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The Wife

3.57 of 5 stars 3.57  ·  rating details  ·  3,921 ratings  ·  576 reviews

"The moment I decided to leave him, the moment I thought, enough, we were thirty-five thousand feet above the ocean, hurtling forward but giving the illusion of stillness and tranquility. Just like our marriage." So opens Meg Wolitzer's compelling and provocative novel The Wife, as Joan Castleman sits beside her husband on their flight to Helsinki. Joan's husband, Joseph C
Paperback, 224 pages
Published April 13th 2004 by Scribner (first published March 25th 2003)
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Aliki Barnstone
Some reviewers have said they find the wife's motivations unbelievable. They must be younger people, who didn't experience the transformation that feminism brought about for women writers. I'm both glad and concerned that they can take for granted the opportunities that have opened up for women. This book captures exactly the bind women have been in for most of history; in this case Joan Castleman comes of age in the '50s. The book is wonderfully written, engaging, historically accurate, and man ...more
This was a great book. The only two drawbacks are that she used some strong profanity in parts and that from the beginning you can figure out the ending. However, the following passage makes up for it (I read it to my husband) "Everyone knows how women soldier on, how women dream up blueprints, recipes, ideas for a better world, and then sometimes lose them on the way to the crib in the middle of the night, on the way to Stop and Shop, or the bath. They lose them on the way to greasing the path ...more
Nicole Bonia
“The moment I decided to leave him, the moment I thought enough, we were thirty-five thousand feet above the ocean hurtling forward but giving the illusion of stillness and tranquility.”

Joan Castleman is on an airplane accompanying her husband, writer Joseph Castleman, to Helsinki, Finland where he is being honored with the Helsinki Prize in Literature, one step down from the Nobel Prize for Literature, which he knows that he will not get. Over the next four days, Joan revisits their courtship a
I'm sick of the lovelorn and unrequited: give me a woman who can't stand her husband, oddly enough, brought to my attention many years ago by my father, who always knows a a good author when he reads one, despite his congenital misogyny.

I'm in love so far, complete love, like a Philip Roth novel if Philip Roth weren't so flawed and frustrating. Bad analogy perhaps but she has the same comfort with describing male0-female interactions, a biting sense of humor, a lack of shame regarding human wea
3 stars - It was good.

What an odd, despondent little book. This was the first book I have read by Wolitzer and I was struck by her unique writing style - very candid and frank, yet at the same time ornate and flowery. Sounds like an oxymoron, I know, but it is the best way I can describe it. Her distinctive writing style is enough to make me want to pick up another book by her. This particular story, however, became slow somewhere on the back 1/2, and the big "reveal" at the ending was obvious t
This book is fantastic. I love the unique perspective of the protagonist: an introspective and talented woman who grew up in the 50s who spends her life married to a famous novelist who is really nothing more than a big kid. She makes a decision that historically stymes feminists, but this book gives her perspective in a fresh and convincing new way.

She's got fresh, beautiful ways of looking at things that are so perfect and sharp and spot-on that it leaves you wondering why you hadn't come to t
Nancy K
I always read a handful of reviews before I make my own comments, just to see where others are coming from.

I'm seeing a lot of discussion about unlikable characters (I agree) and the author not giving the married partners a chance to demonstrate what made the marriage fail in the way of dialogue and daily interactions (also true).

But to those who say that Joan was a spoiled, stay-at-home mother who made the choice to give up her career, I say that's not fair.

Women didn't have the same opportunit
I had a hard time deciding how many stars to give this one. I ended up giving the author the benefit of the doubt and went with three instead of two. The main character, Joan, was almost unbearable as her older self. I found her much easier to deal with as her younger self. The beginning of the book was about the older characters and I nicknamed them Joe (which, coincidentally was actually the husband's name) and Wendy after Joe and Wendy Whiner. These two were a perfect match for each other. Sh ...more
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Sunny Shore
I read this 220 page book in one evening and one morning. It's chick lit at the highest level and so well-written. The author sets you up for the twisted ending - that's all I'll say, but you don't really see it coming. I had to give it a 5 - it was that good. The narrator is a little too giving and her husband is a little too much of a macho pig, but it works here and you understand everything at the end. Read it - you won't put it down.
Karen C.
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The Wife. Meg Wolitzer. 2003. Scribner. 219 pages. ISBN 0743456661.

If you've never read a novel by Meg Wolitzer, you're in for a treat, especially if you've chosen to read The Wife.

As the wife of a successful writer, Joan Castleman makes the decision to leave her husband while in the midst of a flight to Helsinki to attend an award ceremony on his behalf. As Wolitzer switches between past and present, thus unfolds the story of the Castleman's relationship spanning forty years; which according to
It's weird, because this book frets over competence vs. brilliance and the scope of the female writer vs. the male writer, and... it's, in my opinion, a competent book by a female writer. Awkward.

Not to be flippant. I was really engaged and think Wolitzer is a tremendously thoughtful writer, word to word. It's just that I needed to believe that the Castleman novels that had received such accolades and moved the plot forward so many times actually existed and had been conceived by this great mind
Emily Wortman-wunder
Alas, I was disappointed by The Wife...I liked The Position quite a bit, and I was interested to read a book about suppressed creativity, and the forces that can go about suppressing it...only to find out, of course, that the creativity in question was not suppressed! At all! In fact, it was richly rewarded, if only to the wrong person. Which was a great joke, etc., but didn't really answer the deep-seated question I brought to the book, which was: what is this thing called creativity, anyway? H ...more
What I knew about this book stemmed from people commenting on the writing. What that means to me is that the ways information is conveyed on the page is unique, thoughtful and not cliche. It means that no matter what the subject, a person will want to turn the page because the words are arranged just so that you the reader are being entrusted with something. There isn't any other fancy element to the story. You don't need a crazy plot or a mystery to see to the end or juicy gossipy chick literat ...more
Anita Kelley Harris
The beginning of this book really grabbed me. The voice was moving and the early plot was interesting: a woman is on an airplane with the husband she had been with for a long time, and has decided at that very moment to leave him.

