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It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy

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There’s no doubt about it—breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there’s one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It’s called a breakup because it’s broken, and starting right here, right now, it’s time to dry your tears, put down tha ...more
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Published September 5th 2006 by Harmony (first published January 1st 2005)
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Deanna
Feb 03, 2009 Deanna rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Sally
Recommended to Deanna by: Found at the airport bookstore
I found this book in the bookstore right after I got dumped, and was still licking my wounds. It didn't make it better, but it helped me take the personal sting out of being the dumpee and get moving on. I would tell anyone to read it who has been there. There is nothing new, but it helps put things into perspective when your judgement is cloudy, which seems to happen whenever I get dumped.

This for those, male and female, who've been blindsided by a breakup after thinking Everything Is Fine. Sp
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Tami
Jul 26, 2011 Tami rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I'm 32 years old, and although I've had breakups before, this is the first one that has torn me apart. My friends recommended this book for me and I was skeptical. I couldn't be happier to have been proven wrong.

Sure the "questions" that the women ask are fake, and sometimes it's cheesy, but not to the point where it bothered me, and I'm pretty picky about those things. The book manages to cover almost EVERY SINGLE thing that I have been feeling, action that I have contemplated, etc., and it ha
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Katie (Kitkatscanread)
Apr 05, 2015 Katie (Kitkatscanread) rated it it was amazing
This book has really helped me today.
Definitely the right book you need to read as soon as you've broken up.
It tells you all the things you shouldn't do and raises your confidence.
Wish I read this yesterday... -_-
Meryl Marr
Mar 30, 2011 Meryl Marr rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I am a good catch goddammit

Yes, I did just read this book from the same authors of "He's Just Not That Into You." As a recent singleton, I found this book at the library and couldn't resist the urge given its cutsie cover of a pint of ice cream. This book is a definite must for anyone who is heartbroken and confused about the sudden ending of a relationship. It offers sound advice that can be painful but necessary to know.
Guess what? It's over and there is nothing else you can do about it. Tim
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Ozma
Dec 08, 2008 Ozma rated it it was amazing
I have to wonder how a comedian like Greg Behrendt can also have such a clear view on relationships. Maybe that's a good quality to have in a comedian -- someone who can be honest about relationships. Or maybe he's the first man to publish what men really are thinking. In any case, I think this book is a great one to read if you are trying to get over someone or even if you are trying to feel better about not being with someone. Or about any problem you may have. The book encourages you to be co ...more
Mari Carrara
Jan 03, 2013 Mari Carrara rated it it was amazing
This book is helping me through a very sad period and when i say sad i mean the most critic recent part of breaking up. Crying every night , missing someone so bad you literally feel pain and can't sleep, your mind goes crazy thinking "where did i go wrong, why doesn't he love me?" and all that. And sometimes we do stupid things because of that. Greg does know how to pick you up and set you straight back on your feet no matter how many times you fall. I really have never read any book that appro ...more
Chelsea
Aug 26, 2007 Chelsea rated it really liked it
This book is intensely cute, which I don't mean in a bad way. It manages to be a friendly book without being disgusting (honestly, I'm not usually a person who takes to being addressed as "Superfox," but I let it slide because of the authors' enthusiasm).

Obviously a book you can read in a day is not the ideal format for a break-up tool since getting over that can take f---ing forever, but I think it does a pretty good job of boosting confidence, anticipating paranoid and/or hopelessly hopeful t
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Jen
Feb 26, 2011 Jen rated it really liked it
Yeah. I admit it. I read it, okay!

That's really nothing to be ashamed of because, honestly, who HASN'T gone through a breakup that rocked their world and shaken one's values & belief in the goodness and decentness of other people? (If you haven't, I envy you so, so, so very much.)

That said, sometimes you need something in addition to your sassy gay friend and your core group of best friends to help you get through a breakup and force some self-esteem and confidence back into your brain, life
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Hilary
Oct 09, 2009 Hilary rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Townes V. Z.
Recommended to Hilary by: Townes v. Z.
What a delightful book.

Although the advice this book gives primarily consists of the obvious (don't talk to your ex, take control of your life, keep moving, etc.) it is presented in a fun and amusing way that makes this book an entertaining read.

The book is formatted into two sections (1: The Break Up, 2: The Breakover) and these two sections are split into chapters that tend to consist of advice, testimonials, and then projects (journal, cooking, etc.). This is very helpful and makes for a conc
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John Woods
Jan 08, 2013 John Woods rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: people in a break-up
Recommended to John by: Julie Sunday
This book is clearly written for women, but I wish it had been done in a gender-neutral way -- my reason for withholding a five-star rating.

