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How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

3.82 of 5 stars 3.82  ·  rating details  ·  7,936 ratings  ·  225 reviews
""You'll not only break the ice, you'll melt it away with your new skills."" -- Larry King

""The lost art of verbal communication may be revitalized by Leil Lowndes."" -- Harvey McKay, author of ""How to Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive""

What is that magic quality makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single
ebook, 345 pages
Published October 10th 2003 by Contemporary Books (first published January 1st 1999)
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Chad Warner
Sep 30, 2012 Chad Warner rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: businesspeople
A useful collection of tips for social interactions, mostly for business networking. They emphasize nonverbal communication such as body language and vocal tone. This book definitely increased my awareness of my social behavior, and I’ll keep several of the tips in mind.

If you’ve read How to Win Friends and Influence People (my review) or other books about winning people over, you won’t find much new here. However, there are a few tips that countered common wisdom, such as waiting until after a
I'm on a mission of self-improvement. I found many of the tips in this book to be very helpful (especially those focused on conversations), and I'm already putting some of them into practice. What I liked was the practical advice and clear examples and anecdotes for each tip.

I docked a star because I while I understand where Lowndes was going with the "Big Cat" vs "Little Cat" comparison (or "Big Winners" vs "Losers"), at times I felt she took it too far. For example, it came across in the book
The woman who wrote this may have social skills, but she is also an idiot. The book is unfortunately so shoddily and offensively written, I often found myself needing to take breathers between chapters. At least 150 pages of this tome needn't exist. Like a true conversationalist, Landes makes sure every single "trick" is accompanied by one or two vapid anecdotes. She has some good tips, but far from 92 of them. Some just make you a stupid jerk -- instructions on how to trap someone else into spe ...more
This lady probably has some good social skills herself, but she's a god damn idiot.
2 word review, shit sandwich.
Chris Dietz
This book delivered what it advertised in that there were 92 tips in it. 'How to talk to anyone', however, didn't seem to come across as much as 'how to talk to someone who's potentially hiring you and/or someone who you're sexually interested in.' Then again, maybe that IS anyone. Either way, this book had a couple truly good, insightful tips (all at the beginning), and the rest was either common sense or something that a socially observant person would have already picked up on in the course o ...more
Having scoured Amazon for days, I finally narrowed my selection to three books on social skills, one of which was this book.

I was looking for advice on honing my conversational skills to the level of a social butterfly. Having some experience as a management trainer, I look at self-help books critically and here is my analysis.

First the positives. This book does teach you some important and overlooked facts that are helpful for all of us, as they may be our blind spots. It also gives you real li

The content of Leil Lowndes's How to Talk to Anyone is much better described by its subtitle: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships. Some of the book is about talking to people, but quite a bit is about other aspects of relationships. I read this just after reading How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less by Nicholas Boothman (reviewed here). Both books are on similar topics, but written by very different authors. While Boothman's book is short and less thorough than I would

The first impulse is to rip this book to shreds in my review because of how many times it made me cringe and cover my face with my palm. I have honestly never read anything quite so...bombastic. It gets extremely laughable and pitiful. I shall elaborate.

The author of this book, Leil Lowndes, has divided the book into 92 "mini-essays" for each of her "little tricks". Each mini-essay comes with some kind of anecdote. You can guarantee these anecdotes will tell us all about Leil's very very high po
Some good tips and some obvious ones. I can, and will, apply parts of this book to my life but the content and tone is heavily geared towards your professional life and creating somewhat artificial relationships to get sales or get ahead. This isn't what I wanted or expected from the title.

For some this book might be more valuable by skipping the talk of big cats and glass ceilings, reading the tips at the end of the chapter and then reading that chapter if they apply. Some of the information f
ضهرا درعلی
Feb 22, 2015 ضهرا درعلی is currently reading it
تورو خدا بهم نگین این کتابو بزارم کنار و برم برای امتحان عربی فردا بخونم:(
احساس میکنم هر صفحه ای که نخونم کلی مطلب و نکته ی مفید از دست میدم:/
Indi Martin
I don't generally go for self-help books. I find that most of them couch painfully common sense in media-ready sound bytes, and it pains me in return to spend money on them. But this one caught my eye, and flipping through it, kept it, so I gave in to the urge (needed something light and fluffy after all that Cambodia/Khmer Rouge reading anyway!). What do you know? This is a fantastic book. I practiced some of the techniques the other day at a gathering of a few new acquaintances, and they worke ...more
I enjoyed this little book while peeling and proccessing mangos into jam and fruit leather. It was a lot of fun. I heard plenty of cheezy, dated verbage, which just added to the entertainment. I did come away with some great thoughts to add to my ideas about rapport, ideas that help communicate the interest I already have in my friends and family. I learned some background explanations about why some people put me at ease more and why some things I do naturally feel good. There were moments I fe ...more
Fabulous trash, Sex-in-the-city style. Before my inner eye, I can see little Leil chatting with her girl friends about what to say when they meet the next Mr. Big - alpha-male, charming, super-successful, AND cute!

