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The Happiest Toddler on the Block: The New Way to Stop the Daily Battle of Wills and Raise a Secure and Well-Behaved One- To Four-Year-Old

3.45  ·  Rating Details ·  4,323 Ratings  ·  693 Reviews
Toddlers can drive you bonkers...so adorable and fun one minute...so stubborn and demanding the next! Yet, as unbelievable as it sounds, there is a way to turn the daily stream of "nos" and "don'ts" into "yeses" and hugs...if you know how to speak your toddler's language. In one of the most useful advances in parenting techniques of the past twenty-five years, Dr. Karp rev ...more
Paperback, 336 pages
Published May 31st 2005 by Bantam (first published 2004)
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Susanne
Aug 19, 2008 Susanne rated it it was ok
I was SO impressed with Dr Karp's first book, "The Happiest Baby on the Block," that I didn't even look at the "Happiest Toddler" before buying it. The five "S's" in "The Happiest Baby" absolutely saved our sanity when Isaac was a newborn. For him, it really was like flipping a switch from cranky to calm.

After reading"Happiest Toddler," I find myself thinking that there are some suggestions I might refer back to at some future date (since the book covers toddler's behavior from one to four year
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Kelly Cooke
Oct 30, 2008 Kelly Cooke rated it did not like it
This book made me wish for the rebirth of the pamphlet. You know how Thomas Paine and those folks around the birth of our nation had these big ideas but then put them in a pamphlet? I think that's what Harvey Karp should do. Only, his ideas (in this book, anyway) aren't really that big.

Here's something that bothers me. A writer or somesuch will have a decent idea and sell many, many books (i.e. "The Happiest Baby on the Block," which I enjoyed in DVD form and "The Purpose Driven Life" by Rick W
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Hilarie
Jun 13, 2009 Hilarie rated it it was amazing
These days, it seems as though every book written by a doctor has a catchy gimmick designed to grab the interest of the reader. This book was no exception, as on the back cover Dr. Karp lovingly refers to toddlers everywhere as pint-sized cavemen. Since I am currently in the throws of the toddler years, I had to agree with Dr. Karp, as there are days that my little one happily wreaks destruction. Lest you think that Dr. Karp is somehow being insulting, let me assure you that it is very evident t ...more
Rebecca
Dec 25, 2014 Rebecca rated it really liked it
My 2 year old Rosie was melting down-- it was past naptime, and we were on the 8th activity of the day-- decorating cupcakes--and she DESPERATELY wanted a handful of m&ms. She started screaming, CANDY!!!! CANDY!!!! Auntie Bridget said to me, "have you read The Happiest Toddler on the block?" I told her-- "I've just started it!" I begged Bridget for a demonstration.
She leaned across the table, right into Rosie's face and wailed at a Wagnerian pitch, "You want candy!!!!!! You want candy, huh!
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Leslie
Jan 08, 2009 Leslie rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, parenting
I was pleasantly surprised with this book. Not only is it an easy, quick read, but it's also really congruent throughout; everything fits together like a perfect puzzle. It's like you've hired a personal parent trainer who has provided you with a complete "work out" plan, and all the parts work together for the general benefit.

I went into it with the mentality of taking everything as a grain of salt (is that the expression? or is it "with" a grain of salt? neither really makes sense to me). My
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Elizabeth
Apr 02, 2013 Elizabeth rated it it was amazing
I have to disagree with most of the reviews of this book. I read this book during a period of severe tantrums from my one year old, and a lot of the strategies suggested in this book really seemed to help. Simply coming to the realization that my toddler was more like a little caveman rather than a little person helped dramatically. Before reading the book, I constantly was asking myself an anyone else near, "why is she acting like this?!?!" Reading this book have me some much needed insight. Al ...more
Matt Weber
Nov 28, 2012 Matt Weber rated it liked it
A difficult read, but its very disjointedness accumulates through the chapters to ramify into a very real hallucinatory power. Characters flit through, ghostlike, evanescent, there and gone, so transitory that mere recurrence strikes one like a thunderbolt -- for example, the brothers Aidan and Nate, the source of whose tantrums is never fully anatomized but whose too-brief anguishes ignite the page like black fire. The repetitious, misspelled incantations of thwarted desire sometimes recall Fau ...more
Jessica
I was actually surprised by how much I got out of this book. I never really used Dr. Karp's Happiest Baby on the Block techniques, although that was mainly because our little one was already older when I read it. But I thought I would check this one out, as I needed a little guidance for the toddler years!
Many of Dr. Karp's techniques sound a little ridiculous, and they honestly feel a little ridiculous at first, but I think they work. It's all about respecting your toddler by acknowledging how
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Harmony
Nov 18, 2010 Harmony rated it it was amazing
I loved this book. I was so surprised to come onto Goodreads today and find that so many people gave the book low or mediocre ratings! I think that it basically comes down to doing what you feel is comfortable and successful. Perhaps the methods that Dr. Karp recommends don't sit well with all parents, or don't work for all children.

