Get Out of Your Own Way at Work... and Help Others Do the Same: Conquering Self-Defeating Behavior on the Job
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Get Out of Your Own Way at Work... and Help Others Do the Same: Conquering Self-Defeating Behavior on the Job

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A practical guide to help workers and managers deal with the self-sabotage that stands in the way of career advancement and satisfaction.

Self-defeating behavior is the most common reason that people put their jobs, careers, and reputations in jeopardy. Whether it's as simple as a breach of etiquette or a fear of learning new things, expecting too much from employers or f...more
Hardcover, 256 pages
Published October 6th 2005 by Putnam Adult (first published February 1st 1996)
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As I began to read this book, I recalled the core concepts in The Knowing-Doing Gap co-authored by Jeffrey Pfeffer and Robert Sutton. Briefly, they assert that “so many managers know so much about organizational performance, say so many smart things about how to achieve performance, and work so hard, yet are trapped in firms that do so many things they know will undermine performance." Many (most?) people have a “gap” between knowing what to do and doing it, not only at work but in all other are...more
Elizabeth Black
I was not impressed with this one. I think what he was going for was practical application to every day life, but the stand alone lessons seem nothing to do with one another and are too simplistic to address the deep roots from which self defeating behaviors stem.
Dr. Mark Goulston has written an excellent book whose advice is as timely today as it was when it was first published in 2006. Its predecessor, Get Our of Your Own Way (co-authored by Goulston and Philip Goldberg), provided a great deal of salient information for dealing with the self-centeredness that prevents us as humans from having good relationships with others, whether in the family circle or at work. Goulston himself follows the philosophies of pragmatism and empiricism; he wants to know...more
Jerry Smith
Easy to read but full of interesting insights, quotes, snippets that you can use and a brief explanation of 40 common self-defeating behaviours. I bet we all exhibit a few of them.

Goulston is a psychiatrist and therefore comes at this with a wealth of experience and writes in a very approachable style. Huge subject of course, how we get in our own way is something we deal with all day every day so his approach to reducing each chapter to manageable chunks is very welcome and works well.

Really thin self help content that neglects to provide insight into suggestions.
Some interesting insights, but overall felt like an oversimplified crash course.
Amy Sanchez
Jan 30, 2008 Amy Sanchez rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: all my friends
Recommended to Amy by: My friends at Borders recommended this to me... thanks
Cant get enough of these kinds of books. Just another book that screams "Stop Whining and Do something about it" ... (sometimes we need to hear the truth about ourselves)
What I really liked about this book in general is the little practical solution boxes at the end of every part.
This was a fantastic book. The read was easy, but full of helpful and insightful information
still reading but this is surprisingly very good so far. Very practical.
Hard Knocks 101
A no nonsense direct way to dealing with self -defeating behavior.
Still working on it... :)
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MARK GOULSTON, M.D., is a business psychiatrist and consultant, author of the bestselling Just Listen, and subject of the PBS special “Just Listen with Dr. Goulston.” He writes a Tribune syndicated career column; blogs for Fast Company, Business Insider, Huffington Post, and Psychology Today; and is featured frequently in major media including The Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, Fort...more
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