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The Between Boyfriends Book: A Collection of Cautiously Hopeful Essays

3.64  ·  Rating Details ·  780 Ratings  ·  92 Reviews
Cindy Chupack takes a hilarious look at love, dating-and not dating-in this witty, truthful and utterly charming book. Tackling topics such as "sexual sorbet" (the first man you sleep with after a breakup), "the VISA defense" (the claim, usually invoked by men, that 'I paid, therefore I am innocent') and "eggsistential crisis" (a panic attack, common among women in their l ...more
Paperback, 176 pages
Published May 1st 2004 by St. Martin's Griffin (first published August 5th 2003)
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Manik Sukoco
Jan 01, 2016 Manik Sukoco rated it liked it
Here's a lovely short, funny book that any woman who has dated past the age of 25 can relate to.
I found myself alternately nodding in agreement, shaking my head ruefully, and laughing out loud. I zipped through it in about two hours and enjoyed it very much.
I suspect if I were still single I would feel heartened by these humorous essays. As it was, they left me feeling part of a larger group of women who have struggled with the harsh realities of dating. And, of course, mirthful from laughing s
Apr 10, 2015 Shannon rated it it was amazing
I did not think I would like this book. At all. But it was a book club pick so I went ahead and read it. The book is a homerun. Chupack is so accurate with what singles go through. And the book is very funny. I'd definitely recommend it for the ladies that are between boyfriends. I was happy to see that she has a new release coming out in Jan 2014 too!

If interested,I wrote a more comprehensive review over on the blog:
Jan 16, 2016 Marca rated it liked it
Kunagi lugesin "Seksi ja linna"-nimelist raamatut Candace Bushnellilt, kaanele oli Carrie pandud, aga sisu oli seriaalist üsna erinev (kui mitte öelda täiesti erinev), raamat millegagi meelde ei jäänud. Wikipedia kirjutab, et see raamat sai seriaalile aluseks, küll vist ainult sellega, et peategelane kirjutas "Seksi ja linna"-nimelist kolumni - muid kokkupuutepunkte eriti ei ole. Tegelikult uurisin ma C.Bushnelli ja "Seksi ja linna" seose alles praegu välja, peale seda kui raamatukogus jäi näppu ...more
Nov 10, 2007 Charity rated it liked it
I really enjoyed reading this book. I read it in a day, half of it while I was sitting at the cafe in the bookstore, working on something else, supposedly. It is really quite funny. In terms of it being "cautiously hopeful," however, I would have so say that overall, it was much more cautious than hopeful.

Many times while reading it, I felt like I was watching a Sex and the City episode, and I mean the part of the series before everyone started getting married and having babies (definitely my l
May 14, 2012 Sara rated it liked it
I chose this book as a "palate cleanser", if you will, a tart taste of lemon sorbet after plowing through 800 page King novels and murder mystery thrillers, and as such, The Between Boyfriends Book served its purpose. The author, Cindy Chupak is one of the writers for Sex in the City, a well written and entertaining series on television and in two movies (so far), and I certainly don't doubt her talent as a writer and keen observer of the human condition in the 21st century. Ms. Chupak also seem ...more
Jul 04, 2014 Angie rated it it was amazing
The Goodreads synopsis really sums it up well when it says " reassuring as that late-night post-date phone call to a best friend. It says: you may be single, but you are not alone." It's true, this book really felt reassuring as you made your way through each chapter/essay laughing and thinking about how it applied to your life. I mean there are some ways I couldn't relate, seeing as she's a bit older and living in an entirely different city with an entirely different lifestyle, but there w ...more
Nov 23, 2007 Rosa rated it did not like it
A couple of the essays are cute. Most are crap - Men stink, men can't commit, it's always the man's fault, we don't need men, here's how to catch a man, etc.

Chupack should partially held accountable for why women have eating disorders (she devotes an entire chapter to how she lost 10 pounds in a week on the lemonade diet. She writes about the difficulties of fasting humorously, but in the end, she notes that she kept 5 pounds of it off. Way to encourage healthy body image and healthy habits), wh
Apr 18, 2012 Marsha rated it really liked it
This is a book for the lovelorn, the lust filled and those who have nearly given up hope for a husband and/or kids. Did I state “nearly”? Ms. Chupack believes it is possible to climb back into the saddle after you’ve been thrown. But she also thinks that one needn’t climb back on so hastily, at least not when you want to sample the other cowboys out there. This isn’t a self-help book about how to get a man and keep a man. While there is romantic advice, it’s given more from the wry point of view ...more
One of the script writers for "Sex and the City" wrote her own book, similar to that one by Candace Bushnell and very SATC-ish.
As it says in the undertitle it's a collection of colums/essays, first published in women magazines and all dealing with men, women and their relationships. More precisely: how to end a relationship or how to deal with being dumped. And, most importantly, how to prepare for the men to come.

