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Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

3.85 of 5 stars 3.85  ·  rating details  ·  3,144 ratings  ·  192 reviews
With astonishing honesty, this memoir Get Me Out of Here, reveals what mental illness looks and feels like from the inside, and how healing from borderline personality disorder is possible through intensive therapy and the support of loved ones. A mother, wife, and working professional, Reiland was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder at the age of 29 -- a diagno...more
Paperback, 436 pages
Published August 4th 2004 by Hazelden (first published June 1st 2002)
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Sara
I thought about not putting this on my reviews, because my penchant for mental health recovery memoirs is getting embarrassing, but -- this one was really good. Not falling into the fallacy of the "moment I was saved" nor falling into the "but I was a victim of my bad brain chemistry/ abusive childhood," Reiland narrates rather unemotionally what it takes to get from crazy to sane. In her case what it took was a loving, patient partner, a committed, ethical therapist who didn't buy into the heal...more
Jennifer
This was probably the best book I have ever read on Borderline Personality Disorder. Told from the perspective of someone diagnosed with it, it did not pull any punches and gave a very honest, revealing look at what the disorder is like for the sufferer and for those around him/her. Best of all, it went into great detail about the relationship between therapist and patient that eventually led to the CURE. BPD is commonly called the "garbage ground" of psychiatric disorders - professionals do not...more
tee
I guess this is why there aren't many memoirs written on Borderline Personality Disorder. This book was hard to read; Reiland being entirely unlikeable and frustrating for the majority of it. However, it was written fairly well and it did end on an uplifting and inspiring note.

Besides Reiland constantly pissing me off which began in the first quarter of the book when her therapist "threatened" to send her to a state psych ward and she in turn wrote a horrid little paragraph of how rotten that wo...more
Doan Huong
“What is it like to have Borderline Personality Disorder?” It is like having a different person inside you whom you have subconsciously neglected for a long time.

It is true that I have Borderline Personality Disorder. It is true that I have been gone through what Rachel had suffered: self-destructive thoughts and actions, depression, abuse, manipulation, black and white thinking, hatred, and disintegrated personality. Tiredness, emptiness, chaos, and intense passion, I’ve had them all.

However,...more
Lily
Among the ideas from this book that are likely to stay with me:

"For all these years, you’ve lived under the illusion that, somehow, you made it because you were tough enough to overpower the abuse, the hatred, the hard knocks of life. But really you made it because love is so powerful that tiny little doses of it are enough to overcome the pain of the worst things life can dish out. Toughness was a faulty coping mechanism you devised to get by. But, in reality, it has been your ability to never...more
Katherine
I read this book having been recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder myself. To begin with, I was honestly unsure whether I wanted to read it, incase it made me feel worse about my diagnosis. However, since it was about someone's "recovery", I thought that it would be worth reading, in the hope it may inspire me.

For the first 300 pages or so, I didn't like it. It was one of those books that I didn't want to continue reading, but I couldn't put down. I couldn't bear to think that...more
Christine Olson
Realistic, hopeful, compassionate, and validating....Good read for anyone who has loved and/or lived with someone who struggles with Borderline PD inclinations or anybody who has BPD. Its autobiographical nature prompted me to feel more empathic for (and forgiving of) those with BPD, but alsomade me more keenly aware of the need for establishing clear limits or boundaries as a means of establishing healthy, enduring connections with family members, friends and co-workers who have BPD tendencies....more
Debra
Jun 28, 2007 Debra rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Anyone interested in psychology/clinical work
I found this to be a very compelling memoir by a woman who had successful therapy for borderline personality disorder, a disorder that is frequently stigmatized and thought to be "untreatable." As someone training to be a clinical psychologist--but largely unfamilar with BPD--I found this a very good book from which to learn more about the disorder in general and about a particularly powerful therapeutic relationship between Rachel and her therapist.
Meno
Fascinating story about the years long struggle to overcome Borderline Personality Disorder. A case study for the validity of Attachment Theory.
Hannah Wingfield
Mental health memoirs have been one of my favourite (sub?) genres for at least a decade now, but this is only the second I have read that specifically addresses Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I’ve always been more than a little cynical about whether mental health diag-nonsenses (to paraphrase Girl, Interrupted, which is of course the other book I have read on BPD) are nothing but a label for a set of symptoms – after all, unless you can pinpoint a condition as having one underlying cause...more
Jessica
I was recommended this book by a friend at uni. We're all student psychologists and are obviously fascinated by everything to do with mental health.

Add to this the fact that I currently work with a young man with BPD, and I couldn't wait to read this one.

