Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming Parent-child Relationships from Reaction And Struggle to Freedom, Power And Joy
by Naomi Aldort
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parents who want to grow
I'm still reading through this slowly, a bit at a time. I'm appreciating this hard look at how we respond to our children's behavior.
The key insight seems to be: separate yourself from your child's behavior. There are four other steps in the SALVE formula presented here, but that's the one that gets the most column inches, and certainly it's my starting point in my own parenting.
I don't like all the therapist language and emphases; I think it is condescending and takes away from what cou...more
The key insight seems to be: separate yourself from your child's behavior. There are four other steps in the SALVE formula presented here, but that's the one that gets the most column inches, and certainly it's my starting point in my own parenting.
I don't like all the therapist language and emphases; I think it is condescending and takes away from what cou...more
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Read in January, 2007
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parents
Interesting approach, somewhat along the lines of the "Never say 'no'" school of parenting, and at times too touchy-feely. So far I've put it down more than I've picked it up, but I do agree with the basic recommendation: to check our initial emotional reactions before reacting to our children, explain our needs to them, understand their needs, and try to reach an agreeable middle ground rather than constantly forcing our own wills on them. It is a useful method for ALL human interacti...more
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My husband & I attended a conference with Naomi Aldort. We both agree that after hearing her speak for 3 days was a pivotal turning point in our parenting style. We will now ask eachother, "What would Naomi do?"
She gives a method for dealing with ANY anxiety that arises while raising your children. She is very straight forward & realistic. Even better...her methods work!
I finished the last page & turn right back to page 1.
Highly recommended!
She gives a method for dealing with ANY anxiety that arises while raising your children. She is very straight forward & realistic. Even better...her methods work!
I finished the last page & turn right back to page 1.
Highly recommended!
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Read in February, 2008
This book gave me some food for thought. It made me think about my need for control in some areas and about the difference between having a compliant child and one who is making good choices because that is what they genuinely want. However I don't know that I'm ready to embrace her philosophy whole heartedly. I am comfortable with a more middle of the road approach to parenting.
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Read in November, 2007
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parents & all who influence kids
This is a good book about learning to shut up and listen to your kids and learn how to teach them the way you really want to. While things aren't addressed perfectly, there are many good ideas and the stories can be helpful. A great conversation starter at a book club. Be a peaceful parent. :)
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Read in January, 2006
life changing book! really helped me change for the better and ultimately repair my relationship with my first born son
started me on my path of truly trusting my children on every aspect of their lives
I recommend this book to all parents of all children from newborn to teenager
started me on my path of truly trusting my children on every aspect of their lives
I recommend this book to all parents of all children from newborn to teenager
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Read in December, 2007
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one of my mama friendsrecommends it for: every parent and teacher
After a year of reading parenting books, I found that after reading ROORO, my thirst for seeking conscious parenting wisdom from books was thoroughly satisfied by this deeply thoughtful and radical approach to compassion, love and trust. The SALVE formula is priceless.
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Probably the best parenting book I have ever read! Her concepts are similar to Marshall Rosenberg's or Alfie Kohn's, but as a therapist herself, she gives plenty of concrete examples. I wish I had read it when pregnant with my first child.
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Read in September, 2008
Alright, I'm an Aldort convert. Great ideas. Great theories. It's kind of an unconditional parenting how-to book. Every one should read it.
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Read in January, 2008
If children should be born with instruction manuals, this should be it, although the author's premise is that we don't need instructions on raising children if we just trust them. Her audio tapes are even better.
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