The idea I liked best was: after a crappy date women can go to the "Getaway Bar",
Mar 04, 2008 Rochelle rated it did not like it
I had expected a lot more from a famous "Sex and the City" writer. Reading the book was like watching an episode of the notorious show, however the voice of Ms. Chupak was not as endearing as the familiar first-person of Carrie Bradshaw. I tried to imagine Carrie talking, but that didn't seem to work either. The chapters were too short and far too shallow. I felt like Ms. Chupak wrote this book while waiting at an airport for one of her many bi-coastal flights as she bounced between NY and LA. I ...more
Sep 29, 2013 Laura rated it really liked it
I started reading this book not knowing that the author was a writer for Sex and the City. Since SATC is one of my all-time favorite shows, I became very excited to read this and I was not disappointed. I had previously read the Sex and the City book and was disappointed in how boring it was compared to the show. This book is exactly what I thought Sex and the City would be like. You can really tell that Cindy Chupack related her personal experiences to her writing on the show. It brought back a ...more
May 11, 2013 Beth rated it really liked it
Here's a lovely short, funny book that any woman who has dated past the age of 25 can relate to. Despite not being currently single, I found myself alternately nodding in agreement, shaking my head ruefully, and laughing out loud. I zipped through it in about two hours and enjoyed it very much.

I suspect if I were still single I would feel heartened by these humorous essays. As it was, they left me feeling part of a larger group of women who have struggled with the harsh realities of dating. And
Feb 28, 2010 Jesse rated it it was ok
I liked this book but I didn’t love it. It was a good collection of essays about dating, not dating, and relationships. Many of her observations are funny and astute and made me laugh but others are a tad bit depressing (looking up at rock bottom for example). There were also other topics such as admitting you’re an L.A. resident and the stages of death being similar that were a good break from the dating rat race essays. Overall, I think it was a good, quick read and worth the time (I read it o ...more
Feb 03, 2012 Suzanne rated it liked it
Shelves: memoir, chick-lit
I like the book like I like Sex in the City - just fine as long as it only lasts a little while. It was a quick read, so I didn't get tired of it. And parts of it were really funny. My favorite essays were "Getaway Bar" (a place to go commiserate after a bad date), "Cupidity" (the false assumption that just because two people are available that they should be set up with one another), "Male Friend Moratorium" (thinking of instituting one of these myself, as I feel that I have indeed caught my li ...more
Sep 09, 2012 Samantha rated it it was ok
I was extremely disappointed with this book. I first heard about it when I was reading a post on the website I thought it was going to be a hilarious book as so she described, but soon enough I was becoming not only really bored of it, but I had no idea what the author was talking about half the time. Yes, in some ways I took a few things out of this book, but for the most part I am glad I went to a thrift store (Half Price Books) and picked it up instead of paying full price ...more
Sep 15, 2007 Catherine rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Fans of Sex and the City
There is of course some hilarious terminology coined here, by one of the writers and exec producers of Sex and the City, and some heart - but I remember feeling a bit saddened by some of these non-fiction stories from her life. Maybe because despite the title, you got the feeling the author didn't have that much hope for herself at this point in her life. Either way I'm a fan of her writing on the show, her column that once ran in Glamour, and Oprah geek that I am - am thrilled that she is now a ...more
chambejd / Joy
Jan 26, 2009 chambejd / Joy rated it liked it
This collection of essays wasn't bad, but I didn't find it all that great. I enjoyed the author's definitions and observant descriptions of items in the dating world (some which are very creative!). I didn't enjoy the "Dating Horrorscope" section... it was just too repetitive and about nothing. Since some of these essays were written and published elsewhere years ago, I also think that some things should have been brought up to date (or at least to 2003 when the book was published), such as the ...more
Lyssrose Farver
Sep 08, 2007 Lyssrose Farver rated it liked it
While I personally don't have a ton of experience with this subject matter (these essays tend to be geared more toward the "Sex in the City" type crowd, which isn't surprising, since the author was a writer for that show), I did find the essays fun and funny in that "geez, maybe I didn't have it as bad as I thought!" kind of way.