Of course, such a decision is never made at that very moment. A lot has gone into such a decision. And so the narrator takes us back with her through the history of the relationship between her and her husband. We find out that it began in the 1950's, when she was his c
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This book begins with Joan Castleman deciding to leave her husband Joe onboard a flight headed to Helsinki where Joe will be honored with a major literary prize. Joan has spent her life subjugating her own literary talents to help prop up Joe’s career as a novelist, and now at 64, hurtling to Finland, she’s tired of it.

Despite being only 220 pages, the characters are complex and well-developed, the scenes are vivid, and the pace and plot felt very thoughtful. This was the first book by Wolitzer
On a flight to Finland in first class, Joan Castleman realizes she's going to leave her husband of more than 40 years, Joe, who is about to pick up the prestigious Helsinki prize for fiction. Wolitzer adroitly pilots the narrative back to the '50s when 19-year-old Joan first meets Joe, her professor at Smith. Wolitzer's trajectory--and this novel as and agenda--takes the Castlemans through Greenwich Village, the cradle for the whiskey soaked boy's club of New York writers, nurtured by the often ...more
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Ayelet Waldman
This novel is about the wife of a famous writer. Hmm. I wonder why I bought it. It was tremendous fun to read, but I didn't like the ending. I thought the dramatic surprise sold the novel short.
Brent Bridges
I loved The Interestings. And now with The Wife, Meg has sealed herself as one of my absolute favorites. This book was almost perfect. Amazing characters and a story told with at a great pitch and pace. She did it in a way that you got all of the characters, became invested in them, and never once felt sorry for Joan. She didn't feel sorry for herself, so why should we. She was fully aware of where her choices had led her, and we knew from page one what her next choice was going to be. It's just ...more
Eric Klee
THE WIFE opens with Joe, a celebrated writer, and his wife Joan flying to Finland so he can accept an award in literature. It is during the flight that Joan decides to leave her husband of many, many years. "The moment I decided to leave him, the moment I thought, enough, we were thirty-five thousand feet above the ocean, hurtling forward but giving the illusion of stillness and tranquility." What drew me to novel was this first line. You can usually tell a lot about a book by the line with whic ...more
A solid 3.5...I really liked so many things about this book, but it's not one that will stay with me, at least I don't think so. An interesting portrait of a talented young co-ed who marries her not-so-talented Smith professor turned famous novelist (take a wild guess how that comes to be...) in the 1950s and the life she chooses/accepts while attached to him. Wolitzer is witty, intuitive and can really put a sentence together; I loved the structure of the novel (it takes place on a trip to Hels ...more
4.5 stars. I loved this book.

The plot moved quickly and I felt sympathy for the main character Joan Castleman from the first page. I also felt like the book offered a few words of warning. Right away we know that Joan has fallen into a sad state of apathy and acceptance and want to know how she plans to remedy the situation. Several instances that made me nod my head were watching Joan judge other women, whether they were housewives, young hotties, or female writers. In each observation I was e
Christina Hager
Even though this is an earlier work of Wolitzer, I enjoyed it more than her most recent book (the interestings). I found this book to be more self-contained-- the plot was much more streamlined. the Interesting was certainly full of "interesting" characters, and yet I found myself wanting to know more about the secondary characters than the main characters. I found the narrator of the interestings most annoying and frustrating. Even though this book has a similar viewpoint , and in a way, the ch ...more
Mike Lindgren
This sly, acerbic novella about a woman who drops out of Smith College circa 1958 to marry a rising young bohemian novelist has genuine bite and wit. Wolitzer's portrayal of the long twilight of a marriage lived in the spotlight moves on vivid, wonderfully efficient prose that sketches the dullness and egotism of the literary life with Flaubertian elan. What sets this book apart from other inside-baseball tales of its ilk, I think, is its genuine, unforced, and deeply tonic rage at the inequitie ...more
I thought this was excellent. I loved Joan and found Joe to be really horrible and charismatic and believable, and the writing is good throughout and it was just what I needed after a few misses in recent reads. It's an interesting study on marriage and writing and I highly recommend it.

Dec 27, 2014 Liz added it
An indulgent read, full of wit and at times insight. Some details in the book spoke to me personally (including one of the main characters obsession with Hostess Sno-Balls) and left me feeling inspired to cut the shit and get typing.
dianne budd
my first Wolitzer. wow.
A fascinating, believable - in fact, probably common, story. i guessed the end when Joe suddenly transformed, with the disparity between his actions and his reviews. How could an obvious misogynist write women authentically?
But i never, til the end, could figure out why the children (except Alice) seemed so self-destructive, so angry.
It is easy to blame Joe - but she was at least as at fault, especially as the years went by. How different for ALL of them, if she had valued
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Meg Wolitzer is the author of The Ten-Year Nap and seven previous novels, including The Position and The Wife . Her short fiction has appeared in The Best American Short Stories and The Pushcart Prize.

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