In all seriousness, this book cannot be anything but a joke. And not even a funny one. It contains 92 communication "techniques" (haha) for - I suspect Leil forgot to mention that - autistic or anyhow introverted fellows, or subjects with a self-esteem somewhere below zero, like recen
This is a very fluffy book that, while it has some useful tips, appears more like a socialite's guide to popularity than a genuine networking guide. The book draws strong distinctions between the successful "tigers" in the world (CEOs and rich people) and the rest of us, appearing somewhat elitist at times. Also, I always advise authors to find someone else to narrate their books, and this is another case of that. A professional voice person probably would have added some depth to the reading.
Laura  Yan
This is a ridiculous book. It's kind of (unintentionally) hilarious. I don't think I would get along very well with Ms. Lowndes-nor was I her intended audience. But sometimes I like reading these businessy self improvement books as a nice break from my usual heavy literary literature, and a quite a few of the tips in the book did seem clever and useful. I like the suggestion of learning specific vocabulary to sound more like an expert in anything, complimenting/thanking people on specifics rathe ...more
The book seemed great at first, but it isn't what I had expected. Considering I was already good at communicating with people and I was ver well living and chatting, I've just wanted to read the book for the sake of reading about communication cause I was interested in psychology, communication.. Etc

Yet after I'd finished the book I found that it wasn't at all what I wanted. It isn't for normal real life, and it goes so much to a sales person. It should be called HOW TO BE PERFECT.
I found the
I read this book because the title was appealing to me, an awkward turtle. But it wasn't helpful at all. I'm not good at small talk even when I know what I should say, I probably have ADD and I don't like looking people in the eyes for too long. Nearly all these tips are so phony and about basically being a fake person for other people so they like you. The tips are all fairly obvious (if not contradictory) but it doesn't help anyone like me who already knows the lot of it but has severe trouble ...more
A powerful self-improvement book that presents many step-by-step suggestions how a person can improve their socialization skills.
This is more than just a how-to-do-it book.
Lowndes provides excellent justification for why certain approaches are successful or not.
couldn't focus because she calls faces "pusses" and mistakes "boners". i suspect this book was written in 1952. (just checked: actually 2003.) this book did teach me how to technically talk less, which is good. now i just have to try and do it.
Emad Elsaid
حلو الكتاب ده ماكملتوش كله، بس اللى قرأته منه ساعدنى فعلآ فى تحسين الcommunication skills بتاعتى
هو طويل شوية و كله tips مفيدة رغم انها trivial بس بتحتاج حد ينبهك ليها
Cindy Lau
my mom made me read it; the "tricks" are totally superficial and many of them are actually rather conniving. i'm not a fan.
This book is full of little tricks (hence the title of the book) that you can easily try out when talking to other people. I felt like the book was aimed more at individuals in leadership positions, but I suppose it would also help those seeking to move into such positions as well. I listened to the book and didn't take notes, so I've already forgotten most of the tricks mentioned in the book. There are a handful that have stuck with me that I've been trying to practice. Overall, I feel like it ...more
This book contains a mixture of advice that is either obvious or downright silly. Avoiding clichés and keeping people talking about themselves falls into the obvious category. Finding "special" words to replace common ones, or asking what someone would like to have engraved on their tombstone is silly. I would love to see someone pull off any of the more radical tips in "How to talk to Anyone" without seeming completely artificial and ridiculous.

The author herself, should you have had the displ
A decent read that tries to deliver straight to the point exactly what the title says. Unfortunately it misses a lot by oversimplifying social situations and a general attitude of "here, have this tip - it's not just a useful tip, it will definitely make you a superstar!" that builds some bombastic and somewhat absurd expectations. Also, about half of the book could be summarized to strictly promoting empathy and simply describes lots of different ways in which you can empathize with your conver ...more
Tien Pham
While this book does provide some helpful techniques, overall, it seems to encourage insincerity. The author tells the readers to feign a lot of things, like feign listening to a person into talking passionately, or giving them a compliment right away even though they "bombed" it.

With that said, this book does point out some good points. One of my favorite tips is to not give out a naked thank you to someone who does you a great favor, instead, make it "thank you for insert action". I like this
Simon Salas
Great book for those who need a little push to become more extroverted.
Dan Ryan
This audiobook is entertaining and shockingly nonobnoxious. Most books like this are full of awful and improbable "tricks" that are centered on lying and manipulation. Ms. Lowndes' approach is more common-sense and wholesome, if a bit too cute for this grumpy old man. She comes up with a title for each "trick" and an anecdote, but if you can overlook the cuteness, this is a valuable guide to meeting and engaging with more people. I would recommend it highly to young people who are wise enough to ...more
Laura Ferrari
A good read if you're feeling antisocial.
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