How to Get a Date Worth Keeping
This book is for YOU i ...more
So often when I was on dates, I would feel distracted rather than being present with my date, as I tried to decide based on one or two or three dates whether I wanted to marry the person, and it's just not possible. Obviously there are some people who are right out, and ther ...more
Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot
Quest for Love also by Elisabeth Elliot
I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris
Lady in Waiting by Debbie Jones
Boundaries in Dating by Henry Cloud & John Townsend
...and one other book whose title I can't remember...
Of all of these books, I think Elliot's were the most inspiring to me. I appreciated her acknowledgement of the legitimacy of dating, but also her caution ...more
I almost didn't submit a review for this book. Since the whole point of the book is to give a practical approach to dating it doesn't seem fa ...more
The advice has a bit of an extroverted bias, but it's worth considering at least as a challenge. For example, I definitely never had 5 number-worthy conversations in a week, but I did make an effort to talk to five new people, whic ...more
Often Christian dating books are written by pastors pretending to be psychologists, whereas Henry Cloud is a one and offers real insights into how dating can help you grow.
I was in the same boat but realised, after a few kind words from friends, that a big part of it was me. I was so closed off... kind of as a defence mechanism. I didn't want to waste time dating unless I thought it could be serious but at the same time it consumed my thoughts and every guy passed through a 'is there potential?' test. A friend suggested a book "How to get a date worth keeping in 6 mon
The author urges singles to date five people at once just to get to know what you like about others. If I was one of the five, and I found out, I would feel like I was being used. I would dump ...more
But when I saw that Henry Cloud was publishing this book, I knew I’d be suckered i ...more
Dr Cloud addresses all the misconceptions and pressures the Christian culture puts on dating. He's not a fan of Joshua Harris's book, I Kissed Dating Good-bye which makes m ...more
Christian guys are told, "Don't date anyone who does not have marriage potential."
Christian women complain, "Christian guys don't date us." What's wrong with this picture?
Henry Cloud clears it up. He says "Date ANYONE once, or maybe twice." Keep your values; stay true to yourself; and just get out there!
He says the goal of dating is NOT to find a mate. He says the goal of dating is to experiment, learn, and be of service.
See dating as a wonderful time to find out about other people and what the
As president of Cloud-Townsend Resources, Dr. Cloud has produced and conducted hundreds of public semina ...more
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But they did not see his inability to allow them to disagree or have an opinion. He could not yield to another person. He could not show weakness or vulnerability. He would make up for that inflexibility by being a very attractive "strong man" to women who would want to be swept off their feet more than they wanted a real person.
So, they would be a perfect match—until he would see the other side of a passive, compliant woman. She would be sneaky and not tell him exactly what was going on. Then, lo and behold, one day she would really "mess up" and have a wish contrary to somthing he wanted or valued. Then, from his perspective, she had "changed" and had become "selfish." "She used to be nice, and now look!"
But in reality, this is not what had happened. She had not changed. When they first met, she showed only half of who she was, hiding the other half, which would come out in sneaky, indirect ways. After a while, it came out directly, such as when she disagreed with him. Then he would cry, "Foul."
So they both got what they asked for. In her compliance, she attracted a controller. In his control he attracted an adaptive person who had a secret side and was indirect. They were co-conspirators, and it always blew up.”