I enjoyed this book, I really liked hearing about the individual experience of BPD, from her perspective, rather than more externally as if from a text book, I thought it was a great way to show people what it's really like, that it's an experi...more
Kimberlie
One woman's journey of taking personal responsibility for her own healing from a mental disorder and the therapist who treated her with psychotherapy, drugs and unconditional love.

So many relationships are ruined through untreated addiction and mental illness. This story of courage and personal responsibility shows all of us another way.

The words “mental illness” are scary words. What I remember from the film on mental illness we watched in junior high health class was the shock treatments those...more
Jenifer Rune
This was another one to add to my "mental health memoir" obsession. I've had my eye on it for a while, feeling like I should read it, but not quite sure I had the fortitude to follow through. Mental health memoirs can be painful - not just because of the content, but also because the ways that people frame their experience. Sensationalism abounds - memoirs about Borderline Personality tend to emphasize just how "crazy" the author once was, seemingly in order to appeal to the "normal" masses . Fo...more
Ellie [The Empress]
Jul 24, 2013 Ellie [The Empress] rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Anyone with some interest in BPD and mental problems and memoirs
4.75 | No Spoilers

The following quote is from the epilogue of the book and it speaks about it in general terms.

Tempting as it may be to draw one conclusion or another from my story and universalize it to apply to another's experience, it is not my intention for my book to be seen as some sort of cookie-cutter approach and explanation of mental illness, It is not ab advocacy of any particular form of therapy over another. Nor is it meant to take sides in the legitimate and necessary debate withi
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Ron
A harrowing tale of one of the worst illnesses that can strike any human being, Reiland's account strikes me as accurate--I dated a BPD once--but it fails a bit in terms of literature. It is a fairly quick read that is often as compelling as the best novels, has a very powerful emotional affect on its readers, yet manages just as often to be a bit tedious and dull (which may just be a part of the pathology). The repetitive pattern of anger and violent outbursts and self-loathing became a bit too...more
Ev
This book opens a lot of doors to a better understanding of what exactly a Borderline Personality Disorder is. The author lets the reader in on her private life, reveals her struggles, the good, the bad and the ugly. You learn how a wife and a mother deals with a mental illness and how it can be cured. When you are reading that amazing story you feel like you are really there, like you are really going thru it. She could not have been anymore open with her struggles than in this book.
This book i...more
Patricia
Sep 23, 2008 Patricia rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: people interested in psychology
Recommended to Patricia by: Fred Miller
I read it when it was titled "I Shouldn't be here." Good journal through her psychiatric journey with an adroit analyst who did what shrinks used to do and still should do; talked, listened, and didn't depend on her taking medications to fix her problems. very old school psychoanalysis. loved that part of it.
she really told all....all the embarassing and awful shit; i'm sure the book helps lots of people who feel as she did.
Jeannie
Jun 27, 2011 Jeannie rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: anyone who has or knows someone with this disorder
Recommended to Jeannie by: Alexandra Simpson
This is a very heartfelt and deeply personally written book. I struggled through the middle of it though, it felt like she wasn't making any progress and I found that painful. This is probably the best book I've ever read on Borderline Personality Disorder. I found it fascinating, scary and enlightening all at the same time.
Melinda
An interesting memoir of a woman diagnosed with BPD who undergoes three years of psychodynamic therapy. It also includes some integration of spiritual resources. It's a revealing story of a disorder usually regarded as hopeless. At the same time, I'd be lying if her diagnosis didn't color my reading of the book.
Natalie
Sep 02, 2007 Natalie rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: anyone wanting a personal view of Borderline Personality Disorder
This was a compelling and real book. I learned why I sometimes do the things I do, but more importatnly I learned that I could overcome mental illness.
Carrie
I liked this for 2 reasons. One, the therapist was really good. Two, it shows that people who are severely mentally ill have hope and can change.
Amy
Mar 29, 2014 Amy added it
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I usually try to avoid reading any reviews of a book before actually delving into the book but from the very first page I had a bad taste in my mouth that I couldn't quite put my finger on so I read some of the reviews around here. I think I finally figured it out- From the very start she sounded like she was trying to play the victim card way too hard and just seemed completely bitter and sarcastic in the worst way possible. I have BPD too and I have had many many problems in my life caused by...more
Isabel
I can't believe why there isn't too much criticism to this book, as having BPD myself, this is painful to read.

First of all, the title, "My RECOVERY from BPD"? I'm pretty damn sure people with BPD can't possibly "recover" from BPD, it's part of who we are and we somehow learn to live with it.