This was definately a quick read, with the majority of the essays consisting of only 2-3 pages. For the most part, it felt like reading a whole bunch of short newspaper
Sarah Simone
Dec 14, 2012 Sarah Simone rated it really liked it
I bought this book after my divorce as kind of a pick me up if you will. It isn't the book that is going to change your life but it will make you laugh and feel better about yourself and your situation. There were many laugh out loud moments and times where I could really relate to the author. There were also things I didn't relate to and found just "ok" some of the book is filler and somewhat boring but I believe the good parts make up for the bad. I recommend this to any single woman who is ki ...more
This wasn't a horrible book, but it was the second book that I picked up in as many days, trying to get a good belly laugh. The first book failed miserably (actually had the opposite effect of pissing me off), but this one was just meh. I got about a quarter of the way through it, without even a smile, so put it down. Not that the book wasn't amusing, but it wasn't what I was looking for. So...I put it down. Too many other worthwhile books to read - although it's turning out to be harder than I ...more
Feb 01, 2016 Jillian rated it did not like it
The book is very short, but it's taken me days to finish it due to it being so repetitive and poorly laid out. At first, I thought it was a collection of essays from Cindy Chupack's friends and herself, since she so frequently wrote how she wants a family and a husband. If the essays where more cohesive, or maybe laid out better, it wouldn't have seemed so repetitive. Also, each essay was incredibly short, averaging 2 pages each. I can definitely sense some of my favorite SATC episodes in this c ...more
Leanne Ellis
Jan 18, 2009 Leanne Ellis rated it really liked it
Thanks for the recommendation, K. This was a fast, fun read. I have really been enjoying this genre the past week, and this book was an excellent way to put off reading Alice in Wonderland for school, a book about which I am less than enthusiastic. I especially enjoyed her little "sniglet" chapter titles. As in "Chapter 36: Premature "We"jaculation: a common dating dysfunction occurring when one member of a couple starts using the "we" before the other is ready. Makes you laugh AND makes you app ...more
Well, it appears I have once again read a book a second time. :) I found this at the library bookstore, and even though it seemed vaguely familiar, I picked it up anyway. Did I check and see if I had it? No. I just made it my bathroom book and slowly worked my way through it.

I read it in 2004. I didn't get much out of it this time, not really even any laughs, but this was my journal entry then: Just a fun, light-hearted book. As a woman dating in my thirties, I could relate to a lot of what she
Sep 06, 2008 Kathy rated it really liked it
The title sounds somewhat 'self-helpy' or 'inspirational', but this book really surprised me. The author is a writer/producer for Sex and the City and her personal essays on living the single life in NYC are hilarious without a smidgen of smarmy advice that you'd expect from a book with this title. Even women in relationships would find this book entertaining, especially since it is a quick read.
Jul 23, 2008 Jenna rated it it was amazing
This book is priceless. I read about it about four years ago and always wanted to read it, and lo and behold, suddenly I find myself about to go on a beach vacation whilst between boyfriends. The embarrassing manner by which I procured the book is only too fitting for this collection of truly hilarious musings on the jungle of New York dating. I read it in less than 24 hours and laughed out loud the whole way. The only thing I wished was that every essay could have been longer.
Jul 16, 2008 Erin rated it it was amazing
Sex and The City is one of my favorite shows. I think my sister got me hooked on this book. It is really funny!

The author was a writer on Sex and The City, so some of the stories are the same. I have several favorites:

The way men deal with breakups:
-'The doorman told me he wasn't coming down, ever.'
-'His phone number was disconnected and I found out he moved to another state'

Funny, funny, funny!
Jul 13, 2007 Leslie rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: anyone having opposite sex issues
Shelves: chicklit
Cindy Chupack hits the nail on the head with her sarcasm, sense of humor, and optimism in this one. From "Lone Rangered" (AKA The Dani "Phase Out") to "Male Friend Moratoriums" to an "Eggsetential Crisis" you can read this one or bits and pieces as you need to, to remind yourself that it's not you... or maybe it is?!?!
Jan 02, 2008 Amanda rated it really liked it
I received this book from a friend and shamelessly read it in a few hours and literally laughed aloud multiple times! Great way to put things in prospective after the termination of any sort of relationship.
Jul 06, 2012 Priscilla rated it really liked it
Hilarious!!!! This book is like Sex and the City and Chelsea Handler rolled into one. Each chapter reflects on one crazy dating situation or another and had me laughing out loud pretty much the entire time. Perfect beach or poolside read!
Feb 10, 2014 Lisa rated it really liked it
A quick read that makes you smile. If you're a Sex & The City fan, most of the chapters will remind you of specific episodes from the series. Reading it felt like comfort food... and made me crave a few episodes after I'd finished the book!
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Cindy is the author of The Between Boyfriends Book - A Collection of Cautiously Hopeful Essays, a New York Times bestseller that has been translated into nine languages. In addition, she has written humorous essays about dating and relationships for O, The Oprah Magazine (where she had her own column called “Live Your Best Love Life”), Glamour (where she had a column called “Dating Dictionary”), H ...more
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