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Split: A Memoir of Divorce

3.48  ·  Rating Details  ·  620 Ratings  ·  151 Reviews
?Not only funny, it?s also fully triumphant...a heartbreaking pleasure to read.?(Elle)

Suzanne Finnamore didn?t see it coming. Well, she saw some things?for example, a cocktail napkin on which her husband had scribbled a Cole Porter love song and an indecipherable name?but she refused to acknowledge it. She was busy tending to their son and creating the perfect home. Until
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Paperback, 272 pages
Published April 7th 2009 by NAL (first published January 1st 2008)
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Holly Burns
I was really over this woman by the end of this book. Actually, I was pretty much over her a few pages in. Which is a shame, really, because I very much enjoyed her other two books: The Zygote Chronicles and Otherwise Engaged. But this one? It just seemed so disjointed and piecemeal and (yes, I'll say it) just a little bit self-serving and whiny. Also, the changing of tenses within a single paragraph (and sometimes even a single sentence) DROVE ME CRAZY. If you're writing about a single event, C ...more
Annie
Nov 08, 2008 Annie rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoirs
I have a Psychology of Love class this semester and I thought this book would be an interesting perspective to get while taking this course. The book is about a woman’s journey of divorce (my worst nightmare). I realized that while divorce is a relatively frequency occurrence in our country, it seems little is known about what a person may be going through. This book did a good job of conveying the process and difficulty inherent in a divorce. The author’s husband, who was the one who left/did t ...more
Melissa
Ugh, this was horrible. I couldn't even make it halfway through. I'm all for reading about depressing topics, so that's not what turned me off. There was just nothing redeeming about it - it wasn't funny, I didn't learn anything, none of the characters were likable, sympathetic or real (even though they're real people!). Maybe it's just me, but I did not get this book.
Kricket
i like to read about marriage and marriages, even bad ones. but it took me a few years to pick this one up because i loved suzanne finnamore's novels, which seemed to be based on her life, and it made me upset that her husband wound up being a doofus. still. what better day to begin a book about a divorce than my 6 year wedding anniversary? (my husband is used to me; didn't even bat an eye.)

ANYWAY. finnamore throws us right in the water by beginning mere seconds before her husband tells her he's
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Julie Ehlers
Several years ago, I read Suzanne Finnamore's novel about getting married, Otherwise Engaged, and kind of assumed it was autobiographical. We got the beginning of the story with that book, and now, with this memoir, we get the end of the story.

To be honest, in this book Finnamore seems rather pathetic and certainly petty, but I suppose we all would if placed in a similar situation. She somehow does manage to describe and give voice to a lot of emotions that seem as if they'd be hard to put into
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Kim Bui
Dec 20, 2013 Kim Bui rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Split: A Memoir of Divorce tells the story of Suzanne Finnamore, a woman who gets divorced ought to write a memoir about it. At first, the book is set at the age of 40 years old woman, who live in California, where everything happening so fast that she didn't know what to do. Wanting nothing but a happy family, N (her husband) came home with a divorce application that is already signed with his signature, handed it to Finnamore without holding back anything. The book examines on how she may have ...more
Jonna Rubin
Apr 20, 2008 Jonna Rubin rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I've been a fan of Finnamore since -- well, it feels like it's been since the day I started reading books, but we all know that makes no sense, as I'm not an infant. She is by far one of the most underrated writers of our time, and her background as an advertising copywriter is reflected in every page, every pithy sentence that is perfectly constructed to capture as much meaning as possible. Split is no exception, and brings the same concise brilliance that Otherwise Engaged and The Zygote Chron ...more
Cynthia
Nov 13, 2008 Cynthia rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is the story of one woman's divorce. It has been very beneficial to me. She works her way through the stages of grief and finally comes to acceptance. This book is certainly not for everyone but since the author also has a child with her former husband, her stories rang so true to me. She has learned how to deal and accept the former and still allow her son to love his father. Some really good advice.
But yet my friend who has been divorced for over three years said since she has already gon
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Sofia Kirschn
May 28, 2013 Sofia Kirschn rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I totally understand why so many people didn't like this book. I did. Suzanne explores the range of thoughts and emotions that go along with having your partner one day declare they're leaving because they're suddenly "no longer happy". It's a very accurate account of the observer's side of a stereotypical mid-life crisis. If you haven't been through it, you'll blissfully think it could never happen to me and likely be repulsed by the story. If you have been through it, you'll totally recognize ...more
Tiffany
Jun 18, 2008 Tiffany rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: not sure - unhappy women?
Recommended to Tiffany by: Entertainment Weekly
Shelves: ew-picks, memoirs
Kind of depressing so far, but that's expected since the book is about divorce..
Just finished this one and I liked, definitely not loved it. Aside from the fact that I'm happily married, I couldn't relate to the author; she is well off, lives in a house she owns, is able to work from home as a writer, and able to jaunt off to Paris at a moment's notice.
I probably wouldn't recommend this to anyone going through a divorce, as it can obviously get a little ugly and probably wouldn't be very helpfu
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David
Sep 23, 2008 David rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Very disappointing book. Divorce is an interesting topic, and a firsthand account of going through it could be fascinating. My American U. colleague Wendy Swallow wrote an excellent book on this very subject a few years back. Split was hard to finish, however. The author has funny moments, and I can see why she's a popular magazine contributor, but her perspective was too narrow to carry a book.

