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Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape

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In this groundbreaking new look at rape edited by writer and activist Jaclyn Freidman and Full Frontal Feminism and He’s A Stud, She’s A Slut author Jessica Valenti, the way we view rape in our culture is finally dismantled and replaced with a genuine understanding and respect for female sexual pleasure. Feminist, political, and activist writers alike will present their id ...more
Paperback, 361 pages
Published December 2nd 2008 by Seal Press (first published 2008)
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Ciara
Mar 22, 2009 Ciara rated it liked it
Recommends it for: folks interested in consent, survivor advocates, survivors (who've had some distance)
i expected to find this book irritating, because i find most of what jessica valenti is involved in irritating (see my scathing review of full frontal feminism for more), & i find a lot of discourse around consent tedious & lumbering, a game of one-upsmanship in which people are proposing ever more individualistic & unrealistic-outside-of-incestuous-radical-enclaves solutions to the tremendous problem of sexual assault & rape culture. the calls for submissions were framed as jess ...more
Avory
Feb 05, 2009 Avory rated it it was amazing
Read this book. No, really. Read. This. Book.

I can't tell you how much the essays in this collection made me rethink my perspective on female sexuality, rape culture, what it means to be a woman in America right now, and many other topics. These essays are eye-openers, embracing not only a sex-positive look at female sexuality but also a perspective that views all forms of sexual pain as legitimate injuries. The essayists go beyond the question of "was there rape?" and "did she say no?" and look
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Emily May
Mar 07, 2014 Emily May rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, 2014
A really powerful read. This book attempts to refute the notion that sex is something that happens to women - that they are conquests, not participants. It's also about how women enjoy sex as much as men and shouldn't be shamed for it.
Yasmin
Jun 18, 2011 Yasmin rated it it was ok
A rather problematic book which has become something of a bible for neoliberal feminists. Here's an excerpt from my review:

"Yes Means Yes rests at the nexus of two ideological points. One is a liberal feminism so battered by decades of right-wing sexism that it spends all its energy reacting to the same instead of questioning how it might have become part of the problem. The other is a burgeoning domestic violence/rape counseling industrial complex compelled to paint its clients solely as pathet
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Elevate Difference
May 13, 2009 Elevate Difference rated it it was ok
Connections: The Apostate and Professor What If review...
Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape

The Apostate: My initial reaction when I heard about the anthology was mixed. It seemed that the problem of rape was being used for a catchy slogan's sake (the catchy slogan being a play on the anti-rape "no means no" rule), and not because it made any real sense. I wasn't sure where you could go with that—connecting sexuality with rape culture in a way that was meaning
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Kari
Jan 13, 2009 Kari rated it liked it
Recommended to Kari by: Krissy
I enjoyed this book as much as I enjoy Feminist literature, but it isn't the best. Several of the essays seem to draw on forever, but others are simply incredible.

Perhaps my favorite essay, "Hooking Up with Healthy Sexuality: The Lessons Boys Learn (and Don't Learn) About Sexuality, and Why a Sex-Positive Rape Prevention Paradigm Can Benefit Everyone Involved...," was written by Brad Perry. I enjoy reading about rape, sex, and gender relations form a male perspective because I am bombarded with
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Kiki
Aug 29, 2012 Kiki marked it as to-read
I'd really like to read this, but I don't think I should until I learn to better control my rage. I get way too fired up about this topic. I need to take some lessons in how not to wreck stuff when angry before I make an attempt at this.

You think I'm joking, don't you? Well, I'm not. I'm absolutely deadly serious.
Angela
Feb 28, 2009 Angela rated it liked it
Shelves: sd-fem-bookclub
A well-curated collections of essays about rape, abuse, and sexual consent, "Yes Means Yes" contains a variety of different perspectives and voices. Some of the essays contradict other ones; I disagreed with some authors' points while finding others' persuasive and illuminating. I found highlights of the book included Margaret Cho's honest and assertive foreward, Julia Serano's proposals for changing male culture to discourage rape, numerous authors' calls for the cultural replacement of stressi ...more
tom bomp
Dec 30, 2012 tom bomp rated it liked it
My biggest problem with this book is that a lot of the essays don't really push into the visions promised by the title - they're to a large extent descriptions of what the authors have experienced. This is obviously valuable, but I guess I expected a bit more given the title and the wide availability of many different people's experiences on the internet that this to a certain extent replicates. Also, only a few essays linked the problems described to causes past a nebulous "culture" and to thin ...more
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Review of Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape
Edited by Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti
Seal Press

Utopian novels have grappled with the idea of a world without rape, but what would the path to that world look like? The controversial essays that make up Yes Means Yes! light the way along this very rough road and, not surprisingly, offer no easy solutions.