I really felt like the book further opened my eyes to how toddlers see the world. Many of things he recommended, I already do with the toddlers I babysit. The new id
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Sally
Jul 06, 2008 Sally rated it it was ok
Shelves: parenting
I think it's important to relate to your kids, to try to understand where they're coming from, to even speak to them on their level, respecting their abilities. But I will not get on the floor and cry in baby-speak just because my 2 year old is doing it! There are better, gentle, more dignified ways.

I was surprised that I didn't like this book (I actually watched the video) as much as The Happiest Baby on the Block because there were some ideas in the baby book that are right-on. Not so with the
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Stephanie
I really liked Dr. Karp's Happiest Baby on the Block because it was so straight forward. This book? Not so much. He advocates talking to a child in what I find to be a silly and non-sensical way. If a child has a tantrum about say being hungry, for example, you're supposed to tell her: "You're hungry. Hungry. Hungry. Hungry." I mean, I get that toddlers can't be reasoned with, and I understand his point that toddlers are essentially uncivilized cavemen, but really? I just can't do this toddleres ...more
Gail
Jul 12, 2014 Gail rated it really liked it
I haven't even touched a parenting book since Dean was an infant, but once he hit that 17-month mark, the Toddler Tornado took us by surprise and I found myself grappling for how to handle the sudden meltdowns my son started having on me (much to my chagrin). No surprise that I would turn to Harvey Karp for answers, since his Happiest Baby on the Block book (he of the great "swaddling" fame) saved me as a new mother in those very early days of parenthood! His Toddler answer to his parenting seri ...more
Lynne
May 15, 2008 Lynne rated it liked it
A solid basic parenting book for toddlers, although with a somewhat strange twist about considering your toddler to be a caveman. Most of his points are very good basic parenting advice, but the "toddler-ese" thing is a bit strange. Tried it with some of my patients and some of the parents out-right laughed at me or looked at me like I lost my mind and it didn't really actually help with the kid's distress. Definitely, it doesn't work on Spenser who just looks at me like I'm nuts and with an exp ...more
Philitsa
Mar 09, 2010 Philitsa rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
A lot of this book didn't really resound for me except -- as others have stated -- the FFR. I use that all the time in my personal and professional lives, so it made sense to extend it to my daughter. There has been an improvement in her tantrum recovery time that I'll attribute to that. However, I simply refuse to speak like a caveman to her when she's upset. I just don't buy it. How will dropping pronouns and prepositions make her understand me more? I'm happy to hear from other parents on thi ...more
Lisa Wuertz
This book has been talked up a lot by several friends. So I was really hoping I would like it and I would get some insights as our daughter started throwing full blown tantrums at 10 months old when she wouldn't get her way when it came to stuff like climbing the stairs, going in the kitchen, etc.