It is a memoir, but an awful one, through the entire book, it described how she coped her mental "problems" by going to mental hospital, talk to therapist and finally 'recover' from it, sorry this just seem...more
Erika
2.5 stars. I like reading memoirs, and mental health ones are my favorite, because of my background in mental health nursing. While Rachel's therapy is unconventional treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder today, one certainly can't dispute its efficacy in her case. Her story kept me interested, although I admit to skimming portions that dealt with therapy almost verbatim, particularly the ones describing her dreams in detail. Her self-involvement at times became tedious to the point wher...more
Selen Opcin
A fascinating first person account of what it feels like to have BPD, where it comes from (a less than ideal childhood, where else), and most wonderful of all, how the author recovered from it. I always wonder how people can write such detailed accounts of their suffering, because clearly while they are suffering, they are not thinking about writing a book when they recover, as recovery seems all but impossible. Answer: the author used to write down her thoughts as a way of catharsis, and she ke...more
Andrea
A great depiction of what life can be like for someone with borderline personality disorder from a first person perspective. When we are taught about personality disorders as social workers, we get the clinical discription of the behavior and not a true depiction of what that experience is like for the person going through it. This is a real honest depiction of one woman's struggle with BPD. When reading it I felt a real sense of empathy for what she went through to overcome it. I think this is...more
Claudia Putnam
This is a well written account of what it feels like to be borderline and one way out. I found it really gripping most of the way through. I am giving it 4 stars because I think it's a really important topic and it's well executed. I didn't finish the book--it got to a point where it was clear where she was going and also it was more of the same. HOWEVER, I benefitted enormously from reading the first 2/3, and I'd think the relentlessness of the narrative would be helpful to those who are border...more
Michelle
DISTURBING AT BEGINNING. BAD LANGUAGE THAT I DID NOT LIKE, BUT DECIDED IT WAS PART OF HER MENTAL ILLNESS RATHER THAN FLAGRANT BAD LANGUAGE. BY THE END OF THE BOOK,I BEGAN TO LIKE HER AND APPRECIATE HOW HARD IT WAS FOR HER TO SUFFER THIS ILLNESS...

I WAS CHEERING HER ON THROUGH HER IMPROVEMENT. I HOPE IT HAS MADE ME REALIZE THAT MENTAL ILLNESS CARRIES A BIG LOAD, AND HOPEFULLY READING THIS WILL ASSIST ME IN BEING MORE EMPATHETIC TO OTHERS THAT SUFFER.
Joanie
This is the memoir of a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder and her treatment and subsequent recovery. I really got into this book and the author's retelling of all the crazy things she used to do, especially to her husband. I'm not convinced that she's really "cured" (the theory is that you can't "cure" a personality disorder, you can just manage the symptoms plus she still seems a little nutty) but it's still an interesting read.
Sara
This was a fascinating read. I felt it got a little repetitive at times, but that's part of the nature of BPD; people with this disorder have backslides between periods of growth. I continued to be amazed at the author's self awareness. This trait is not usually a characteristic of someone with BPD. She had enough self awareness to get help and enough to continue when all of her instincts told her not to.
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“You survived by seizing every tiny drop of love you could find anywhere, and milking it, relishing it, for all it was worth. And as you grew up, you sought love, anywhere you could find it, whether it was a teacher or a coach or a friend or a friend's parents. You sought those tiny droplets of love, basking in them when you found them. They sustained you. For all these years, you've lived under the illusion that somehow, you made it because you were tough enough to overpower the abuse, the hatred, the hard knocks of life. But really you made it because love is so powerful that tiny little doses of it are enough to overcome the pain of the worst things life can dish out. Toughness was a faulty coping mechanism you devised to get by. But, in reality, it has been your ability to never give up, to keep seeking love, and your resourcefulness to make that love last long enough to sustain you. That is what has gotten you by.” 63 likes
“I couldn’t trust my own emotions. Which emotional reactions were justified, if any? And which ones were tainted by the mental illness of BPD? I found myself fiercely guarding and limiting my emotional reactions, chastising myself for possible distortions and motivations. People who had known me years ago would barely recognize me now. I had become quiet and withdrawn in social settings, no longer the life of the party. After all, how could I know if my boisterous humor were spontaneous or just a borderline desire to be the center of attention? I could no longer trust any of my heart felt beliefs and opinions on politics, religion, or life. The debate queen had withered. I found myself looking at every single side of an issue unable to come to any conclusions for fear they might be tainted. My lifelong ability to be assertive had turned into a constant state of passivity.” 31 likes
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