The book itself was conceived in controversy. A report on Women’s eNews a
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Emma
Jan 31, 2010 Emma rated it really liked it
I had really high expectations for this book, as it seemed to touch on a lot of issues that I have been thinking about recently. And unfortunately, what I read of it (admittedly, only about half the essays) didn't quite meet those expectations...as Lisa mentions in her review, if you're fairly familiar with feminist thought, some of the material will seem like more of a review than a radical new way of thinking about things.

HOWEVER, there were two essays that stuck out to me and that I would hi
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Meggan
Jun 20, 2011 Meggan rated it really liked it
As if humanity needed more evidence for a second sexual revolution. Just skim a few pages and you'll want to volunteer down at your local rape crisis center or Planned Parenthood. While I value this book for its bravery, I see two big flaws here: 1) too much focus on westernized American feminists, and 2) some essays reads like one long blog entry (I prefer empirical research over blog comments for evidence/arguments). But I understand that academia is too slow to wade into the swiftly moving de ...more
Kate Gould
Jul 19, 2012 Kate Gould rated it it was amazing
This is one of the most exciting, stimulating, and intelligent books I've ever read. I had so many "f*ck yeah" moments reading it. I'd recommend it to every woman and to every man who wants to know what makes us tick.
Chelsey Pennyamon
There are several things to appreciate about this book--for instance, the fact that it exists. I'd be excited (and grateful!) to get recommendations for books that cover sexual violence (NOT Against Our Will, the person who wrote that needs to fully examine the implications of their thesis!-- in my humble opinion) as sensitively yet humorously as this book did. A second thing to appreciate is the diversity of perspectives and backgrounds. Related to this, the range of topics discussed is astound ...more
Tinea
May 02, 2009 Tinea rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: feminists, survivors, boys learningto be allies
This was really good.

Yes Means Yes is an anthology of essays on rape culture, consent, and related topics. I was really impressed by how broad the subject area covered was. An incomplete list: the book contains articles on reproductive justice, virginity, sex education, surviving abuse, and intersections of sexualized violence with race, class, sexual orientation, size, gender, and immigration status. The authors come from a wide range of backgrounds and ground their essays in varied unique pers
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Rachel
Apr 03, 2013 Rachel rated it it was ok
For a book - and a movement - that touts intersectionality, "Yes Means Yes!," a tour de force of writing talents ranging from WOC lesbians to straight trans and so on, completely ignores conservative and religious feminists.

Yes, we exist!

In fact, "Yes Means Yes!" reads more as a list of grievances against the Right Wing - who, according to the editors and authors, is completely made up of white religious men - with the authors of the essays roundly lambasting a straw-man version of conservative
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Emily Dahl
Feb 07, 2010 Emily Dahl rated it it was amazing
Love, Love, LOVE this book. It reinforced again and again concepts that I have argued for time and again in the past, and sincerely hope will become second-nature in the future:
-Rape is caused by Rapists. Period. There's nothing that you do to cause yourself to be raped.
-Girls and young women should be taught that their sexual desires are normal, and that both YES and NO are valid responses to the sex question.
-An "absence of no" shouldn't be the baseline for sexual encounters-- an "enthusiasti
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Anna
Oct 06, 2009 Anna rated it did not like it
I suppose I should clarify why I gave this book such a crap rating. There is NOTHING in here about sex, consent and disability; for a book that's supposed to be "intersectional," there is SO MUCH FAIL. In sum: "female sexual power and a world without rape" is only important for able-bodied women. Thanks for clearing that up, Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti! "Groundbreaking?" I think not.
Jessica
Oct 08, 2015 Jessica rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, feminism
This is a wonderful anthology full of a wide range of essays. I liked some more than others, but overall it's a great book.
Van
Jun 11, 2015 Van rated it it was amazing
This is by far the most enlightening, educational and informative book I've ever read on the topics of rape, sexuality, consent, masculinity, femininity, gender, pleasure, incest, dating, love, misogyny, birth, pregnancy, female empowerment, and trauma, many of which are tied to each other, or race and/or class. I personally loved that it was a collection of essays grouped together by theme; I followed the "jumping around" throughout the book that Friedman and Valenti encouraged-I didn't read fr ...more
Ariel
Oct 01, 2009 Ariel rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
Yes Means Yes is a great anthology incorporating a number of perspectives and analysis on rape culture, including but not limited to persons of color, survivors, trans people and queers. It is mostly focused on American culture, but it's still a relevant text since damaging campaigns like the Silver Ring Thing expanded their remit well past the US of A.

The essays are as varied in their topic and approach as their contributors, but the underlying theme is that a model of enthusiastic consent woul
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Sarah
Oct 13, 2014 Sarah rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: EVERYONE
Rereading this for the reading group.

...

First Reading:

I'm so sad to be done with this book. I mean, I'm totally glad that I finished it and read the awesome essays at the end (Higginbotham, Kulwicki) that I was missing when I got distracted 2/3 of the way through, but I'm sad that there's no more for me to read.