However, being that I didn't much like Happiest Baby on the Block and found Karp's writing style annoying there, I probably should have expected the same from this book. Seriously, I think I'm going to
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Shana
Apr 25, 2009 Shana rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting
Great starter book for understanding toddler emotions and how to respect them and handle tantrums. The only thing I didn't like about this book is the dramatization, which I find escalates the child emotions. They need us to bridge the gap from how they feel to how they can feel good again. We accept their negative feelings. We allow them to have negative feelings. But we dont have to have negative feelings with them. We can come from a place of peace, bridge the gap with empathy, and let them w ...more
Cheryl
Aug 03, 2011 Cheryl rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book is absolutely BIZARRE!!!! I picked it up last week at a bookstore's going-out-of-business sale, and I have mostly just been skimming it. But I had to stop, because it was so strange! The author advocates GROWLING at your child like a dog or a bear to get him to stop misbehavior! He also advocates speaking to your child in "caveman" language when trying to stop misbehavior or tantrums. Here is an example: "Cookie! Cookie! You want cookie! Cry! Cry! Cry! Emma Cry! You want! You want! You ...more
Real Supergirl
There's tons of good suggestions in here, reading it when my son is only 1 year is a little overwhelming as I don't really know yet what kind of toddler he'll be, but I suspect I will return to it as his toddler years unfold. It's useful as an easy to read, philosophical approach to parenting - it's not about control or making our little "cavemen" into who we want them to be, it's about helping them navigate the world safely and become who they want to be, who they have the potential to be, and ...more
Shan
Mar 29, 2016 Shan rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
While Karp has some great ideas (and a few of them even seem to work on my child), I found myself cringing often at the writing and the tone. And I particularly loathed his near-constant use of the word "primitive." It's bad enough as an adjective ("your child's primitive behavior") but so much worse as a noun ("try this technique with your little primitive!"). Ugh! I'm not sorry I read this, because his overall message makes a lot of sense -- but I didn't exactly enjoy the experience.
Hilary
Nov 17, 2014 Hilary rated it liked it
Some interesting ideas. I'm not sure I completely buy-in (unlike The Happiest Baby on the Block which was an incredibly helpful book) but I did try one of the techniques on a screaming, thrashing toddler this morning and it worked like a charm. (For the record, that was a combination of FFR and empathy.)
Jamie Hergott
Nov 16, 2011 Jamie Hergott rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting
I read this book because Dr. Karp's first book, Happiest Baby on the Block, saved or lives when my daughter was a baby. She was inconsolable every single evening for 2 to 3 hours before bedtime. Most people chalked it up to her having colic and told me it would get better in a few months. I picked up Happiest Baby and started implementing his 5 S's (Swaddle, Ssh, Swinging, Sucking, Side/Stomach) and it worked like a charm every single time. I was completely relived. I figured his second book wou ...more
Tracyesine
Nov 18, 2011 Tracyesine rated it it was ok
My two star rating is based on the "it was okay" description. Yes, this book is okay. It contains some good advice about how to make a toddler feel his or her feelings have been heard, and why this is important. I appreciated the little techniques for creating a positive, encouraging vibe by letting the child overhear positive things about his/her actions, as well as the actions of others. I also agree that lengthy reasoning with an angry toddler is not productive, and will likely just further a ...more
Scott Miles
Jul 26, 2013 Scott Miles rated it really liked it
Shelves: child-rearing
Karp has done it again. His first book, "The Happiest Baby on the Block", was a lifesaver. I find it interesting that many of the reviews I've read here on goodreads.com have praised the tactics outlined there, but ridicule and dismiss the tactics proposed in this book. After all, many people thought my wife and I were insane for going along with the "Happiest Baby" approach, but in the context of the "fourth trimester", it made perfect sense. The "caveman" characterization, seen as absurd by ma ...more
Amy
Mar 30, 2012 Amy rated it it was ok
This book was way too long - a common complaint I have of the few parenting books I have read, in general. I was excited to read it because we used Dr. Karp's infant techniques with Maggie and they worked very well. Most of the toddler techniques aren't really anything revolutionary, in my opinion. The "toddlerese" is a little too odd for me. I did try it, at home, and it was not successful. There is no way I would do it in public, like several of the example situations. I did think the developm ...more
Casey
Oct 23, 2011 Casey rated it it was ok
I like reading parenting books because I usually walk away with something new. I feel like a lot of ideas mentioned are good but it could have been condensed into an article.

And my daughter is almost two years old, and I feel that talking Toddlerese to her is insulting. She gets this look like, "What the heck are you doing?!" So no more.

Other tips?
1. show your kids you love them.
2. don't be a jerk.
3. don't treat your kid like s/he is an adult.
4. understand they aren't having tantrums just to
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Laura
Jan 10, 2013 Laura added it
Dr. Karp's 5 S's got us through H's first four months, so I was eager to read his advice on toddlers. His main premise is that toddlers have roughly equal communication and reasoning skills to Neanderthals and the best way to deal with tantrums is to speak to them on that level, with lots of arm/hand gestures, short phrases, and dramatic facial expressions. It seems to work fairly well with H and I tucked away a lot of the ideas on toilet training, night terrors, and introducing a new sibling fo ...more
Dolly
Oct 28, 2014 Dolly rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: parents
Great book for parents of toddlers! It's an informative and encouraging book that helps parents learn more about this stage in a child's life that can be very difficult for everyone. The author not only explains what is age-appropriate, but also gives helpful strategies to engage toddlers and get them to cooperate without parents yelling and becoming frustrated by the toddler's contrary, independent behavior.
Kelli Oliver George
I like his approach in the vein that toddlers are biologically engineered to do certain things. I wholeheartedly agree that toddlers are NOT little adults that many folks expect WAY too much out of a 2 year old.

I did think his method of communication "talking like a caveman" was a little silly. Still - it was a good book to think about.
Catherine
Some stuff makes sense, but the clap-growl technique? My son LAUGHS heartily. Perhaps I need to work on my growl. Also can't help thinking Karp kinda thinks his readers are idiots with all the repetition, and his tone is unbearably cheesy. NEXT.
Jackie
Dec 24, 2011 Jackie rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting
I really, really hope this book gives me some ideas on how to deal with the angry alien that has invaded my once happy child....

So far Toddlerese has not exactly worked. But it will still be a tool we will try.
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Dr. Harvey Karp is a nationally renowned pediatrician and child development specialist. He is an Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at the UCLA School of Medicine. Over the past 30 years, he has taught thousands of parents, from working moms to superstars like Madonna, Michelle Pfeiffer and Pierce Brosnan his secrets for making children happy.

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