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We Don't Live Here Anymore

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In these three stories—two of which form the basis of the award-winning film We Don’t Live Here Anymore—literary master Andre Dubus traces the lives of two couples who married too young, and who are intricately entwined by love and friendship, jealousy and understanding.
Hank and Jack have been best friends since high school. Hank married Edith, the prettiest girl Jack had
Paperback, 215 pages
Published August 17th 2004 by Vintage Books (first published January 1st 1984)
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Andrew Smith
Some books give you so much more than just a story - for me this was such a book. In the version I read there were four novellas. Three of them were essentially elements of the same story but cut into sections which overlapped and highlighted the plight of one or more of the central players. The fourth (but sequenced first) was a stand alone piece, albeit there were some common geographical references. At the centre of each novella was a relationship or a number of inter-linked relationships; ea ...more

I picked this up at the sorely missed and aptly named Last Hurrah Bookstore.

The four novellas are brim full of married people blowing up like powder kegs and falling in love with the debris / the nearest falling objects, the victims, anything but themselves. They are thirty-ish, their hearts are cooling off, their love interests are more or less seasonal, they mourn the loss of the vigour of youth and they are hell bent on forgiving and repeating foolish acts.

As a whole all that rather bores me
Ancora una volta ho creduto di sapere e conoscere.
Ma Dubus mi ha dimostrato che mi limitavo a intuire.

Ancora una volta mi sono affacciato e ho disteso la vista che appariva sgombra e infinita.
E Dubus ha dissipato la nebbia e la caligine di cui non mi ero accorto, donandomi la trasparenza.

D’altra parte, davanti al buio pece mi sentivo perso, e lui mi ha preso per mano, accompagnato negli angoli di salvezza, acceso la notte per me.

E di fronte alle r
Questi tre racconti lunghi di Andre Dubus, da molti considerato uno dei migliori scrittori americani di racconti del secolo scorso, parlano di due coppie sposate di ragazzi trentenni, Hank ed Edith, Jack e Terry. Che si tradiscono a vicenda, con i rispettivi compagni, in un intreccio imperfetto.

Il matrimonio è visto come una condizione annientatrice mortificante, una sorta di detenzione dalla quale si fatica a fuggire perché ci si sente costretti a pagare scelte poco ragionate fatte troppo in fr
“Sai? Sto lavorando sulla filosofia del riso. Si basa sul credere che se stai precipitando nella merda, l’unica risposta è la leggerezza.”

Tre racconti in cui si affronta la crisi della vita di coppia, la fine dell’amore. Due coppie di amici che si aggrappano l’uno all’altro, si mescolano, si tradiscono, litigano e piangono e cercano una nuova strada. Una strada che può separare definitivamente, come è stato per Hank e Edith, o proseguire, come per Terry e Jack, conservando la sicurezza del matri
Three novellas that can stand alone, but together their interwoven stories of thirtysomethings dealing with faithlessness, failing marriages and the specter of middle age looming ever closer make a rich story even greater than their parts (if that is even possible).

Dubus has an uncanny talent of writing simple sentences that say so much about his characters, and in turn, the human condition. You can't read one of his stories and not come away from the experience changed.
Joe Krudys

I liked it, but thought it was only OK.

Two couples that are friends cheat on each other with the other’s spouse. Everyone gets found out and one couple decides to stay together, while the other tries to have an open marriage that ultimately ends up in divorce. The second two stories follow the characters from the open marriage/divorce. The ones that stay together are only mentioned less than a handful of times in the following two stories, and to be honest, that’s the couple I was more inter
I certainly prefer Dancing After Hours, but this isn't bad. The first two stories are so... sad. I definitely don't want to see the movie if it's based only on those.

The timing of the stories and the way each character changes made me think about how hopelessly we're all at the whim of other people's changes of heart. If only Hank had gone through what he goes through in "Finding a Girl in America" before he had met Edith. While I find his reaction to what Monica did rather appalling, if a radi
"There are two types of unhappy people in the world" Hank said. "Those who show it and those who don't."

I truly loved this book. I haven't seen the movie - and I think I could probably carry on living quite happily without seeing it - but the book felt rather astonishing to me. It's about the divides between love, sex and marriage, although it is by no means a guideline to love. It did, however, feel full of small truths that struck me to the heart and often made me pause to think about what I'd
I have the Picador edition, 1984 Published in great britain. The cover picture is different to the one shown here.

