How to Talk to Anyone: 62 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
If you’ve read How to Win Friends and Influence People (my review) or other books about winning people over, you won’t find much new here. However, there are a few tips that countered common wisdom, such as waiting until after a ...more
I docked a star because I while I understand where Lowndes was going with the "Big Cat" vs "Little Cat" comparison (or "Big Winners" vs "Losers"), at times I felt she took it too far. For example, it came across in the book ...more
The author of this book, Leil Lowndes, has divided the book into 92 "mini-essays" for each of her "little tricks". Each mini-essay comes with some kind of anecdote. You can guarantee these anecdotes will tell us all about Leil's very very high po ...more
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I was looking for advice on honing my conversational skills to the level of a social butterfly. Having some experience as a management trainer, I look at self-help books critically and here is my analysis.
First the positives. This book does teach you some important and overlooked facts that are helpful for all of us, as they may be our blind spots. It also gives you real li ...more
Leil Lowndes apparently feels the same way, but she appears not to catch the irony in it.
There's a difference between advice that helps bring out the real you, enabling you to put your best foot forward, and advice that helps hide the real you, enabling you to convinc ...more
The content of Leil Lowndes's How to Talk to Anyone is much better described by its subtitle: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships. Some of the book is about talking to people, but quite a bit is about other aspects of relationships. I read this just after reading How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less by Nicholas Boothman (reviewed here). Both books are on similar topics, but written by very different authors. While Boothman's book is short and less thorough than I would...more
For some this book might be more valuable by skipping the talk of big cats and glass ceilings, reading the tips at the end of the chapter and then reading that chapter if they apply. Some of the information f ...more
On the other hand, she sometimes offers advice and examples without ample research. For example, she suggests using a tradesperson's lingo to get a better deal. Then, she ...more
Whether you're attracted to someone, need to get ahead in business, or simply want to increase your friendships (face-to-face or online) this books carries a lot of advice. 92 examples to be exact. It guides you on how to start a conversation, the tempo you should use, reading non-verbal signs and all the suave techniques to mingle your way into a crowd of strangers. But does it work??
I love talking to people, and find it easy to handle conversations ...more
First, the book has a pervasively smug tone. Many readers will be put off by the number of times the author refers to "big winners," "big players," and "big cats," and the constant sense that the author is trying to boast of her "big tiger" friends in the furniture industry. This overweenin ...more
In all seriousness, this book cannot be anything but a joke. And not even a funny one. It contains 92 communication "techniques" (haha) for - I suspect Leil forgot to mention that - autistic or anyhow introverted fellows, or subjects with a self-esteem somewhere below zero, like recen ...more
The author herself, should you have had the displ ...more