Okay, there were a fair number of essays that were just sort of mediocre and which trolled through stuff that i'm heard ad nauseum (Valenti, Filipovic, Jervis)*. And there were the few es
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Alex
May 17, 2009 Alex rated it it was amazing
Easily the best book I've read this year, if not ever. Yes Means Yes! is an anthology of essays from women and trans folks (and a few men) of all backgrounds, white, black, Latina, Asian, poor, affluent, queer, hetero, sex workers, dominatrices, bloggers, organizers, educators, artists, and survivors, all answering the question, "How can we create a world without rape?"

This book more than any other opened my eyes to the central importance of female sexual power to movement for progressive social
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Katy
Aug 07, 2012 Katy rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: WGSS or WOST students, feminists
Recommended to Katy by: Dr. Tammy Birk
Absolutely amazing. I was completely enthralled with this book and genuinely sad when I finished all of the essays. I have to say, I thought that Julia Serano's essay "Why Nice Guys Finish Last" and Jaclyn Friedman's essay "In Defense of Going Wild" were LIFE CHANGING. I was sobbing by the end of both of them.

This is a great sexuality studies text and I intend to use it as a resource for my writing on these subjects in the future. It is extremely intersectional and brings elements like race, cla
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Chris
May 07, 2015 Chris rated it really liked it
Sex. This book is about sex and how society sees sex. Honestly, if you are a women read this book. If you are worried about sex ed in school, read this book. There are various topics covered in this collection, mostly about sexually and rape. (The weakest one I thought, strangely, was the essay about sex and immigration. While I grant rape is a particular thing the female immigration must worry about, outside of that, don't male immigrants face the same problem?).

Yet the ideas and theories prese
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Alexis
Jan 25, 2010 Alexis rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2010
Four and a half stars if I could. This is a collection of essays about creating empowerment for women's sexuality. There's also a large focus on dismantling and preventing rape culture. This was sometimes a hard book, as there are large portions about rape and bad sexual experiences. Some essays were stronger than others.

However, I found this book extremely empowering and uplifting and I'd like more people to read it so I could discuss it with them. Important feminist stuff.

I also liked that it
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OD
Jun 03, 2015 OD rated it it was ok
A collection of essays of varying quality. To me personally, only three or four essays provided much of value.

The brilliant Julia Serano has an essay "Why Nice Guys finish last" which was refreshing, new and offered a nuanced perspective on a topic I've seen both feminists and anti-feminists bungle badly:

Any attempts to critique men for being sexually aggressive, or to critique women for fulfilling the role of sexual object, will have a very limited effect. These tactics, after all, fail to ad
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Julia Reynolds
Aug 22, 2014 Julia Reynolds rated it it was amazing
I read this in college for a seminar on ending sexualized violence. I then minored in gender studies and became a lifelong advocate and peer educator of sexuality, especially consent issues and sex positivity. This book, which is now a classic, is a fantastic place to start for people looking to understand modern intersectional feminism, as well as those interested in the last 10-20 years of advocacy around sexualized violence. The field sees this as foundational, but the mainstream culture does ...more
Josh Hornbeck
Jun 03, 2014 Josh Hornbeck rated it it was amazing
In continuing to do research for the play I'm writing about faith, pornography, objectification, and rape culture, I just finished reading "Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power & a World Without Rape." It's an outstanding collection of essays exploring the ways our culture perpetuates the dualities of virgin/whore and predator/prey, as well as challenging media portrayals of female sexuality. It argues for moving beyond a commodity based model of sex (sex is something to be earned ...more
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like, there is a 1:1 correlation in this book: is the article by a WOC? then it among the best in this book. The rest is just... largely boring, repetitive,overly optimistic, etc. and it was almost unbearable to work through the fucking thing, especially the naive sex positive parts...
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Jaclyn Friedman is a poet and performance artist whose writing has been published in many places, including PW.org, PoetsAgainstTheWar.org, Pedestal Magazine, the Underwood Review, and Sojourner. She has been the Program Director for The Center for New Words and New Words Live since January 2000. She is the recipient of a 2001 Cambridge Poetry Award, a 2004 Fellowship to the Vermont Studio Center, ...more
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“I felt drained and frustrated (not to mention flat-out dirty) operating within a framework that positioned the criminal legal system as the primary remedy for sexual violence. The prison-industrial complex, to which the mainstream rape crisis movement is intimately and often unquestioningly linked, is an embodiment of nonconsent used to reinforce race and class inequality. Prisons take away the rights of people, primarily poor people of color, to control their own lives and bodies. This is glaringly apparent when one sits in a courtroom and observes the ways in which race, class, and power intersect in this space. How, then, do we as a movement whose fundamental principle is consent see this as an appropriate solution? A successful anti-rape movement will focus not only on how rape upholds male supremacy, but also on how it serves as a tool to maintain white supremacy and myriad other oppressive systems. When this is done, the importance of creating alternative ways to address violence becomes more apparent, and the state-sponsored systems that reproduce inequality seem less viable options for true transformative change.” 0 likes
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