Andre Dubus, the master short story writer, toiled in relative obscurity during much of his lifetime. Though known primarily for his stories, Mr. Dubus also wrote essays and novellas. His only novel, THE LIEUTENANT, was published in 1967.

Though publishers clamored for novels, Mr. Dubus wrote what his stories asked of him. Sometimes the story wanted to be seven pages, sometimes twent
Ci sono volte che dei romanzi non c'è bisogno, perché alcune cose le sanno dire solo i racconti. Si giustificava così Dubus, a chi gli chiedeva perché preferisse scrivere Short Stories invece che romanzi. Questa affermazione viene confermata in pieno in questi tre racconti, indipendenti, eppure legate insieme dai protagonisti. E' allievo di Yates, e si sente, ma i suoi personaggi sono più raffinati e colti, anche se annegano l'angoscia del vivere nell'alcol, tra corse nei prati del New England o ...more
This collection was excellent, and contained a really unbelievable number of references to housecleaning. The characters in the title story and "Adultery" are Carver people living in Cheever's neighborhood, putting Dubus at a literary intersection where he may write more grandly than Carver does, and write about women far more perceptively than Cheever does...but only in regards to their behavior while drinking, being cheated on, cooking bacon in the morning and operating a vacuum.

...It should b
Aug 16, 2009 Kirstie rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: people interested in traumatic relationships
Very very bleak image of man and woman and what we do to eachother in terms of intimacy in relationships. There is a bit more to this than in the film, specifically one of the characters after the major tumultuous relationship rift. I think perhaps the most finely crafted aspect of it is how intellectuals fool themselves.
David Gillespie
“We Don’t Live Here Anymore” is a collection of three novellas written by Andre Dubus. The stories follow the lives of two couples over the course of several years as they indulge in affairs both within their marriages and with others. The first novella, “We Don’t Live Here Anymore,” is told from the perspective of Jack, a college professor who is married to Terry, who is a stay at home mother. Jack and Terry are best friends with Hank and Edith. Hank is a professor on the same campus, and also ...more
At the end of the first novella I couldn't decide how I felt about this book. I think the problem was that in the first story, out of all the four characters, I could not connect with anyone of them. Not because their situation was not realistic, but because I found them all for one reason or another unlikable. I couldn't relate. And that was true for me until the second and third novellas. Reading just the first novella leaves you sad, depressed and disappointed, disappointed in all the charact ...more
Brandee Shafer
Andre Dubus's work satisfies in that the author clearly managed to write what he knew and where, in life, he struggled. These novellas are no exception; I felt a little uncomfortable, reading them, because I knew I'd entered someone's private pain and was experiencing his raw vulnerability.

I've found Dubus's work a good place to turn since burning through Hemingway's. Same absence of fluff, same stark quality to the language. The big difference is Dubus's concentration not on physical landscape
Edward S. Portman
Non abitiamo più qui non è un libro, anche se l'oggetto in sé può trarre in inganno. Non è un libro inteso come romanzo, ma un libro inteso come raccolta di racconti si, questo si. La decisione di prendere tre diverse storie, scritte e pubblicate in diversi periodi, e di riunirle tutte quante in un unico volume è solo decisione della casa editrice. Andre Dubus, fedele al suo principio secondo cui la forma più alta di scrittura fosse appunto il racconto.
Qui troviamo due coppie che fanno da collan
Nel musical Rocky Horror Pictur Show il dottor Frank'n'Furter ammonisce cantando metaforicamente di "non giudicare un libro dalla copertina". Invece vale la pena di fare un'eccezione per questo libro e dare merito alla casa editrice Mattioli di avere realizzato una notevole edizione: bellissima grafica, un formato che ricorda un po' le agende della Moleskine con i bordi arrotondati, ottima stampa e carta addirittura piacevole al tatto. Tanto per sottolineare che allo stesso prezzo si comprano sp ...more
This book was satisfying, if only because of Dubus's rich, engaging prose. Every sentence sounds like poetry, yet the effect is not sappy or tiresome. It draws you in and introduces you to the book, and then carries you throughout the whole novel. I'm going to write my review by novella, because each one is so unique and fascinating, for a different reason.

"The Pretty Girl" was the most depressing of the four, but all of them are dark, to say the least. The most interesting and therefore definin
Affairs are considered illicit thrills, but Dubus isn't interested in the heart-pounding factor of lying to your spouse and going behind their back: the three novellas in this book is more interested in the consequences.

