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The Attachment Parenting Book : A Commonsense Guide to Understanding and Nurturing Your Baby
Might you and your baby both sleep better if you shared a bed? How old is too old for breastfeeding? What is a father's role in nurturing a newborn? How does early attachment foster a child's eventual independence? Dr. Bill and Martha Sears -- the husband-and-wife, doctor-and-nurse team who coined the term "attachment parenting" nearly twenty years ago -- answer ...more
Paperback, 224 pages
Published
August 7th 2001
by Little, Brown and Company
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In our family, this is the definitive parenting book. Rather than extolling the virtues of being a wire-monkey Mama, and getting your newborn/infant to adapt to *your* busy life, Dr. Sears gently shows that it's OK to listen to your parenting instincts. Hold your baby...breastfeed your baby...sleep with your baby...and by all means, pick your baby up when she cries!
In a culture that prizes independence beyond just about all else, Dr. Sears presents evidence that the mainstream pa...more
In a culture that prizes independence beyond just about all else, Dr. Sears presents evidence that the mainstream pa...more
This book is very commonsense (as the subtitle suggests) but also different than what I thought I knew. I like what it has to say.
When I read "A Lantern in Her Hand" it talks about Abbie's daughter-in-law who raises her children by the book, and is so strict about it that she will let no one else help. This is in contrast to Abbie, who had almost no mentor, but knew what to do for her children. After reading that I knew didn't want to raise my children "by the book."...more
When I read "A Lantern in Her Hand" it talks about Abbie's daughter-in-law who raises her children by the book, and is so strict about it that she will let no one else help. This is in contrast to Abbie, who had almost no mentor, but knew what to do for her children. After reading that I knew didn't want to raise my children "by the book."...more
I think all new parents should probably read this book just because it opens your eyes up to certain possibilities. All of the Dr. Sears's books are great resources. (I didn't give this five stars because I was kind of turned off by the fact that it seemed to promise bright, compassionate, able children just by having a strong attachment, and, while I have no doubt it helps, I don't think it should be taken as gospel.) It didn't really change how I parent but did reaffirm that I can trust myself...more
This is a FANTASTIC book, provided you aren't of the mindset that holding your baby too much will spoil them or that as soon as a baby is born, they start learning how to manipulate you. Yes, there are people who think that. Additionally, this book is commonly confused (by people who don't read the book jacket) for a book that is about preventing detachment disorders--also not it. If you are looking for a book on detachment disorders, look in the psychology section for infant books or books o...more
I had high expectations for this book.
Mostly, because without a lot of information and preparation, I'd likely be a pretty shit parent. It was either read a buttload of books and hope for the best or let the TV do the job for me.
I'm still not sure I made the right choice...
I want to make it clear that if there is a particular parenting philosophy that I give favouritism to (much like I do to the child that annoys me the least) it would be Attachment Parenting....more
Mostly, because without a lot of information and preparation, I'd likely be a pretty shit parent. It was either read a buttload of books and hope for the best or let the TV do the job for me.
I'm still not sure I made the right choice...
I want to make it clear that if there is a particular parenting philosophy that I give favouritism to (much like I do to the child that annoys me the least) it would be Attachment Parenting....more
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After having a baby, I hear a lot about different parenting styles and books about them. Though I don’t know all of them, I do know there are two schools of thought which stand far apart – the baby training style and the err, the non-training style. I didn’t know what the second style was called until I read the book ‘The Attachment Parenting Book’.
The first school emphasizes on training the baby to adjust to your world and the second does the opposite – you getting used to your baby a...more
The first school emphasizes on training the baby to adjust to your world and the second does the opposite – you getting used to your baby a...more
When I was pregnant a bunch of people recommended the Sears books. I always resisted because from what I heard, it didn't sound like the approach we'd want to take. I heard a lot about attachment parenting from folks I had a lot in common with, and even looked into it. But when I read the websites I thought that some of the things (nursing, treating your baby as an individual) were really, as the title says, commonsense, and other things seemed a bit much for me.
Fast forward many mo...more
Fast forward many mo...more
I LOVE this baby book. It is really easy to read, easy to find exactly what you are looking for, very informative, and offers a comprehensive guide for every baby stage and age.
