Women, Sex, and Addiction
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Women, Sex, and Addiction

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A recognized expert on addiction, codependency, and child abuse provides an invaluable book for all women. "Sane, warm, wise . . . a chance for rebirth."--Gloria Steinem"Probably the single most significant text to date regarding women and sex addiction."--Edward Armstrong, National Association of Sex Addiction Problems
Paperback, 400 pages
Published May 29th 1990 by HarperCollins Publishers (first published January 1st 1900)
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Eileen
I had a therapist in my early 20s who asked me to read this and I refused. I had to be in my 40s, in the midst of yet another complicated and confusing relationship, to have the nerve to purchase it when yet someone else put it in front of my nose. It wasn't what I thought it would be - I think I balked at the word "addiction" initially - but it kicked my ever lovin' ass into some thought directions I've never gone before. I learned so much about the dynamics of my love and sexual relationships,...more
Angela
Feb 16, 2008 Angela rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: everyone who ever thought about sex
Charlotte Kasl is my hero and this book punched me square in the face and shook me by the shoulders. I even put a commercial up for it on my myspace page. I love this book and I love Charlotte. (she read my book and gave a quote and made me fall over again!)

The only thing I do not like about this book is the title. I think it should be Humans, Sex, and Addiction because it applies to all of us.
Lisa
I didn't finish this one. I don't have this problem, but am sympathetic to those who do. This book is a scholarly work and a slog to read.
And the author throws out statements like (to paraphrase) "compulsive masturbation causes distance within one's self" without bothering to define "compulsive". Once a day? Once every five months? Who knows? The whole idea of overanalyzing everything to death is an inherent flaw of much recovery literature. She also subtly suggests that all promiscuity is based...more
Jill
For me, the definitive addiction & recovery book, regardless of your addiction. Dealing specifically with women's tendency to obsess over love & sex, it delves deeply into the spiritual voids that drive any addiction. Shows how this pattern usually begins in childhood but can be alleviated in adulthood with awareness and a commitment to one's self and one's underlying yearnings. Written with beautiful compassion and wisdom. I re-read it every few years.
Betsy Zajko
Sep 26, 2007 Betsy Zajko rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: people wanting solid, love relationships
The title sucks. The term 'sex addiction' is very broad, and includes people who are not promiscuous. More later...s
John Yarbrough
Mar 05, 2013 John Yarbrough rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Amanda
Really a great book. Kasl is a feminist, counselor who works with addicted and mostly abused women and speaks into their sexuality and their soul. I found the book very insightful to co-dependency and to healing around old wounds. I didn't agree with everything she had to say but I found the viewpoint healthy from all I have read. She spoke about willingness when I was thinking about the same thing that week. That was helpful. I'm certain that we wouldn't agree politically but she spoke to the n...more
Quinn
This book definately has its problems. Although the author tries to be inclusive and write about lesbian relationships, she reveals her ignorance and gives the impression that she is only writing to straight women who might want to know more about lesbians, rather than actual lesbian readers.

Aside from that, I feel this terrain is always a bit rocky. It explores romance addiction, sex addiction, and codependancy. Important themes for sure, but they always skirt the edges of victim blamming when...more
Mandi
This book is for those like me who are looking for love and fullness through sex. Its for those that have been abused as children and look for love in unhealthy ways. Or for those that think sex is all they are good for. It goes into depth the unconscious behavior and need to act out sexually when it isn't in alignment with what we really need. This book helped me realize that what I need isn't sex for "love" or power and its not all I have to give. Woman sex and addition raised my awareness of...more
Polly Trout
I like Kasl a lot and have read several of her books lately; she is down to earth, practical, and holistic. This is one of her earliest books, and dated in some ways -- her later work is more mature -- but I still got a lot out of it and would recommend it to women struggling to develop a healthy relationship with their sexuality as survivors of childhood sexual abuse.

Christine Jackson
Great book! I love the descriptions and definitions of sexually addicted women as well as sexually codependent women and how both characteristics can exist in the same person. The book gives a lot of hope for recovery and movement forward.
Reese
Oct 04, 2008 Reese rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: codependents and addicts/fmilies
Recommended to Reese by: the library shelf
one of the best for codependent women...most women although it did get irritted cause she right and i dont want her to be.
Kathleen
Women, Sex, and Addiction: A Search for Love and Power by Charlotte Davis Kasl (1990)
Audrey
A must read for any woman!!! I love all of her books!
Hilary
changed my life.
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