of paul mccartney's balls is priceless.
Sarah
I'm ashamed to admit I read this book, but it's nearing the end of the year, people, and I need to knock out the rest of my Gilmore Girls list! This book was horrible. Absolutely horrible. I came into it with high hopes. I was expecting it would be like "Almost Famous," and was excited to read about the real-life Penny Lane.

Nope. It was just gross. First of all, Pamela Des Barres can't write to save her life. She would throw in random quotes from rock songs (i.e. "Girl, we couldn't get much high
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Eileen
This book was unexpectedly inspirational for me in my formative years, I think because I hadn't heard of many women who managed to participate in the world of rock without losing their voices. Does that sound odd? It isn't when you think how many women are treated as accoutrements or decorations in that world. Pamela des Barres may have participated in that, but she did it on her own terms and created a unique and interesting identity.

This isn't a feminist text, but it isn't actually anti-femin
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Jim
When I started reading this one I expected that I would be in for a bunch of the same old sensationalist tripe that one would expect from a jaded ditch pig who has taken to sharing titillating tidbits of her past as a desperate last shot at fame and/or fortune. There is a bit of that here: in my humble opinion Pamela has the morals of a guttersnipe. Let's face it; she does drugs (and sells them)and drops her drawers for anyone who happens to be famous or has the remotest chance of becoming so. I ...more
Andy
The best rock books about the Sixties are ironically not written by the musicians themselves but all the people peripheral to the action, and Pamela Des Barres of the GTO's is one. I like the stories about the legendary Hollywood Teen Fair, the early glam rock days at the Continental Hyatt House and The GTO's. There's not a boring page in this one!
Mark Desrosiers
Miss Pamela is actually a fun, insightful writer (she calls her early bra-stuffing "bewitching fraudulence" for example), and little did any of the boys she bedded and fellated know that she'd use her experience to reframe rock history. Here, we begin with Captain Beefheart (after an interval in which she must write down Beatle Paul's name every time she farts) and go on to Iron Butterfly, the Byrds, the Doors (ugh), Frank Zappa (barf), the Flying Burrito Brothers, Led Zeppelin... um... Don John ...more
Kerstin
This was my bible for a long time. Despite how it is marketed, it is less name-dropping, gossipy chick lit and more the unapologetic, heartfelt diary of one teenaged girl's sexual awakening. Granted, this particular teenaged girl happened to find herself in circumstances vastly favorable to your run-of-the-mill, zitty-boy-next-door scenarios during said awakening, but still--it's a thoroughly engaging, lovely story. Involving penii of famous dudes.
Chantel McCray
"Miss Pamela" attached herself to absolutely anyone on the rock scene, so there is some good gossip here. She brags about her sexual exploits with Jimmy Page, Robert Plant, Jim Morrison, Mick Jagger, among many, many, many others. The narrative is interwoven with excerpts from her diary, the parts of the book I found it hardest to read. In them she just seems like such an insecure, immature idiot. Absolutely anything a musician would do, no matter how disgusting, degrading or idiotic, was "inspi ...more
Caitlin Constantine
I have so many thoughts about this book, I'm not even sure where to begin. Let me start with the fact that it was way enjoyable to read. Des Barres has a writing style that isn't terribly polished yet is very fun and enthusiastic and even has moments of literary brilliance. I can see why she was so drawn toward performing, because she's got the spark of an artist in her soul. And it's a very juicy read, with lots of sex with rock stars (which is exactly what you would expect from a book like thi ...more
Holly
This woman has a lot of interesting stories to tell and her writing was very easy to read. The 2005 version includes an introduction by Dave Navarro and he says that female readers will all be jealous of Pamela Des Barres. I think that's a dangerous assumption to make, considering she spends all of her time throwing away her dreams, being a dance escort, and can't find happiness without a man to give it to her. After a certain point I feel kind of bad for Pamela because she just non stop talks a ...more
Tlingit
So far I'm on page 11X. I'm wondering if I should keep reading this book. Up to this point this woman is one of the most annoying people I've ever read. If she were a teenager now she'd be writing things like: "OMG! Like really! His PENIS was so beautiful! HA!"
The details are lax. The book so far is like a hippy fantasy. I am continuing to read this in the hopes that this woman develops a brain and if not that then some kind of self esteem or whatever she needs to get a better hobby than just og
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Tatiana
Jan 27, 2008 Tatiana rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone who has stood in the front row, lost in the music, dreaming of backstage access
Recommended to Tatiana by: sucked in by the cover photo
This book was so great I plowed through it in less than 24 hours after getting it. Miss Pamela was a true rock n roll courtesan and glided with ease through the lives of legends like Frank Zappa, Jimmy Page, and Mick Jagger. At the heart of it all, she is a true super fan and she never "grew out" of the ability to go stark raving mad for a guy rocking out on a guitar. I could have done without so much of the straight-from-the-diary introspection, but it also made the memoir more accurate by gett ...more
Mary vO
Any book that involves knocking boots with Jimmy Page is alright by me. Always chose him over Robert Plant, myself.