I admit that I am an intuitive attachment parent-er, so I most likely love this book because it confirms--rather than combats (as many parenting books do)--my natural mother-love instincts. I was so relieved when I found it because it didn't make me feel frustrated as I pawned the pages hoping to glean some us...more
I admit that I am an intuitive attachment parent-er, so I most likely love this book because it confirms--rather than combats (as many parenting books do)--my natural mother-love instincts. I was so relieved when I found it because it didn't make me feel frustrated as I pawned the pages hoping to glean some us...more
I first read this book long before we started trying to get pregnant. I love the ideas presented in the attachment parenting philosophy, from baby wearing and co-sleeping to being able to read your child’s signs and having them learn from close interactions with adults.
Now that I am a parent, I believe this book served us very well. Reading it years before I got pregnant helped us really formulate our parenting strategy and feel confident with the decisions we were making along the...more
Now that I am a parent, I believe this book served us very well. Reading it years before I got pregnant helped us really formulate our parenting strategy and feel confident with the decisions we were making along the...more
Before I read this book, "attachment parenting" was just a phrase I'd heard thrown around--with good and bad connotations. This book explains the principles of attachment parenting, the benefits of it, and the challenges. When I reach a time in my life where I'm ready to have a baby, I am definitely going to try out some of these techniques. I already knew I was going to try breastfeeding for at least a year, but now I'll add to that trying out the baby sling and bed sharing.[return][r...more
I read this as my first introduction to attachment parenting and loved it! I had never heard of attachment parenting before and was getting a lot of "non-attachment" tips from people that just didn't feel right to me. When I read this book I felt supported in my feelings of how to care for my baby and realized that my style was valid. His explanations were compassionate, logical, and research based. I loved how he used so much research to back up his claims, that really resonated well ...more
For me, this book was only OK. I like the idea of Attachment Parenting, but what I didn't like was the book's tone, as if it was trying to convince the reader that this is the BEST way to raise your kid, and other ways are WRONG. I would have preferred if they simply presented the concepts and let the reader choose what approaches they'd like to adopt.
However, with that grumpy disclaimer out of the way, I learned a lot about the basics. And plenty of them sound like things I'll tr...more
However, with that grumpy disclaimer out of the way, I learned a lot about the basics. And plenty of them sound like things I'll tr...more
I have to give this book props for not being dogmatic about attachment parenting: it consistently and firmly repeats that you have to do what works for you, with everything from cosleeping (the best sleep is where all members of the household get the most sleep) to babywearing, and practical tips for mothers and caregivers who work outside of the home. It refers to it's "Baby B" principals not as foolproof steps, but rather tools to get to know and nurture your child.
I am gla...more
I am gla...more
People's parenting styles are as varied as their fingerprints. Even when I don't agree with a parenting style, I'm often able to see the value in it. I had a hard time coming to that conclusion with this book.
While there are some helpful pieces of information here, much of it read as incredibly defensive and full of anger and blame (the mother is always at fault). I do believe that babies should attach to their parents and that bond is irreplaceable; however, I felt like this book ad...more
While there are some helpful pieces of information here, much of it read as incredibly defensive and full of anger and blame (the mother is always at fault). I do believe that babies should attach to their parents and that bond is irreplaceable; however, I felt like this book ad...more
As the authors say, a lot of this is common sense. We did a lot of "attachment parenting" things without knowing or calling them that. It's interesting to see what this method is and is not after reading some of the other guides out there. I appreciate that he's a doctor and cites some studies though there are parts that are just as unsupported as other parenting books. It was illuminating to realize how much of the "don't hold a baby too much or you'll spoil him" and "b...more
Intuitive and sensitive approach to baby raising with positive affirmations, tools and tips.
I would say this is a great book for someone trying to figure out what type of parenting method they want to use or for someone who is interested in attachment parenting but either not completely sold on it or just needs to read more about it to understand exactly what it entails. It is a fairly short and easy read full of useful information. It begins by going over what attachment parenting is and how it is beneficial. Then it discusses each of the 7 B's that basically make up attachment parent...more
I like this simple introduction to a parenting style we fell into without realizing it, even the parts I scoffed about before we had Maya (family bed? yeah right... and now? one of the best things in the whole wide world). What I loved the most about this overview was its practical discussions--the actual fears of a parent are addressed, such as safe co-sleeping choices, etc.--but the emphasis is on what is right for YOUR family. As in--you don't have to do this co-sleeping business if you're ...more
"Beware of Baby Trainers"?? as a foundational building block of your philosophy? I think Sears takes it too far when he refers to all other parenting styles as "detached." He is misguided at best; arrogant at his worst.
