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“A sharp, occasionally shocking, memoir that will change how you look at young, single mothers, The Girl Who Couldn’t Say No is also an amusing look at dating as a single twenty-something with a teenager and a toddler.

Told with frank South African humour and refreshingly mature insight, Tracy Engelbrecht tells the story of how she came to find herself pregnant at 15 … and
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ebook, 216 pages
Published May 2011 (first published September 30th 2007)
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Nadine Larter
Don’t laugh, but “randomly” meeting Tracy Engelbrecht (online – because where else do we meet people these days?) was some sort of Universal show of synchronicity. The Universe likes to do this to me.

Let me explain:

About six or seven years ago (holy crap I’m getting old!) I started writing a book about a pregnant teenager. I was hardly past being a teenager myself at that stage, but I just couldn’t do it. I had never been pregnant. And I therefore had no idea what I was talking about. I needed t
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Teresa
I did wonder what I was letting myself in for with this book. I very rarely read memoirs or autobiographies and was concerned that being childless, married and in my fifties would mean I would have difficulty identifying with Tracy or caring about her life. My concerns were groundless. By page two I was hooked. Tracy's description of Maria reminded of the girl in one of the Haribo adverts and that always makes me smile. I recognised the voices that live in Tracy's head, the sensible voice and th ...more
Karyl
Tracy finds out that she's pregnant at 14. But she's a Good Girl! These things don't happen to Good Girls! Yet she never makes excuses for having gotten pregnant at such a young age. She had sex, she got pregnant, end of story. Quite refreshing, really, in an age where folks seem to spend quite a bit of time blaming everyone and everything else for their own choices. At any rate, this memoir covers her pregnancy, from finding out she is indeed pregnant to telling her parents, up to the birth and ...more
RYCJ
Some life events are pretty much universal... falling in love, getting married... and becoming a teenage mom. It happens all the time, except what sets apart each event is when you have a writer voice something like Tracy's.

And still, as distinctive as Tracy's voice was, it took getting past the pregnancy test before her voice grew on me. I related very well to many, if not all of her experiences... the moods, grown-ups who encounter young girls in this 'situation', and other 'condiments' that g
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April (The Steadfast Reader)
As Comic-Book Guy from 'The Simpsons' might say, Worst. Book. Ever. Okay, maybe not EVER but it's pretty awful. And I'm never getting that time back. I'm not a single mother - but I did have an unplanned child at an inopportune time.

The woman may have been 27/28 when the book was published, but it sounds like it comes straight from the diaries of well, a fifteen year old. Good concept, important subject matter, TERRIBLY executed.

Through the blood, tears, sweat, and what sounds like the massive
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Danie Cutter
This book was received as part of First Reads, will post a review when read... watch this space.

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I really enjoyed this book, it's a frank but readable account of a mother learning to be a mother. It doesn't matter particularly that Tracy is a teenage mum as the "bowing to those with some semblance of authority" was exactly the way I felt when first becoming a mum (at twice Tracy's age!) Mums (and maybe Dads if they're inclined to read a "girlie book") will identify with almost everything,
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Alison
I enjoyed this Kindle book about the life of a girl who got pregnant at 14, but I would have liked it to go a little deeper into how she really felt and how people responded to her. The early part, about her life as a "normal" teenager and the shock of discovering she was pregnant, was really interesting but then she kind of went from the early baby days to toddlerdom in about three pages. The section sbout finding a nursery was an eye opener but then there was a lot of boring stuff about work a ...more
Brittany
This is a great book for any teen mom or just any new mother. It shows the struggles and emotions as you raise your child. No matter what age you'll always struggle and worry about that bundle of joy. I read how hard it was for Tracy at 15 to be a mother. But she knew that every mother no matter who you are goes through the same things as she did. I read how much she cared for her child and how she tried her best to raise Steven even though she was only 15. For a 15 year old I can say Tracy did ...more
Lady Joyful
The Girl Who Couldn't Say No is not presented as a cautionary tale on the horrors of teenage motherhood, nor is it an attempt to make teenage motherhood seem a glamourous and appealing option. With a refreshing mix of honesty and humour the author does not attempt to make excuses, rather she gives an authentic account of the ups and downs that come with juggling pregnancy and motherhood with studying and working.
The book starts with fourteen year old Tracy finding out she is pregnant. Much of t
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M. Shannon
I got this book from Goodreads giveaways.