Seems Ms. Des Barres didn't knock out nearly as many brain cells as she lets on, as this is a very densely detailed (down to Rod Stewart's outfits and Mick Jagger's half-smiles) account of her many summers of love. Best line: "I was turned inside out, pulsating with creamy pink desire for the most coveted hunk of drool material." Read the book to find out just who she was drooling o
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Janitag
I loved loved loved this book and the spirit of it.


Every chapter made me holler with laughter or grin to myself behind the pages. When I was a teenager, I always dreamed of a life as a groupie. Music is everything to me, still is, always will be and I am sad that the people who have brought so much to me will never know the amount of inspiration they have brought to my life. I was naive and in love with every possible rock'n'roller ever since I had my first favourite band as a little girl.


Pamela
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Gina M Jordan
I had a difficult time getting into this at first, it read like my 12 year old diary & was too self-centered and frothy, flighty to the extreme and made me remember those years of being on the rollercoaster of having my worth determined by whether I was wanted or valued by another, or not. Unfortunately for Pam Miller, she never seems to have learned to value herself, even when she's trying to convince us she has, her story tells the truth. Miller was a woman who had to be "in love" with jus ...more
Jeannie
Feb 16, 2012 Jeannie rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone interested in this subject matter, anyone wanting to be scandalized!
Shelves: i-own
I gave this book 4 stars because I really did like it but then again...... I really didn't. I'm so conflicted on how to review this book. I'm not sure how to describe the way Pamela writes, poetic at times, self fullfilling at others, plain out not understandable throughout most of it...she rambles a lot.

Still I have to say that I enjoyed this book because of the era.....the history of a place in time that will never be again. Rock n roll, hippies, free love, groupies, drugs, sex and all that wi
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Laurie
Very cool book. Pamela Des Barres, our groupie author, is a natural writer. Her style is delightfully explicit & sincere. But I didn't really read the book.

I only read the chapter on Jim Morrison. ;)

Here's a little teaser.

*******

"He clutched the microphone like it was a crucial part of his body and he moaned like he really meant it. He moved with the unnatural grace of someone out of control, grounded only by the fact that his feet happened to be on the floor. On top of all of this, he loo
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Brooke Everett
If given the opportunity, I would bang Mick Jagger in a heartbeat. So, naturally, I was super into reading the memoirs of the woman who had done just that. And it was young, beautiful, late 60s / early 70s Mick - all pillowy lips, shaggy hair, and the smallest ass on the planet.

I love listening to my parents' stories from this era; I've often thought I was born in the wrong time period. The music, the clothes, the new attitudes just bubbling up - it was an amazing time in America. My parents hun
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Anne
I wanted to read about the rock'n roll life from a woman's perspective after The Dirt, but reading this is like reading a girl's journal or teen magazine, only the boys are rock stars. And if I ever wondered: A girl's true dream & ambition is to marry and have kids. Only these husbands/fathers are rock stars.

So disappointed. Or to write in Pamela's style: Sooooo DISAPPOINTED. I can't believe she's pursued a career in journalism, this book is not well written. Maybe it's by choice, I just don
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Susie
This was a complete and utter train wreck of a book. The writing was horrendous, and if not for the subject matter, I felt like it was written by a 6th grader. The storytelling was shoddy and sloppy. I largely just felt sorry for the author. But despite all this, I could not put it down. Sleeping with either Jimmy Page or Mick Jagger would have been a life accomplishment, but Miss P slept with both of them; she had pseudo-relationships with both of them, among a number of others. She nannied for ...more
Melee
Mmm, salacious readings!