The other "characters" [her son "A" and her ex "N" -- why not just make up full-word names? -- and her
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Lulu
Jun 10, 2012 Lulu rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Others have been critical of her tense-changes and writing style, but I rather liked the latter. Except for the inexplicable lexicon of calling her husband, "N" and son, "A" throughout the book, her style was refreshingly different. Suzanne is obviously highly intelligent, quite funny with some wonderful glimpses into dark sarcasm, and is understandably self-indulgent (I mean, why would a reader expect anything different as this is, after all, the memoir of her divorce?!) but it just seemed to m ...more
Marissa
Jul 30, 2008 Marissa rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Although the writing here is not astounding in a literary sense (not like Lorrie Moore's Birds in America), she does have a quick wit, some dark humor, and a good story line.

The book, to put it simply, is about a woman who is going through a divorce. It begins simply, does not do much woe is me stuff, and gets right into the meat of things. The characters are good, some surprising which is nice, and she is honest.

I gave it a 4 because I'm thinking that perhaps I am jaded right now. This book was
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Erika
I liked this book. Some people in previous reviews have said they disliked the author's personality and style of writing. The book is about the stages of grieving after the writer's husband left her for "Thing Woman" I have yet to find someone whose grief and loss has made them pleasant and fun to be around. I think it's normal to become self-absorbed when dealing with loss, and I certainly won't fault the author for that. I agree that her writing style was quirky, and at times seemed somewhat d ...more
Tina
I keep reading these divorce memoirs thinking something is going to click and make me feel better about my life. So far not so much. Where are the memoirs about the poor women? I could relate to the raw emotions this author shared. I think those feelings of being betrayed and replaced are universal. I also really liked her mom. She was a wise and cool lady.
Mimi
Feb 01, 2015 Mimi rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
There are some very funny moments in this memoir of the author's divorce. Her husband leaves her when their son is two and appears to have no strong feelings about it. She paints a fuller picture as the narrative goes on. He's not all bad. There were signs he was emotionally distant way before he left the marriage but she admits she refused to acknowledge the signs. You want to shake her during her phase of trying to get him back, but in all, I had a lot of empathy for her trying to get through ...more
Meredith
Nov 01, 2015 Meredith rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I would've divorced her too.
Ashley
Nov 01, 2015 Ashley rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Really surprised by the poor reviews of the book, most of which I assume are based on the fact the readers have never experienced something similar and can't relate. Although I can relate, I would completely recommend this book to anyone interested in dramatic memoirs that focus on emotional transformation. Yes, it's depressing, but I didn't find her writing "whiny" or "annoying" as some other readers have stated. She's simply honest. I thought Finnamore did an amazing job of conveying the emoti ...more
Marci
Apr 14, 2016 Marci rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-2016
I honestly had a few ah-ha moments while reading this book, I could finally put words to some of my feelings and not feel as alone or even crazy. Where this book kind of lost me at times and I found myself pulling away from a sort of kinship with the author was just the differing economic classes. The author seemed to live in a Chanel world while I live in an Old Navy/Gap world. It did make me realize that social standing doesn't change the feelings we go through during a divorce, and while mone ...more
Jodi
Aug 11, 2014 Jodi rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
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Jennifer Boyter
Feb 14, 2009 Jennifer Boyter rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read this for obvious reasons! I had already read her first two books: Otherwise Engaged (about getting married) and the Zygote Chronicles (about having a baby). Split is a memoir of her sudden divorce. She is a fabulous writer.
Jennifer
Apr 29, 2009 Jennifer rated it really liked it
Raw, jarring, and full of the dark sarcastic humor and wit that Finnamore brings to each of her books. Its succint, but very powerful, and definitely will strike a chord with anoyone who knows someone who went through divorce.
Yvonne V (Naughty Professora)
Meh.
I'm not sure what I was expecting with this one...