I agree that emotionally bonding and attaching with my child is important, but not with the underlying premise that a child was [emotionally] traumatized at birth and needs to be near to parents (24/7) to receive this attachment. I also find it ...more
I agree that emotionally bonding and attaching with my child is important, but not with the underlying premise that a child was [emotionally] traumatized at birth and needs to be near to parents (24/7) to receive this attachment. I also find it ...more
I would recommend this book to anyone that is having or adopting a baby. Many of the guidelines and theories in this book evoked the "well, of-course" response from me as I think (hope) they would for most people, but it provides support and back up for some of the ideas I might have questioned had someone asked me, "why are you choosing to do things that way?" Additionally, it had some excellent recommendations I had not considered and will probably incorporate into our pare...more
As the title explains, this book was a commonscense approach to child care and parenting. What made the book more interesting is that many of the commonscense suggestions made by the pediatrician and R.N authors were not in accord with the latest child raising fads in the US. I found the book helpful as a reinforcement of what I have already concluded and also as a source of new information and techniques that I may want to consider implementing.
This is a good overview of the general philosophy of "Attachment Parenting": Breastfeeding, responding to baby's cries, shared sleeping, babywearing, etc.
I haven't adopted every idea, but I must say that this 'feels' right to me. I used many of the basic philosophies with my first baby even before I even read the book (when my second baby was teeny). I like the book because it helps me feel confident in what I've chosen - like allowing my baby to sleep in my bed. When co...more
I haven't adopted every idea, but I must say that this 'feels' right to me. I used many of the basic philosophies with my first baby even before I even read the book (when my second baby was teeny). I like the book because it helps me feel confident in what I've chosen - like allowing my baby to sleep in my bed. When co...more
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I'm sold on attachment parenting and so glad I read this book. A lot of what they write about is common sense. It's just nice to have what feels right to me as a mother validated and supported by the authors of this book. I especially liked the chapters on co-sleeping and baby wearing since these were the issues I was struggling with. They do not recommend cry it out which I appreciate. Highly recommend this book!
This book contained some helpful information and stories to back it up, but overall it seemed to be repetition of the same few concepts drawn out over way too many pages. This info would have made a better article in a compendium of baby care techniques rather than a free standing book that repeated itself over and over. By far, this was the hardest to slosh through of all of the baby books I've been reading.
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This book is fantastic. Everything in this book was what I was already feeling about my baby. Because she didn't feel good from about 2 months on, I was already doing most of what the book talks about. I think it was important for my baby to be so close to me for so long, and because of that, she is more indpendent now and more confident and transitioned to her own bed without having to be Ferberized or serious attachment issues because she already knows that I'm there when she needs me. Wow.. c...more
As good a book as you'll find to introduce you to the concept of Attachment Parenting... which makes sense since it was written by the people who coined the term.
This book does a good job of countering generations-old parenting notions like letting a baby "cry it out." Instead it encourages you to read your baby's cues and respond effectively without the worry that the extra love and attention is going to spoil them.
The book IS laid out a little weird, with side ...more
This book does a good job of countering generations-old parenting notions like letting a baby "cry it out." Instead it encourages you to read your baby's cues and respond effectively without the worry that the extra love and attention is going to spoil them.
The book IS laid out a little weird, with side ...more
Really nice confirmation of parenting instincts, but it was s bit too anecdotal for something claiming to be supported by science. I have the feeling that was to make it seem less intimidating to a general audience.
I enjoyed this and appreciated that it did not support "you'll spoil your child if you pick her up mentality" but supports parenting by way of healthy realtionship-building, supports sound psychology.
I did not learn new from this book that changed the way I parented. Rather, I felt like I WROTE this book because I already do and believe everything it advocates. I wish every parent would read this book in the hopes that it would help them learn to see the world through their children's eyes.
I do appreciate how it dispels a certain misconception that attachment parenting means giving your child everything he wants. Not true. What it means is giving your child everything he NEED...more
I do appreciate how it dispels a certain misconception that attachment parenting means giving your child everything he wants. Not true. What it means is giving your child everything he NEED...more
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Dr. Sears, or Dr. Bill as his "little patients" call him, is the father of eight children as well as the author of over 30 books on childcare. Dr. Bill is an Associate Clinical Professor of Pediatrics at the University of California, Irvine, School of Medicine. Dr. Bill received his pediatric training at Harvard Medical School's Children's Hospital in Boston and The Hospital for Sick Chi...more
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