Leaving the Saints: How I Lost the Mormons and Found My Faith
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Leaving the Saints: How I Lost the Mormons and Found My Faith

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As �Mormon royalty� within the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Martha Beck was raised in a home frequented by the Church�s high elders in an existence framed by the strictest code of conduct. As an adult, she moved to the east coast, outside of her Mormon enclave for the first time in her life. When her son was born with Down syndrome, Martha and her hus...more
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Published April 25th 2006 by Broadway Books (first published 2005)
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Patricia
I'm sitting here typing and untyping (that would be known as deleting, I guess), which is what happens when there's something important and true and hard for me to write.

Of all the books I've read about living well after having been violated sexually as a child, this one is best.

Martha Beck and I both come from religious fundamentalist families; we both come from families that were and are highly dysfunctional. She has been branded a liar for remembering what happened to her; I have been called...more
Sarah (Warning: Potentially Off-Topic)
Dec 06, 2012 Sarah (Warning: Potentially Off-Topic) rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommended to Sarah (Warning: Potentially Off-Topic) by: Emily
In Leaving the Saints: How I Lost the Mormons and Found My Faith, Martha Beck recounts her experiences in the Mormon church. As the daughter of a highly respected Mormon apologist, the Mormon faith played a foundational role in Beck’s life. She left Utah to study at Harvard, then moved back to teach part time at Brigham Young University while completing her doctoral dissertation in sociology. She returned in part because she found the Mormon community to be more accepting of her young son with D...more
Matt Evans
Both stars are for the quality of writing. Martha Beck is a very funny and good writer. I might even add one more star for controversy, as Martha's husband, John, has given her a 1-star Amazon review (and a surprising revelation: they're divorced). As far as anti-Mormon books go, I've read much better. Reading this novel is an exercise in unreliable narration, which may sound like criticism but in my world it's something that I thoroughly enjoy. Anyway. Here's John's review. Caveat Emptor:

"675 o...more
Phoebe
I wanted to follow up my reading on fundamentalist polygamist Mormonism with a story about mainstream Mormonism today. Because I, myself, am certainly not a believer (I’m agnostic and vaguely Jewish, in fact, and I warn you that my attitudes towards religion might be reflected in my review), and because of the secrecy of members of the LDS Church, I thought an account from a former believer would be most-illuminating. I picked up Martha Beck’s How I Left the Saints, hoping that this account by a...more
Beth Pearson
This was a tough book to get through...At times I was very sorry I picked it up and started it.

Why did I start it? Because I read and was fascinated with Martha Beck's "Expecting Adam" and even more so after finishing the story and realizing that I actually knew of the parents she speaks of so much in telling the tale of her pregnancy of her 2nd child....A boy known to have Down Syndrome before he was born. I've never forgotten some of the amazing spiritual experiences she recounts in Expecting...more
Tamra
To know, first off: I am a fully active Mormon. Someone suggested I read this book because Martha's experiences reminded this person of my own experiences in the church. We will leave it there. Review follows.

I picked up and put down Leaving the Saints on the same day. I got about 30 pages into it. Here are some of my very limited opinions on the book.

1 - The pursuit of truth (and anything else, really) if not tempered with tolerance, love, and respect is almost worthless. I think, reading from...more
Lena
Aug 28, 2007 Lena rated it 3 of 5 stars
Shelves: memoir
Martha Beck was an atheist-inclined grad student when miraculous happenings during her second pregnancy reawakened her interest in spirituality. After moving back to her hometown of Provo, she embraced her childhood religion in effort to deepen this newfound faith. She writes with lucidity and humor about how she instead discovered the dark side of the Mormon church, including fundamental beliefs that contradict known fact, a culture that stifled intellectual exploration, and a suspected relatio...more
Jess
This book had a long history for me. Years ago I read Expecting Adam and loved it. A friend I loaned it to was skeptical however, and did some research. In retrospect that must have been about the time Leaving the Saints was hitting the Mormon community like a flaming bag full of poo. There were plenty of people to be found online claiming that Martha Beck was a compulsive liar who'd made up half of the details in a book she explicitly labeled a true story (Expecting Adam), and that much of the...more
Christopher
Apr 09, 2008 Christopher rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: J.K. Rowling.
Even though I highly doubt much of the content of this book, I found it extremely entertaining and enjoyable to read. I took a class from her brother-in-law who would occasionally mention this book and how hurtful it had been to him personally. Aside from the main point, of her having been molested by Hugh Nibley as a child, he felt the majority of the books details did not reflect actual events and were unnecessarily hurtful. All of her siblings were interviewed together on public radio, severa...more
Terrie
This book was not what I expected. I can't say as I entirely followed all the spiritual experiences, but Beck is an excellent writer, and it was a much deeper treatment of Mormon beliefs and culture than in "Secret Ceremonies".