Jack no longer loves his wife, Terry, and seeks comfort from Edith, the wife of his colleague and friend Hank. Hank and Terry likewise form a pair. There's no joy of being "swingers" in this book, but what's fascinating is how each person handles their crumbling marriage. Terry
Maria  (Scratchbook)
Dubus è spesso equiparato ad un chirurgo perché, attraverso le sue storie, è in grado di scavare nell'animo umano e di tirare fuori qualcosa di autentico. La bellezza assoluta, o la bruttezza, a seconda. È sempre un passo avanti, un gesto in più. Immaginate una situazione, immaginate le conseguenze; Dubus ne scriverà la fine. Lui sapeva quello che c'era dopo i vissero felici e contenti. Dubus conosceva i nuovi inizi, gli eterni ritorni. Lui si portava avanti, rischiarando quelle zona d'ombra dov ...more
Feb 03, 2008 Shannon rated it 2 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: i wouldn't
Shelves: short-stories
I was fairly disappointed with this book. Maybe I expected too much since it had a high rating on goodreads... either way it was depressing and overly drawn out. The book is actually three separate novellas, but the characters in each novella are repeating. Its basically the story of four friends over a period of three or five years.

The first novella was seriously depressing and made me feel all upset and out of whack. The second one was a lot better and raised my hope for the book slightly. But
Franco Vite
Dall'interno della piccola borghesia americana

Tre racconti lunghi in cui Dubus ci accompagna dentro la famiglia americana. La famiglia piccolo borghese, quella delle professioni - in questo caso il mondo della scrittura e dell'insegnamento - vista nelle viscere delle relazioni interpersonali.
Fin troppo viscere, mi è venuto da pensare ad un certo punto, quasi che tutto il resto non esistesse. E' forse l'unico vero limiti di questo grandissimo scrittore, di questa scrittura, addirittura, che un p
Andre Dubus III wrote 'In the Bedroom' which was made into an excellent movie 6 or 7 years ago. The House of Sand and Fog was written by his son, also named Andre Dubus. At first I thought they were one and the same. The elder Dubus is a great short story writer. This book was made into a movie, which didn't do justice to the novella of the same name on which it is based. I looked Dubus up on Wikipedia bc I couldn't figure out how to pronounce his name (duBUSE, rhymes with excuse) and wondered i ...more
Jenny R
Dubus manages to paint characters who are both sympathetic and narcissistic, lonely but loved, self-aware and manipulative -- and ultimately, likable. He perfectly captures the individual, unspoken language of a marriage. And his description of '70s housework details the housewife ennui perhaps better than any feminist text I've read.

An interesting novel that weaves the stories of two couples who are friends and much more. The secrets, lies and unhappiness.
Kenneth P.
There is no question that Dubus was a master craftsman of short fiction. It is difficult for me to read his work because so many of his male characters are pugnacious, unapologetic misogynists who very often wear Catholicism on their sleeves. In one piece, a male narrator brags about the stink he leaves in the bathroom each morning so that his girlfriend might endure it while making up her face.

Many of his male protagonists are woman-haters. Was Dubus making a statement about misogyny? Sadly, no
in my mind I've always loved this book, and I'm going through my 1985 notebook, and see this 'title story superb' and 'what i'd like to write like' (terrible phrase), but then later there's this: 'But the last two stories have made me change my mind about him. Dubious about Dubus. They're dull, on the whole, and self indulgent. I make up my mind never to write about writers. Despite the sharp insights and neat details these stories are tedious.'. So. I don't actually remember the 'bad' stories, ...more
Books are conditioned by the books you read before them. I read Bring up the Bodies before this, and in comparison this just seemed stark and frivolous. I had no sympathy for any of the characters, and actually found myself skimming through some of the descriptions, which seemed forced and somehow contrived. The whole man vs. woman division was also pretty grating, as if we were from different planets instead of human beings. Maybe if I'd read something else instead of Mantel's brilliant prose a ...more
I opened this book wanting to like it but barely felt like finishing it. "We Don't Live Here Anymore" is a powerful narrative, but for me was almost too painful to read. The characters are not only lonely and self-destructive, but also they are trapped in their own stories. Unlike the way I imagine a Hopper painting - desolate but waiting to be filled with something, or at least open to interpretation - the crushing failure of relationships in this book are always boxed in by structures from hom ...more
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Award-winning author Andre Dubus II (1936–1999) has been hailed as one of the best American short story writers of the twentieth century. Dubus’s collections of short fiction include Separate Flights (1975), Adultery & Other Choices (1977), and Dancing After Hours (1996), which was a National Book Critics Circle Award finalist. Another collection, Finding a Girl in America, features the story ...more
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