I read another story about divorce/break-up and it was fantastic. This one was sold as funny, insightful, and triumphant. Well! That's the last time I listen to my library about recommended books! Pffft. It came off as whiney, self-absorbing, and a bit dramatic.

While I understand that the emotional tole of divorce is different for everyone, I found the author took me through a series of rants and complaints.

I was also quite annoyed that th
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L C
Apr 06, 2016 L C rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition



If you have ever been in a relationship & that world turns upside down, just breathe. You are now walking around on auto-pilot and your mind is set on repeat and won't turn off the spinning scenarios and questions. You are catatonically stunned by disbelief because he is out the door, gone.
However he left or pretended not to really leave, he left & life will suck. Read this book and gift it to your friends. Suzanne Finnamore 19s wit is again laugh out loud and factual. I loved her book
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Jane
Jun 06, 2016 Jane rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read Finnamores memoir of divorce .And when I finished, I read it again. Anyone who thinks she is whiny or exaggerates has clearly not lived through one of the most painful episodes a woman can experience. She is honest and engaging in her description of the emotional pain and turmoil that betrayal and divorce cause. Anyone who thinks it is not realistic should count their lucky stars that they have not been through it. Her style is a little quirky. I loved that It suits the story line and the ...more
Evanston Public  Library
I think I may have a new favorite author. If there can be a funny memoir about an unwanted divorce, thenSplit is it. Author Suzanne Finnamore, dressed in black cigarette pants and her lips painted a perfect shade of red (Putting On Your Face is what her mother calls it, War Paint is how Finnamore sees it) waits eagerly in her kitchen for her husband N. to arrive home from work. After handing him a martini with two garlic stuffed olives, he tells her simply “I DESERVE HAPPINESS.”

With the help of
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Jaclyn Day
It takes a little while to get used to Finnamore’s unique writing style, but it’s clear that she has a compelling way of bringing the story of her divorce and its aftermath to readers. I won’t deny that I found this book a “page-turner” because my parents are going through a similar situation, and I also can’t pretend that I didn’t see them on every page of Finnamore’s story. Divorce or separation is kind of like giving birth in that way: you see similarities where there may not even be any simp ...more
Nicole
Jun 20, 2012 Nicole rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Terrible. She was so unsympathetic that there were many times that I wanted to just put this book down, and walk away. Why didn't I? Because three years ago I checked it out from the library, spilled coffee on it, and I was the owner of a new book about someone's divorce. Yippee! Why couldn't it have been Gone With the Wind? Sheesh. So since I bought it, I felt obligated to read it. Terrible. Learned my lesson the hard way. The library will be thrilled with my donation today.

Anyway - I digress.
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Jessica
Nov 02, 2008 Jessica rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
There is no denying that getting divorced is no fun, and in her recent novel, Split, Suzanne Finnamore reminds us just how not fun it is.

In an entirely candid portrayal of her struggle with divorce, Finnamore reveals a journey wholly undesirable. Relying on the support from relationships with her mother and close friends, Finnamore depicts a journey through the stages of denial, anger, bargaining, grief and acceptance. We follow her path in coping with the various setbacks with her ex, includin
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Laura
Jun 05, 2008 Laura rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-in-2008
I had to get used to her style, but I enjoyed it once I did. I just kept thinking while reading, "I'm never getting married."

One thing that bugged me: she replaces the names of her ex-husband and her son with the initials N and A, respectively, which is a bit annoying in and of itself, but I could get over it. The A kept tripping me up, though - so many times I started reading a sentence that started with A and got half-way through before I realized that she was referring to her son. A bit confu
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