I found out that the author and her husband subsequently divorced and both indicate that they are actually homosexuals. It gets stranger because prior to leaving the Mormon church they authored a book together about how to suppress one's homosexual tendencies.
Janiece
Fiction. The definition of memoir is consistently debatable. But according to her husband at the time this is probably along the lines of a million little pieces fiction masquerading as memior.
Sarah
I really and truly enjoyed this book. It was funny as hell, and I really related to her struggle to leave the faith that she was raised in. I feel like a learned a lot about Mormonism, the good things like the kindness and charity, and the bad things like the cracked out history and the desire to treat women (particularly those who have been abused) like shit. For what it is worth, I believe her stories of sexual abuse wholeheartedly since they are very similar to the stories of many other abuse...more
Jeremy
I started this book two days ago, and completed it just last night. This book is an amazing story of the daughter of the most prominent Mormon (LDS) apologist, Hugh Nibley. She discusses some of the horrific events of her childhood, her strained relationship with her father, and her tenure as a professor at BYU.

It is important to note that this is not a trashy anti-mormon book, although some LDS members will certainly perceive it that way. It is not an expose of Mormon temple rituals, nor is it...more
G--
She's a fun writer--little twists of language and imagery that creates a wonderful voice. She brings up an important topic: child abuse perpetuated by unexpected persons, especially the ostensibly pious. My concern? Unreliable narrator. She stereotypes the Mormon community just as she stereotyped the Harvard community in her previous book --if I remember correctly, almost every Harvard character was intellectually insecure, overly demanding, rather cruel, and a bit out-of-sync with reality. In t...more
Jan
We ran across this book in the bowels of a used book store in New York (Strands) and were surprised to find it was just published in 2005.
Not to be read by the faint of heart or one who has a shakey testimony.
She wants to document that she was abused by her famous father at the age of 5. the family fireworks that followed her acusations were horrendous, with accusations against her also. She claims that her father's footnotes are mostly false (Hugh Nibley). she left the church, her family, and c...more
Ange
I read it about the same time I read John Krakauer's book "Under the Banner of Heaven", so a comparison of the two always stands out in my mind. Under the Banner of Heaven gives us a look at the beginnings of the FLDS (and LDS) church and also some information about some current FLDS sects. But it's written from the perspective of an outsider looking in. This book is written from "an outsider's perspective" who used to be an "insider". I find it sad that the author of this book has undergone mu...more
Ellyn
Feb 22, 2009 Ellyn rated it 4 of 5 stars
Shelves: 2005
The author was raised in a strict Mormon home in Provo, Utah, her father one of the church's high authorities. When their son is born with Down syndrome, Martha and her husband leave their graduate programs at Harvard to return to the supportive Mormon community that raised them. The years that follow (which are the years covered by this book) are tumultuous as Martha begins to recognize how the church silences dissidents and begins to confront her own history of sexual abuse by her father. I fo...more
Abby
I’m a little miffed at this author. This is Hugh Nibley’s daughter (the famous Mormon scholar and apologist) who accused him of sexual abuse, left the LDS church and now is a lesbian somewhere. I’m mad, because the first half of the book she really had me going. I couldn’t imagine that she would make something so bizarre and awful up as what she was telling, and as she told her story of going from a faithful Mormon BYU professor to apostate spiritual guru I even found that I identified with her...more
Eden
I seem to be reading all of Martha Beck's books now. This one really tests her sense of humor as she describes some horrific childhood memories that resurfaced as she was conducting sociological research at BYU, made even more horrifying by the fact that the Mormon church tried to suppress not just her personal story but her academic work. It's like Communist China up Utah way, strangely, and I learned a lot about the Mormon church, good and bad, from the POV of an apostate. She went through hel...more
Cory
May 01, 2008 Cory rated it 5 of 5 stars
Shelves: 2007
Beck is another gutsy lady who had the courage to stand up for herself and think for herself. Her experience with being ostracized from the Mormon church says more about the church than her. I admire her for speaking out against what she thought was wrong.
Rebecca
I understand the personal struggle any person can have when wrestling with the challenges of leaving their religion of origin. However, I take issue with calling out the legitimacy of any religion based on the behavior of one or two clergy men.