I liked this book. Ms. Engelbrecht has a unique voice that carries you throughout her life. She is honest and funny. For the readers from the United States, you may not get some of her references. I found myself curious on a number of occasions as to who she was talking about or what that reference meant. But this is a book based in South Africa and it remains true to its origins.
Colleen
I loved the honesty and the unexpected story of a 14/15 year old girl, who turned out to be wise enough to make what could have been a disaster into something magical and transformative.

The tone is both defensive and open, full of quirky humour. The book made me appreciate what I have got and a little kick in the psychic butt to make the best of things.

I look forward to Tracy's next book!

Adrienne
The first half was a really interesting look into teen pregnancy - honest, funny, and insightful (though there is a lot of language). Unfortunately, the second half devolved into a spiteful critique of, it seemed, EVERYONE, and was so much poorer than the initial chapters. Would not recommend.
Phillipa
I loved this book! It's been on my reading list for a while now ... and I finally got hold of it and read it.

It is a bit like reading a blog. It's written in a very conversational, colloquial style, which I adore. And being South African is even better :) It was more like reading a blog for me, I guess, because (afaik) she went to our sister-school and was only a few years ahead of me. And although I don't remember hearing about it at the time, the other later link is that I went to primary scho
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Lynda Kelly
Now this shouldn't be a book I'd be very interested in only having dog(s) and no kids and preferring life that way but I really enjoyed it. I downloaded it over a year ago now and kept putting it off as I was at a bit of a loss as to why I did, to be honest ! Now I want to read a sequel but perhaps in a decade. That would be good.
Her parents, especially her mum were terrific and it was splendid the support they've always given her after their initial blowup ! And who would blame them, especially
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Jen
A quick, fun read. I loved Tracy's 'voice' and it kept me well entertained through the entire book.
Jessica
I expected this to be a semi-preachy book with some humour. A ‘beware this bad life choice’ sort of autobiography. It was a spur of the moment reading choice. It turned out to be a relaxing read, written in a friendly conversational tone with just enough humour to make you smile and take the edge of what could have been a very dry story.

I think the title is slightly misleading. I imagined a people pleaser or submissive personality, and while Tracy admits she finds it difficult to stand up for h
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Michelle
Even though teen pregnancy is not a light subject, this was a fun, light read. I loved reading about Tracy's adventure into motherhood and pregnancy starting at 14-years-old. As someone who experienced teenage pregnancy and motherhood, I have to say, it's about time! Yes, I understand that it is not the ideal situation and I would never encourage anyone to try it out, but it doesn't have to be a death of your hopes and dream, it can be beautiful. Tracy was very candid with her life and I have to ...more
Kait
Nov 18, 2011 Kait rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Everyone
I wasn't sure what I was getting into with this book. Being a childless woman in her mid-twenties, I wasn't sure how I would relate to a book about Tracy, who found out she was going to be a mom when she was fourteen. I figured it would just be another whiny tale about men's trickery and the woes of being a teenage mom. I was dead wrong.

After finding out that she's pregnant, Tracy just accepts the fact and moves on from there. With very little whining (aside from that caused by hormones), Tracy
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Rosie
Got this book for free on my Kindle, the plot intrigued me so I thought why not? The book is fairly short so it makes for easy reading, in addition to this it’s sort of in diary form. Well, flashbacks really which also helps to read it in one sitting.

The book follows the author from finding out she was pregnant at 14 to where she is now. Now, I thought the story would go from her meeting David and their relationship then her getting pregnant and so on. Like in a consecutive sequence kinda thing,
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Kaymo19
Tracy Engelbrecht could have written this book as a how-to to raising a child as a teen-age mother. The nice thing about this book is, she didn't! She uses wit and charm to captivate readers into turning one page after another. Her sincere concurrence to making bad mistakes makes Engelbrecht so real, so likable.

It's not a book you read for deep philosophical thought, no. However, I'll admit, Engelbrecht goes into quite a few literary tangents that surprised me--She's funny AND smart!

I'll admit,
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Sonia
This book was free on Kindle when I downloaded it in mid-December – although looking today it is now £2.60.

This is South African Tracy’s own story of how she came to be a teenage mum after falling pregnant at the tender age of 15. She was a Good Girl though, so how could this happen?