I'm extremely skeptical of motivational texts. This isn't a motivational text. It's a layman's guide to the application of psychology. It applies to you whether you're breaking up with someone, being broken up with, or involved in a mutual breakup. More importantly, it helps you to understand why your ex maybe isn't friends with you anymore, even though it w
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Donna
Mar 05, 2016 Donna rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, health
I got this because I thought it was going be a humorous look at breakups, but as it started, I realized it was a serious self-help book on breakups. I groaned a little, but once the intro was over, it was really funny. And, on the plus side, it had some great and practical advice for those caught up in the tangles of a messy breakup. I was wondering where this book was 30 years ago when I could have used it.

So 4 stars, because it was funny, sweet, and useful. It also had some tough love which s
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Erin Nudi
Jan 08, 2011 Erin Nudi rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
It's over, man. Move on with your life. Whether you're the dumper or the dumpee this book can help you do it. I first read this book around when I was just getting over a breakup that had happened quite awhile before I found this book and I was like, damn, why didn't I have this book before?? The time I could have saved myself. Also, even though this book is geared towards women ("the smart girl's break-up buddy"), I recently gave this book to a good guy friend of mine who was just getting out o ...more
Lena
Jul 04, 2007 Lena rated it it was ok
Nothing groundbreaking. The cover's adorable though and the rationale (as to why it's graced by a tub of icecream) is given by the authors in the later chapters of the book, though I think you can easily guess it.

The contexts are very American but the principles of moving-on-with-your-life-after-a-traumatic-experience-like-a-breakup are still universal as ever.

Like all self-help books, I recommend it's best to just help yourself. It's witty at certain points, but the cleverness falls flat pretty
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Mary Clare
Oct 20, 2015 Mary Clare rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I struggle to give this 5 stars due to the shifts in styles of writing and exorbitant "Dear Abby" posts. I've slowly read this book, almost savoring it, for when I need it most. Even reading a mere few pages, it gave me the instant confidence boost I needed. It's everything I know but tend to forget when I let idiots take control over my emotions and make me feel like I was never good enough or they realized that their actions/words were hurtful. Later fuck boys.
Alexa
Jan 08, 2015 Alexa rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was humourous enough and some of the points brought up are great for people going through a hard time after a break up or who's been through a break up to relate to. Part one goes through what not to do and part two focuses on how to be a "superfox" and have dignity. It suggests how to get through it by yourself, without that loser.
Sabrina Rutter
I didn't even know this book existed until I found it at my local Goodwill, and I'm really glad I found it! Although I was in a relationship when I bought this book I knew in my heart that the end was near so I stuck it on my bookshelf, and when the time arrived I dove into this book and and hated to see the end of it!
Although I was the dumper in my situation the pain is still there. I mean after all I spent five and a half years with the jerk, so this book is great for those who just dumped the
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Manik Sukoco
Jan 01, 2016 Manik Sukoco rated it it was amazing
It's a fantastic book but I would consider it a "supplement" post break up book, not your main "break up" book. It's a great book if you have realistic expectations. It's not written by professional therapists so sometimes their answers to certain issues aren't that "deep" or powerful. Its more like a casual best friend trying comfort you with slight tough love. Basically this reads like a gossip magazine and generalizes the men who do the breaking up. But I know to take it with a grain of salt, ...more
Michelle
Feb 14, 2012 Michelle rated it it was amazing
A slightly embarrasing book to buy at the bookstore (which is why I got it on my kindle, woot) but definitely worth it. It was cheesy, admittedly, but after a while, I actually kind of liked being referred to as a "Super Fox" ...it was funny, insightful, and filled with stories of break-ups worse than my own. It was also brutally honest where my friends and family aren't because they don't want to hurt me with the truth. Honestly, it was the first thing I picked up in the mornings (when I would ...more
Melody Rowell
Oct 09, 2012 Melody Rowell rated it it was amazing
After getting my heart shoved into a blender, a coworker bought me this book and said it's a life-changer. She's right. Once I started it, I couldn't stop, and I underlined and wrote in it all the way through. It feels like a conversation with your smartest, wisest, tough-loviest friend. It can be a little cheesy at times, but by the time I finished reading it, my big, bad, single Superfox self was ready to take on the world.
One of the best parts: "That person that you loved looked at you in all
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Kimberly Erskine
I, like any other girl who has read Greg Behrendt & Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt’s novel, It’s Called A Breakup Because It’s Broken chose to read this book for one reason and one reason only: I just got out of a relationship and it kind of sucks.