Or not.

This really wasn't as bad as I thought it'd be. Miss Pamela is frank, but not explicit. Actually, I debated for a while whether to read this or not, but I finally decided I would. It was all done in the name of research, though, so I'm glad it was relatively mild. (To get in the proper mindset for a story I'm writing, I am reading almost every sixties memoir/biography I find that looks interesting. Though let's face it, I'd probably end up doing that at some point
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Amy
Rounded up. I love this woman and I really love how unapologetically sexual she is. Sounds like she had a lot of fun for a long time, and this memoir would have been just as good if all the men in it were nobodies. That they're all rock stars just makes it that much juicier. Super fun book. (Thanks E!)
Ann
I read this book by the pool one summer - scandalous, slutty and impossible to put down. A groupie's memoir of backstage adventures with Mick Jagger, Jimmy Page, Keith Moon, Waylon Jennings, and Jim Morrison, among others. She traveled with Led Zeppelin; lived in sin with Don Johnson; turned down a date with Elvis Presley; and was close friends with Robert Plant, Gram Parsons, Ray Davies, and Frank Zappa. Warm, witty, and sexy, this kiss-and-tell–all stands out as the perfect chronicle of one of ...more
James
If you ever wanted to read the diary of someone who sluts it up with famous people then read something more interesting than this. There are about 10 pages of interesting content and the rest is just boring insights and justifications for slutting it up. My favorite part is when she tries to show the reader how she finally found true love in the end only to undo that ending by updating us twice with her failures in love and march into the arms of Christianity.
Alison
At one point, legendary groupie and author Pamela Des Barres is contemplating cheating on Jimmy Page with Mick Jagger. Nice work if you can get it.
Jessica
Underwhelmed. That is how i feel about this book. getting the opportunity to read the inside, private thoughts of others is only a luxury if said person has a brilliant mind and a great capacity for philosphical thoughts. Miss Pamela as she refers to herself often simply lacks this capacity. She publishes excerpts from her teenage, early twenties diaries which simply read as such, vapid, lacking self awareness, maturity or the aforementioned brilliance. In and of themselves wouldn't tank this bo ...more
Michelle
This book is a very interesting read and you can definitely hear Pamela's voice all the way through it. Half of me is in awe of the time she had with the most influential people rock through the 60s and 70s. She really did have the most amazing time, met the most awe inspiring people and lived the life I have always dreamed of. The GTOs weren't just groupies they were trail blazers and think of them as slags or not (depending on your liberal views or not as the case may be), they changed so many ...more
Surreysmum
[These notes were made in 1989:]. As one might expect, it's a bit flat and a bit flip. And, with Pamela, we have to wade our way through a fair number of semi-celebrities before we get to the meaty stuff about Keith Moon and Mick Jagger, neither of whom appears to have captured Pamela's heart. The men she fell for in a big way were names which may have been famous in the L.A. region, but a rock dilettante like myself has never heard of them, including Michael des Barres, whom she eventually marr ...more
Kerrie Woods
Vicarious thrills and spills abound!

A wonderful contemporary account, very easy to relate to and compelling - because it perfectly straddles the roles of both the fan and the insider. The memoir is amusing, a little trashy and feels stream-of-consciousness-y at times, all of which nicely reflect the crazy times hanging with Captain Beefheart, Love, Led Zep, The Doors, The Jimi Hendrix Experience, The Stones, Frank Zappa and the Mothers of Invention...

Des Barres is into her music first and forem
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Pamela Des Barres aka Miss Pamela (born Pamela Ann Miller on September 9, 1948) is a former rock and roll groupie, author, and magazine writer.

Des Barres was born in Reseda, California. Her mother was a housewife and her father worked for Anheuser-Busch and occasionally worked as a gold miner. She idolized the Beatles and Elvis Presley as a child, and fantasized about meeting and dating her favori
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