With Tracy now 28, this is written just how you could imagine a friend telling you about their past. It’s extremely easy to read, witty, often self-deprecating and tells the story of a smart, likeable girl who made w
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Erin
Tracy got pregnant at 15. As with all teenage mothers, she struggled through all the hardships motherhood brings with it. This is her story of how she got through it and more.

Engelbrecht's humor and wit drew me into the book. I loved her wit and her sense of humor. There was, also, quite a bit of profanity in the book but it all belonged there. That was Tracy's personality and it gave you a real sense of her. As a mother, I found her insight on motherhood hilarious. I laughed out loud on several
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Mia
I liked it, but it was just okay.

The tone of the book was very "bloggy" for lack of a better word. It was chock full of side-stories and rambling and while it wasn't bad, it was sometimes hard to pick up the thread again after being off on a tangent for a few pages. Mostly this had to do with the author re-assuring the reader repeatedly that she is/was a GOOD GIRL, meaning that she wasn't promiscuous (and didn't want to be) when she found herself pregnant at 14. Which is all well and good, mista
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Lucy Hay
I'll be honest: I don't often read memoirs, but through my own outreach work with teens, especially via social media, I "met" Tracy and liked what she had to say about supporting young women. She sounded as if she knew what she was talking about and I'm delighted to say this no-nonsense approach is reflected in her prose style from the very first page of the book. She presents an unapologetic and chatty style, taking us through the events of her life (and her children's) in a way that really ent ...more
Marylou Baker
The book I COULD put down

It took 5 pages to describe why the baby should or shouldn't be bathed. To say this book was wordy would be a gross understatement. I found myself skipping forward to find the end point. It reminded me of a soap opera -- you can go weeks without tuning in and never miss a beat. I'm sorry but I can't recommend this book unless you like being bored.
Heather
There were parts in this book that I didn't like, however, have been there done that, there were more parts in this book that I loved. Talking about the mistake that Tracy made with the nipple on the bottle (Smaller holes for milk, compared to the bigger "X" shaped holes for thicker liquids...also for older babies) I have made that mistake. Being a teen mother myself, I know that I had a lot of the same thoughts running through my head. Am I going to be good enough to raise my child. It is lovel ...more
Amanda
As a soon-to-be first time mom, I enjoyed Tracy's bluntness and sense of humor throughout The Girl Who Couldn't Say No. Tracy addressed many of the fears I have about becoming a mom, and seeing that she tackled them head on at only 15 helps me have a bit more confidence in myself.

There is some heavy language in the book, but it is clearly a reflection of Tracy's personality and adds to the story, so it shouldn't be taken with great offense. Tracy repeatedly expresses her frustrations with "relig
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Jose
A story about a young girl who made a mistake but then realized it was a miracle. A chance for her life to mean something.
Written in first perspective, in a humorous and self deprecating style.

Its an enjoyable and refreshing point of view of a teenage mon.

The book does continue with her life and the second child. Its very clear how much she loves her children and how they mean the world to her.

My main pleasure was reading her terror of being a bad mom but happily everything worked out fine. Give
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Chris
This is an unusually quirky book about a South African girl who finds herself pregnant at an extremely young age. The beginning of the book starts out with a bang where Tracy has to tell her parents that she's pregnant, a tough time for anyone. Tracy spills out her emotions and feelings with frankness and humor throughout the book, but my interest waned a bit toward the middle. After I returned to it, there were a lot of funny stories about jobs, child care, and other things that I could relate ...more
Agnes
Tracey Engelbrecht got pregnant at fourteen and a half (she just doesn't want to say that to make her seem immature). This immediately captured my attention because I was once a teenage mother. However at 15 I could not imagine having a child. Tracey does not tell you that it was a horrible mistake or that she didn't know better. She tells you the story and how it really was. I realy enjoyed that she didn't put blame on others but takes full responsibility. Besides being a young mother she write ...more
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Tracy Engelbrecht is a writer and mother of two. She lives in Cape Town and doesn’t grow freakishly large prizewinning vegetables, but she does do a nice lasagne and her children aren’t in therapy yet, so things are going well. She hardly ever drinks pina coladas or gets caught in the rain, but she’s working on it.

That’s the official story. The truth is, of course, much less exciting.

I was once Th
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