The funny part of the story is this: I had no intention to read this book. I had no intention to read any breakup books or self-help books or anything of that sort. Okay, that’s a little bit of a lie. I really want to read Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Cou
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Paula
Jul 02, 2016 Paula rated it it was amazing
I love Greg Behrendt's books. Like seriously love them. Sure, they are not the most scientific approach but they are down-to-earth and close to real life.
It helps to put things into perspective, to recognize yourself in some of the situations mentioned and if nothing else, it made me laugh. Which was needed at that time.

else fine
Dec 02, 2008 else fine rated it liked it
Look how comforting this book looks. It's fluffy blue and bright pink and has a half-eaten carton of ice cream on the cover. And it actually made me feel better, as ashamed as I am to admit it. If I had found it in the early stages of heartbreak, however, I would have probably just found it enraging. I'd say it's more suited to that bruised-but-not-bleeding stage you hit later on, when you've pulled yourself together a bit and feel up to taking advice.
Phoebe
Jan 14, 2015 Phoebe rated it really liked it
I purchased this book not because I have recently been broken up with but because it was said to be THE book to buy if you were going through a break up, I was intrigued because I've been through awful break ups where I have gone insane and depressed, and others (which were more serious) that I walked away from strong and with dignity. I have my own ideas of what is the best thing to do and I witness girls attaching themselves to the wrong guys all the time and it annoys me. I can tell you right ...more
Jen
Aug 11, 2007 Jen rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfic
Masters of the obvious; and obviously bibliotherapy!
Jenni
Mar 21, 2012 Jenni rated it liked it
Shelves: soc-psych-phil
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Cindy
Sep 07, 2012 Cindy rated it really liked it
After my breakup last year, I was browsing the web for "break up books" better yet, more like "how to deal with a break up". I came across this one. The title itself caught my eye. I decided to order it and once I received it, I couldn't put it down. I probably read the entire book in two days.

This book is great! Full of humor. This is a guide to getting over a break up but not only does it help you understand why the relationship "was broken" but it also teaches you how to make your life better
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Avery Le
Dec 12, 2012 Avery Le rated it it was amazing
hysterical --- has silly exercises and games to help you see just how ridiculous you're being if you're still fawning over an ex, has funny blurbs like "psycho confessionals" where people write in about the crazy things they did right after a break-up, etc. and even the co-author's recipe to her "Crack Brownies" (no illegal substances) to help you get over that ex and away from the drunk dialing.

i don't usually like this type of genre (casual humor) because I think the writers sometimes overdoe
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Melyssa Dawn Michaels
I ended up reading this book for two reasons. The first being that, after having so much fun reading "He's Just Not That Into You" I had to read the other book written by the same author. Even though for this book the co-author job did change to Greg's wife. The second reason being that I've been through a breakup sort of recently and wanted to see based on the ideas mentioned in the book how I was really coping with it.

As it turns out, it worked for both things. Greg has a way of writing that j
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Michele Capobianco
Jun 15, 2012 Michele Capobianco rated it it was amazing
Shelves: random-pick
This book is for anyone who has ever gotten out of a relationship that was fairly normal. I know that sounds odd, like what is "normal," but I don't know that this is a read for people coming out of very painful relationships involving abuse or trauma. This is a lighthearted read, intended to raise the spirits of a brokenhearted, potential disaster waiting to happen. It's for those of us who have embarrassed ourselves after a breakup, those who thought this was the guy I was going to marry and I ...more
Alison
Sep 10, 2012 Alison rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nook-color
All right let me first say that I am so not a self help book kind of person. I mean at all...ever! Then the most surreal experience of my life happened. My boyfriend of almost 10 years (yup, YEARS) went on a "business trip" for a week. I texted & called to no avail. While he was gone I cried, cleaned, & cried some more. Then I thought, "Wait! You can't even call me? Well f@$% you!"
A friend saw pictures of this "business trip" that apparently involved a beach front hotel & a blonde gi
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Gregory Behrendt is an American stand-up comedian and author. His work as a script consultant to the HBO sitcom Sex and the City, starring Sarah Jessica Parker, paved the way for co-authoring of the New York Times bestseller He's Just Not That into You (2004), later adapted into a film by the same name. Apart from that he also hosted two short-lived talk shows, The Greg Behrendt Show (2006) and Gr ...more
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