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3.72 of 5 stars
Almost a decade ago, the first Bottoming Book taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming - being a submissive, masochist, slave, 'boy' or 'g... read full description

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Dec 28, 2007
Joe rated it: 4 of 5 stars
If you want a how-to book, this isn't it. If you want a why-for book, this is your baby. I wish I would have found this book years ago. For people who are already in the game, it's a quirky, fun reaffirmation and reminder of the basics. And while you won't learn the practical importance of, say, different commercial-grade leathers, I think the authors do a pretty good job of guiding readers to the psychological space you'll need to find once you do snag a good top who knows his way around a dung More...
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Aug 26, 2010
mary rated it: 3 of 5 stars
Although I appreciate Easton's work, I feel that I run into the same wall every time I read something by her. Every point she makes are ones I already know, in a way; it's all common sense, lessons learned through living, and epiphanies we all come to at some point. We all know that in order to be the best bottom we can be, we must communicate with our top. We must respect our top. We must respect ourselves. Etc. We all are very aware of these things, but every now and then, we need reminding. W More...
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Dec 29, 2007
Sienna rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Again more validation and a new insight into my own personal power dynamic in a sexual relationship.
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Dec 17, 2009
Mark rated it: 5 of 5 stars
When my girlfriend and I took our questions about our burgeoning interest in BDSM to our more experienced friends in Washington D.C., they recommended that we start with this book, and it's sister The New Topping Book. The authors write with wit and compassion, making this a fun, sexy, and comforting read.

It's important to remember, however, that this isn't a 'how-to' manual. It won't tell you how to play BDSM games with your lover - at most, there are a few scenes you might find in More...
May 03, 2011
Besha rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Read during a SFSI shift along with The Sexually Dominant Woman.The Topping Book is much better organized and offers really excellent theory. I’m skeptical of these two authors--The Ethical Slut put me off open relationships for years—but I really enjoyed reading this.
Feb 13, 2010
unnarrator rated it: 2 of 5 stars
The best thing about this was the former subtitle (removed in this edition): How to Get Terrible Things Done to You By Wonderful People. Astonishingly boring, I thought, given its subject matter.
Jun 10, 2011
Hope rated it: 5 of 5 stars
Helped me understand the psychological side of submission better than anything else I've read on the subject. Very good book for the curious.
Jul 30, 2009
Kristina rated it: 4 of 5 stars
The companion book to "The Topping Book". The next level after reading SM101 & Screw the Roses. Silly illustrations. Amusing anecdotes. Good advice.
Aug 17, 2009
Barb added it
In order to be a well informed top, I felt I needed to continue to understand bottoming better...this book was so helpful...
Mar 12, 2009
Millicent rated it: 3 of 5 stars
A very light overview of BDSM practices, psychology, and culture, focusing on the why and what of subbing.
Apr 30, 2011
Rich rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Seeing the other side was very useful, although I learnt little that I didn't get from the companion volume. As always, Easton & Hardy are confident, fun and responsible authors, although their need to include spirituality (thankfully in a dedicated chapter) in everything is sometimes a bit hard work.
Dec 13, 2011
Oin rated it: 2 of 5 stars
decent tidbits, but felt like this could have been very compressed.
Feb 08, 2011
L'Orpailleuse rated it: 3 of 5 stars
A good read for newbies as well as seasoned submissives.
Dec 21, 2010
serina rated it: 3 of 5 stars
way better written than the topping book.
Jun 15, 2009
Bunny marked it as to-read
Might not read it on lunch break.
Jan 03, 2012
Kyle Wendy rated it: 5 of 5 stars
Very informative and a great beginner's book.
Dec 09, 2011
Elizabeth May rated it: 5 of 5 stars
This book made me feel beautiful and powerful as a bottom, I love it.
Jun 26, 2011
♆ Bookaddict rated it: 3 of 5 stars
I decent how to book for newbies interesting in subbing. This is a start. The book is written in a light and easy manner. It explains scenes and the thought process to those who are just looking into this lifestyle.
Jul 18, 2009
Tricky rated it: 3 of 5 stars
Very practical stuff in here. More of a rulebook and collection of common sense reminders than a S&M cookbook.

Everyone who aspires to be a top should read this.
Jul 27, 2008
Canice rated it: 4 of 5 stars
Another informative book about the D/s lifestyle that's geared towards the bottom, although Dominants may want to read and glean a little info from also.
Aug 02, 2010
Graybird rated it: 3 of 5 stars
Pretty basic, but entertaining and left me wanting more, so I guess that's a good thing.
Apr 11, 2008
Angel rated it: 4 of 5 stars
This book is really good for someone interested in bottoming that is still new to it. I'm not new to it, but it was still a good read.
Feb 15, 2008
Noelle rated it: 5 of 5 stars
A must have for any kinky folk.
May 18, 2008
Maryam rated it: 4 of 5 stars
it hurts so good
Feb 08, 2012
LaRisque marked it as to-read
Feb 07, 2012
Kathyrn marked it as to-read
Feb 05, 2012
Trevor rated it: 3 of 5 stars
Feb 04, 2012
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Feb 02, 2012
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Feb 02, 2012
Landjonker rated it: 4 of 5 stars