Additionally, Beck exaggerates the extent in which the L.D.S. church will go to "protect itself" to such an extreme that it is hard to believe any of the other accounts in her story.

This story felt irresponsible and sensational. This is highly problemati...more
Elizabeth
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Mary
Nov 20, 2009 Mary rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Mary by: "Not New But Worth a View," at the library
Shelves: memoir
The wonderfully written story of a woman who bravely left the Mormon Church because of many reasons, including sexual abuse. I hadn't realized what a complete package Mormonism is. Since she left it, neither her 7 siblings nor her parents have had any meaningful contact with her. (Maybe saying hi at a funeral.)That must be painful. But she stayed true to her feelings and her truth. Many intellectuals who taught at BYU were told to completely water down their teaching to the point of idiocy. She...more
Joanne
This is a hard book to review. The writing is very good, especially about Beck's spiritual experiences, which may come across to some (which even she acknowledges) as "woo woo," but still read as true. She also is very funny and self-deprecating.

The veracity of her story of being abused as a child has been challenged by her family. I have no idea whether or not it's true, but believe she believes it is. It is horrific and disturbing to read (cost me some hours of sleep one night), and her writi...more
Jill
Jul 02, 2007 Jill rated it 4 of 5 stars Recommends it for: People of All Religious Persuasions
I picked this book up at my library for two reasons, one being, that I don't know a lot about Mormonism, and two, it looked like an interesting memoir of someone's critical look at their faith. The author copes with her own sexual abuse, and other abusive aspects of fundamentalism, and the pain that they cause. She also thoughtfully critiques the scholarship behind many Mormon claims and comes to believe that the foundation is very shaky. She eventually chooses to reject Mormonism. I relate, bec...more
Alia
Ok, the author of this book is a totally annoying hippie dippy LOON. I kind of wanted to punch her, more than once. She acts like all Mormons are exactly the same and horrible terrible people who only care about what "The Church" thinks about them. My mother and Aunt ex-communicated themselves from the Mormon church when they were in their early 20s, do my Mormon grandmother and grandfather ignore them and act like they aren't a part of the family? Of course not! My husband ex-communicated himse...more
Kerri
Okay, I knew a little of what I was getting myself into picking this one up from the library - knew I would ultimately disagree with her decision - but I've always been curious about her side of the story regarding her parents. Interestingly, her search for truth and religion was VERY similar to mine, but mine brought me into the LDS church. I think there was no way her search could have done the same when her parents/family and overall church experiences were so horribly tainted. The way she de...more
Cynthia Sillitoe
It's fascinating reading reviews of this book. (It astonishes me that someone feels entitled to refer to someone's memoir as "a novel." Um, were you there at the time?) I can't help wondering how many of the people dissing it and attacking Beck would react the same way if it were about someone else with an unknown father in a different religion or even the same religion, but maybe a father who was not a "good" Mormon. I've spent enough time near Mormonism to know who Hugh Nibley was and have som...more
Sharon
It's not often these days that I stay up all night to finish a book. "Leaving the Saints" was so gripping that I did just that.

PhD sociologist Martha N. Beck tells the story of growing up as the child of one of the LDS church's "general authorities," and of all the social pressures on her to be the perfect daughter as a result. Yet, when she begins to speak out about the sexual abuse she experienced, she is disbelieved, spoken out against, shunned, all but excommunicated.

This is an outstanding r...more
Yvette Kinney
This was a quick read. I started the book yesterday afternoon and finished it this evening. The tone is conversational and the writer introduces humor whenever she can.

Some of her thought processes and conclusions are a little "touchy-feely" for my tastes -- New Age-ish. As a former member of the RLDS church I can understand to a certain extent the issues she addresses.

I feel sorry for the family concerning the incest charge. It can't be easy for her, nor for her parents or siblings. It would b...more
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Martha Beck is a writer and "life coach" who specializes in helping people design satisfying and meaningful life experiences. She holds a bachelor's degree in East Asian Studies and master's and Ph.D. degrees in sociology, all from Harvard University.

She worked as a research associate at Harvard Business School, studying career paths and life-course changes in today's economic and social environme...more
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